May 2013 - roll on 12 weeks!

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Thread n2 for those due in May 2013

well it is a gorgeous day out and i'm inside. In one of those moods were you don't want to do anything and as there isn't actual stuff for me to do (well apart from the hoovering, washing, polishing and the bathroom could do with a clean) i'm spending my day like a hermit with the curtains closed.

I went shopping yesterday - really wanted to buy my first baby something. But I'm 10+5 so I know what I'm going to do straight after my scan in a fortnight - eek. I'm sure I can wait.
That scan can't come soon enough - I need to tell people

My boobs though seriously hurt today - no fun with that

panda feel better soon and hello french

Right going back into my hole now.

Right, I have a question for all of you ladies already with children. Why are my friends on Facebook excited to announce that their child is 9 months old? apart from the fact they have lost the plot and forgotten how to be and act like a human So what's all the fuss about 9 months? Why not 12? Surely a year is a more appropriate milestone? If anyone of you could answer this mystery I would be very grateful :-)

OO, oo, can I join . My EDD is May 13, 2013, but for synaesthetic reasons I hope it's wrong. By a month. Which seems unlikely. But anyway, I am very excited after initial wobbles (burst into tears because was worried about effect on DS1, 1.10 which is outrageous really because we were trying). We haven't told anyone yet, not looking forward to telling work (just started a new job). Will spend some time reading the thread and catching up with everyone, but in the meantime, WRT peardrop's question about why celebrate the 9 month 'birthday' IME every single day is so awesome but people rapidly get sick of congratulating you on stuff like 'he smiled extra today!' so any excuse to get everyone recelebrating the miracle that is your baby and you will take it. Sounds like the poster was smiling about their baby as they sat down on the computer, really, and saw an easy opportunity...

3 different friends posted 'bla bla 9 months old today...yay!' Still doesn't make sense why 9 months?

pear it's a being out of the womb longer than being in it thing.

Hello Sparklyboots! You sound like you're in the same situation as me. DS is 22 months, I'm due on May 13 and I've just started a new job too. I'm shitting it about telling work. Work opportunities are limited for me here - I finally find a job and I can't finish my contract because I'm unexpectedly pregnant.

Frus ahhhhhh ok, I get it now :-) Thank you!

I swear on everyone's life that I'm not going to be one of this Facebook mums who brags and shouts about milestones...yuk! It's such a rub in the face to those who don't or can't have kids. DH read out a message that his friend had posted...something about how his son and pooed in the bath while he was in it...gross! Nobody wants to know that!!

pear the pooing in the bath is a classic. I'll put money on you posting that one day

OMG nooooo Frus! I think I better close my account before bump arrives! I seriously Never Ever want to be that person :-()

Once, after a snack of many blueberries, DDs 1&2 were in the bath, aged about 3&1. I was doing sit-ups on the floor and not watching when I heard DD1 say "Mummy, DD2 is eating even more blueberries but I wish they weren't in the bath". Yup. DD2 pooed the berries out whole then recognised them as a tempting snack.

Sorry first timers. You'll learn to find amusement in the events when they become your life!

I am not going to announce this pregnancy on FB, will others? I think I will announce the birth but nothing before.

Welcome newbies! (Sorry, phone won't let me scroll back to remind me of names).

RT that's a funny story for NCT/morning tea groups and a few family members ears but I deffinately won't be sharing that part of my life on Facebook. I think maybe Facebook should open up a seperate 'Mumsbook' so that that all the friends who want to do this can share their poop stories together. I have at least 5 single friends in their 30's who have individually told me that they no longer login because they're so sick of the baby photos and stories...it's a bit sad really because their are no other sites for them to share their stories however all the yummy mummies have Mumsnet, bounty and a endless list of online parent groups to shout about their precious gems in any way shape or form. Sorry rant over :-)

pear oh just you wait till they poo in the bath!
One of the funniest experiences I've ever had in 10 years of nannying was a baby who got the shits and vomiting when in the bath I ran around like a headless chicken with her in a towel between her bedroom and the bathroom praying she wouldn't make a mess of the cream hall carpet. Her 7 year old brother was in hysterical fits of laughter and still talks about it 5 years on!

That said the whole baby is now 40 weeks old.... I get the urge to shout " just bloody use months it's about time! "

milk I'm going with a minimalist approach to baby buying. I think what you need/want can be very individual to how you and your family will work. For example I always use changing tables, many feel these are a complete waste of money but I've always preferred them to hunching over the baby laying on the floor.

pear that sounds like the friends having issues with babies/children rather with how people use FB. FB is a place where people share what's going on in their lives for many their children are their life, for others it's parties and holidays. It's unair to blame others for the fact they don't like their lifestyles now, people move on and change.

I have childfree friends who similarly complain about babies on FB Pear, but I'm inclined to agree with LittleB, their issues extend beyond how people act on FB. Those same friends make it quite clear that child related news is of little interest when we talk in RL too. I totally see that child dominated chat would be dull but I also think real friends should care about every aspect of each others' lives. I'd never say "don't talk about your careers, I don't work in the same sector, it's dull" I actually care about my friend's careers.

When you are a parent there is little outside validation of your work. You spend much of each day with limited adult contact. If a post on FB leads to a feeling of contact with old friends, and validation even if it's limited to people posting "cute!", then sometimes it's a real support. If friends judge you for that then you have to question whether FB friends are friends at all. (I argue this as someone who is not prolific on FB).

Nope I can confirm that the single friends I talk about happily ask the friends questions about their children in RL and also show real interest in RL. I can see where you're both coming from with your points even though I don't agree with it. I'm married and pregnant and I still think its wrong to brag about your children on FB when this is the only adult space available to talk kidsfree. I certainly won't be doing it and I won't even announce my pregnancy on Facebook. I'm sure people will either agree or not agree with how I feel about it.

pear I blabbed on and on about DS on FB but after my mc I have learnt to keep my trap shut! anyone else who blabs on I 'hide' their status updates - could your friends do that too? I won't put on fb this time that we are expecting I don't think, but then again with the mc and everything in a way I want to say 'we had a terrible time but it is ok now' in a way that might give hope to people having issues too.

I dunno. My SIL won't stop going on about her baby like she is the first person to ever have one and it makes me cringe because I know she is friends with people who are struggling (she doesn't know that but does know I mc'ed and still blathers on - and she is a sensitive soul normally! I think she is blinded with love!) I definitely post funny stuff about DS though, especially as we live away from friends and family.

milk am the same as little re: baby stuff! Second hand moses basket, sling (no pram), cloth nappies (!), and bedside cot were our main things IIRC. I have a lovely big handbag instead of a changing bag... no changing table (used the chest of drawers!). Can see the fun in mooching round though :) I remember being completely paranoid that I needed everything in for the moment he was born like all the shops would shut or something tho it was at xmas time so i wasn't sure they wouldn't be shut!

cute 10, how lovely!

rt that is such a funny story! blueberry poo snacks!

welcome sparkly. did you just find out?

I have been arguing my head off with DH today! then realised I was being a hormonal twat and apologised. better now exhausted from crying decided not to have the scan on tuesday and not even to have my booking in but, ahem, came to my senses though am really scared I have made this whole pg up!

wild I think they do hide messages but people keep cropping up. I guess we're in that age bracket when people are having babies. I've had to hide a few friends myself because even I get annoyed with hearing friends moan that they no longer get to sleep in or they've been woken up four times in the night. Don't get me wrong it is lovely to maybe share the odd funny story or picture if thats your thing I just think their is a line...when people start complaining about lack of sleep I think that comes across quite selfish, especially to those who have mc, TTC for a long time or can't have babies. Right that's me done..no more talk on the matter from me :-)

wild Im planning on using cloth nappies too, I've used them before and they really were not that much hassle. DH was reluctant until I mentioned we'd save thousands of £ he couldn't say yes fast enough.

little it's the tiny clothes that get me. Thankfully I'm very methodical in what I will actually buy. (I just want to buy one babygrow now) - actually was this directed more at 10? I'm sure my mam will tell me don't bother with a baby bath and that my sink is big enough. (which actually it is -hmm)

I won't be announcing it on the book of face but I'm sure as it trickles down some cousin or something will post on my wall or there will be a photo of me with the bump. I'll be the first of my friends to have a DC which I imagine will change things.

as for poo stories - which are very very funny liked the blueberry one RT. I have a fair few siblings that are younger. One once pooed in my school shoe another ripped her nappy off and squatted over my dads foot (who was asleep at the time in his chair) The best was when one of my brothers pooed in the bath, my mam scooped it out and told the next one to get in. We decided not to have a bath that night my mam couldn't understand why.

Just got off the phone with Non-man. his brother is coming next week for a couple of days (with work but where non-man lives) he really really wants me to meet him as -as he pointed out- after we tell people both our families will insist on meeting the other person and if his brother was here a week before the scan and didn't even meet me (obviously not tell him) he/his brother and his whole family would find it very odd (and his brother would be upset). All fair enough and I don't mind meeting his brother. But when I asked what I would 'be' (i cant just be a friend then be the person he id having a kid with a couple of weeks later - plus you wouldn't make a thing of introducing a friend) he said "my girlfriend"
I just said 'oh' (I'm stupid obviously)
now is this a I count you as such, you are such or a it will be easier to explain to the family (but then that would get all tangled up surely?)

Why do I feel 14 again :(

Emotions all over the place today. Cried at the opening titles of the railway children this afternoon !

milk I don't bother with baby baths either they are such a hassle to fill up and drain without soaking the house. Baby Bath chairs to put inside baths are much better in my experience.
Ah baby clothes I'm planning on lots of white sleep suits, rompers and nightdresses. I'm not one for dressing up babies as if they are about to walk down a fashion runway.

milk honestly it sounds like he's putting on a lot of pressure on you just for the sake of keeping up family appearances. I get big catholic Irish families, I have a big catholic Scottish family.
Don't be pushed into doing what you don't want to do just for the 'family' put the phone down when he start the 'big loving family' 'family so important' speech. It's much more important that you are happy at the moment rather than his family.

Once you give into 'for the family' crap once you then have to give into over and over again I.e baby names, baptism place and outfit, where you spend Christmas and Easter....

rachy awe I know the feeling I sobbed at Despicable me yesterday.

Awww Milk, all your posts suggest a real mutual affection between you and non-man. It must be very difficult negotiating this so soon after getting together. Can I be really nosy and ask why you decided to suspend your relationship on finding out you were pregnant? It just sounds like you both really like each other.