Due in October 2012 Part 6 - Third Trimester Trials and Tribulations

[YompingJo]

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Had my 36 week scan today to check placenta position - was low-lying at 20 weeks - didn't want to mention it before now in case I jinxed it, even though, with head engaged and no bleeding it seemed very unlikely it could still be a problem.

Well, happy to say placenta was "at least" 11cm from the os and to be honest I felt like I was wasting their time! All fine for a home birth :)

Very strange seeing fullgrown baby... I think s/he was asleep... looked dreamy and perfect and had a little drink at one point.

Not done much else today but tidy a bit fretfully and wait for scan (scans make me nervous), but had a nice walk back from hospital with boyfriend afterwards, the rain just suddenly stopped. We got a taxi up there as it was torrential and the taxi driver looked extremely nervous picking up a pregnant girl to take her to the hospital, haha.

Long catch up:-

angelico WELCOME BACK! We missed you.Between houses is stressful. Really sorry to hear about the GD, what a pain, what a headache, I'm sorry. The website suggestions for dietary advice are good ones.

crazypaving We are sore-bits chums then... boyfriend says I am not waddling but he may just be well trained. Overall yes I am very happy baby is engaged... the discomfort... well it's variable... not been too bad today, though last night was horrible. Had some non-painful sex this morning at least. And... er... two poos... which helped with the heaviness. Sorry, far TMI. GOOD LUCK with your scan, I find them a bit nerveracking though I know most people love them. And yes I had my scan today and am cleared for the home birth, hope for the same outcome for you. My midwife doesn't drop anything off for home births, I provide some (towels,plastic sheets,e tc) and she turns up with the rest of the kit.

midgetm sympathising massively (hah) with you on the getting comfortable front... lying on my side or sitting on my ball is about all that does it now. I am keeping up the walking though. It seems too feeble to give it up now. What exercise are you doing? I am being a bit rubbish at doing anything but walking and occasional swimming. My yoga class re-starts next week but it's pretty relaxing. I have a pregnancy workout DVD but I haven't done it for ages. I am so very tired and not sleeping.

Loopyla hope you get your antenatal class somewhere. I think my boyfriend found it more useful than I did (too much reading on mumsnet ). As for the flowchart - ah, you're another OCD lady! WE have a few on here don't we... I think you guys are great as I live in chaos.

Smorgs fuck, what a twat. kick him off his bike. Sorry, that's not very mature. I COULD NOT take long car journeys at this point (2 hours was painful the other day). Sympathies.

mickey hope the funeral went as ok as funerals can go. THinking of you.

Mrsconfusion it is a fact of pregnancy that the only time you stop worrying about being too big is when you worry about being too small
Thinking of you with car and work stress (my car is in the garage dying but I rarely use it anyway). I see yomping answered your raspberry leaf question, I've been taking the tablets since 32weeks, 1 a day at first now up to 4 a day (I'm 36 weeks). My bottle says up to 6 tablets a day so I'll prob go to that next week. Don't know if it will do anything but can't hurt I suppose!

Yomping feeling your car park woes, particularly with bump... I am more scandalised that our hospital car park costs £8 for a few hours! Our car is in the garage possibly forever as it has died, all the more reason to have my home birth I say! Ah well it's a good excuse to walk more.

I have done perineal massage 3 times now and I don't think anything has changed but it's not as uncomfortable as the first time.

Confused about the bouncing/not bouncing. Also got myself stressed out working out where baby is (pretty sure it's Right Occiput Anterior) which I thought was good (head down and anterior surely good! yay!) but of course if you google it it's BAD (compared to Left Occiput Anterior anyway) and should I be standing on my head to dis-engage it and re-jig it - at this point I stopped reading. i stay active and am happy it's engaged and will not stress over this!!!! Also I am not measuring big and will stay upright in labour if possible so it will be fine. Dear god google is evil.

The due date list is very exciting now - like a list of imminent prizes to be won - we'll all be winners! I am slightly scared I am at the top, though I'm sure that won't mean I'll come first.

I've been missing in action.... first, let me add myself to the list. shared due date with Firstbubba....

Sometime within 3-6 weeks: CWest30 ELCS (DC2 I think?)
Sept. 25: Squidkid DC1
Sept. 26: Elpis DC2 by ELCS
Oct. 2: Firstbubba DC1, Velo DC1
Oct. 2: Milk grin DC2
Oct. 5: Yomping DC1
Oct. 5: Lisbethsopposite DS2
Oct 7th: crazypaving DC2
Oct 10th: WantAnOrange DC2
Oct 10th: MrsConfusion DC1
Oct. 14: Hufflepuffle
Oct 17th: Smorgs, DC1
Oct 18th: Bella2012 DC2
Oct 18; Beccus, DC1
Oct. 19: Shellwedance DC1
Oct 21: dosomethingmutley DC1
Oct 26: Londonmrss, DC1
Oct 27: MidgetM, DC2 but more likely to be around 6/10
Oct 28: Kyyria DC1
Oct 28: Loopyla, DC1
Oct 30: Cherrychopsticks, DC1
Nov 1 : Londonlivvy DC1
Nov. 8: MikeyTheShortOne

A big hello to one and all. Just back from the Greenbelt festival in the UK. Didn't camp and managed to negotiate the mudfest that the site turned in to. Relived teenager years by rocking to the Proclaimers (heaven for a 40-something Scot!). Just about manage to tie my own shoelaces.

Went for scan this morning to find that the doctor thinks that I've put on too much weight, and the little one not enough + he put me on magnesium without really explaining why. Felt a bit freaked out but then spent the rest of the working day googling and then did a quick mumsnet consult so feeling a bit more reassured. 3 and a bit weeks to go before maternity leave starts but Dr wants to be 'rest' more before then so I have to figure out what is possible.

Can hardly believe that we are almost coming to the end of this part of the journey.

Morning all - I have slid into the bad sleeping camp, and I had been great on that front - hence 3/4 posts from me at 6.30 AM the other day. I was catching up on 'phone in bed and I kept accidentally reposting an old post.

DS has started with a new full time childminder. Yesterday was actually his first full day - he went for a few hours Mon and Tues. So far so good. I've decided to give creches a break after my last experience so he is with an older lady that minds children in her home. Very grandmotherly, kind and experienced. He has already learned no food in the sitting room there. I've been naughty, particularly in the evening and been using tv too much lately to assist in passing the time - so snacks arrived in the sitting room (complete with crumbs and food hand prints - bad mummy )
While I feel somewhat guilty I realise I will not be able to manage DS and the newborn together so he needs to have the new routine now. He is the only baby there but some older children come in after school (next week) and I know he will enjoy the company, something I will not be able to give him over the next few weeks.

Elpis is DH back? Has peace resumed?
DH has told me umpteen times that he has to travel with work next week - he is going to Kazakhstan, a country east of Turkey. The penny has only dropped for me this week, what that actually means - really only after reading your posts!
He is going Sunday - I will be 35 +2 and returning Fri, I will be 36weeks. DS arrived at 39 weeks. I am to see my Gynae next Tuesday but; I think head is engaged AND TMI alert! I had lots of gelatinous discharge one day last week. I wonder if it is the mucous plug coming away.
Anyway mother is coming to stay while DH is away. (Note to self, never give out about mum again) in case there is any action at night. I think this is why I have suddenly started waking up so early, so I really can understand why you became so anxious on your own .

I had a busy day with clear out yesterday while DS was at childminder. I own a small business so I had to prep accounts for the accountant which I did yesterday. I can see the folders now - ALL TIDY. That is very exciting for me.

I hope everyone else is holding up ok. Glad to hear some voices that I had not heard in a while (Milk Velo etc)

I can hear DS calling 'mammy, mammy'. What a wonderful way to start the day

If we are starting a new thread could we have the EDD list on the first page, for some technophile with a functioning brain - I do not include myself in that category .

Shouts are getting louder...

I am sorry to come on here just for a moan but am feeling really lonely and stressed today. DS is playing up a bit at the minute and I go back to work next week so am desperately trying to find a spare minute to do some of my prep. I am on my own with him all the time and DH only gets in at 8pm which is after bedtime so I am too tired at that point in the day to start my work. Dreading going back for so many reasons, but understandably, DH has little sympathy for me as I have just enjoyed a lovely long sumer holiday off work.

What is really bothering me though, is that i got a call from one of DH's best friends yesterday saying that he had free corporate tickets to Twickenham on Sat if DH wants to go. DH is a rugby nut and has made lots of comprimises on that score since DS, he hardly gets to go to London at all anymore to see friends or rugby as we are skint/busy (we live in Northumberland) and I know he worries that his friends will stop asking him to go as he always has to say no. So I told DH he should go and enjoy himself. It is only for one night. It is just that we had planned a little night away just the two of us on Sat night. My parents were booked as babysitters and we were scouring laterooms each day for a good deal. There isn't another weekend we can do it as we have so much on (and various weekends away for family things/school trips which I agreed to during second trimester and now regret!), and I know we won't get to do it once the baby is here. We have also had to spend the hotel money on his travel etc. As I spend so much time home on my own, I feel irrationally disappointed that we can't do what we had planned it anymore. But as I told him to go, I can hardly sulk about it now can I? I just miss him so much and I live for the weekends when I get a bit of help, (and some time to do my work!) He is so unhappy in his job and really doesn't get to socialise much, so I do genuinely want him to have a nice time. I just feel close to tears every time I think about the weekend. My midwife phoned and I am still anaemic so maybe that explains the tiredness but not the selfish crying...

Sorry to rant on for so long, will try and have a proper catch-up later on and not just dwell on my own issues.

Thanks for giving me a place to vent. You guys are brilliant.

Big love to you all.

Bella age 29, 33 weeks EDD 18th Oct.

Och Bella you poor thing. U hav every reason to be sad. Fair play to you for telling him to go anyway despite having previous plans. U r v selfless girl and hope he realises it!! Anything u can salvage from wknd as ur parents prob glad to babysit anyhow?? Do something with a friend or just hav ur parents over anyhow and have takeaway or something??? Nice for u to hav company rather than be alone and unhappy??

Sorry, just quick reply as about to start work. Rub your tummy and get a smile for your babby, take care pet, will all be worth it
Xx x

bella just flying in to say you are so much a nicer person than Me. Of course you feel disappointed, tine is ticking and you were looking forward to it. You have done a lovely thing because you are understanding and kind, doesn't mean you don't have to be gutted to be missing out. I would still try and do something nice so you can take advantage of the babysitter and get a much deserved break, doesn't have to be expensive, just have some time to relax. You are lovely to your DH, I want to kill mine at the moment the second he isn't über partner. I am a mean midget. Got to get ready to see the consultant so will catch up later x

bella2012 How lovely of you to tell your DH to go to the rugby. I imagine he'll really appreciate it. Maybe you could try and arrange a babysitter for Sat night and go out for a meal with a friend? Or just have a friend come round at some point during the weekend so it's not 24/7 childcare? Even 45 minutes with MadMen late at night has helped save my sanity this week. DD is very clingy when DH is away. She starts preschool in mid-September and I hope that will give her a bit more independence, albeit she'll only have nine days to settle in before her brother arrives

lisbethsopposite Kazakhstan? Ugh. If I were you I'd have a mental vision of what will happen if you go into labour - your mother will take care of DS or a friend will while she's with you in hospital, etc etc. it was because I couldn't conjure up a plan that I got so panicky. DH back tomorrow and we are communicating, perhaps not in my most affectionate terms, but not so you'd know we'd had an altercation. thinking about it I realise that some of my resentment is directed at his in-laws - first for having such an incredibly lavish retirement where they literally spend half the year cruising, and secondly because my Mum died when DD was three months old and would have been down here like a shot this week rather than leave me alone. We were pretty frugal during my childhood and I find ostentatious wealth hard to deal with. I realise this is unattractive and unconstructive... I just want my Mum sometimes.

But the good news is that I'm still pregnant. Midwife just felt me up briefly yesterday and said she could tell the measurement (35cm) from that. Not sure how! No mention of baby being engaged, anyway. I think it's supposed to happen much later second time round.

bella2012 Sorry, should have read your post properly and realised your parents are babysitting. Perils of Mumsnet on an iPhone.

Elpis There are so many layers to relationships ... Perhaps your ILs are being careful not to interfere, Did they persuade DH to come home last year when you were unwell? My mother can say something like 'that dress is not very nice' in the middle of a party but she is still my reliable 'go to' person when there is a need. I would miss her like mad (father has passed away) if she was not around. You were in a much more anxious situation which I'm glad is nearly over. Could you do anything to improve things with your father?
In spite of things being OK for me, today is a blue day. I'm blaming lack of sleep.

Bella could you get out of any of the other commitments you mentioned? You were right to send DH off, but still that break (for you two) is so important. Relationships need a little care, sounds like you both do - separately and togther!

Bella, poor you, I can really understand. You love him and want him to go and have fun, but that means you'll miss him and have to give up some time together. It sucks when those are the choices. I told DH he could go off to the Alps for a week on a climbing trip a couple of months ago, despite not being able to go myself and it being something I would have loved to do. I was secretly gutted when he said he'd go! In the end he didn't as he thought the trip didn't give him enough time in case of bad weather etc but I felt the same as you - pleased for him that he had the opportunity but so sad that he was going to take it, and very jealous of the time that his mates would get to spend with him! We women are perverse creatures It will do him a lot of good to get away, and you will benefit from his resulting happiness, and I bet he really does appreciate how lovely you are.

Squid, congrats on scan result, glad baby being engaged isn't permanently excruciating, I had been worried about that. After spending weeks in a ROA position apart from a brief foray into lying transverse, mine seems to be moving several times a day now and I can never work out what position it is in, bits seem to stick out everywhere.

Lisbeth, glad your mum is coming over, it'll be reassuring to have someone there. I bet it will be like watching a kettle though - now you have planned for it, nothing will happen.

Velo, hi, impressed at your festival-going and shoelace tying, I had to abandon that weeks ago in favour of laceless shoes! what does magnesium do?

LondonMrs, if you do accidentally put that in your boss' diary, please please please take my name out!

Smorgs, how have you not killed him? Does your DH know what he is saying to you and how you feel about it? Could he have a word? What a complete tosser, hopefully your week with him is nearly over. You deserve a and a for your tolerance!

I had the day in work yesterday, management meetings and the like. Bit of a shock to the system. Then accompanied DH to the gym where he did 60 min cycle and 35 minute run and I pretended to do the same but kept sneakily stopping. He has his first ever triathlon on Sunday, really proud of him for how far hew has come, a year ago he could barely run 5k and now he can do it after cycling for 22k first. Amazing.

Today we are off to Cardiff to see Michael Macintyre, have been looking forward to this for AGES!

Welcome back Angelico, glad you're all moved and connected. Sorry about GD- at least there's not too much longer to go.
Squid, great news about your placenta! (That's quite a weird sentence.)
Hugs to Bella. You're lovely for not saying no to your hubby- I bet he realises how lucky he is.

I'm feeling a bit grumpy today. I'm just knackered and I've got 3 weeks at work left. It's not that work is particularly strenuous (certainly not compared with what some of you ladies do!) but the 40 hours work, plus an hour commute on the tube each way every day is getting so hard. And I still have to usually ask someone for a seat- even when I stand with my bump in their face. Nobbers.

Almost time for someone to start us a new thread... Any volunteers?

40 hours work per week, not per day. Obviously. Can't string a sentence together anymore.

And I just remembered I have a birth balls question. I'm doing lots of leaning forward over mine as it helps with back ache and it's better for my wrists that pure all fours (like the last picture on this page www.natural-pregnancy-midwife.com/posterior-baby.html). How do you lean forward over the thing without squashing your tits?

Hey peeps! Quick update - just back from AN appt and bean still growing like weed in spite of my blood sugar being perfect - so CS at 38+4 - 25th Sep. Am shitting myself a bit. So much to do!!! More later...

Just to completely terrorise myself...

Sometime within 3-6 weeks: CWest30 ELCS (DC2 I think?)
Sept. 25: Squidkid DC1
Sep 25: Angelico DC1
Sept. 26: Elpis DC2 by ELCS
Oct. 2: Firstbubba DC1, Velo DC1
Oct. 2: Milk grin DC2
Oct. 5: Yomping DC1
Oct. 5: Lisbethsopposite DS2
Oct 7th: crazypaving DC2
Oct 10th: WantAnOrange DC2
Oct 10th: MrsConfusion DC1
Oct. 14: Hufflepuffle
Oct 17th: Smorgs, DC1
Oct 18th: Bella2012 DC2
Oct 18; Beccus, DC1
Oct. 19: Shellwedance DC1
Oct 21: dosomethingmutley DC1
Oct 26: Londonmrss, DC1
Oct 27: MidgetM, DC2 but more likely to be around 6/10
Oct 28: Kyyria DC1
Oct 28: Loopyla, DC1
Oct 30: Cherrychopsticks, DC1
Nov 1 : Londonlivvy DC1
Nov. 8: MikeyTheShortOne

Bloody buggering balls - just did a long and personalised message and lost the whole buggering bollocking thing.

Angelico that is soon. Gulp.

Oh Angelico, crumbs that's big news. Better I guess to know a few weeks beforehand so you can get ready, but still big HUGS and .

Yomping thanks so much for the peri massage info and raspberry tea, will get going with both! Must trim my thumb nails... eek!

bella, elpis, lisbeth, much sympathy on the OH front. It's so tough when they can't/won't give what you need, or understand how important just being there is. Mine is generally totally fab but did distinguish himself today in MW appointment by grabbing his pen and paper - I said oh great are you making a note of that? he blushed, turned out he'd just had a thought about the book he's writing and needed to write it down... . He works about 2-3hrs drive away for half of each week, so as we get closer I'm starting to line up friends and relations to come and stay with me so I don't panic myself into labour just because he's away...

London good question about birth balls! I can't seem to get into a good position without squashing boobs and/or bump.

Love to all, or to those struggling.

angelico and elpis really pleased u have your dates for your sections, but also slightly envious if I may say so.

At my last appt the consultant booked me in for a growth scan on the 11th sept by which time I will be 32 weeks. She wants to see me the following week, and said I probably won't be able to go past 34 weeks. From this we are ASSUMING and planning for my ELCS to be the week of your sections as well but its so fustrating not knowing for sure. Also, if she is going to see me at 33 weeks, that only gives me a week to get my head around everything!! Plus I don't know about you but I'm really scared about this section and being in hospital even though I've done it all before. I've just had enough now and want to meet my princess.

Am sure it will all work out in the end, we are just waiting for everything and I've never been good at waiting. Waiting for DS to start school (11 sept) waiting for a date for my ELCS (?) And waiting for completion on our house purchase (just found out its 28 Sept)

Roll on Xmas when its all over!!

New thread here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1552777-Due-in-October-2012-Part-7-Nearly-there

Holy cats!

I turned my back for a week to go on holidays, and the thread is full!

Have been reading back - glad that everyone is going ok, GD and wicked travelling DHs (bad elpis's DH! Bad lisbethsopposite's DH!) notwithstanding.

bella you are golden for not just letting, but telling your DP to go to the rugby. He'll remember that. True acts of generosity are the ones that cost us - be proud of how generous you really were.

Who was at Greenbelt? I was there too! Yay the Proclaimers! waves

Mat leave has started, we are on holidays near Bristol (Bath is LOVELY) and everything seems to be OK. Apart from I can't reliably pick things up off the ground anymore. That sucks.

Oh my gosh - silly me, I almost left us threadless!

I've made a new one (confession: I always did hope I'd get to start one one day ) and here it is: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1552785-Due-in-October-2012-Part-7-towards-the-finish-line-going-for-Gold

See you there, lucky lovely ladies!