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started yet another as im aware were about 20 posts from full again lol!

Fairydogmother i live abroad and i wont get a nuchal test but i can get the blood test at 16 weeks (not sure if its triple or quadruple) which i will be doing.
im having my private gynecologist do the scans and he will come to the private hospital for the birth. which i think is worth the money. the 16 week test has to be done private but all other blood tests can be done through insurance.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful i think i would also terminate for downs because i live in a country where the is no support and no disability allowance that i think it would be hard on us as a family. other problems that it can show up then we and the hospital can prepare for.

Hello everyone, I joined this thread ages ago and couldn't keep up! But hoping I can dip back in again. Just been catching up. So sorry to hear there has been a lot of sad news. I have my scan on 10 May and am so nervous. My EDD is 18 November.

Have been so so sick, like my last pregnancy. Was sick until 22 weeks last time so really hoping the sickness doesn't last till then this time...! It's so hard managing work (haven't told them) and looking after my 11 month old. Plus DH had been away for work for last two weeks, gahh! Massive rant! Sorry to hear others have been sick too but it's reassuring to know I'm not alone - so hard when not many people know you're pregnant.

Hi all

I have just noticed some brown discharge and am absolutely terrified :( I've not had anything like this at all in my first 12 weeks. Has anyone else had this at this stage (12+2)? Should I call the midwives? My scan last Friday showed everything totally healthy so I am now so worried something has happened. I also think I can feel some really mild cramping.

Brown is usually ok, you need to worry it it's bright red. But maybe call your midwife to see what they say? They'll probably reassure you everything is fine.

firsttimemummy - don't worry about brown discharge. As PasstheCreme says it's bright red that you have to worry about. At this stage, as A&E told me, an mc would mean full pads of bright blood, more than 1 full pad soaked every hour and lots of clots/product. Nice.

I have had a bit more blood and a clot pass this morning and it dawned on me - the last two times I had bleeding were just a few hours after I had sex. Not intercourse but the usual faffing around and I'm wondering - is my uterus contracting when I have sex and pushing out blood? And does this mean a sex-less, joy-less and orgasm-less pregnancy?!! Oh dear god!!!

little I'm getting a triple blood test at 16 weeks on the NHS but full private care costs £7000 here!

Just wish they'd offer everyone the same level of care

firsttime - I've had brown and then red spotting at 8 and then 11 weeks - panicked both times, but everything has been fine.

We have done the nuchal test. I have absolutely no idea what we would do if we got a bad risk factor. I will cross that bridge when/if we come to it.

Everyone at work now knows, and someone has already touched my 'bump'. Not impressed. It won't go down well if everyone thinks it's ok!!

Thank you all, that has really helped to reassure me. I also spoke to the midwife and she said that it is 'normal' too. Apparently we only need to worry with fresh blood or clots that would fill a thimble. I have to admit I was feeling almost back to my old self last night and for the first time since I found out I was pregnant I had sex and did more than just lie there and humour DH! So perhaps I was too enthusiastic and damaged something. Am going to be terrified to let DH near me from now on. I definitely do not want the stress/worry I have had this afternoon again! Also I was due to have my period today if I wasn't preggers so perhaps that is a contributory factor too (although I haven't noticed anything my last 2 missed periods). Anyway, not a pleasant afternoon but fingers crossed all is alright inside still with little bubba.

Oh no williamina don't say that we are going to lanzarote in July. I was worrying about going away when pg but never even thought to worry that it might be a rubbish place to go.
Tired we are planning to take dd to peppa pig world whilst she is still an only. Not my cup of tea but she will love it.

Firsttime I'm sure your lo is fine try not to worry.
Ditty lovely scan news

Well I seemed to have turned a corner now I'm at 13 weeks- I think I'm one of the earliest due dates? The sickness seems to be confined to evenings and I'm not having to force food down anymore. In fact I'm hungry all the time!

Arghhhhhhh! please excuse me whilst I have a quick rant to get this out of my system
Why do people think that it is ok to comment on your weight because you are pregnant??
I'm wearing a fitting jersey dress today (I'm 14w tomorrow) (as I wasn't going out) and you can clearly see my bump, my DH walked in and said f**ing he'll you're huge! Then my mum just phoned and told me that she thought I was pregnant last weekend (just before I told her) because she could see how wide my arse had got!! I got married last november and lost unhealthily a lot of weight to get into my wedding dress, I quickly put 9lb back on afterwards as I have to starve myself to keep my weight that low. Am I fair to feel upset by this?? What hurts even more is they both know that I suffered from eating disorders for years so commenting on my weight should be the last thing they should be doing! (I'm 5'8 and size 12)

I just want to say that I would never judge any one who chose to terminate for downs, I don't want any one to feel judged for that choice. It is an incredibly personal decision that depends on a lot of factors. I hope I didn't give that impression from my message!

Williamina I love the sound of the Egypt holiday, it sounds like the perfect mix of child friendly and adult stuff! sadly due to DS's allergies we normally have to do self catering (although did manage catered in the chalet when we were skiing, but the chef was coeliac and I trusted him and he did separate meals for the children anyway). I think will have to stick in Europe for now until (fingers crossed!) his allergies subside. definitely want a bit of sunshine though!

Busy Peppa pig world sounds like a good plan! We took DS for his 2nd birthday, he was a bit young but still talks about the hot air balloon ride and driving the cars! I'm not really a big fan of theme parks either but its actually quite nice and very clean and new, and not massive so good for tinies. But lots of queuing if you go at a busy time unfortunately. I'm planning on taking DS as a treat once I'm feeling better (we're only 20 minutes away), as I'm feeling so guilty about how much I have had to palm him off on other people these past few weeks.

miss tweed I know it sounds silly but its probably just their excitement about you being pregnant coming out in funny ways. I know how hard it is though, I suffered from anorexia at university and I really struggled with the comments about my bump size last pregnancy. I think people who know about your history could be a bit more sensitive, but I honestly think they weren't thinking in their excitement. I would tell them how it made you feel though as there are a lot of months of 'growing' ahead

I suppose I'm worried that I'll slip Ito old ways and become obsessed with my weight. I'm already weighing myself and checking it against pregnancy weight gain graphs to make sure Im Not gaining too much. I knew it would be hard for me because I'm a yoyoer and am either piling on the weight or obsessed with losing it. I think I'm going to find the next 6 months hard regarding the control aspect

could you talk to midwife about it? I found it helped to think about it as feeding the baby! also, staying gently active (swimming, walking) made me 'in control' without being obsessed. but if you are finding it hard don't feel afraid of talking about it, I am sure they will be able to support you, its nothing to feel ashamed of x

Maybe I'm just feeling over emotional, hormonal and extra sensitive I'll give myself 5 mins to sulk then snap out of it

misstweed I totally understand where you're coming from.

I'm massively sensitive about my weight and I'm weighing myself weekly to monitor things. I'm very anxious about weight gain and my mother keeps saying things like o don't go piling in the flab etc. err thanks mom for making me feel soooo much more secure - NOT!

Sounds like your DH meant your baby bump is huge and not the rest of you but I'd def not have appreciated the arse comment!

You're exactly the same height and dress size as me so we can keep each other right!

I actually cried when the midwife made me get on the scales with my coat and shoes on and then declared I was 3-4 kilos heavier than I know I am

Slow and steady baby weight gain with exercise and good eating will keep us ok tho

I think my DH was just shocked to see a baby shape (hes now obsessed with the size of my boobs (gone from B/C to DD!) and as for my mum.... She's had a gastric band so I think that she feels its ok to comment on my arse being huge as hers is bigger. Then there's my MIL..... (She a whole new story) when my DH told her I was pregnant last week and how we were finding it hard to keep it a secret for much longer she said, "my god she's not showing already is she?" She knew the phone was on speaker phone and I could hear!!!! I have however made myself feel better as I have just done a google image search of 14weeks pregnant and I have a very healthy sized bump compared to all the other ladies on there. I'm going o stop feeling fat and start being proud of my bump!

Thank you ladies for talking me out of my doldrums

Miss tweed, you poor thing.

Yeah to all those who've had positive scans.

Today's bern filled with a bit of dry heaving, feeling dizzy and when I bend over feeling a lump type thing.

Has anyone else noted their nipples have it lighter?

Tired we are miles away so going to make it a camping trip. Unfortunately that means we will have to go in the school holidays so will more than likely be stuck in queues. But glad you think it's good and ds enjoyed it as I've not spoken to anyone who has been before.

Misstweed try not to let comments get to you. I found the bigger I got people always had to comment on my size and shape. I know it must be hard for you but by the end I just thought of myself as an incubater and didn't take any of it personally! It's funny as if you weren't pg people would never dare make such personal comments.

I think it is worth a trip busy , you can probably get tips on best timings etc for missing the worst queues. There's lots for little ones and a good soft play bit and a really great play park within peppa pig world, Ds loved the park more than any of the rides! Will be a fun adventure with the camping too

misstweed feel free to offload on here whenever you need to that what's nice about having people to 'talk' to at same stage who know what you're going through.

DH was easy to persuade on the holiday idea now just need to make our mind up where!

Yes this thread certainly goes quick, catching up. I have three more weeks to wait till 12 week scan on 15th May. Had to run to the loo to be sick during lunch with my boss. She tucked into a particularly meaty smelling lasagne. Needless to say the secret is out. She was happy for me, so all good.

I am only 9+3 and either definatley put on a load of weight or I just can't hold the flab in like I used to be able to. I'm just below the threshold of overweight, just about healthy BMI.

Read something about Quavers above and now want a million packets.

Does anyone know if meant to drink lots of water before 12 wk scan? Have mine Friday and not been told to just thought I'd check as I know some of you have had your scans. Congrats on the positive scans 😊 Friday can't come soon enough, feels like its been a really long week of waiting x

Emc I hAd just over a pint of water , half an hour before the scan

Hi everyone!!!13weeks a nd 5 days!!!

More wiggly active little babies. How lovely.
Think I got a phone call from the midwife team today. The message left was rubbish "Ms Pants, please ring general hospital". No name, number or department! Grrrrr.

Ended up seeing my gp for the vomiting and nausea and she's prescribed Avomine for me. It's kind of working, I wonder if I need a certain blood serum level to hold the heaves at bay. I was starting to find it difficult to drink enough so fingers crossed this will sort it! Bad ms and nausea has reportedly been linked to high iq in children, clearly a lot of us are going to have genius offspring!