Due in August - part 5

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think it's part 5 anyway!

Hi Misty. No, you're not old at 34 to be having your first child. I was 31 when I had my ds and will be 35 when my dd is born in August. I think if I'd had children when I was in my 20's, personally, I wouldn't have coped. As it is, I am now a sahm (since January) and can honestly say that I don't miss my career (as such). I think everyone is different and ready for children at different times in their lives and there is NO normal age to have kids. I am now in a better position, (older and wiser, etc), to give them what they need - but that is my opinion and my life!!!

34 isn't old Misty. I had my first at 26, 2nd at 27 and now my third at 29 but most of my friends are in their 30's. I believe as long as you love your child and do your best thats good enough!

Well, i have now scrubbed my house top to bottom and back again so had to start on the garden. Dh popped out to fill my car up and get it cleaned, when he came back half hour later the garden was massacred . In my defence it does look better More space to play without worrying about the plants getting damaged.
Then had a bath to relieve SPD pain and ended up eating my Dove soap....Ah well, stitch comes out in 6 weeks so baby could be here soon! And then i can hopefully go back to a normal diet! Liking the sound of the sponges and sucking the water out of them thou. Might try that instead of actually chomping on the bar....

Hi guys,

Just watered my newly turfed garden, now boobies are killing me .... oh joy, takes a while for the pain to go too, but I tell myself its just getting them used to when babes it tugging at them all day long ... any other tips on 'hardening' em off ? Really would love to breast feed if possible.

Hi everyone! Melsy I know what you mean about dummies - I dont think they are 'necessary' despite that study I read - you do see so much conflicting advise you just have to go with whatever works for you. I think that study was saying that if the baby is sucking on a dummy they dont fall asleep quite as deeply as if they were not sucking on something and can therefore wake themselves easier if there is a breathing problem.

I'm 27 and this is my first baby and I am so glad he didnt come earlier - although we started trying 4 years ago, looking back on it I dont think we were ready then, and this feels 'just right' and perfect.

I'm going to look on pregnancy for a thread about having a cold/flu while pregnant. I know its not supposed to be a big deal but I feel REALLY bad and little Alex hasnt moved very much since I crawled out of bed at 4pm. Salamander said he felt him a couple of times but I havent and normally he is kicking so hard it hurts so I am getting nervous. Anyone have experience of this?

eeny , I have a very active little one andfor days on end it can be non stop. I then get hrs in a row of nothing at all. I think I remember someone on one of our old threads saying that they sleep for like 18hrs or more a day , so may be when you are awake they are asleep ?? Are you sleeping more at the mo due to the cold?

Regards to natural sponge , I remember it being recomneded as useful in labour to bite down on !!!

Snowboo , cant say I fancy your soap craving, but I get yuor need for certain distinct things. I seem to want to go stand in car showrooms , that smell is like soooooo satisfying, dh filled up with petrol and I was getting high on really breathing it in !!! Normally I hold my breath and cover my face Im that adverse to it, soo weird how being preggy changes things. Now were can I get a nice big chunk of fresh cut wood !!! (B&Q theres a nutty preggy women on the loose).

I really must start going to bed earlier.

My legs are like jelly from Bluewater today, bought so much maternity as couldnt face trying it on there, and NONE of it fits or looks right. I just cant seem to get fitted nice crops/capris (so fed up with combat style), or nice skirts, I have no high summer stuff to wear on the bottom and I cant find anything to fit me , such a PITA.

am i the baby of the group at 22? had dd two months before my 21st birthday

misty, the only things i'd definitley suggest if you want to breastfeed is make sure you have nipple cream, lansinoh is best as you absolutely will need it, and be aware that the first few months are quite hard but sooo incredibly, unbelievably worth it if you stick it out and be prepared to be feeding for most of the day every day til baby settles into a routine, i was glued to the couch for the first month or so.

can't emphasise enough how worth it it is though, loved bf-ing dd and was really upset when i stopped after a year as i was pregnant again and i couldn't see her sharing with baby!

34 old hahahahahahahahahahaha! You're a mere whippersnapper, young lady.
Was 39 when I got pg with DS, and am now 44. OK am having a crap pregnancy, but it's not age-related.

good luck for tomorrow arabica

I have finally felt him move after rolling around on the floor for ages trying to irritate him. Ugh ok I want this baby more than anything in the world but I have to say I do not find being pregnant fun at all!! It is a means to an end and that's it!

off to bed now! nighty night!

Morning girlies (and boys)!

Wow that was a fun bit of confusion with Salamander there

Had a lovely birthday thanks. I am now officially 24 Had fun trying to find a restaurant last night though. Everyone was fully booked, lol but we had a gorgeous italian meal just around the corner from my brother and sister IL's and it turns out they have a steak evening on Wednesday so we're going back again tomorrow

MIL still has dd and is having her till this afternoon, dh has gone back to work so I'm sat watching the Green Wing dvd he bought me in my dressing gown and mumsnetting
MIL bought me some fab PJ's and matching slippers and dressing gown so I'm trying to put them to one side for hospital.

Ahhh, back to baby stuff!
Welcome Misty. Glad to see you've got stuck in

As for the dummy thing, I know alot of parents aren't keen on it and I think alot of it depends on how you decide to feed. I know when I had dd I bought some newborn cherry soothers. The midwives told me not to give them to her to stop confusion as I was trying to breast feed but as it turned out I didn't/couldn't so we gave her the dummy and tbh it was a total godsend. Really helped with soothing her and the info about SIDS is an even better reason to use them.
I'll be buying them again for new baby but will hold out with them until I establish how I'm going to feed.

Happy b'day for yesterday yellowfeathers! I don't really like dummies tbh, but they were the only way I could get DS to settle in a car seat. He didn't use them until he was 6 months, and then got addicted! I had quite a job getting rid of them--finally did it when he was 2. I don't know if I will bother using them with new DS/DD.

hi ya yellow im 25 four months after i have baba and i feel so old married and with child lol

have decided to have a christening the week after my birthday if they'll have us it will be the week before christmas so the church should be all christmassy i love churches at christmas

have got loads of decorating done again this week end baby room now ready for carpeting landing and hallway done except flooring so just kitchen to decorate now then we are done thanks to the mil and sil bless em even if they do my head in must say tho mil has been fab this weekend i think she was expecting to be pushed out coz of my mum but she has been so useless i have no choice but to spend alot of time with the mil she even coming with me to hospital next monday

but the garden is now resembling a jungle agian as rain means we cant mow grass as its a petrol one i cant do it and its always rainging when dh is about

I've never been to a Christening, can I come???? It sounds gorgeous.

Oh by the way thanks for remembering I am supposed to hear about my MRI scan today, am hoping the hospital phones but have sneaking suspicion I won't get a call today either.

course you can i hope everything goes well today i dont know how you have so calm specially with the bh weekend as well send you all my love

is this your first arabica i cant remember

Oh I hope you hear something Arabica. It's been a long wait this time hasn't it?

Just had a look at your 4d scan pic booby. She's lovely

We're going to have to find a church that will christen this LO. DD was baptised when she was just 2 months.

Just thought i'd say HI under my real user name!

I've successfully changed my password now, so should stop stealing Eeny's in future!

Here's the Dummies/Pacifiers SIDS info \link{http://www.nelh.nhs.uk/hth/dummies_cotdeath.asp\for you all}

Enlightening and balanced info!

All the best to you all!

Salamander

P.S. Going to try and give blood today!!!

by the way if you turn out not to be rh neg eeny needs to take it coz it protects further babaies or are you just having the one salamander so if you both are eeny may still need it as my parents are completely diff blood groups to me ive inherited my nanas blood group

Hi Booby,

We might be different blood groups, but if we're both Negative we can't produce a Positive baby - so that should be okay.
We'll see what happens.

I've been looking at the \link{http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,4429,00.html\DR.SPOCK} for some info...

The particular bit that interests us is:

Who needs to take Rh immunoglobulin?

RhIg is given to all Rh-negative women whose fetuses might be Rh-positive. The fetus may be Rh-positive if its father is Rh-positive. If both parents are Rh-negative, they can only have Rh-negative offspring.
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If they take my blood then should know within a couple of weeks - before Eeny's appt hopefully!

hi my dh was so excited re not having to have his blood taken he has absorbed lots of the info but obviously got this round his neck bless him he was dead worried when we were talking about you in the car the other day sorry if sounded like i was nagging i do aplogise is eeny feeling any better

will they tell us what blood group baba is at the birth then

Didn't think you were nagging Booby!

It's all very confusing - I trust Dr. Spock though!

They should tell us at the birth. Maybe they only tell you if there has been the whole Rhesus factor in your prgnancy.

Eeny and I both think it should be something told at birth for everyone that stays on your medical record for life - just makes sense!

As it stands, in this country you ONLY find out if you are:

1. A Pregnant lady
2. In need of a blood transfusion
3. A Blood Donor

Otherwise you are refused!

Salamander

P.S. Nice to know we're talked about! :)

So out of curiosity, i'm A+ and dh is O-. Not sure what ds is, but does the baby inherit from mother or father? Or is it just one of those things? I know MIL nearly lost dh when pg as his sis was A+ and the antibodies tried to abort him. Just curious. NOT planning any more babies after this. Three pg's are QUITE enough thanks....

i wasn't told dds blood group but it might be differant over there. i don't think the hospital even knows hers as she's never had blood taken, only the heel prick which is just a few drops on a piece of card.

please nobody mention christenings.... dd's is turning into a circus, dps family are trying to be as awkward as it's possible to imagine and we've no money for any of it. not to mention that every time i see a cheap dress or skirt on ebay it shoots up in price by the time i get my dad to bid on it for me at this rate i'm going to be wearing my jeans to the bl*dy thing!