Oh gosh, thank you all ladies for your overwhelming support to my moan 
- my bottom lip was trembling as I read through all of your lovely lovely comments.
I had a big sob fest chat to my mum last night and she's reassured me as well on a lot of points. He wasn't like this before I got pregnant. He's already voiced reassuring things like he won't be diving at all over winter this year and (according to my mum) he's one of the most excied daddies-to-be she's ever met. She's adament he's just going through a phase of getting it out of his system and he just simply doesn't realise how soon everything could happen. He has it in his head we have till the end of November at the earliest as both of our nieces were very late, so I think hearing YW's news when he got home last night has also shocked him into getting his act together. Put it this way, when I eventually got it together came out of my office, he was checking through my newly packed hospital bag and asking if I needed anything else and could we do a dry run to the hospital etc. And then I cried on him (remarkably no smart comments about hormones from him) and he almost apologised for being a selfish twat 'indenial'. He's also promised to fight my corner if his parents are difficult, not that I didn't think he would, it was just worrying me that they could be very challenging and I've never had to deal with them face-to-face for more than a few hours. So feeling a lot more reassured things will go okay there.
As for the perfect thing, I was diagnosed with OCD when I was 16 (for obsessive handwashing) and I am famous for setting myself ridiculously high standards, without even realising I'm doing it. The crazy thing is, I couldn't even begin to define 'perfect' as making mistakes which can be learned from is surely one of the best ways to know you're doing well? If that makes sense? The sort of person I am though I just can't cope with failing at something and periodically I get in a state before I'm about to embark on something, in case I fail. It doesn't really make much sense, even to me, but I think last night when I also realised 'feck I'm about to be responsible for someone other than myself!' was me doing just that. Maybe? I don't know I'm probably over-analysing.
Bottom line is I hate being miserable and shouty and I hope I got it all out of my system last night. Feeling a million times more positive about everything today. Amazing what a good night's sleep can do, eh?
One other slight issue to deal with, and I know some of you have had problems with family members so might be able to help. My gran. I love her to bits and have a huge amount of time for her, but I'm beginning to feel she's taking advantage of that time. We recently moved to the same village as her, although we live down in the actual village whilst she's away up at the top of it. Yes, pre-pregnancy it would be an easy walk to go and see her. But there is a massive, steep and twisty hill up to visit her that even my car struggles with - when I'm 10 days overdue and desperate to go into labour, I may attempt to walk it again! Everyday now this week she's thought of some excuse that I have to go and visit her. I told her I couldn't today as I'm getting the house ready for her visitors and have a lot of work to do (she doesn't grasp this working from home theory) and then I'm tutoring tonight, but she phoned about an hour ago saying she's made me some soup for my lunch and could I just go and see her for half an hour. I'm too nice to say no, and her soup is amazing! She's old and lonely, probably doesn't have a lot of time left and none of the rest of the family have much time to see her. My mum makes the effort a few times a week but we all have our own lives. If we don't visit, she phones upwards of 10 times a day (no exaggeration). If I don't answer my landline, she phones my mobile. If I don't answer that, she phones my work mobile. Or DH. And then panics that something dreadful's happened. How can I politely tell her to back off a little before our baby's arrived without hurting her feelings????
On the wildlife front, we get deer and squirrels in our garden. All sorts of birds too, but then our house is on a stretch of the coastal path which has been turned into a nature preservation area.