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October 2013 hula hoops, daytime snoozes and booking in appointments

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Iheartcrunchiebars · 02/03/2013 07:27

Here you go. New thread...number 3!

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BowlFullofJelly · 13/03/2013 16:50

Good luck with the move Haylebop - hope it all goes smoothly for you.

To share my limited experience to those getting worried about what the future holds I would say my reality was the first few months with baby are hard! I got one that didn't want to sleep, that I had to breastfeed for 9 hours a day, and who basically cried whenever not attached to the boob. There were definitely moments of 'my word, what I have done'. Also as I'm not exactly an earth mother type - had no urge to have kids until about 6 weeks before we conceived - I put a lot of pressure on myself to continue life as normal. Sounds bad, but the good news is it gets so much easier and better. You will have a sex life again, you will go out and socialise, you will go on holiday and wear bikini's - maybe not for a little while, but the time goes SO quickly once they are here. And crunchie in all honesty I found the baby stage quite boring - I loved him to death obviously, but just waving a soft toy in a babies face for hours on end didn't really do it for me! But now he is 2 I love it - he is so entertaining.

Have just realised this is just a ramble and not really helpful in the slightest Grin. Cazboldy you are on number 6 right? A True Pro! I'm sure you have much more relevant and insightful advice!

cherrycherry41 · 13/03/2013 17:21

and dont panic to those gasping in horror at Bowlful s depiction of motherhood- not all babies are bad, some are really really good. Its a lottery to which you get, youre not a failure as a mum if u pick the short straw.
I find myself very lucky to have a textbook dream baby- Sleeps all night since 8wks, smiling all day as long as i remember to feed and change her shes happy as larry and had no issues. Not bragging! Its just happened that way. Only thing we've had to contend with is teething. But hey, shes not a toddler yet so she may surprise me then ;)

ah god, shes gonna be up all night tonight isnt she to bite me in the ass!

cherrycherry41 · 13/03/2013 18:06

oh bowlful, just re-read that! Didnt mean you baby was bad just meant some are worse than others! Biscuit x

cherrycherry41 · 13/03/2013 18:07

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i'll stop spamming now Blush

racheld33 · 13/03/2013 18:26

bowlfull sounds like we had a similar 'high needs' baby! Oh, how I pray for an easy one this time Grin

pinkbuttons · 13/03/2013 18:37

Different depictions of motherhood made me laugh. Ds was a "good" baby until 20 months when he forgot how to sleep through the night and started having tantrums...
Am fully expecting this one to be extra hard work to make up for last timeConfused apparently they even out eventuallyGrin (according to my mum whos had 5)

GettingObsessive · 13/03/2013 18:37

Hi all, I am afraid I have been steering clear because the bad news for some unfortunate people was freaking me out and then I saw a thread the other day about a poor lady who had a MMC Sad

But, in a moment of weakness at the weekend I ordered a fetal Doppler and I heard the heartbeat this afternoon Grin

It was so reassuring. Just need to make sure I can find it again later for DH Smile

Haylebop12 · 13/03/2013 18:44

How many weeks are you obsessive?

Rockchick1984 · 13/03/2013 18:45

Pinkbuttons I've got a theory that they are all either good babies or good toddlers - never both Grin DS never slept and was incredibly high needs but I didn't really mind the high needs stuff as I was happy to let the house be a tip so I could cuddle and play with him! He's now 2 and very well behaved most of the time and he's so gentle with friend's babies, fingers crossed he's still like that when this one arrives!

Sephy · 13/03/2013 18:49

It's exciting hearing you experienced mums talking about the toddler years - at the moment it's hard to believe that in a few months we'll have little newborns, let alone actual mini people in a couple more years!

How quickly did you get to know your babies' personality rather than just interacting with it as a baby?

CelticPromise · 13/03/2013 19:12

I'm another one who found the baby stage quite boring. DS is 3.5 now and such great company. To answer Sephy though, he was definitely born with a personality even premature as he was.

He's also an angelic sleeper so I live in fear of the next one being a nightmare!

OrangeBlossom2 · 13/03/2013 19:16

Tucking, sorry to hear about your grandfather. I hope you can sort the dates to attend both.

Congrats to those who had lovely scans today.

Feeling hungry, my strategy has been to be a really bad teacher - instead of having a guided group I sometimes get the children to come up to me one at a time for conferencing, or i get them to cut things out themselves which is a waste of learning time but hey ho. I am leaning heavily on my year group partner to prepare resources (I told her this week so she doesn't just think I am being super lazy) and do some marking over lunch to avoid bringing work home. but my main strategy is just to work as hard as I can 8 till 6 with lots of snacking to keep energy up and sickness down, then I come home and change into my pjs and go straight to bed and cry/ moan/ sleep while my poor DH does everything. I am no fun at all for him at the moment. I don't think I could keep this up much longer and am counting down the days to Easter. I have parents evening next week too - not looking forward to that either!

I have no idea how people go to work all day them come home and look after their own children. I am completely past doing anything now.

PseudoBadger · 13/03/2013 19:35

Sephy with DS it was quite bizarre - he felt like an old soul who had been around forever, knew everything and just happened to be 'incapacitated' in a baby's body!
We had a bad start separated in hospital (me in bed unwell, him in NICU) and DP made a real effort to get us bonded by being quite hands off with DS. It sounds weird to say that but I'm very grateful for it.
I knew nothing about babies, had to google nursery rhyme words and everything (I remember in hospital the only 2 soothing songs I knew to sing were the Wombles theme tune and Mr Plow from the Simpsons Blush) but I definitely got to know what he wanted very quickly.

GettingObsessive · 13/03/2013 19:36

Haylebop I'm 10 + 1, so I was really pleased (and relieved!)

Natalieand · 13/03/2013 19:41

I was also a lucky one and dd slept ate slept ate and has slept through the night from around 4 months old and is almost 2.5 now she's such a cheeky Madame but I like it like that full of character but so loving ATM she keeps stroking my arm and saying 'you alright mum?' I say yes baby are u ok? And she usually replies your welcome mum lol. I thought the baby stage was exciting but this is my favourite stage so far ATM, she's so independent I'm scared to go back to having such a dependant baby!

Good luck at your scan hayle

Tarlia · 13/03/2013 19:50

I had it the other way, contented little baby who rarely cried. He didn't favour sleep, but we got there in the end. However, he is such a firery toddler it's unreal, however now he sleeps and naps perfectly.

I too have had the wobbles; how will I cope with two? Do I have the energy for two little people? Etc etc But I guess it's natural and we will all find our way.

Those that are scared of labour, don't be, just try not to think about it. If it hurts take what they are offering you, you wouldn't have your leg amputated or have knee surgery without pain relief. However you may be like me, I was open minded to pain reliefe, except for epi, I really didn't want that, but due to my preeclampsia they insisted I would have the epidural without choice. To cut a long story short, they couldn't get the cathiter in my hand for fluids before I was pushing, needless to say I didn't get epi or anything else, but nor did I need it, I was on some hippy cloud somewhere totally zoned out only hearing my MWs voice, bizarre as that is not me. The poor MW didnt even get to open my notes, so after labour asked me if I had HIV, which luckily i don't. I think the more calm you can stay about it all, the better you will cope with it. Yes, it'll hurt a bit, but then it'll all be over and you will totally forget.

I can't drink enough fruit juice, my teeth are going to drop out by the end of this. Also found that mini milk ice lollys help with the sickness. Can't get hula hoops here :( OH has been complaining tonight that I keep half eating things and going off them..ops.

Haylebop12 · 13/03/2013 19:50

I also disliked the baby stage. I was very isolated though so found it extr difficult. 18-24 months was my fav! She's not 4.1 and knows the answer to everything!! Keeps me entertained though as she mimics my wretching!

We took her to my 12 wk scan last year where we found no hb so had to explain mummy no longer had the baby. She was 3.4 at the time and just took it in her stride. Correcting herself when he mentioned it. We have told her there is a baby, couldn't really hide how poorly I've been but won't be taking her to the scan.

Sickness stepped up a gear an even on medication I've been sick 3 times today!! Fedup.com

Tarlia · 13/03/2013 19:53

How many times can one person say however?? Haha sorry!

tucking so sorry about grandfather. 93 is such a good age, I hope he had a lovely life. Fingers crossed funeral isn't Thursday!

Haylebop12 · 13/03/2013 19:55

Anyone else get pressure headaches? I don't know if its the medication or being pregnant Sad

Tarlia · 13/03/2013 20:07

I had one last week, it was right between the eyes and lasted all day.

BowlFullofJelly · 13/03/2013 20:08

Haha, just catching up, don't worry cherry I'm not easily offended - and I definitley called him worse than bad at times! In a way I'm quite pleased I had a difficult one first. I know what's coming if I get a high needs baby, and anything calmer\sleepier will be a bonus! My boss on the other hand had a 'good' baby first, then his son was the same as mine and they didn't know what hit them!

Anyway, I think the point of my post was that yes babies do turn your life upside down, but things do settle and while life is different, its not the end of life as you know it. I'm still rambling though.....

Flyer747 · 13/03/2013 23:20

Don't want to put a downer on the thread, but I'm really nervous, actually crapping myself about the whole mmc thing! I'd be totally devastated if I got to the scan to be told this.....sorry feeling a tad worried tonight

Haylebop12 · 14/03/2013 00:09

Sorry flyer Sad

Flyer747 · 14/03/2013 00:18

Oh hayle it wasn't directed at you, i hope i havent .offended you...was just wondering if a lot of others were nervous like me. Im just a major worrier, I blame my mum I must have inherited her worry gene!! :-)

SeriousStuff · 14/03/2013 00:24

Flyer747 it's only natural to worry. I keep trying to tell myself that, whilst I have my nausea (as much as I hate it) there must be stuff going on in there, right? You just have to trust that everything's fine. From what I understand, the first trimester really depends on internal workings and chemicals to ensure a healthy, long-term pg. So often, if you have a mc at this stage, there's not much you could've done about it - it makes you feel powerless either way!

My meltdown post earlier today was my way of making fun of myself for worrying so hysterically. I know my DH and I would get through it if the worst happened but it still makes you wonder what effect it would have on your relationship regardless of how strong you are. I am in awe of some women on here who have had one mc after the other before having a healthy baby.

Try and get a good night's sleep - everything looks better in the light of day x