October 2013 hula hoops, daytime snoozes and booking in appointments

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Here you go. New thread...number 3!

Hi everyone, I'm reading all posts but not posting much, sorry.
I had booking in yesterday and have been vomiting every day since Saturday (when I was sick at least 15 times)! Every other day has only been a couple of times though.
I'm not getting a new pram (I have a Quinny Buzz and a Maclaren) so DS can go in the pram and baby in a sling :o
Tbh I'm going for the head in the sand approach regarding being pregnant until my scan - last week I was very worried as I felt even less pregnant than I did with my miscarriage. This week I'm a bit happier :)

Good luck today jelly sorry your feeling rubbish, but hopefully seeing little bean will make you feel a bit better.
Also good luck rockchick for booking appt. with toddler. Am sure the midwives are used to it.
Sorry your also feeling so ill badger but glad feeling better about everything.
I had my first appt. with the research team yesterday and got to have a scan!! Really wasnt expecting to see very much at all but theres a little baby in there with hands that you can see and bouncing around! It was amazing. they put my dates forward a few days but told me to wait for my 12 week scan next week and go by their dates.
Since seeing everythings ok have also been googling double buggies. Not sure we need one as DS will be 2.9 but then I think if we go out for the day then maybe its worth it,especially as DH is talking about baby number 3 already...We would buy second hand and have been having a look on ebay for anything near us. We had an Icandy cherry for DS which I loved but it cant be converted to a double and they say not to use a buggy board on it, which is very annoying...

Hey ladies, scan went well and we got one bouncy Ribena berry in there. Due date is now 30th September but please let me stay on this bus.

don't worry jelly we won't kick you off, you are pregnant after all!! so glad scan went well for you!! I can not wait to see mine!!

Yay for Jelly and Pink!! Must be so lovely seeing your bean, I really can't wait!

Rachel that sounds so early, maybe I'm being unreasonable and after 12 weeks it will be fine. Just seems so public and final when mat cover is advertised, quite scary... I'll get over it, 9 weeks today and feeling v nauseous and putting on lots of weight so I think it's positive. Feeling really sympathetic towards those of you being sick, especially when looking after toddlers! Xx

Feminist - DS (2) is hilarious when I'm being sick as he is standing there no bloody privacy any more saying "bless you mummy" and "sorry" (his 2 favourite sayings atm) :o

That's great news jelly

6 days until mine...looking forward to it but just want to tell people now more than anything!

Has anyone else had a complete meltdown in the first trimester? Last night I thought I was going to be sick so ran to the bathroom. Nothing came up but I started crying. DH came to find me and I launched into - 'I don't know if I want this baby anymore, I want to be in control of my body again, I want things back the way they were, I'm not maternal at all, I want to just plan things (DH said we could still do things, to which I replied, yes but with a stupid baby). I think I really scared him.

This morning, I'm fine again and feel awful that he had to hear all those things!

I can't do up my jeans admittedly DH pointed out this morning that I'm constantly eating, but if I don't I feel sick! Got family round later for DD1's bday and not sure what to wear to hide it, I'm off work for 2 weeks and none of my uniform will fit when I go back (I'm only 8+3) what fun! Will be so glad when everyone knows and I can let it all hang out

seriousStuff don't worry ur not the only one feeling like that!! I've had the odd moment (day!) where I'm like "oh god that have I done?!! my life/body/relationship are never going to be the same again!!" but that's not to say that this baby isn't very very wanted!! its all these crazy hormones racing about, its like bad pmt can hit at any moment!!

Brilliant news jelly really wishing my scan was this week i just don't feel pregnant any more which is making me sleep terrible and Im a nervous wreck :(

feminist I felt it was way too early both times, and both times were told in confidence, but obviously no privacy in my practice! The only thing that made me feel better was no one from work knew anyone from my home life, so although people knew, I could control the spread of the news!

serious I have a melt down a down a week. Normally sickness induced, lots of tears, lots of 'I can't do this anymore', and very frequent 'this is our last!'

seriousstuff and roofio I had the exact same meltdown at the weekend (kind of why I've been quiet for a few days) and felt so awful. It's just stupid little things like I won't be able to buy another nice bikini for years if breast feeding, or reading the thread about sex after childbirth. And I feel constantly guilty. Guilty that the baby won't have its own home, that DH has been so good doing EVERYTHING around the house while I mope around or just go to bed, guilty that I haven't sorted my career out first. Coupled with the guilt is THE FEAR. I won't tell anyone because I am just so scared of judgemental reactions (logically I know people won't judge me!) and scared of being a terrible mother, scared of PND (I'm prone to mood changes....) and most of all scared by the foreignness of where I'm living. I've thought 'what the hell am I doing' on more than one occasion .

Then the next day I feel fine and put it all down to hormones! I think we'll all feel better after the 12 week milestone. A week and 2 days until I see mine!

I'm so glad I'm not the only one feelin that way! Sometimes I feel guilty on dd for being pregnang like, will I love this new baby as much as I love her? I'm thinking surely I can't love them both the same how can I make sure she's not pushed out. Am I messy up our whole life set up by adding another baby into the mix. But at the same time I'm desperate to get too 12 weeks for everything to be safe! A few friends I've told with more than 1 dc have assured me its normal to worry u won't love it the same or worry about pushing your first dc out but apparently all will be fine when baby arrives xxx

I have been having breakdowns, but it's always related to the 'what if' aspect. Such as 'what if I get to the 12 week scan and it's just a blighted ovum?' or 'what if something happens to my DH?' ... I definitely shouldn't have read the 'Coping if your partner dies' section of the NHS handout. The only 'oh, I can't do that' moment I have had was when DH and I were talking about how cool it would be to go to Canada, or when I saw that a favourite band is playing a UK concert in October, but I know that I wouldn't trade this pregnancy for any of those things!

I think the key part of my teary days is the fear of the unknown really. And there is so much pressure (even if subconscious and/or irrational) put on us as well I think, it's bound to make us have teary moments.

RachelD - that is terrible she has no right to do that without your permission.

Definitely with everyone on the worries. Not quite full on meltdown but close. Before I fell pregnant I just seem to be falling over articles about how much harder it was to conceive over the age of 35 now. Now all I seem to see are articles about pregnancy and issues/problems etc. There is an article and Stacy Soloman and PND on the bbc website right now.

I had our early scan this morning and all was good. Its such a relief and I definitely feel more relaxed -glad it was first thing so I didn't spend the day worrying. It was great to be able to know real statistics so at the moment the bean is 29mm long. The dating was bang-on so I've still a due date for 11th October. All seems much more real now!

It is scary. What I'm finding hard ATM is I've been off work for over two weeks already and I'm likely to be off a lot more over the next few, being an old bird. I'm already finding it frustrating to spend all day on my arse on the sofa and DP is lovely and doing everything round the house but keeps telling me "oh don't plan on going away on holiday this summer" and stuff like that. Waah, I don't want to hear that!

Scan booked for 9 April BTW :-)

serious I did exactly the same last night. I said to DH "I'm not sure I want this anymore, I just want to go back to feeling normal. I don't want something taking over my body" Totally seriously. He was like "After all the fuss you made about having one, you've got to be joking?".

I got a bit scared about everything last night to be honest. Obviously I didn't mean what i said, but the whole prospect is terrifying now that it seems more real.

Where do I start? Thank you all for the reassurances and tales of similar experiences! At one point, my DH even said, 'fine, I'll just go away and raise this baby on my own'. Even in the midst of my hysteria, I found this quite funny and was really trying not to laugh.

I'm now 32 and I think I'm just too used to getting my own way. So as much as we definitely want this baby and we discussed it at length before TTC, I guess it sinks in in waves and takes you by surprise sometimes.

I also have these moments of being worried about being seen as nothing more than a mother anymore, and as much as I want to tell people about the pg, I don't want them to just talk about the baby constantly!

It sounds so trivial and selfish, especially when so many women long to be mothers and can't conceive. This baby is very much wanted, but I'm so glad MN is here for those moments when I completely lose it!

cuellie your my scan buddy!

MY meltdowns have been over how sick I am and what if I'm doing it all for nothing again like last year!

Have felt awful now since the weekend and supposed to be moving house tomorrow! At least I got my private scan Friday to keep me going.

Just back from my booking in which was very exciting. Midwife is lovely and says there is a real baby boom in October where we live. My scan won't be until 14 weeks though which is quite gutting as it seems a long way away. I've just got to wait for my letter for the exact date.

My biggest meltdown worry is about getting bored. My friends can play with their babies for hours and after about an hour I would rather watch TV...what if I'm like that with my baby???!!!

I am pretty selfish and it scares me that that won't change when our baby is here....

I too have decided to go down the private early scan route. I get to see my little bean next Friday......I can't wait!

Hi. Still feeling dreadful. Inexplicably felt the need to do another test yesterday - extremely positive!

speaking of meltdowns... I had one a little while ago. Was supposed to be having my booking in appt with midwife tomorrow but the surgery called & left a message to say they are shut tomorrow for staff training & they have moved appt to next week instead. All very well,but I will be over 10 weeks by that stage & nothing in the pipeline for a scan until I've seen midwife. I phoned back & explained my concerns especially as last time they forgot to refer me for the scan.

Eventually spoke to another community midwife who assures me that my own midwife will phone the consultant's secretary & make my appointment while I am with her. Am happier now that I should know the date of my scan next Thursday. Better than being sent home to wait for a letter :).

In other news DP's grandfather passed away during the night,aged nearly 93. It was expected but sooner than thought. So that will be a very long journey north sometime next week for his funeral. What's the betting it'll be next Thursday?? Then what will I do? I would really like to go to his funeral as he was an absolute sweetheart,but I can't miss my appointment,especially now it's getting so late (stupid late booking system). Nothing's ever simple!

if you think you're scared now - wait til you being the baby home! I was terrified! However,I will reassure you all now that it is totally normal to be like wtf have I done,my life will never be the same again. No,it won't but it will be a hundred thousand times more fulfilling & exciting! Honest.

Badger your DS sounds so sweet, that's the sort of thing that makes me want a baby more! Rachel I am the same, I work 1-2 hours away depending on the trains so far away from RL! Another pg announcement at work today, she's 5 months but didn't know for the first 3! Imagine...

My mini meltdowns have been more about giving birth- it was complete agony having a coil fitted and that's tiny compared to a baby! And I tend to get dizzy and hot when in pain which I'm more scared about than the actual pain... And then I have the usual worry that I won't even get that far!

Just had a packet of hula hoops, thought of you all

Sorry to hear your news tucking 93 is a wonderful age, I hope he had a happy life. Hopefully you find out the funeral date soon so you can call the midwife and explain- they might be able to give you a different date next week? Hopefully it will be on a different day and you won't need to worry

SeriousStuff, I've been the same with the meltdown!! I reckon it's quite normal....at 34 I'm used to having my own money, travelling every week and having a nice life etc etc, and worried how that will change, but I'm sure that things to come will change my life in amazing ways I could never imagine...like everyone else this baby is very much wanted, but I guess it's fear of the unknown. Xx