November 2012 - but that starts on Thursday

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1593492-November-2012-babies-arriving-thick-and-fast

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

I had a HV come last week, she was nice. She did bring a leaflet for NetMums, I said no thanks

I'd like to have the early stages of labour at home, during the day and then give birth at night I think. I don't really want to be having the early contractions when I sat up on my own in the middle of the night while DH sleeps. Be nice if it was a weekend though so DH is home rather than at work.

Don't really know what to do with myself today, can't help thinking about my friends dad. He's still critical and they're basically hoping for a miracle

With DS1 my waters broke at 10:30 a.m. and he was born at 7:30 that evening. Now that's nice and civilised timing. Detective do you think more babies spontaneously arrive day or night time?

Got my homebirth okayed by consultant although had to concede the physiological 3rd stage option, which I was willing to do. More bloods at 39wks, if no more drop, HB still ok. If I was determined to have physiological 3rd stage, I could do in hospital. So HB here we come (assuming baby is willing and able soon!!!). Head now officially engaged (2/5 palpable) and predominately on left although MW thought might be slightly OP.

Have preggo yoga tonight, so will be bouncing on birth balls & trying all positions with getting baby LOA as BH etc have continued all day today.

My Mum said she had twinges etc for 2 wks before my sister (DC#2) but nothing for me (#1), same as me hopefully whereas I'd assumed I'd get loads of false starts & practice runs with DD as she was my first, but your uterus would be ready to go as it were with your 2nd. Apparently not...

Hugs fatima hard not to dwell on something like that :(

Yes I have met her, she is my regular consultant and to meet her in outpatient clinic she is sweetness and light, really helpful and kind but last time I saw her on the ward she was absolutely awful, gave me lines such as "sorry I'm not wearing my sympathetic hat today - there are actual emergencies to deal with!"

We will be putting in a rather substantial complaint when baby is here safe.
I'm very much expecting her to come round tomorrow and send me back home now I've had a nights rest until induction on the 7th.
It's silly really, had they induced when I'd first come in last week I'd be at home with my baby now and in a lot less pain.

Christ tits, i can't believe just how much crap you've had to put up with in the last few weeks. I'd be f***g raging by now, but then I'm not well known for being a) patient or b) reasonable when I'm pissed off. And not inducing until the seventh? That's unbelievable. Surely now they just induce, like actually now, and stop this being such a protracted affair. I am officially enraged on your behalf.

I'm surprised at that line of questioning from a HV Lilliana

I certainly won't be disclosing any information about my childhood or relationship with my parents! I also have a very clean and tidy house (it won't because I'll no doubt look like I've been dragged through a hedge) and if that gets commented on I'll probably ask them to undertake necessary checks on the baby then leave.

I don't actually see the point of them for everyone (obviously some people benefit) and would rather attend the GP/child centre for checks once my midwife has signed me off.

tits you seriously need to put in an official complaint. It's not right the way you have been treated.

I'm getting lots of period type pains low down this afternoon. I have also had strong Braxton Hicks the last 3 nights in a row. I'm hoping it means something is about to happen but it's probably just wishful thinking. I'm only 37+4 so could be a while yet.

Due 29th November here - although due to previous complications they wont let me go past 39 weeks....marking my place :)

Lane I had no niggles at all first time, loads more this time. I'm not sure why this is. I'm not going to allow myself to hope it will be because I'll give birth earlier in the process!

Waiting - I find even if you do confide something quite important to HVs they dismiss it anyway. I really felt a bit loopy for a while after DD was born, just really really anxious, imagining all sorts of horrors. She just put it down to my 'maternal instinct' - I think it was more than that and that she should have had her eye on me but anyway, it got better gradually, no thanks to her really. But I did say my particular one was rubbish.

Yes, hugs to you Fatima, how sad.

Tits hope it goes well with the consultant. You must be beyond frustrated, I'd be sitting there with steam coming out of my ears!

Charlee you have the saem due date as me!

Waiting I was a bit especially when she actually said she was asking because if you had a good childhod / relationship with your parents you were more likely to be able to provide the same for your DC. So basically your saying if I don't have a good relationship with my parents I'm going to be a shit mother? She did say it was optional to answer that segment but thought it would probably say more if I refused!

Will wait to see what her next visit is like!

Welcome Charlee

Tits another one outraged on your behalf - some serious complaints are definitely needed at some point.

Lilliana I was also asked the 'relationship with my parents' question. I didn't feel I could say I watched my parents go through a messy divorce and then had virtually no contact with my dad for 10+ years when he went AWOL. I just mumbled something about having a happy childhood and being very close to my mum. I did feel my HV was somewhat judgemental. She wanted to know all sorts of things, including how much my partner earned and which one of us was "the breadwinner"?! I didn't see how that was relevant to anything other than her being very intrusive..

We don't get a HV around these parts, I got a letter in the post with the red book saying sorry they wouldn't be meeting us before the birth. Nothing like when I had my other 2 I must say! I wouldn't be overjoyed with in depth questioning.

Charlee welcome, I've never met another person in my 25 years who spells Charlee with the ee on the end!

I'm due tomorrow with my first and had a midwifery appointment today. Head is down as ever but not engaged. I asked if it makes a difference as to when I go into labour and she said no. Can still start labour even though head isn't burrowing (otherwise breach babies etc would never be born naturally I guess!)

I've been measuring around 4cm over on fundal height all along but today I only measured 40.5cm so I'm being sent for a scan tomorrow! Nothing else of concern so I'm sure it'll all be fine (kinda hoping baby makes exit plans before the scan!)

I'm another one with no twinges or BH to my knowledge and I rather hoped that didn't necessarily mean I had a 1 way ticket to induction.

I don't remember having any sort of twinges or a 'feeling' with ds and he came early.
Now I'm getting twinges and strong BHs every day but it could mean nothing.

Detective Tried to message you, but pixies about again.

Back home, all fine, will catch up later x

I am extremely grateful for detective . She is worth her weight in gold. Yes, that much !

Thanks for comments re: SIL, it's a big relief that baby is here safely

I literally feel fit to burst today! Bump is hurting under my belly button, feels like it just won't stretch anymore.

I've decided to give yoga a miss tonight. I'm absolutely wrecked and feeling like I could throw up any minute. I feel like I'm skiving off work or something - I never take sick days ever

Feeling a bit low again so come to visit whinge to my lovely MN friends for some virtual (((hugs/hand holding)))

Am fine during the day, have my Girls at home this week and am enjoying spending the time with them and having their company, but the evenings are horrible, I miss adult company- though not neccesarily ex DP as we did argue a lot but just being alone night after night is getting me down. I miss cuddles and having somene to just put his arms around me and tell me everything is going to be ok, and someone to fall sleep with and wake up next to every morning. Im not very good on my own and am the type of person who likes to be in a relationship

Its such a bittersweet situation to be in, my baby boy is due tomorrow and I should be excited as its such a blessing and cause for celebration but instead its full of might have beens, should have beens, regrets and maybes for me. And then Ill be alone again once he fucks off after the birth
Dont get me wrong, its not HIM that im mourning for just the loss of what should be such a happy time and full of expectation but is now so tainted.
I dont want him back as I could never forgive him for leaving me when he did for such feeble reasons let alone what it has done to the Girls and the impact it wil likely have on our Baby (particualarly financially) but its just trying to get used to being alone just as I really need/want someone to run me a bath, make me a cup of tea and just generally be there for hugs who isnt a small child! The one piece of niceness that I did have this week which absolutely touched me and meant so much was that I recieved an email from MN HQ saying I was nominated for their Christmas fund thingy ma jig. Didnt know of any such thing, and wasnt sure if it was spam or what to believe to start but upon checking it out seems someone rather lovely has thought of me and out my name forward to get a gift this Chritmas for myself or DC's. How bloody lovely, im sure there are many more worthy recipients but it came at a really perfect time for me so whoever the nominee is, I would like to thank them very much as I am broke and like many others cannot afford Xmas this year

Hi everyone I have been lurking and was on here at the beginning but now am back reading all the lovely and exciting birth stories. 2 days overdue now and a bit fed up. Lots of friends in RL are having their babies v fast, early and easily at the mo and mine isn't budging. Bah. Good to know you're all still here chatting away!

So is anybody hoping for a hallowe'en baby tomorrow?

I'm hoping for a baby tomorrow - but not cos it's halloween!!

chicken glad you've got the ok for your homebirth with only one extra blood test - lucky you!

I too have had a homevisit from the health visitor. Was slightly bemused by the questions about whether my husband exercised enough and whether he is an ok weight. I could have told her anything!

Some BH but nothing to write home about. Really hope this one is more on time, as the borrowed pool is up in the dining room and taking up lots of space. 2.5 DS1 has learned how to climb into the birth pool and now thinks it's a bouncy castle. Plus I'm running out of things to do other than housework.

Glad you're home VQ

I'm hoping, and by tomorrow I actually mean 12.01. Fat chance of that though! On the good front, I've just shit my own weight in slop :-)