May 2013 Third Thread.

[SecretCervix]

Sorry for the not very imaginative title. Noticed old thread was full and couldn't find a new one.

Sorry for the continual posting.

But oh my god! DP has gone to get me a subway. It's a 12 mile round trip. By Jove I do love him

Hey all

FWIW when thinking about maternity leave... with DS I planned to give a presentation at a wonderfully prestigious international convention when I was going to be 38 weeks... thought this would be fine (when I was 18 weeks and fine and dandy), then got to 32 weeks and was starting to get a bit tired and brain dead... so I cancelled as it would have been so awful if I left them in the lurch... At around 35 weeks I went into total pg mode - nesting, baking, sleeping, eating...! gave up work at 36 weeks, thank goodness, and had my baby naturally at 37+4

Soooooo you really need to think about a) trying to enjoy that last bit of pg as much as you can - don't work right until the birth because that is just unpleasant; and b) Do consider your baby might arrive earlier rather than later! Don't feel guilty for having 5 weeks off if they are late - eat, go for walks, fold newly washed babygrows, hang out with your new antenatal mates and sleep! and you won't be bored - you will eat choccy and watch boxsets and read and happily lumber about

hope that wasn't patronising. I just remember so clearly wanting to be supermum and work right until I popped last time, and the reality was soooo different!

stuffed full of stew and tiger bread this eve :) yum!

Hi everyone! so hard to keep up on here, everything happening all at once. so happy for all who have had lovely scans and totally quaking in my boots for mine on Thursday

My lovely DH has to do a ridiculous trip around the US for business this week and tragically he will miss scan (changed appt once already so can't really delay till he's back) he is gutted.

We came to an agreement to buy ourselves a private gender scan around Xmas as a present to us all and a consolation for him missing the 12 week one. Does anyone have any recommendations for private scan clinics? I am lost among all the choices on the net and as this is first baby, I don't know what to expect. We live around surrey/kent/sussex borders, any advice would be so great!

The best of love and luck to you all

12+3

x

frankie I've been for private scans at Parkside in Wimbledon and Fetal Medical Centre in Harley St hands down. Would do FMC ... Such a lovely experience. You are made to feel very special .. They spend tons of time and it has the added bonus of being around the corner from Marylebone High St for a celebratory lunch and baby stuff shop afterwards!!

As for mat leave I was another that was leaving one week before dd with dd1 ... However she arrived 4 weeks early very unexpectedly ! This time I plan to take about 5 weeks off in advance. Bliss as my nanny will still be around so I will really be able to relax. I'm definitely taking 12 months off this time and have been honest with work that while off will be making the decision whether to return or whether to have a few years being a stay at home mum

Had my scan today and the baby seemed healthy. The only problem was that the way he/she was lying meant they couldn't do the nuchal test so I'll have to go for bloods after 14 weeks. But apart from that everything was fine - baby was bouncing around like crazy which I hope is a good sign! :)

beaver I'm horrified by your loo experience. I have nightmares like that!

10 I had a panic attack at work in my last pg. it wasn't like me either. I agree that it's a defence mechanism to keep baby safe.

Found out today that a colleague is off work this week as she's had a miscarriage. Really feel for her. Quite worried about going public at work next week given it may well be upsetting news for her . Think I will tell my boss next wk but keep it quiet in general for a bit longer.

X post weeblueberry sorry. lovely news

Anyone else struggling with the cold ? My nipples feel like they are going to drop off !
Really feeling the cold. Constantly got a load of layers on and a blanket or two. No firework for me tonight as I can't cope with being outside !

Hi everyone,
Not sure I've properly caught up-but pretty sure it's all been good news. Sorry to RT and W about the nuchal scans. I suddenly realised I had told a lot of people about last weeks scan before the nuchal one next week. I feel abit weird about it now. And suddenly nervous. You both sound like you've taken it in your stride and I wish you both the very best of luck with the results.
Couldthis-my 2nd pregnancy and different too. No proper aversions and much stronger ms and exhaustion. But wondering if it looking after a toddler that has made the second two thing worse?
Have a big hospital app tomorrow too. Not about baby but my health with regards to pregnancy. It took a battering last time so I'm a bit anxious. I'm not expecting it to go great.
Teachers-when is Easter break next year then? I'll be induced the first week in May and went to 34-35 weeks at time. Was assumin the same but I want a year off this time. It makes. I sense for me not to, as 2 in nursery will mean I'm only a few hundred better off a month at work. My DD starts school the following September.
Seems very premature to be thinking this!

Hello all, so many of us! Have got my scan on Wednesday, can't wait, though we are public now - I even told work as I couldn't bear the conversations in which I had to pretend that I would be around in July, etc... So lovely to hear about happy scans!

Sorry to hear that it is a bit difficult for some of us at the moment. It is very disconcerting, being pregnant, and it feels so very fragile, you feel so lucky and almost can't believe that it could be all right. I remember the sense last time of my body becoming mysterious to me, feeling alienated from it in some ways, and finding its eruptions and emissions, its mysterious noises and endless symptoms so very alarming - especially as I had been involved in somatic practices and felt really 'in touch' with my body before the pregnancy. I also the sense that somehow I had uncoupled from normal life and was running on parallel tracks, ready to lurch off into the unknown of 'having a family'. Because this is my second pregnancy, I feel less alarmed about some stuff but everyday I can't shake the sense of incredulity that there is a baby, most likely growing perfectly, all the time inside me and my body is busily creating a destiny for us while I half get on with normal life.

I am also considering my mat leave and do totally plan to take it before the baby is due (last time there was literally 18 hours between my last work email and labour - and that's only because I signed off early because it was Christmas Eve). I think some time wallowing in the last weeks before the baby arrives sounds lovely, and really wish I had given myself that time last time. I WAS hoping to use my annual leave to do this - especially as we don't carry it over - but I work in a University where it's not allowed that you take leave during term time. At my last place, you could take it whenever, as long as you had your line manager's agreement. I might try and negotiate with HR, especially as the policy effectively denies me my leave entitlement for the year as there are not enough between term weeks for me to take my leave. That sounds potentially discriminatory to me? Anyway. Love to all, fingers crossed for scans and settling symptoms.

Struggling with the cold? I wish. I live in Sweden, we have snow. It's 4C out and I turned all the radiators off weeks ago. I still feel like I'm being cooked alive. I'm sat in shorts and a t-shirt, melting, while husband is next me wearing his coat, hat and gloves. :o

Woohoo - just have to share, my BFF has just had her DD1!!!! It's been a very long job, ending in an EMCS, but she's here safely, so pleased for them!!!!!!

Wow flaming - I'm the complete opposite!!! It's freezing out, got heating on, cardi & huge thick socks on and sat under a blanket - am totally freezing constantly!!!

Freezing here too! Layers and blanket. I just can't get warm. I figure if I eat loads of chocolate that might help

Rachy oh god my nipples feel like they are trying to screw themselves up tight enough so they will pop off. They must be kept cosy and warm at all times I was thinking of buying some cotton breast pads as little nipple jumpers.

I have bit of a cold but it's very mild not really bothering me, might be because I'm taking Vit D and eating Vit C rich food. Mind you I have a pretty good immune system.

MS still hanging around but I'm starting to get my appitite back ate some toast at 7:30am and I'm hungry already!
Oddly I thought I was putting weight on in my stomach area but the scales say I've lost about 5 pounds.

I'm not sure when I will be leaving my job, I would like to stay on as long as possible up till the end of April ideally, my bosses have been great and said its up to me. I won't be returning after the baby is born I will be a SAHM.

Glad I'm not the only one feeling the cold, I've been cold for weeks! When is it we get all that extra blood to make us warm?!

I agree with wilde about ML, bear in mind baby could be early and enjoy it. With DS I was meant to finish work at 36 weeks. Due to high blood pressure I was signed off at 34 weeks, glad I was as he arrived at 35+5.

Great news for your friend elly, hope you enjoy lots of newborn cuddles!

Glad the scans are going well.

For anyone missing alcohol, DH bought Bavaria non-alcoholic lager from tesco yesterday, it's really nice and I can't tell the difference. And I have non-alcoholic Sauvignon in the fridge which I'll try tonight, really hope it's nice as a 250ml glass is only 60 calories!

little I've been a SAHM since DS was born and I love it despite how much they stress me out :o

Just Mommies pregnancy calendar for me today:

Day 101
14 wks 3 days
Tue, Nov 06
Morning sickness has hopefully disappeared.

Bwahahaha. That was a joke right? I'm totally wiped out at the moment!

Ok, so I know no-one can really answer this question, but I guess I'm just looking for a little reassurance (paranoia alert).

I was lying in bed last night, watching a film on the laptop with DH, when I suddenly sneezed really violently.

I had a shooting pain up both sides of my lower abdomen, which spread across my baby bits. It genuinely felt as if something bad had just happened.

I know it could be muscular, and that everything down there will be changing and stretching, so I could have pulled an already-sensitive area of tissue.

But I can't push the idea away that I might have damaged the bub.

Please tell me I'm being unreasonable, and that a sneeze can't cause miscarriage....

Another one feeling the cold here!

seven I've had a couple of non-alcoholic Becks beers and liked them. Will be very interested how you get on with the sauvignon.

Anyone eating pink red meat at moment? I know technically we shouldn't but I am craving a pink steak. I get all my meat from local butcher and have never had problem before being pg with any meat from them, very hygienic and looked after meat. I'm tempted to listen to my body and go for it just curious if anyone else has done same.

beaver i've been having lots of these sharp, shooting, take-your-breath-away pains that have gone across tummy, up tummy and within tummy. My mw and doc reassured me that it's all your ligaments preparing and stretching. Coughing, sneezing, moving too quickly all seem to start off these pains. Hope that reassures you :-)

beaver is completely normal :) If you sit up when you feel a sneeze/cough coming on it stops it happening I find! Is really painful! is your ligaments, so a good sign of your pregnancy progressing :)

am really cold too! I think its all the energy being used to make the baby so makes us all colder, tho my friend like nora gets boiling!

I am going to be a SAHM from Jan... am excited but also really nervous - what will we do all day?! what if I am really lazy and DS is bored and understimulated?!

glad your scan was good wee

sorry about the panicky feelings 10, I had panic attacks after my mc and the feelings do return with this pg if I have to be somewhere very busy or loud or if I am overtired and away from home. Am quite clingy to DH too which is not like me at all! I think being pg turns you into a homebody and for a good reason :) Look after yourself and don't stress yourself out if you don't need to

Thanks Pickle. I feel idiotic even asking, because I know in my head that the answer is obviously no. But there's always that niggling worry, isn't there?

Had a friend who had these pains at around 13 weeks and emailed her midwife to ask about them. Midwife emailed back - EMAILED back!! - to say she thought my friend might be having a miscarriage.

She wasn't - it was just ligaments stretching - but friend was in bits and went to hospital only to have a consultant eventually tell her the midwife was being ridiculous.

Hey how are we all doing? We're almost all into the 2nd trimester now, give or take a few weeks - how exciting!

I had my first midwifes appointment today and was given my baby book, I'll hopefully get my scan soon now :o