Due in July part 3 - The one where we all bloom

[kbaby]

thought we'd start with this

HumphreysCorner 1.7.06 Age 36 Expecting a girl
usandbump 3.7.06 Age 28 Expecting a boy
bumpybel 4.7.06 Age 32 (33 in May)
spub 4.7.06 Age 35 (36 in August) Expecting a boy
twisty 5.7.06 Age 27
puddytat99 6.7.06 (Age 33)
dangirl 8.7.06 Age 31
deblaca 8.7.06 Expecting a boy
OldieMum 11.7.06 Age 44
lilianna 12.7.06
kayzed 14.7.06 Age 32 (33 on 9/7) Expecting a girl
AggiePanther 15.7.06 Age 37 (38 on 21/7)
monkeychops 16.07.06
2ndtimelucky 16.7.06
jom 17.7.06 Age 37
mumtwobe 18.7.06
Straightforward 19.7.06 Age 32 (33 on 20/6)
jersey 21.7.06 Age 34 (35 on 30/5)
heartinthecountry 22.7.06 Age 34
agalch 23.7.06 Age 34 (35 on 10/4)
madness 23.7.06
Clara1 23.7.06
pinkdolly 25.7.06 Age 25
entropy 25.7.06
IamBlossom 26.07.06
Wallace 27.7.06 Age 27
kbaby 28.7.06
maewest 28 or 30.7.06
Cwmtydu 31.7.06

Hi Bumpy, sorry to hear you're having hassle ...if I were you, I'd go by what your dsd says and does, not the ex who is probably projecting her own feelings onto the situation - it sounds as though you are being sensitive and loving and trying to do the best for your step children.I don't think you are being insensitive at all to talk about the baby in front of your dsd- I think there will naturally be some jealous feelings as well as excitement and its importnat that your dsd knows that these feelings are acceptable too - that its 'normal' to feel apprehensive about the baby and its ok to talk about these feelings with you and/or her dad as well as just the 'good' feelings. I'm sure even if this was a'full' sibling and not a 'half' sibling there would be jealous feelings too - (and 13 is an age where feelings are all over the place anyway) My dd has openly said that she's worried I'll 'forget' about her when the new baby comes... I think we just have to do the best we can and make sure we give them all lots of love and attention.. oh and ignore exes :)

bumpybel - sounds like you're doing all you can to be sensitive, feel free to rant on here all you like :) then you can be all calm and magmanimous in RL

Aggie and Maewest... thankyou for being so lovely... its made me feel all tearful! Thankgod for MN! x

Congrats oldiemum :)

Congrats on all the scan news all you folks! Can't wait for mine on 7th March (a week tomorrow!!)

AP - they said there was nothing between her legs so unless she is a late developer...
By the way my DS is caled Alfie - great name (if ever you have a boy)x

Congratulations Oldiemum on your boy x

lots of news to catch up on today .....

congrats to AggieP, MonkeyC and Wallace on your scans/results ... also to you OldieMum your message meant a lot to me (being 38 and trying for a while, ivf was a route dh and i were considering before thankfully conceiving naturally) I wish you all the best

sorry to hear about your problems Bumpybel, you shouldn;t have to hide your joy at pg from anyone .... it sounds like your dealing with dsd sensitively and with reassurance ....

keep smiling

byw when we had our scan we "accidently" found out the sex - a boy - so if you don't want to know make it known iyswim
goodnight

Hi all

Wallace yes im in Scotland,my afp results only took 9 days to come thru so not too bad.My hosp St Johns will not tell you the sex.We were considering a private scan but given that we didn't know the sex of my other 3 why bother.My dp and i quite enjoy having a surprise at the end anyway.

Glad everyones scans and results are ok too.Also nice that most of you who want to know the sex are finding out.

Bumpy it sounds like the evil ex is putting her feelings and thoughts onto dsd.I'm sure if you keep doing what your doing she will be fine.My db evil ex told their kids his new baby with new dp was ugly .It's her problem not yours so you just enjoy this special time.You deserve it
!!

Morning all.

Bumpbel I think you are handling what must be a very difficult situation (exes, stepkids, plus your own relationship and pregnancy) really well! Your affection for DSD and DSS is clear in your posts, and they will freely acknowledge this in years to come, as I amsure they do now when you are all together. And I agree with Aggie, no point you even trying to avoid talking about your pregnancy and baby with them there, or discussing your plans with them, your baby is a permanent fixture now, as are they, so start as you mean to go on I say. You're doing brilliantly as far as i can tell. xx

Fab news oldie mum, so so so happy for you, you must feel very releived and walking on air at the moment.

Sleeping like a LOG at the moment, as is DS thank goodness, he comes home so knackered from nursery he can barely keep his eyes open to have a bath. I want to finish work so much, can't beleive I have to wait till June 30 it seems an age away.

Scan not till march 17th either! NOW NOW NOW!

have a good day everyone.

Blossom. xx

Bumpbel - I really feel for you. We had years of hostility from DH's ex-wife, so much so that we kept the news of the six cycles of IVF from his step-children, who were visiting us regularly. Remarks such as "I hope that if you ever have a child it will be disabled" and "If you ever have a baby, I'll kill it" made us reluctant to let her know what was going on. She is now dead, so we never actually had to deal with all this when DD was born, however.

I can only echo the wise advice given here. It's your baby and your pregnancy, not hers. Don't let anyone make you feel you can't talk about it and enjoy it. I would certainly have done so had I become pregnant when this woman was on the scene. We just didn't want her crowing over failed IVF cycles. I expect your step-children will come around and enjoy the baby in time, Just keep calm and try not to make their attitude an issue.

Blimey Oldiemum - sounds like you've been through the mill! Makes your good news even 'gooder':)

Sure does. remarkable how protective I feel about a group of women I have never met or "spoken" to. Must be me hormones....

Hi Everyone

Bumpbel - Don't let them get to you hun, it's your pregnancy not theirs. When I was pregnant with my son (12 years ago!!) I had lots of hassel but it was from strangers in the street, not people that I knew. Because I look a lot younger than I am, only hope that keeps up and I don't age over night, people thought they could voice their opinions. I got tutted at, told it was disgusting at my age (I was 21, not 12!) and even worse comments which made reference to me being on my back. People are thoughtless and unfeeling at times. An elderly neighbour of mine the other day commented on the age gap, saying I bet you didn't want that to happen, with such a huge gap. I just replied to her, yes we did mean for me to get pregnant as we had lost 3 in the past. Sorry for that little rant there, everyone.

My back, bum and legs are still playing up but not as bad as it was last. I've been trying gentle exercise (mainly going for walks, even in this cold weather), warm baths, back and leg rubs from my other half.

As for the cat worries, we have 3 house cats and I'm a bit nervous about one of them. She is a bit of a madam and thinks she rules the house. We're going to do as others have mentioned, keeping the door closed when baby is asleep, etc.

Hope everyone is managing to keep warm and well.

Hello
I'm new to this thread - thanks for inviting me over Aggiepanther! I will endevour to read the thread tonight so I know what the "hot issues" are . I'm due on 6/7/06 with my 2nd, DD is 21 months old. I also have spd and sacro-illiac joint pain (the thread where I met Aggiepanther). Other than that all is well and I'm very pleased to meet you all !

Welcome twirl ..I shall officially add you to the list:

HumphreysCorner 1.7.06 Age 36 Expecting a girl
usandbump 3.7.06 Age 28 Expecting a boy
bumpybel 4.7.06 Age 32 (33 in May)
spub 4.7.06 Age 35 (36 in August) Expecting a boy
twisty 5.7.06 Age 27
twirl 6.7.06
puddytat99 6.7.06 (Age 33)
dangirl 8.7.06 Age 31
deblaca 8.7.06 Expecting a boy
OldieMum 11.7.06 Age 44 Expecting a boy
lilianna 12.7.06
kayzed 14.7.06 Age 32 (33 on 9/7) Expecting a girl
AggiePanther 15.7.06 Age 37 (38 on 21/7)
monkeychops 16.07.06
2ndtimelucky 16.7.06
jom 17.7.06 Age 37
mumtwobe 18.7.06
Straightforward 19.7.06 Age 32 (33 on 20/6)
jersey 21.7.06 Age 34 (35 on 30/5)
heartinthecountry 22.7.06 Age 34
agalch 23.7.06 Age 34 (35 on 10/4)
madness 23.7.06
Clara1 23.7.06
pinkdolly 25.7.06 Age 25
entropy 25.7.06
IamBlossom 26.07.06
Wallace 27.7.06 Age 27
kbaby 28.7.06
maewest 28 or 30.7.06
Cwmtydu 31.7.06

I think I'm going to get a bit confused with a twisty and a twirl ...or at least a bit dizzy! :)

Evening ladies

Welcome and congrats to Twirl ((xx))

bumpybel-I agree wholeheartedly with everyones comments. You must carry on doing and saying what you need to and enjoy this pregnancy hun. It is nobody elses business! Grrrhhh! ((xx))

Congrats to all of you that have had scans and test results back. They are all coming in thick and fast now. We also have a more even ratio of girls to boys-phew!

Am really struggling to get comfy on the settee at night as everything seems to get squashed. I'm better off either sat on a kitchen chair or lying down. Also at luch time I tried to balance a magazine on my knee but it wouldn't fit as madam really is getting in the way. Can I cope with another 4 months???

Pancake day of course so off to make some mixture up so will be even more of a whale later along with the fact I am obsessed with choc ices and sometimes have 3 a day

Have a good evening all.

(((xxxx)))

Had 20 wk scan today and everything went very well! Baby seems to be progressing and growing well and we even got a wave! It had one of its hands on the top of its head and lifted it up and gave a little wave. Very cute.

We didn't find out the sex as want a surprise. Am I the only one doing this?

MIL and DS came with me as unfortunately DH couldn't get time off work and DS was very intrigued with the jelly on mummys belly. A little interested in the baby on the screen but this is the first that he knows of the baby (bump isn't really that big)so didn't really know what was going on. He was more interested in getting back into the waiting room to have his strawberries that he was about to have before I got called in!

Chin up Bumpybel! Please vent as much as you need to, you shouldn't keep it all in. Big hugs to you.

Congrats jom ..glad the scan went well :)

Jom congrats on scan (they are soooo cute), interesting that you say your bumps not that big

.... in the last few days my bloom is definately fading, have been very tired and my bump seemed to have doubled in size, overnight, dh reckons lo going through a growth spurt - anyone else feeling like this?

Ladies

It's official-string test does work........................but only at 22 weeks+. Is now swinging in a massive circle just like when I did it when carrying DD (but only did it a few weeks after the 20 week scan). I have actually only done this on all my friends when they were 30 weeks+ so my experiment was a tad too soon this time. Soooooooooo pleased I am not going mad!

Nighty night

xxx

Deblaca - I'm feeling huge but its probably more to do with eating all the pies
LOL @HC and your string test :)
By the way ..anybody got a linea nigra yet? ...I don't seem to have one, but I am quite fair

Hi Gang,
Glad all well though I seem to have missed a few dramas. Welcome to newbies and congrats on scans all round.
I am also steadily expanding. Got back from Amsterdam (what a hoot) on Sunday afternoon and DH said I had definitely got bigger in the 2 days away!! Loads of movement and in fact DH got his first kick last night. Hadn't been able to feel anything externally til then. He was well chuffed, "that's my boy!" LOL.
Hugs all round