November 2012 - baby shopping time has really taken off

[StuntNun]

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Afternoon all. Sorry to those of you going through pg related and non-pg related pains, hope you're all managing to get some R&R at some point.

24 weeks today, woo hoo! Another mini milestone reached. Hoping to get my maternity leave agreed tomorrow, would like to combine holiday and ml to have 13 months off altogether.

We think we've chosend then Silver Cross 3D as our travel system, but nobody else here seems to be going for a Silver Cross, is there something I should know? We tried it out and it meets all our needs without being too expensive. Just need to wait for payday to buy!

I had a silver cross with my first two. They are not seen as trendy but I rate them quite highly. The only potential problem I can see is that when in pushchair mode they can be quite bulky. Get the one you want, after all it will be you pushing it!

hey everyone, just got back from hols and spent a good 45 mins catching up on the thread!

Sorry to hear about your troubles swiss , hopefully you are getting support from RL too, must be hard but stay strong for bubba!

Bump is feeling very heavy at the mo, last few days i've started to get backache mid-afternoon

we've actually havent bought anything practical yet Apart from furniture on order, we've got one cuddly toy and a dress! haha .

Question - want to start getting the essential clothes, is it worth buying newborn size or better to get 1 month? thinking if baby end up small we can always get a pack of newborn size?

Also, getting very excited that its a baby girl, but have this fear that they might have got it wrong and dont want to go crazy on girl clothes and girlify the nursery and bubba turns out to be a boy? is this irrational? how often do they get it wrong?

We're gonna get a 3d/4d scan at 29 weeks so i guess they can confirm.... but do i wait until then before painting room?!!!!

CandyPop My husband was worrying about the same thing as one of ours was def a boy, but they couldn't tell with the second twin. I pointed out that it's a lot easier to tell if it's a boy than a girl- with a boy you're looking for definite body parts, with a girl it's an absence of parts and how do you know if you've just missed them?!
That said, in my experience (I've had three daughters thus far, and another twin one cooking) they are extremely reluctant to commit unless they're almost certain and none of them have made a mistake yet. Trust them!

candy you are likely to be bought quite a few small outfits by friends and family. I would personally go for 0-3 but I know I have big babies. DD2 would not even fit in newborn stuff as she was very long, and also in washables.

lane unfolds at the touch of a button... Swanky! Very good looking stroller. What colour did you go for?

I meant to say about hands swelling when someone asked, mine didn't really last time, I wore my wedding ring right through. Only time they swelled was during labour, I guess because I was being given fluids, and I wished I'd taken it off beforehand.

DS was 8lb 7oz, and we used newborn babygros for a few weeks..I'd get a few of those in case bubba is tiny.

I had a short 2 1/2 hour nap, the boys sat and watched cartoons awful mother alert!
I feel do much better though and I felt able to get up make us all a lovely and healthy dinner which makes a change from me feeling grotty and bunging a family ready meal in the oven.

wow you are all getting so sorted! I have to wait until we move in 6 weeks till I organise anything
I am planning to get DD to help decorate the nursery and choose things for it, to her involved in doing things for 'her baby'.

I had a nightmare day with DD today. I was told weeks ago by my GP and at the hospital that I shouldn't lift her lots and not to carry her. She keeps having almighty tantrums while we are out and about and I can't do anything about it as I can't carry her or lift her easliy when she is kicking and screaming. I am at the end of my tether after today.
We went on the train to my friend's house. she lives 5 mins from the station so I didn't take the buggy as the train station and the train are a nightmare with a buggy and I have to lift the buggy on and off the trains which I can't do either.

She decided to kick off massively when we were leaving for the train, I thought fine becuase I'd left 30 mins for a 5 mins journey, it went on and on and my friend had to carry her screaming all the way to the train in the end which we missed by seconds, not another train for an hour and 10mins, so we had a talk about it, calmed down, went back to the house. Then she did it again the next time. We got the next trian ok and she sat on it hitting me ans screaming for half the journey. I was trying to stay calm but I was so stressed I was getting a really sore bump and trying not to cry. We try so hard to do everything right, we do time out, we don't give in, we do reward charts ect but I feel like I am failing so badly as a mother right now. DD spends at least half her time moaning/being grumpy and having tantrums and generally seeming to unhappy. Then she is lovely whe she is not doing these things. I felt like I couldn't cope at all earlier.
My doctor was trying to get me to sign off work last week but she can't sign me off being a mother for a few days and I feel awful saying it but I feel like I need a break from the stress of that.

I can wholeheartedly recommend the flight socks (I got Dr Scholl ones from Boots but the Boots-own brand were about £1 cheaper, I have just used Dr Scholl stuff before so I thought they would be good). My legs and ankles have felt really comfy all day (a little bit warm but I think that's just because they come up to just below the knee - you could probably wear them in work Detective). There is a little bit of swelling in one ankle but much less than on the previous few days and I don't have any pain at all.

Not so much success on the job front, I got made redundant, or 'displaced' as they seem to want to call it. I have to get job applications in for any current vacancies in other departments in by 2 p.m. tomorrow (that's nearly 22 hours to prepare them) then I will be interviewed on Wednesday and if I don't get any of the other positions then I'm out on Friday with my basic SMP but no enhanced maternity pay. I don't even want to work out how much money I'll be losing through this.

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stunt just a big hug. I can't imagine how you are feeling, and probbly not in the mood to rave about how great you are in a load of application forms.

Keep us posted on how it all goes.

Xx

Oh stuntnun so sorry to hear that. So stressful, and no time to prepare. Fingers and toes crossed for you.

mrswee you are a wonderful mummy. You do not need to be signed off from mummyhood, but if you were signed off from work for a while it would give you a chance to concentrate on yourself, bump and your little rascal. Sounds like a really crappy trip, but you both survived it, and hopefully she is now asleep and looking angelic. I for one am so glad my 2yo is back at nursery tomorrow, but I will miss the little terror the moment she goes. I am hoping boys are easier!

None of us are meant to be lifting at this stage. No idea how we are meant to avoid it, especially with toddlers.

Sorry to hear that stuntnun How many vacancies are there in other departments and how many people applying do you know?

I'm trying to plan how we are going to get to London next week for the olympics and it is a frigging nightmare. Don't fancy standing up on the train all the way and can't afford the ridiculous car park prices either. Some of them want £75 a day! So I don't know what we are going to do.

crispswe went for Denny red as we don't know what we are having. Having said that I LOVED the pink but figure a boy baby may not like it so much!! Which did you go for?

I've had a crappy day following on from the crappy night.
Ended up picking DH up at 3:30am, he was going to get a taxi but I was up feeling I'll anyway. He made himself a bed on the sofa so I wasnt disturbed by his snoring and I finally managed to fall asleep about 4:30am.

Went to work this morning but felt rubbish, really sicky and had bad heartburn coupled with lack of sleep so came home. We've spent the day in bed and lazing on the sofa watching the Olympics. Purchased a bottle of gaviscon so hopefully tonight will be better.

Baby has been v active through all this, lots of wriggling.

Also, found my first stretch mark yesterday It's quite small and on the underneath of my boob.

Managed to win some sleeping bags on eBay today. Got 4 in total for less than £10 including postage

MrsWee Draw a line under today and start again tomorrow. My 4 yo is pretty splendid most of the time, but on the odd occasion when she's not, it makes me want to cry/ hide. Can't imagine how awful it's been. At least once they're 4 there's some reasoning that can go on with them. I remember well what she was like when she was 2 and wouldn't want to go back there while pregnant hugs

I think this is my first post in this whole thread! I have been trying to catch up, but will probably miss most of what has been going on.

Swiss I hope you have lots of support in rl, I can't even begin to imagine how you feel. I also hope you aren't in too much pain

Valium I hope your ankle is getting better, I can't believe you managed to carry on for so long. You must have a strong pain threshold.

Stunt redundancy stinks, I was made redundant last year. Will you still qualify for smp?

Pass and Izzy I'm another who has ordered the Uppababy vista.

Dh and I went to Paris after his Gran passed away suddenly, we deliberated for a considerable amount of time before coming to the conclusion that the break would do us the world of good. We had a lovely time and the highlight was spending our 1st wedding anniversary in the Louvre and being able to go up the Eiffel tower. I became quite emotional at one point when thinking that this was our last holiday as a couple, the next time we are able to holiday it will be as a family! we bought some lovely baby things whilst in Paris including an I Love Paris vest a hat and my absolute favourite a little blanket which says " Je suis le reve de mes parents" which means " I am the dream of my parents.

Dh's Gran had a lovely send off, the church was full of friends and family who all came to pay their respects and the minister was able to raise a few smiles as he spoke fondly of her. She will be sadly missed by us all.

We are getting more organised and have ordered the mamas and papas Rialto collection for babies room, babygros, vests and reusable nappies. I think we need to sit down and compile a list of things we still need.

Thanks ladies, I am feeling a bit desperate with it all- but hormones have a lot to do with that and feeling a bit helpless without just being able to pick her up and march off with her ignoring her protests, like I used to.
She pulls the 'I want a cuggle' card with me all the time now when we are out and about, mainly when she's laying on the pavement screaming with everyone looking, knowing I can't carry her, well she's been told but doesn't understand and why should she. she is only two, it's hard to remember sometimes.
She NEVER wants to cuddle me, only daddy so it makes it 10 x harder to deal with!
It doesn't help at all that we are doing the new house and I also need to rest so various lovely helpful friends have been taking her out for the morning or she's been at nursery or granny's for the day and she's acting up because we've not been with her as much. She's had fun and is very happy to go with the firends who she knows very well but we suffer when she returns.
If this is hard on me it must be so much worse for her!

stuntnun You have more rights when you are pregnant remember. They cannot refuse you one of those other positions because you are pregnant or about to go on mat leave. record your interviews if you can, if anyone even suggests such a thing even without coming out with it directly, like saying it's not the right time for you ro anything like that at all then you can wipe the floor with them. If you don't get a position, then ask for a reveiw of why because it might be mentioned by accident then.
I will be doing the same with my employers soon as I am in a difficult position too although not quite the same. Good luck.

mrswee I pull the 'I want a cuggle' tantrum all the time Never works

Off to see Olympics women's football tomorrow with kids from school. Not the best tickets. But oh well better then nada. But skipping aquafit tomorrow morning to ensure I'm not wiped out by time we leave.

I have chosen car seat. Maxi cosi cabriofix now it's left to DH to find the cheapest deal.
What is number 1 safety rated car seat on which? Does anyone know.

Also. A friend is getting married in feb. the RSVP date is August 1st! It asks for child's name lol n special requirements. Eg high chair... Will we need one at 3 months.

I wouldn't have said so GT , I'd be surprised if your little one is up to sitting up by then.

Mrswee 2 year old temper tantrums can be pretty amazing and very tough to deal with, you are doing remarkably well!

Gt I usually wait until babies are around 5 months before recommending using a high chair, so I would just ask that there is plenty of space for your pram/pushchair around the table.

GT our baby is known as Infant X Surname to Thomas Cook He has a name already but don't want to tell anyone until he's here.