Oct 2013 come and grab a seat on the first trimester bus!

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I'm just back from the epu and am so relieved to say I haven't miscarried. Saw a heartbeat, and measuring 5+4 so a bit behind what I thought but not worrying about that. They were really really lovely. Thought that I'd bruised myself and lost some tissue (don't know if that was a guess or from the scan).

I can't tell you all how grateful I was/am for your support. It's so wonderful having this thread. Thank you guys. I'm off to bed now! XX

Ps I have told some people and I'm glad about that, I think if it hadn't been good news today I'd have been very grateful indeed for some RL support without having to give the full back story. star I'm very sorry to hear about your FIL - was he delighted with your news?

Star I think roofio87 hits the nail on the head. You do whatever you feel comfortable doing, if you want to share the news with friends go ahead and tell them, it's your pregnancy and no hard and fast rules.

I told my folks my other halves folks, siblings and best friends, as these are people whom play a big part in my life, and I'd need their support either way!!! Take some shloer and drink from a champagne flute, at least you can try and pretend its the real deal then..

Pinksky- brilliant positive news, and seeing a heartbeat wow. Really pleased all is ok. Go rest and get waited on hand and foot

Brilliant news pink, take it easy and look after yourself.

Fantastic news Pink!! Did they do an internal scan to get a heartbeat so early?

Hi everyone, hope everyone is ok today. I just had to tell my boss as I was assigned a job that would present a high risk of exposure to salmonella (I'm an EHO) so I had to get it passed to a colleague.

Great news Pink!

I am so relieved for you Pinksky and to see the heartbeat must have been amazing!! Go to bed and have some rest, I'm sure you didn't get much last night x

FIL was over the moon with the news. Had some family problems late last year and the in laws looked after my sisters 11month old for a few weeks and they both adore children. Seeing him made us really want to give him a grandchild and this will really give him the kick he needs to stay positive. x

Sorry just catching up - this time I've told no one yet except DP and my boss. Last time I told several people and it was uncomfortable having to explain my traumatic miscarriage.

pinksky so glad your scan went well, hjave a good rest and hopefully you feel better soon.

I am having lots of stabbing pains above my pelvis today. they are not often but when they come they are taking my breath away, is this ligament stretching or should by ligament be all stretched seeign as this is dc3. I really should know the answers to my own questions but I am being a bit brain dead these days. Was thinking about calling community m/w but dont want to waste their time for growing pains, any thoughts?

I am so pleased the scan went well for you pinksky! I hope you get a good rest this afternoon xx

As for telling family, we are not intending to tell anyone until we've had the 12 week scan and it's all ok. It's partially selfish because, if we told my parents, and especially my in-laws, then I know they would be on the phone every day asking for updates. If I were to have a miscarriage then I think we would tell them what had happened now. I am already stressing enough about the whole pregnancy going well without knowing that they are too. I can't wait to tell them when the time does come though!

JellyCurls I too keep having a lot of pains, this is my first so it's all new to me. If you are worried though you should speak to your m/w if only to put your mind at rest x

Good news Pinksky

I'm another who hasn't told anyone yet (and will try and hold off till scan) it's definitely a very personal choice and there's no right or wrong, I've had a mmc and had to tell family and I've had an early mc that no one knows about. I can see how it might have been nice to have support from people in a bad circumstance but I don't like people gossiping about whether I'm ttc so try and keep it to myself.

Booking in with mw on monday (although still need to get notes from doc's) I know I did a pee sample for her during app last time, might get a pot and take 1 with me! I'm still only 6+5 can't wait to get to a nice round 7!

Ah telling loved ones... Tricky one for us! We were going to tell both sets of parents when my mum came to visit a few weeks ago but chickened out
The thing is:
a) we've only just had a baby (5mo)
b) BIL and SIL have been trying for 2yrs for another and are undergoing fertility treatment
c) its their 10 yr anniversary the weekend of our scan so we dont want to overshadow their celebrations
d) we are younger than what people expect and since having our DD we've been lectured by everyone (apart from my family) for me to have a permanent contraceptive fitted i.e. implant. This was not in our plan, the plan was to have a second straight away as we both wanted a close age gap.
Btw we are 22, we private rent a beautiful 3 bed house, have well paid full time jobs (myself on maternity leave) no debt etc and we are over the 'partying' stage having been to uni. Not that it should matter!
I just know we're going to get disapproval from my in-laws...
My family are going to be over the moon and will welcome the news.
Hmph. Can we just keep it to ourselves and continue to live in our happy bubble?

I confess I have been lurking on this thread for a few days.. but somehow I am still in denial despite BFP over 3 weeks ago! We were TTC and I was doing ovulation tests and somehow thought I was pregnant but that doesn't mean it has really sunk it yet!

I wasn't like this with my first pregnancy (DD 3 yo) so not sure why I am trying to ignore it. Perhaps it's because sadly, lots of close friends have had miscarriages recently, so we have been talking about that a lot over the last 6 months...

About me - 37, EDD 14 October, 1 DD

I also feel like I'm "past it" in terms of fertility! Feel so old - maybe that's having a 3 year old and running my own business!!

Continuing on from the theme.. I have told my 5 close mum-friends as we meet every week and share many details about IVF (not me, my friend), miscarriages, and last time around stitches, birth etc! So I know if anything went wrong I would be telling them anyway. I'm not telling any of my family as wouldn't really be them I'd turn to for support.

Anyway hello all, and apologies for lurking!

Great news pinksky lovely to hear some happy news.

I'm tucked up in bed watching only fools and horses. Dies anyone else find they can snooze at any point during the day? I lie down and withing minutes I've slept for an hour!

Glad to hear Cuillerea & Pinksky have had reassuring scans after their scares.

I had a tiny bit of pink spotting this morning, so now gone into panic mode. Way too early for a scan, so I'm crossing my fingers that it was an implantation bleed. Does anyone know if that's likely at about 4+5 - seems a bit late to me?

Still no real symptoms. We have told a few close family/friends, but don't want to tell everyone because if it goes wrong it's horrible having to let people know.

Great news PinkSky. Really chuffed for you.

MouseInAHouse, I had cramping on and off for about a week. Had a little bit of spotting/discharge. Lots of people on here tell me it's normal and spoke to MW yesterday and she said it can happen when implantation occurs. My first so can only go by advice. I am about 5+6 weeks. But if you are worried speak to your doctor about it.

For those wondering if you need a wee sample for MW. I needed one and need another for m next appointment on 23rd March. Thy also took all bloods samples needed for tests.

Oppps forget, the wee sample was to test for white cells, sugar and protein.

I have seen the doctor and my MW, but neither have asked for urine samples. They also haven't taken any blood (although I really wish they did because I'd like to know that my HCG levels are as expected) and they also haven't taken my blood pressure! Basically they've taken nothing from me... We've got the MW visiting us at home on Sunday for a cup of decaf coffee. I am guessing that that's when she'll start asking about our family history etc.

I too got a bounty pack! The only thing free in it was some decaf tea bags, and a voucher for a Bounty 'Mum-to-be' pack from Boots or Superdrug, but I haven't collected it yet. Plus loads of information and a booklet for me and DH to fill in. The pack may have been nothing much, but it made it all seem a bit more realistic!

The bounty packs are just a load of advertising - although you get a sample size tub of sudocrem in one of them which is fab as its just the right size to keep in your changing bag :)

I got a mama pack which is an Eco version of a bounty pack - mine was from here but think there's quite a few stockists. Got loads of samples and some discount vouchers etc. I'm a bit of a hippie/alternative type though, if there's a chemical free option I'll go for it :)

What information did you get Roxvox? They asked about my family history and origins. They didn't ask anything about my DP. The did my wee, bloods, height, weight and gave me two books, an old version Emma's Diary (she didn't have the new version bu should get his on 23rd) and a booklet with information on the screening tests for mother and baby. That was it. Next appointment is at home.

Thanks for the mama pack link rockchick I suppose i could be classed as a bit hippy too. I want to go reusable this time with nappies for cost and environment reasons doing my environmental studies degree with the OU has really opened my eyes I want to do my bit!

Falcon check with your local council as most will give you a significant amount of money towards buying reusable nappies, and some offer a nappy laundering service (ours used to but stopped right when I had DS - still got £70 off £100 worth of reusables though from them :) )