Hullo
I posted elsewhere and have been asked to copy that post here, so I have! Here it is:
"HULLLO!! Can I come back in PLEEEASE!!!
OMG! What an up an down time I have had! Got a bfp in the month I had pretty much decided to make my last attempt as I am 39 and have pcos and had had enough tbh! Was delighted. Then had bleeding. Then hormone levels came back normal for 5 weeks. Was reassured. Was called in for scan anyway and went in completely confident all would be okay. But was devasted when told that it was a failed pregnancy - empty sac and was told there was no hope as there was no yolk. Was told to come back for scan to confirm this and to establish whether it was ectopic, but to expect that I was likely to miscarriage naturally before that. Devastated. But had spent the week coming to terms with it, and had arranged to start the medical management of the miscarriage today. Went for second scan today and there was my six week baby with a strong steady heart beat! Turns out the !!*! doctor and nurse last week had based my estimated pregnancy on my last period despite the fact that I had told them when I phoned that I have pcos and that I estimated I may be about five weeks pregnant and this was all in the notes on me that they had. Instead they assumed that I was seven weeks, based on my last period, and assumed that the pregnancy had failed at five weeks and so hadn't developed since then. Instead the only reason they couldn't see anything was because it was too bloody early!!!!!! Just as well I didn't drown my sorrows in wine last week.
So anyway - hooorah! DH was so delighted he cried during the scan!
So can I join please! I am 39, this will be DC1 and I think my due date must be mid March 2013!
I really hope all goes smoothly from here - don't know how much more I could take!!!"
Anyway, I must admit that, now the relief is over, I am now somewhat miffed with the doctor I saw at the first scan. I mean, that really wasn't on was it? The nurse at the second scan apologised for what had happened and said the information about my pcos was in my notes and I should never have been told that the pregnancy had ended and there was no hope. She also said that the date of a positive pregnancy test is more accurate than date of last period and my notes also gave the date of the pregnancy test. And even if the pcos hadn't been in my notes surely you should ask someone if they have a long or irregular cycle before assuming that their pregnancy has failed? Do you think I should complain? I mean, it all worked out well but it could have been really bad. I almost did start drinking again and also thought about stopping taking folic acid. I also stopped eating well and started eating rubbish. I mean, it was possible that, having been wrongly told my baby was dead, that I could have actually damaged him/her through starting drinking/ stopping folic acid/ eating blue cheese. Thank f** I didn't. The nice nurse offered me another scan in two weeks if I wanted so I've taken that up so maybe I should say something then or maybe write a letter, nicely worded. I don't want this to happen to anyone else. Sorry to rant!