May 2013 Third Thread.

[SecretCervix]

Sorry for the not very imaginative title. Noticed old thread was full and couldn't find a new one.

beaut so sorry to hear you're going through this, I have no words of wisdom but send you a big supportive hug.

RT thinking of you.

berri good news things have stayed the same, keep resting.

This thread moves so fast its hard to keep up. HopeI haven't missed anyone. Lovely to hear scans going well and some are starting to feel babies move. When do you generally start to feel things? I'm 14 + 2.

Hi again all, managed to get a baby sling today! For free! Someone was giving it away on one of my local selling pages on FB and a stones throw from where I live too. It's quite big and if I didn't have such a wriggly toddler I could carry her in it too. It's a baby sense one if that means any thing to anyone.

My bump has popped out a little too, it's starting to look less 'who ate all the pies' and more baby bump by the week!

15+0 today.

Hi everyone. Nice ideas for the facebook update - still can't decide when/how would be best!

RT I hope everything went ok for you yesterday - lots of people here if you want a chat

Just a quick one to say the scan went well, our wriggler was kicking its legs and waving. New due date 31st, one day out by my dates.

hope you ok rt?

I had my meeting with the mc consultant today and was told to chill out basically, and that to have got this far means that more likely than not I will have a baby :) How lovely. I was all snotty from crying so much so she went and got a portable scanner and had a wee scan, showing me that the baby was still alive and, basically, to stop worrying.

I will!

Hope everyone is ok. take care of yourself beaut - if you can bring yourself to do talk to your MW, you have opened up to us so hopefully you can do it again to someone who can look after you

congrats on your scan seven!

That's lovely wilde, makes all the difference to have a bit of reassurance :)

Congrats seven!

Hi all,

I need a big hormonal rant. I went out tonight with fiancé, DS and family for dinner, and we announced our pregnancy. My aunt was the first person to reply to us and said "oh are you, I'll talk to you about that later. How do you press the undo button on that one?"

The only bloody response you should give someone when they happily announce their pregnancy is congratulations! it's not like I'm a teenager, this is my second child and we're not in poverty. She knew we were trying and had a mc 4 months ago.

She then said "how will you cope?" so I asked her what she meant (twice as her first reply was to then just repeat the question to me!) and she said "what if DS decides he doesn't want to have a sibling anymore?" WTF? Why wouldn't you just not say anything rather than say something nasty in what should have been a lovely happy moment?

Panda- astounded at every word that your aunt said- ' if u cant say something nice then don't say nothing at all!'

Why on earth would she even think those things let alone dare say them?!! I'd have left! ;-)

Just ignore them xx

RT- hope yr ok hun xx

I would have loved to just leave but we were all out to celebrate me passing all of my exams so I couldn't leave, plus dp's aunt and uncle were there and are so lovely and live in England (I'm in Scotland) so we don't get a chance to see them often. They were really nice about it and congratulated us which was the only thing stopping me from crying.

After a big rant to DP about it I ended up bursting into tears so feel a bit better now.

Panda that just seems plain odd! As well as incredibly nasty - is she always like that towards you? Could she be jealous or something? Just seems like a weird thing to say, especially the sibling part

Sounds like you must try to quickly forget that one and put it down to her just being weird. Please don't be upset, everyone else is very pleased for you - both here and the rest of your family by the sounds of it.

Have a small

Morning ladies - gosh by the time I check back in tonight with you we may well have moved to a new thread!!

panda all I can say is WTF? ... You do have to wonder what goes on (maybe nothing) in some people's heads! Ignore as an unthinking comment!!

RT hope all went well at the FMC ...

I have my booking in visit with the midwife today ... So no doubt and hour of recollection the nightmare of last time! It sounds as though she the decides on the care path and whether consultant led ... Has anyone else had previous pre-eclampsia (and post pregnancy pre-eclampsia) and were you consultant led??

thanks berri it was lovely, especially being told that we can't predict what will happen to any of us, but that I (we) are so very lucky.

oh panda wtf? Is she normally a bit er, off?! What a strange thing to say about your DS, surely that is just one of those things all familes (the average being 2.4 or whatever) deal with?! And wtf were you meant to say, 'yes aunt, you are quite right! I shall abort tomorrow.' poor you, how rubbish that she pissed on your announcement

congrats on your exams btw! what were they for?

berri remind me why you are posting at 2am?!

I meant consultant led with the next pregnancy - sorry was not clear (baby brain)!

WTF panda that's a very odd response? How did the other family members react to her behaviour? I would be equally upset if my family didn't react to that type of situation.

Moo no previous experience but I do know you can decline consultant care insisting your say with the midwives there isn't much they can do about it other than moan.

I've managed to bring my Acid reflux under control with Gaviscon, horrible stuff but it works. Anything to avoid acid vommiting again I can't afford to piss of my ulcer.

Thanks little I would actually prefer consultant led so hoping she suggests it!

Can you request to be consultant led moo? Hope your appt goes well.

at your aunt panda, really dont understand some people at all.

I'm at hospital waiting to see consultant, but have heard babies heartbeat so everything seems ok so far thank goodness. Am hoping to sort out a schedule of appts with my consultant today so I know what to expect.

How is everyone else getting on?

Rt Hope you are ok.

Seasalt Gosh don't worry I am struggling to keep up on this thread as well.

Panda Cannot believe your aunt.You are a better person than me as I wouldn't have been able to hold my tongue.I think I would have said something along the lines of 'Did you mean to sound like such a bitch.Remind me not to invite you to celebrate anything with me again '.

I am off work today headache is now a migraine and I just need some time to chill out.

Thanks for all asking after me. The consultant was reassuring. He couldn't say what I (unrealistically) wanted to hear, which was "I am damned beat sure that your baby is fine so I don't recommend an invasive test" but he was reassuring. And we saw the baby again with a really clear picture. He kept opening his mouth, drinking fluid, filling his bladder (you could see it swell) then peeing (you could see it empty). So cute! I'm definitely trying to move on and not think further about testing.

Moo - I had pre-eclampsia with DD1 and as a result was consultant led with DD2 and again now. I'd day that it's certain they'll want you consultant led after previous pre-e. It's quite reassuring the care they take, I get checked fortnightly and have special Fetal Doppler scans. They may also recommend daily mini aspirin which can help stop pre-e.

Seasalt - how is Bali going. Are you feeling any better? I was once bitten by a rabies monkey in Bali - avoid the monkey forest! I loved it there though. I hour you can enjoy it through your nausea.

Panda - what a weird reaction from your aunt. I would be tempted to write a note detailing how inappropriate you found her reaction.

I'm 13+4 and still v nauseated. When will it end?????

X post Beut, sorry your head is still bad.

And Berri I meant to say how pleased I was to hear your tear is stable.

And Wilde, how nice to have a reassuring consultant. I hope you can relax and enjoy this pregnancy now.

Rt Your scan sounds so good and detailed.Sorry you didn't hear exactly what you wanted but it does sound good.Do you feel at all reassured.

I keep forgetting to add my dates
14+1

Thanks for all the comments, at least I now feel justified in being so offended! My aunt is more like my mum iyswim which hurt even more, she knew how devastated we were only 4 months ago to lose our baby, I'm shocked that she could have been so horrendously insensitive. My uncle tried to make a joke out of it to lighten the situation but everyone else were dp's relatives and had just been introduced to her so I think they weren't sure how to react but it was just really uncomfortable then everyone started talking about something else

But we've had our scan now, baby is healthy and very active, so active that the sonographer had a hard time trying to get the measurements too - we were only 2 days out. So I'm trying to forget about how nasty she was and focus on our tiny wriggly baby.

Have just had scan - all fine, heard heartbeat, such a lovely sound! Will be having scans & appts at 20, 24, 28, 30, 32 wks and then wkly. so relieved, feel loads better.

Hows everyone doing?

RT that scan sounds very detailed and interesting!
I had to laugh at the bitting monkey, my grans family had a monkey as a pet they had to get rid of it due to it being violent it liked to pelt them with potatoes. I dare say they deserved it for keeping a wild animal as a pet!

I've heard that morning sickness usually goes around 14 weeks once the placenta starts up. I'm not holding onto any hope of mine going soon with my family history it could well be another few months for me.
DH is starting to worry about my weight loss, I'm not to bothered the baby looked to be growing right on schedule.

panda I think in that case since your close it would be worth considering writing or calling to her and explaining how hurtful her attitude was and that it ruined your evening.

elly wonderful news.

Bit odd but has anyone felt really odd after the scan almost like its to strange to be real? I find it hard to believe that wiggly little baby is really inside me, it almost seemed more real before the scan I expected it to be the other ways around.