Due in October 2012 Part 6 - Third Trimester Trials and Tribulations

[YompingJo]

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londonmrss What an extraordinary way for a midwife to behave - as if they'd induce a baby before 37 weeks without really good reason, anyway. You're not at UCLH, are you? (Think I saw you were on a train to Highbury the other day?)

bella2012 You are right. It is all worth it. And today was proof. I was meeting a friend in south London and the journey should have taken 45 minutes. Thanks to a fire it took 2h30. Lunch. Then we had to walk half a mile uphill to a playground. Puff puff. Rampage for DD. Then another mile's walk to the tube. In the heat and humidity. Then another 45 minutes home. I was ready to expire. But DD was wonderful, never complaining, and saying: 'Mummy I will look after you and baby. Don't worry.'

Now we are home, thank God, and she's having a nap. If I have the energy we'll make gooseberry pie for pudding. DH home tomorrow night, BA permitting. Would be so much harder without her.

PS Walk to (Brixton) tube was enlivened by stop to buy water. DD: 'Mummy, it smells funny in this shop.'

Me: 'Yes, sweetheart, Brixton often smells like that.'

Took me back to the days when I rented a flat there a decade ago.

Westenders, episode 2!!!

Well had a phone call from our mortgage advisor today, the vendor of the house has apologised for her giddy fit and said she wants to carry on if we do. Hubby has explained that we are not impressed as I am 6 months pregnant and don't need this kind of stress, but we will continue IF she makes some sort of financial commitment to the property she is buying. The vendors of THAT house have said they want her to get a survey done within the next week otherwise its off. So basically, if she does that then we go ahead, if not its bye bye dream house again but for good thisu time:-(

Elpis, no Royal London Whitechapel is mine as am under the care of the 'Riverside Team' in the Docklands (I would like to state that apart from that one last night, all care has been really good- although all the midwives are obviously stressed and the dept us really understaffed).
CWest that does sound really stressful- buying as part of a chain always runs the risk of this I guess- hope it all works out.

Crazy I was hoping nobody would notice that. I rarely post on the PC and one time i do i go ahead and right nobber it up!

Londonmrs (did i get the name check right this time?)
That would have right pissed me off. You were right to go, and I'm glad that you did forward your concerns to someone, though I would still suggest a complaint to a superior at the hospital.

Angelico Yoga was SUPER easy! Most of it was just lying around propped up on various pillows and relaxing. There was a little bit of ... here stand on one leg, or squat against a wall thrown in the mix but all in all not bad. bought a 10 pack of passes. hopefully i can go on sundays at noon. thursday nights from 7:30 to 9:00 seemed quite late because an hour drive home. I was wiped... but relaxed and slept well.

hee hee, love how we are now comparing sea life... (Squid, Plankton)

Yompingjo you are a lovely kind star!! Bump bands gratefully received today! On since midday (well one, not both!) and I feel miles more comfy! Don't feel like i am dragging downward so much!

Thank you thank you thank you lovely girl! Xx

Unable to read or post as despite being well supported I am totally knacked and still hav to work tmrw!

But must tell u a bout freaking self out earlier... Lady in work asking when due, I said 13th Oct, so i suppose any where from 9 to 13 weeks really. Sweet baby jaysus, 9 weeks???????!!!! Slow down time!!!!!!

tee hee, elpis, how sweet is your daughter!!
London, glad you saw a more reasonable midwife today. However, if they are colleagues, they could be mates, so mentioning it to her doesn't mean it will necessarily be taken further. If you would feel better about taking it futher, ask to speak to the team manager or complain via the local PALS dept (patient advice and liason service). TBH, i think sometimes when people are seen by NHS managers as 'difficult', they get allocated to more senior staff, with better clinical and communication skills, so standing up for yourself really isn't such a bad thing.

Yomping, i think we've all been where you were yesterday :( Catching site of yourself after a growth spurt on a bad hormone day is bad enough without having to get in swimsuit as well!! Glad your hubby was so
understanding.
smiley, glad your bean's heartbeat is all ok.
smorgs, i would have a meltdown if i was homeless for 2 weeks at this stage, too, poor you. Keeping fingers crossed for you, too CWest with your house dramas. Angelico, let's hope the rest of our rennos get done asap. Glad to hear u r treating yourself at the nail bar :)
Squid finished today!! Hope u r having a celebration tonite. Enjoy your rest, lady, you've earned it!

On the pregnancy front, someone actually asked if I am expecting today, so felt all happy that its FINALLY obvious to the rest of the world :-)

Had some really strong pains last night, which I assume were BH but Omg! Was petrified it was early labour as lasted for ages, but disappeared soon enough and she has been kicking away happily enough all day.

But......iv got agonising leg cramps, has anyone else? Had them for about 3 days, 1 leg isn't too bad but I'm struggling to put weight on the other. We are meant to be going to Skegness for the day on Sunday so there might be a visit to the out of hours drs tomorrow....

CWest leg/foot cramps are the bane of my pg life. Awful, awful, awful. I stretch the muscle as much as I can, and I know some people are nervous of it, but I drink a glass of tonic a night - it's an anti-spasmodic. I've been told it's safe by lots of people - doctors, midwives, friends who've had babies etc. (I've never understood how an ANTI-spasmodic might start labour, which after all is spasms, but hey, I'm not a doctor!!)

4.30 start to get to the olympics tomorrow morning for 7.45am. Be prepared for lots of ranty, mistake-filled, exhausted posts.... YAWN.

I'm with Crazy on the tonic water and massage/stretches.

Ahhh, the bliss of sleepIng when DH in other room!!! Shhhh! Yes darling, I missed u. Feel rather positive this morn. 9 weeks today til last day at work!! Woohoo! Trying not to be nervous about leaving them to it..... My work is baby number 1. Sounds pathetic, but 10 years of self employment has been the biggest commitment of my life this far!! Bring on the baby and a new chapter!!!

34. 29 weeks today, DC1!!

Good luck for today Mickey, what sport are you seeing? Let us know how it goes!
Off work again next week thank goodness, although will need to be doing some bits of work from home due to various mess-ups by nobbers - one of whom is me :(. Bit of a meltdown on Fri, really not sure I can keep going to mid-September, ugh. Ah well, sport today to cheer me up.
Love and to all you lovely bean ovens!
29+3, DC1, hot & bothered

huffle not sweet baby Jesus, sweet baby Hufflepuffle! [grins]

squidkid how's that sweet air of freedom tasting there, lady?

Tonight we are going to the evening celebration part of the wedding of a girl I work with and her new husband (who also works at my school). I have known her for 3 years and we became good friends really quickly, but she has been slowly drawing away from the friendship for the last couple of years (I am quite oblivious when it comes to these things so it took me a while to notice). Getting invited to the evening part of her wedding is one in a long list of signs that I see her as a much closer friend than she sees me. I am secretly disappointed as I really wanted to watch her get married ? they are getting married in a church so I could have gone along to watch the ceremony, which I would have really liked, but she didn?t ever say that that was an option so I was too proud to ask didn?t feel I could.

There are two mental approaches I could take to tonight?s wedding celebration.

The glass half full approach: Aah, it will be lovely to see friend and friend?s husband all loved up and married . The weather is lovely for them, she will look stunning and there will be lots of people from work there to talk to. They both have good taste so the evening do will be classy, with great music. DH will get dressed up all smart and I will get to wear my new dress, which I was lucky to find so easily, and (hopefully) be told I look nice. I can spend the afternoon looking forward to it, beautifying, painting my toenails and choosing jewellery to go with the dress . I will drink a couple of small glasses of wine and slow dance to romantic songs with gorgeous DH, and I won?t feel hungover in the morning. I am so happy for them both and it will be lovely!

The glass half empty approach: I?m not looking forward to this at all. Secretly, my pride is still hurting about only getting invited to the evening bit, when she would have been invited to the main bit of mine in fact I would have kicked lesser friends off the list to fit her in. She is thin and gorgeous, both of which I currently consider crimes against me . Everyone from work, who I am relieved not to be seeing for 6 weeks, will be there, including the bossy cow woman who has rudely assertively decided to gatecrash go to the church service to watch them get married, and will consequently be full of herself and gloating telling everyone all about it . DH will have an inevitable crisis of confidence when he realises he can?t wear his normal uniform of jeans and trainers even though he has known this for months and this will have 2 effects: firstly, I will get irrationally irritated with his faffing and his lack of confidence in how he looks in smart trousers and boots, and I will wish he was the sort of James Bond-like DH who could just snap his fingers and be confidently classy (even though I fancy the pants off him whatever he wears and despite his lack of confidence he will look great ), and secondly, he will be too flustered to notice my dress and will forget to tell me how nice I look, which I will interpret as him thinking ?bugger me, what is she wearing, maybe I should say something ? no, best not, she?ll have to change and we?ll be late? and so I will then have a crisis of confidence and get all needy, which will annoy him and cause him to have to spend 10 minutes pacifying me. Consequently we will leave the house in a mood with each other, with him an extra bit annoyed because he is now worried we will be late and his obsession with never being a millisecond late making me an extra bit annoyed too . I can?t reach my toenails to paint them, feel too lazy to put on any make up and the beautifying will inevitably be a rush job in the half hour before we leave the house. It?s too nobbing hot to be dressed up anyway. I am stiff as a board a bit shy at these sorts of things and can?t loosen up and dance until I am half cut slightly merry and I can?t drink enough for that so I will just sit and get bored and cross while everyone else dances, and if DH looks like he is enjoying dancing I will decide that he fancies most of my workmates and I will get into a huff about this. It?s at a bloody vineyard and I can?t drink FFS. Oh, the irony. Is it too late to fake some pregnancy-related illness and not go?

Guess which mental approach SulkyPants Yomping is currently choosing to take?

Please, someone, tell me you would be as ungracious and crap as me and secretly be having the same thoughts!

CWest all you can do is wait and see but keeping fingers crossed for you - try not to think about it, it's out of your hands for now...

Beeble am MAJORLY impressed that you bought a 10 pass for yoga! :o

Huffle - know what you mean about the time rolling in! I have a couple of those email websites that send a weekly or daily message and one of them popped up yesterday saying I had 70 days left... 70 fucking days!!! Only good thing about renovation stress is that I haven't had time to start worrying about baby coming out! And actually been too busy buying tiles to order a buggy etc

Beccus hope all is well with you :)

MrsConfusion any way you can finish sooner? :(

Yomping always a faff getting ready for these things - just put on your new dress, have one glass of something to get you in the mood and go and enjoy the craic. You'll have fun!!! And have the perfect excuse to eat the buffet table bare :o

Stayed up to watch Olympic Ceremony, planning a lie in. Instead up since 8 this morning meeting workmen, last one just left. Feel like going back to bed for an hour but have to pack as we are staying with family this weekend. Going for a 4D scan this afternoon, not sure whether it will be cool or wierd, will let you know! :) The beans look a bit alienish at this stage sometimes... but I'm getting it more because I would love to see what I looked like at that stage so want to know the bean will be able to have a look in the future. Think DH is half fascinated and half freaked out... :o

Have a lovely weekend ladies! x

yomping - do you know, just this morning I sent a message to a girlfriend who was pulling away from me and I felt really let down about it. Now she lives in Australia and I live in Emgland, but I haven't been able to get even an email out of her (other than 'ra ra I'm a crap firend') for about three years - and we used to be close, she was one of my bridesmaids. So I am in the middle of feeling let down and rubbish myself today when it comes to people pulling away!

Oeople pulling back from friendships is weird and hurtful. I know. And it's far easier to think about 'why doesn't she like me?' than remember all the lovely people who do like you.

But also remember that weddings are INSANE and people go a bit nuts. Nobody bloody knows what the conventions are, and even if they do, they find bewildering reasons to ignore them. Your buddy is temporarily quite, quite mad. This is nothing to do with you.

Do go, though - grin and tolerate it. If you decline out of hurt feelings, she'll likely not even notice due to the aforementioned wedding madness. A couple of weeks later, you can ask her out for coffee or something, and if she declines, then you'll know where you stand without the veil of wedding madness obscuring your friend's true feelings towards you.

i have just eaten over half a packet of ciscuits in one go. Can I blame pregnancy for this??! Hope so! I am supposed to be clearing out our messy room/nursery to be! I am so naughty

or even biscuits!

Bella, definitely blame the hormones, the same ones that just made me pick up a big bar of Greene & Blacks butterscotch chocolate at Tesco and eat the whole thing when I got home. Anyway, you were tidying the biscuit cupboard. It's still tidying

First thibg in my tummy today was some ameretto fudge I got at ghe shop yesterday. I wanted to eat it immediately after buying yesterday but then remembered the wicked heartburn I get from chocolate in the evening.. So I waited omg a little bit of self control shining through until the crack of dawn this morning znd got ulp early to stuff my face.

angelico don't be too impressec yet... I have only gone to one class. I think I was a little peer pressured guilt tripped/shamed by the other preggo lady at work that I went with. She does the treadmill in the am, walks the 13 flights if stairs up to our office, works out or swims on her lunch break, and does yoga! Gur! and I.m a lazy lump on the couch readinb mn all evening sort

yomping go, eat drink and be merry! Wear closed toe shoes or have dh paint your toes(and appreciate the effort and not the neatness)--and then wear closed toes anyways. Talk to the co workers you like, not the ines wh( annoy, and leave early if you are not having fun. Bride won't notice from all tne ppl if you quietly slip out.

Wow... never expected my own cheering section for finishing work... you guys are the best. Thank you.

Last two days at work were really crazy busy with really sick difficult patients. Very last patient on friday 4.30pm was a youngish lady, I went to see her expecting something routine and she was having a life threatening asthma attack and things went a bit crazy. I only had half an hour's strength left but she couldn't say even single words and was going blue - it was really really bad. I left well after 7pm after sorting all that out. She's in ITU, I got her on the right treatment and to the right people in time, I think.

I was happy when I got home though, if shattered, but only managed to sleep for about 30 mins last night between 11pm and midnight. Baby squid wouldn't stop kicking hard, lots of leg cramps, couldn't get comfy and kept bursting into tears thinking about that lady and also this pregnant girl who died at work recently. I'm having a meltdown I think. no I'm just sleep deprived. Slept very badly all week but 30 mins is taking the piss.

I feel awful for having a breakdown when I should be celebrating. it will pass. I always seem to do this when I work flat out and then suddenly stop.

boy is taking me out for steak tonight (rare, shut up) and being gentle. he is used to me being awful. i am mad at myself.

I want to enjoy the sunshine and all the things I'd planned... I just don't have any energy at all left right now. but this will pass. I'm just being useless.

I promise I'll catch up with you all soon.

Squid quick note as we are heading off here - but I promise you will feel great in a day or two. I came home from last day of work (finished half day) and sobbed inconsolably. Had to go to bed for a while and luckily DH was home so we had a snuggle and a doze and then eventually chatted in a stunned kind of way when I woke up. Think it's just that final surge of wanting everything to be finished and done right - obviously yours were very serious situations that you didn't want to get wrong. It's hard to let go of everything. I'm HoD and wanted to leave everything ready for next year in case I didn't get in the days in August.

I promise you now 4 weeks on I don't even think about it all (much)... Enjoy the steak and have a large glass of red with it x

thanks angelico I think you're right, it's just the shock of finishing, it's like going 100mph and doing an emergency stop

thanks love