December 2013 - part 3

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www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1740732-December-2013-part-2

Starting yet another thread as us chatterboxes have filled up 2 already!

Jucy, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs, wish there was something more I could say.

Frouby, if you're feeling crap just fuck the housework off, I do! It'll keep.

I'm scared and excited in equal measures about the scan on Friday. Looking forward to seeing bean and being able to get on with things. But obviously scared of getting bad news like Jucy... 2 days, 1 hour and 50 minutes to go!

My friend has offered to be a birthing partner too. I may well take her up on it, I suspect she'll be more help than OH. And as I'm planning on having a home water birth and OH has already invited his bloody mum (!) think it'll be good to have a friend there. I'm not private at all, have zero issues with people seeing me naked (as my neighbours will tell you) and she's seen me throw up enough times from our party days (though never shit myself to be fair) that I'm not too fussed about that.

Dasie My last day of work will be October 25th, then I have a week of holidays, then 4 weeks until my due date, when I'll take the maternity leave I have left over from my 2 year old (Sweden has an awesome parental leave system, I've just finished using up the extra maternity leave you get here for my 7 year old, I have worked part time for a year). I had counted up how many hours teaching I have left, but have forgotten it with baby brain. It's holidays now, and I don't go back until August 7th!

I'm just hoping I am allowed to have my eldest in before and after school club while I am off - it is heavily subsidised, so we might not be allowed to, and his school is where I work, not where I live, and DH could easily take him if he is allowed to go.

Rose don't feel bad at all, it's all in moderation and you're definitely allowed to spoil yourself on holiday! Plus there's tomato sauce on pizza so that's part of your five day right I went away for 2 weeks at 10 weeks pregnant and was having starters, main and dessert every night but now I'm back home I'm back to eating like I normally would. Just think of our mums and nans and how they had none of this what you can and can't eat advice and how many extra calories you should eat and we all turned out okay!

13loki that is amazing!! Wish we had something like that in the UK.

To anyone having their midwife appointments this week hope everything goes well!!

I'm in shock.

I'm having a boy. I was SO convinced it was a girl. I had a scan on Saturday and my consultant only got a two second glance and said she thought it might be a girl but she didn't get a proper look and that she wouldn't put her last dollar on it, but that it might be a girl. That was enough evidence for me and I (in my non professional opinion ) decided it was a girl.

It's not.
It's a boy!

Congrats takingthestairs

Do you have any other kids?
If not you're gonna love having a boy, they are so much more loving than my nieces ever where lol
Xx

Thanks Alyssa
This is my first. I genuinely don't mind if it's a boy or girl, it's just that I was so convinced it's a girl that I'm shocked!

I'm having such a hormonal day. I'm really upset. I've worked 3 13 hour shifts in a row (despite asking to have them split up), I didn't get home til after 11 last night as work was so busy, DS isn't sleeping too well because of his back teeth coming through, my back and hips are agony. I met my mum for lunch, intending to carry on into town afterwards. DS's buggy tipped on the bus on the way to meet her, no-one helped although I really struggled to right it so I was in tears by the time I got off to meet mum. Burst into tears through sheer tiredness twice more (this is NOT me btw, I am super-efficient laid-back optimist not sobbing emotional mess) and mum's taken DS for a long walk so I can go lie down for an hour before DH gets home. I'm now sitting crying because I haven't seen DS since Friday and I miss him, I don't want my mum to have taken him off, I want to have the energy to take him swimming or to the park. And I'm in work again tomorrow so won't see him then either.

I've been so happy too, really enjoying finally looking pregnant and looking forward to having 2 lovely DCs.

Oh Feather you poor lamb.

Have that little rest, you obviously really need it. How mean of no one to help you on the bus.

xxxxxxxxxxxx

thanks for making me feel better violet and mrsshrubs. featherbag i'm with you - i was having / am having a bit of an emotional meltdown i think... i just came back home after a few days' holidays, my hubby is off to LA for the week and i'm here on my own, I have to go back to work tomorrow, i feel like total butt (paying for the pizza binging I think), my brother is coming with wife and nephew for a week on friday and the house is a complete mess I don't know where to start. I am so tired, I'm just sitting on the couch praying it will clean itself and groceries will magically appear... tears are just coming down I don't know why.
don't get me wrong, i'm so happy to be pregnant, but seems like mat leave is very very far still. oh and I don't know which country i'll be living in in 6 months. all a bit overwhelming.

all of you that were jealous because I was not gaining weight, I called it - I am all of a sudden massive. belly yes, but feels like my butt is twice as big and I just feel so heavy. I fear to hop on the scale. I will tomorrow morning and see what the damage is.

anyways, how exciting that some of you are finding the sex already! i can't wait. congrats talkingthestairs!

takingthestairs

I thought my first was going to be a girl too; but when I found out I was having a boy I had to readjust my mommy imagination. 

 My son (I'm sure all sons) is the most amazing person I have ever met. I have never felt more love, compassion, care from another human being; the kindness he has for me and he is ever soo protective...I could go on and on; but little boys are absolutely magical.

I can't wait to see what a little girl is like. x

Thanks Roselau I hope you feel back to yourself again soon

And thanks to you too Queen It is very hard adjusting my head to having a boy. I hope he's as lovely as your boy
x

I think all little boys and girls are great; but I think it'll be an amazing adventure for you!

I was 17 weeks on Saturday there and I've put on... Wait for it... 15lbs. WHAT? I didn't think I'd put on much! Everything except my belly is smaller! But then, my belly is huge now. That must be where all the weight is going. Yeah Futterby, keep telling yourself that.

Also, Feather have a and put your feet up

Is anyone getting sharp shooting pains in there boobs and upper back?
I keep thinking its because they have gotten ridiculously bigger but I'm not sure.

Sorry for the others having a hard time but I'm comforted tat it's not just me in a mess. I have an office job so shouldn't moan but I absolutely can't stand the organisation I work for. We are meant to be providing a public good but we are so crap it isn't true, I'm ashamed to work there. If I wasn't pregnant I'd be looking for another job, that's my plan for mat leave even if I have to pay back what I get above SMP.

I'm leaving the office most days tearful or really stressed. I know the hormones are making it worse. I am counting down the weeks until mat leave. Halfway there this week as I'll be 17 weeks and I plan to finish at 34. Poor OH has a wreck for a wife.

I am having random shooting pain in my breasts! Also, my nipples are now a very dark brown when they are usually a beige/pink colour.

Lady- is there anyone at work you can talk to about this? Are you public sector? Do you have occ health or HR?

Work shouldn't make you feel this way.. Maybe reducing hours for a few weeks would help?

Sorry you're having a tough time

mildred I'm lucky the immediate team I'm in are all good and get as frustrated as I do. I'm quite senior so feel accountable for how crap we are - its an education organisation - I think I need to give less of a s**t like our senior management do! My work means quite a lot to me so I d get worked up.... Hoping this baby will be the ultimate distraction!

Ah.. More tricky then..

You have my sympathy- I'm a doctor in the nhs and feel constantly frustrated at the often poor service we give because we're so overstretched. It's heartbreaking not to be able to have pride in something you put your heart & soul into.

I think having a baby will change your priorities.. I'm thinking about just returning as a locum rather than to my proper job so I can chose my hours and at least leave some of the stress behind.

At least its Weds tomo- hump day!

Taking - congrats on your BOY! I love my wee guy in a totally different way to my girl. It's weird to get your head round at first that you're growing boy bits, but they are awesome! :)

Feather - hope you're feeling a wee bit better and got a rest.

Lady - sorry your work is shit. Definitely focus on the baby :)

I have my 16 week appointment on Thursday. Quite excited to see if I get to hear the heartbeat! And both my monsters will be with me so it would be fab if they heard it :)

Lady that's crap, I have much the same experience as Mildred of providing the best care I can but knowing its not good enough, I'm an NHS nurse. Heartbreaking is the right word.

I'm feeling better, sorry for the pity-fest earlier! I had a nap, then DH came home a little early and, erm, cheered me up before we went to collect DS, then the 3 of us went out for tea. DS is still being a little sod but it's a lot easier to deal with as a duo! He's just being a toddler, but he's always been so happy and sweet-natured that his toddlerdom's taking some getting used to! Back to work tomorrow, which means DH is on toddler emergency response duty overnight as his working day is half the length of mine and involves mainly sitting on his arse. So at least I should get SOME sleep tonight! And I've just arranged to meet a couple of mum friends next week for lunch, one with a lovely squidgy newborn I've not met yet, so that's making me happy too. I'm starting to realise I need to make a concerted effort to see more of my friends-with-children, as I isolated myself after having DS because I wasn't really very well. The isolation made me worse though with hindsight, so I'm determined not to let it happen again!

hi weechops long time no chat!
Thanks for your congratulations.
Fingers crossed your dotes get to hear the heartbeat with you. I never realised we were just a week apart, how exciting!

Ok. So, I think I've felt movement... So, so desperate to but lying quietly in bed tonight I felt a light flip flop type motion. Nothing since though..

Is this how it's been for people already feeling movements? Something then goes? Or should it be constant once it starts?

Just wonder if I'm imagining things to fulfil my hopes?

Comes and goes :) I started feeling mine very early (just before 12 weeks) and it was kind of like gas I suppose.