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November 2012 - but that starts on Thursday

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StuntNun · 26/10/2012 17:23

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1593492-November-2012-babies-arriving-thick-and-fast

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

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ShellyBobbs · 30/10/2012 20:14

Shannelle was just wondering how you were doing. Get yourself a bath and early night, you're going to need all the rest you can get x

SwissArmyWife · 30/10/2012 20:25

shanelle I know how you feel. It's such a massive disappointment when you are left to do it alone, for you and your children. You have an idea of what your future will be like, and it all changes and it feels incredibly unfair and lonely.
However I'm a firm believer in everything happening for a reason, and even though it's difficult now, you and the kids will adapt and learn to move on from this in time. Have you spoken to your family yet? It really sounds like you could do with more RL support. Or maybe invite a friendover every now and then for a movie and some chocolate, just to give you some company and a bit of a helping hand?
You've just got to take a deep breath and think "I can bloody well do this, and I will" and at the end of the day he is the one that has lost his family, not you. Big hugs x

FatimaLovesBread · 30/10/2012 20:33

Grrr! Been to the in-laws and she's informed us she's ordered a moses basket and stand.
We'd said originally we weren't going to bother with a moses basket, just cot in the room. But it was a pain to put the cot together and we can't be bothered to take it down and move it to the bedroom, so we changed our minds. MIL had told us that DHs auntie was going to lend her theirs. All fine.
DH has arranged it with Auntie and we've been and bought a new mattress for it.
So why has she decided to buy us one??!! Am I just being ungrateful?
She's shown us the one she's ordered and it's lovely but double the price she could have got it at the M&P shop near us.
I just think it's a waste of money

When I mentioned that we've bought a mattress already she said we'll we can have Auntie's one at our house [hhmm] I know a mattress doesn't cost a lot but again, it's money that needn't have been spent.

I know it might be annoying me more because i'm already upset today but [hangry]

applepieinthesky · 30/10/2012 20:33

shanelle the way you are feeling is completely natural. You are grieving for what could have been and feeling like all the hopes and dreams you had for your little family have been taken away. But in time you will be even stronger for it, I'm sure you are a fabulous mummy and that arsehole does not deserve you or your lovely children. I hope you a have managed to tell your family and you are getting some much needed support from them? If not please consider telling them soon. They will feel awful at the thought of you keeping it to yourself and trying to handle it all on your own. They will want to be there for you, please let them.

TheDetective · 30/10/2012 20:44

Fucking hell VQ. That is one hell of a lot of gold! I'd be rich!!! Glad you are home Grin although knowing me I'd of refused to go in, well you have seen my birth plan after all Blush

Stunt I came one to post that surely no one is actively wanting a Halloween baby?! I don't! I'm having the night off hah! It is only because I think birthday parties will be a pain in the ass on halloween, with kids going trick or treating etc! Not that I think I'll have the spawn of satan or anything! Oh, and more babies come spontaneously at night! Definitely!

I know the nice community midwife is on call on thursday, so if I can hold on til then now please Grin I would like a baby in the half term hols though... would be nice!

Shanelle I think you and I must feel very alike - what you have described is exactly how I felt when I was alone. What used to get to me was when I got home from the school run, I could have just locked the door for the night, as that was it. No one else would be coming in, and I wouldn't be able to go anywhere. I hated it. I'm not the kind of person who enjoys my own company for too long. I like it once in a while. But every friggin' day... drove me insane. I just wanted someone to share general crap with, to have a hug, or a meal with. I've spoken to many other women who felt the same. I don't have any magical ideas on making it better though, because I just didn't find a way to meet people, or increase my 'social' life. But then I live 7 miles away from my Mum, and have no brothers/sisters nearest relatives are 20 odd miles away. I'd moved to a town where I had no friends and knew no one, and DS went to a school in a different town. Basically, I felt totally alone. The internet was my life line. But if I had family close by, I feel my life would have been massively improved... please let them help you right now....

In other news - I'm not leaving the house again. Took DS to my mums for a sleepover with her husbands grandchildren - and her neighbour reversed in to my car!! Oh dear.... I now need a new bumper and rear wheel arch Hmm I was lovely to the guy as well, but he had a right shirty attitiude! GRR!

Elizadoesdolittle · 30/10/2012 20:55

Oh shanelle big big hugs to you. You sound so strong and a wonderful role model to your girls. I really hope you get some adult support.

I'm not getting twinges as such but I do feel like everything is moving south. I've had the achey back feeling for a while. I don't remember any warning signs before I went into labour with DD. it was all a bit quick which is probably one reason why I'm looking for signs now. All in vein though I would imagine.

Peaky1 · 30/10/2012 21:01

Reverse psychology Definitely do not want a Hallowe'en baby [hgrin]

Passmethecrisps · 30/10/2012 21:02

Back from yoga. I am offcially the most pregnant yogaee now.

shanelle I can completely empathise with what you are saying. It's a small thing but I really hope you can get some comfort from all of us here. The Christmas thing sounds lovely. I reckon there will be few people who would benefit more from a wee bit of Christmas cheer.

Baby is not allowed to come tomorrow or Thursday. We are heading off to DH's parents tomorrow 200 miles away, staying the night then attending a wedding on Thursday. We are going to drive straight back up after the wedding. Ideally, I would like a nice long lie on Friday and then baby can come. I wouldn't want to steal any attention from the bride and groom by bursting waters all over the dance floor.

tits that consultant sounds like a horror. I would be the same as you - wait until baby's safe arrival then make a stinking complaint. Gosh I so hope you get your baby next.

TheDetective · 30/10/2012 21:02

I can't have a sleep these days without waking up to a barrage of texts and phone calls! Mostly my mum, but DP, and DP's sister coming in not far behind! DS has even started texting me. IN THE SAME HOUSE!!! Not sure DS really understands that the baby isn't just gonna fall out with out me noticing Hmm

And I wouldn't mind, but my mum doesn't even want me to have a baby, so why the hell is she pestering me all the time?!

Anyone else suffering?!

Passmethecrisps · 30/10/2012 21:09

detective text her back saying you had the baby 2 weeks ago

TheDetective · 30/10/2012 21:12

Ooooh, there's an idea Pass I might just text her and tell her it was an April fool after all Grin

DesperateHousewife21 · 30/10/2012 21:17

A couple of people have asked how I am, stating I don't have long left and if I've been getting twinges (what does that even mean?? Of course I'm getting twinges I've got a baby's head bearing down!)

I don't want a Halloween baby but would like it be to be early nov please please :)

applepieinthesky · 30/10/2012 21:22

As soon as I got to 36 weeks everyone started asking if I've had any twinges. But they ask every time I talk to them. Enough already. When baby is here you will know.

TheDetective · 30/10/2012 21:23

DP made me sit on the ball and bounce. I don't want a Halloween baby! So why I am on this bloody ball!

MEN! He said he doesn't want to go to work Friday so I have to have the baby tomorrow or Thursday!!

TheDetective · 30/10/2012 21:32

All the ball is doing is making me want a poo.

Nothing new there.

I'll get me 400 shits this way Grin

Passmethecrisps · 30/10/2012 21:32

I know. What even are twinges? I get twinges up my bum but I don't think people want to hear that.

I think people want to hear that you have some sort of egg timer up your vagina and you know exactly when all the sand has run out.

detective get bouncing woman! What better reason can their be than DP wanting a day off?

Passmethecrisps · 30/10/2012 21:33

My colon has never been in such rude health

TheDetective · 30/10/2012 21:36

I've been clearing out twice a day for the last few...!!!

I've been a twice a week girl for the last few months! Once a week sometimes Shock

I'm sure it's a sign!!!!

Ignores fact was terribly constipated right to the end with DS!

Titsalinabumsquash · 30/10/2012 21:42

I have pinky promised DS that if the baby is born tomorrow we can call him Pumpkin Grin

It would serve him right anyway he has a foot stuck up under my ribcage causing me even more pain little sod

I'm still in a completely empty ward, I've nicked the only electric bed too.

I have also smiled sweetly at the vast amount if ladies that were in here with me but are now cradling their newborns down the other end (not bitter at all)

Although one lady came in was declared not in labour at all went home then re appeared an hour later as her stomach pain had got worse, she saw the consultant on call who declared he didn't know the problem so prolly best induce! Off she went at 36+4 weeks!!! I want that dr to see me!

TheDetective · 30/10/2012 21:51

Pumpkin is quite cute Tits! Oh how I'd laugh if you have to eat your words

Maybe she just needed a poo? I hope there was more to it though, what a ridiculous reason to induce someone PRE-TERM!!!

TheDetective · 30/10/2012 21:58

I'm thinking I'm just going to give birth to a cat! Really. I don't know what to do with human babies after the first week!

CharleeWarlee · 30/10/2012 22:05

MissMummy1 - don't these last few weeks seem to be dragging? Dont know whether its because I found out so early (23rd March to be precise as was 2 days before my birthday) or because I'm the size of an elephant and it takes me 10 minutes to roll off the sofa or out of bed Hmm

Tits Grin The name is actually Charlotte but I despise this! Its a beautiful name, but don't feel it suits me. Over the years I have had various ways of spelling my preferred abbreviation..Charli, Charlie, Charley..but got annoyed with seeing it spelt this way all the time Envy So I recently changed to Charlee Grin

Passmethecrisps · 30/10/2012 22:05

The Facebook group is really making me giggle. We are split down the middle - has babies and no babies but pets.

Anyone with animal issues must dread checking the posts.

I like Pumpkin! It should at least be a nickname. Tell you what, I'll bet you would call it anything if it promised to come tomorrow. Oh and what a lot of bullshit to induce someone pre-term with an unknown condition. It's not even a postcode lottery is it? It's a personality lottery

TheDetective · 30/10/2012 22:09

I did leave VQ a little heads up not to look down... keep it bumped!!! Grin

We're a daft hormone fueled lot!

TheDetective · 30/10/2012 22:10

Charlee I was 3+2 when I got a positive test. This has been the longest pregnancy. EVER!!!

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