Due in July part 3 - The one where we all bloom

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thought we'd start with this

HumphreysCorner 1.7.06 Age 36 Expecting a girl
usandbump 3.7.06 Age 28 Expecting a boy
bumpybel 4.7.06 Age 32 (33 in May)
spub 4.7.06 Age 35 (36 in August) Expecting a boy
twisty 5.7.06 Age 27
puddytat99 6.7.06 (Age 33)
dangirl 8.7.06 Age 31
deblaca 8.7.06 Expecting a boy
OldieMum 11.7.06 Age 44
lilianna 12.7.06
kayzed 14.7.06 Age 32 (33 on 9/7) Expecting a girl
AggiePanther 15.7.06 Age 37 (38 on 21/7)
monkeychops 16.07.06
2ndtimelucky 16.7.06
jom 17.7.06 Age 37
mumtwobe 18.7.06
Straightforward 19.7.06 Age 32 (33 on 20/6)
jersey 21.7.06 Age 34 (35 on 30/5)
heartinthecountry 22.7.06 Age 34
agalch 23.7.06 Age 34 (35 on 10/4)
madness 23.7.06
Clara1 23.7.06
pinkdolly 25.7.06 Age 25
entropy 25.7.06
IamBlossom 26.07.06
Wallace 27.7.06 Age 27
kbaby 28.7.06
maewest 28 or 30.7.06
Cwmtydu 31.7.06

I think the drinking water thing may help - I drink heaps and haven't had cramp...yet!

I sorted through some baby clothes the other day - can't wait for some nice weather to get them washed and drying on the line :)

I think my baby is possilbly breech at this stage (not that it matters) as the kicks I am feeling are all really low down - right down in my pelvis.

Shall we have a new thread soon - by the time I scroll down to the bottom to post I have forgotten what I was going to reply to everyone

Evening all - lovely sunny day today. Cooked a proper Sunday lunch, roast chicken and veggies. Then went out for a walk with one of my girlfriends this afternoon, nice to be finally out in the sunshine!

Haven't bought anything yet, feel a bit superstitious. Have been given a bag of 2nd hand baby clothes (vests & things) and 2 homemade baby blankets (one from each side of family).

Hi everyone,
I've just joined mumsnet, and am due on the 13th of July. I'm a bit overwhelmed by everything that's on this thread, but I'd like to say 'hi', is it protocal to join at this stage?, or do I need to start another thread? - oh I'm such a novice at this kind of thing. It would be nice to hear from others at the same stage - all my friends are very pregnant or only just pregnant - and my first pregnancy was very different from this. Anyway, hope you don't me joining now...

Of course it's ok to join now! :) welcome to the group and congrats on your pregnancy. We're a pretty friendly bunch her - honestly

HI everyone welcome niccoola we are very friendly really !

Pinkdolly I can sympathise to a degree as hormones and pain whether sciatica or spd is terrible you don't know what to do to help it. I would suggest visiting your doctor as I went to mine and ended up in tears in the surgery. I am seeing the physio next week and go some stronger painkillers which are safe to take. Hope this helps.

Congrats Iamblossam on your little boy, we are very evenly balanced so far!!

Panicing her re essay at the moment. Keep thinking no way I can get it done for thursday as DH won't help out so I can do it in the evening . Sure I will get there just doens't seem like it at the moment.

Oh well hope everyone else is ok. Glad your appointment went ok maewest.

Hi everyone

Hope you all had a good weekend.

Blossom - Congrats on your little boy

Nicoloola - Welcome to the group. As Jersey and Maewest said, we're all friendly here. A bit mad but friendly :0

Has anyone decided what they are doing about work once baby has arrived? I was looking into going back just a few hours a day but the head teacher has offered me a new job, once maternity is over. I can either go back part time with a pay rise, full time with a pay rise or stay in the same job, same early hours (7am start) without a pay rise. Not sure what to do now. Plus I've got to fit in my degree, baby, DS and DH plus the odd bit of housework here and there!!! If it was going to be the same job, then a friend of mine was going to have baby for an hour or so, once DH had gone to work and I was going to give her a bit of something for helping us out. If I go the other options, I've got to start looking into childminders!!!! Would love to hear what everyone else is planning to. In an ideal world, I wouldn't go back to work, DH would earn plenty and I wouldn't go insane at home all day with a baby!!!

Hi puddy strangley enough I have just been discussing this with my boss. My in laws have DS full time at the moment but won't beable to cope with 2. I was going back 3 days a week but mil has said no. Now agreed that I am coming back 5 days 8:00 till 1:00. I now do 8:00 till 4:00 travelling 60 miles round trip. It will be expensive on petrol per month but we haven't much option really.

welcome nicoloola

puddy - can you afford to go part-time (are you p/t or f/t now), if you can and you get a pay RISE i'd go for that (assuming the jobs right for you)

i'm not planning to go back to work once lo arrives and in fact not working now (not paid work anyway!) - altho all too aware that i'll have to make some other mum friends if i'm not to go stir crazy at home with a baby all day

hope all are well x

Hi Everyone

Welcome Nicoloola, you're due the same day as me . Have you had your scan and do you know what you're having? I'm expecting a girl, the sonographer was quite confident. Though you never know!!

Puddytat, don't know about work really. You have a few options, haven't you, plenty of time to decide. I don't want to come back, but will probably have to. Trouble is my contract runs out in September, so maternity pay depends on whether boss man will renew it. He said he would, but that's no guarantee. I have to have a 'meeting' to discuss it. HR need to know so they can sort it all out. Pain in the *ss.

Bumpybel, haven't started buying anything yet, or packing! Have the main things though, from DS, so just have to go and dig them out of the in-laws loft. I'm dreading all the pink frilly fluffy stuff MIL will be sure to buy us, though we have said NO PINK! I don't mind pink but I know what she's like so I have to tell her no. Not that she'll listen.

Good luck with your essay Jersey.

Have a nice (rest of the) day everyone

Annie

I'm not going back. I cannot wait. I am full time at the moment, DS in nursery and I am going to leave work and have at least 2-3 years at home with the two of them. I am just treading water for the next 3 months until I can leave....

Hi again,
thanks for all your welcomes, have just spent about 30 minutes scrolling through past messages to get up to speed on who everyone is!!
Annie29 - I had my scan a week past Thursday (exactly 22 weeks) and I'm having a girl too! We had a nuchal scan at 12 weeks and the doctor told us then he thought it was a girl (but only 60/40 chance), then the sonographer at our 22 week said she was as sure as it was possible to be it was a girl. We've got a ds who will be 4 in April, so he's taken some persuading that we're actually not having a boy (who he wanted to name after himself!!!!). We've told him our chosen name (Charlotte Elizabeth), and he's quite happy now - he's called Christian, and is pleased that it starts with the same initial.. God, I'm going on a bit - I'm at home on my own with a chest infection today, so it's nice to chat!
Nice to see some of you are buying stuff, I bought a very cute (pink) outfit the other day and felt a bit guilty that it was too early - but I do need some girls' stuff!!!! That's what I'm telling myself anyway.

Hi Everyone, and welcome to Nicoloola!

I am also agonising about what to do about work. I love my job but I live along way from my family and my in laws are a family of child haters so I would have to pay for nursery or a childminder. DH earns lots more than I do, (despite him having 5 GCSE's and me having a PhD :( ) and the extra money we would have left after paying someone else to look after the baby would be peanuts. BUT I work in a very specialist field, it has taken me years to get into it, and even a year out will get me completely out of step with the technology, and I am registered blind so finding a company to give me a chance in the first place was tough. What I would like to do is go down to 3 days so that I stay in the loop, have a continuous employment history but still get 4 out of every 7 days with baby. fingers crossed that my boss will agree to this

Sorry about long post... just also wanted to say that my scan is tomorrow and as my sight problem is congenital and dominant, the baby has a 50% chance of being affected. So I am bricking it! Its not that I will find out tomorrow in all likelihood as I’m sure it is impossible to tell by ultrasound. In fact I have no idea why I’m so terrified. DH thinks I am mad….. I’ve looked forward to this scan for months! And now I really don’t want to go.

Wish me luck!

Entropy

good luck with you scan entrophy ... and when the time comes good luck with getting a 3 day a week post

oh and i've bought a couple of outfits for lo - couldn't resist it - they're so small and so cute that when i got them home and showed them to dh they made me cry

Hi nicoloola and welcome! My dd also wants to name the baby after herself! Wouldn't it be great to have the self-esteem of a 3 year old!

Entropy - good luck with your scan tomorrow. Chances are everything will be fine, but then you know that already really don't you? Sounds like a bit of a mare work-wise. Is this your first? I've forgotten, sorry. Our thoughts are with you anyway.

Pinkdolly - sounds like you're going through the wringer too, you poor thing. This afternoon I've been moaning about being too tired to cope with one child, let alone being in pain too and having two, so I'm feeling truly humbled now.

Were all you girls at Ikea Croydon at the weekend? We went to get a load of stuff for dd's bedroom, and it seemed like every pregnant woman in the universe was there! We had that all day Saturday and then all day Sunday was spent moving the existing furniture out of her room, constructing the new stuff and sorting out all her stuff and transferring it over. Phew! DH did most of it, but it's really no wonder I'm exhausted today...

...however, the cleaner started today and I now reside in a sparkly abode (at least, until DH and DD trash it!) Only thing is, she reckoned she'd underestimated the size of the job and that it would take at least 3 hours a week (subtext - we're right grimy old whatsits !)

Hi everyone,

Sorry about the moan on Friday. Have been in a lot of pain and my hormones playing up. You know how it is.

Well, the pain has eased a bit and my mum came home yesterday (she lives with us at the moment), she is a great help to have around. I dont feel so misrable either, so that's a good thing.

Hi to Nicola, i'm expecting a girl too and my dd1 is adament that we should call her fifi the flowertot (sounds a bit long winded to me!).

Entropy- You will have to let us know how things go with your scan, r u gonna find out what you are having?

We dont have a cleaner, but then I dont work and although I cant always physically cope with the cleaning my mum is brilliant and helps me out (so I suppose I do sort of have a cleaner). Still my house is never spotless, as soon as I tidy things away the girls manage to bring everything out again. And the carpet always looks like it needs vacuming, even though I do it at least once a day.

Just wanted to say thankyou for all your support, I really do appreciate it. I'll try not to moan so much.

Annie, the rheummies think I may have arthritis also, although my bloods don't prove it at the moment. Like you my joints have got so much better since I got pg which is great. I'm just worrying about what happens after the birth too. So I know what you are going through.
My DH is very supportive though he does make fun of me saying he should be a doctor with all the medical stuff he's learnt since being with me.

Hello to everyone else, sorry my memory is awful and I find it really hard to keep up with everyone on here. Hope you are all well and blooming!

I really don't know how I feel about going back to work at the moment. My company is great, it's small and I've had loads of opportunities there but... by the time I go on mat leave I'll have been there 6 years (significant chunk of my career to date) - I've been promoted several times in that time but don't think there's much further I can go. I was applying for other jobs when I found out I was pg, so part of me is just treading water until end of June. My plan at the moment is to take the full year and then decide. Also at the back of my mind is that the funding for my post runs out in March 07 (i.e. 3 months before I have to go back), and part of me would not mind redundancy as it would leave me free to look at other things (and not have to pay back my enhanced mat pay ). I've also considered freelancing for a while, which would give me more flexibility.

woo - long post, suppose this has been on my mind quite a bit (this is first baby)

Good luck entropy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

When I had my scan the consultant pointed out that you could see the lenses of the eyes, but I don't know if that would mean you could spot a problem. Will be thinking of you - I was bricking it during my scan too - didn't look at the consultants face the whole time as I knew I would misinterpret the slightest frown!

Morning girls

Glad you have joined this friendly bunch Nicoloola!

Sorry some of you are not feeling great with sciatica etc.Try to ask for help if people are not offering.

Got my mw appt on Thursday.Will be speaking to her about a home birth.Thought there was no chance as i'd had a 3rd degree tear but after seeing consultant at booking in visit found out it was a 2nd degree and he seemed unconcerned about a normal delivery so heres hoping!!

I will be finishing up work between end of June and middle of July depending on how i feel.I am a registered childminder so i am entitled to 26 weeks with mat alowance pay so fully intend to take it before getting back into the daily grind of work.Can't wait to give up and spend some time with my boys and dd before baby arrives.Both my mindees families want to come back after baby arrives but i can't acommodate both so i have tough choices to make.

It's only 3 weeks till my week away on holiday and i'm panicking as i have bought clothes etc for everyone else and i really need to start on myself.

Anyway take care ladies and good luck to anyone needing it for scans etc.

Hi All, you can't miss a day can you? it takes too long to catch up!

I took a tumble down my sisters stairs last week on a day off and then have been too busy in work to catch up. Scared myself stupid falling down the stairs. We are both fine but I had a lot of cramps later that evening and went into panic mode, just wind I think and everything is just fine. Didn't help the siatica and SPD though!

Anyway wont go on am fine. Scan tomorrow to check everything ok and will check in after that to tell you what we are having, I hope!

I find a pillow between my knees at night helps wonders with the SPD by the way.

Love to all

Good luck for your scan xxx Glad you are okay after your fall - must have been scary.

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Evening ladies (you chatty lot )

A big welcome to nicoloola and congratulations on your girl. ((xx))

Good luck to you all having scans and hope yours went OK entropy. ((xx))

Workwise-I am hoping to cut down from 2 days to 1 but don't know quite how to break the news to my manager. DD2 will be looked after by parents and in-laws like DD1 is and if one has the baby for one day it is only fair that the other does so may as well be at work that day. Could alternate weeks I suppose but then MIL would not see the baby for 2 weeks as I am certainly not visiting like I did with DD. It was pure hell every Monday afternoon, especially when she dug out SIL's clothes for DD to wear-uuurrrggghhhh!!!!!

Please can I have a rant???.......

Went out for a meal on Saturday night with the in-laws from hell (Mafia) for MIL's birthday and we just got sat down when FIL started on me. DD has told him she is having a baby sister called Sophie. He didn't want to know the sex as I have said before so a total result for me but they laid into me about ever telling DD in the first place what we were having. MIL said I bet your mother didn't tell your brother she was expecting a girl (me) and I said that they didn't have scans in those days. Exactly she said so I sarcasticly said but that was 1920 something and is now 2006. Oooh, black looks or what! Tried to say it was our baby and our business but as usual she switched off. Grrrrrhhhhh!!! Later FIL said let DD have a run around the restaurant. Nooooooooo I said which didn't go down well. Back at their house FIL got out a Christmas DVD (I have the same one but put it away as is not Christmas and have spent 3 months explaining why she can't have it on so as not to confuse her) but he totally ignored me and put it on and asked DD if she was confused. She is 2 1/2 and wouldn't know if she was confused or not!!!!!!! Finally, DD was in their kitchen and started the annoying screaming so I shouted through to DD to stop that so he slammed the door shut. I was so miffed off with it all and DH never said a word the whole time. They really made my life a misery before and when DD was born with their critiscising and controlling behaviour and I was so determined to be stronger this time (have even written out the birth announcement for the Telegraph to stop MIL doing it) but the controlling has started already. Am a bit scared of speaking my mind so what I say comes out sounding rude. (They have told DH in the past that I am rude).

Thank you for letting me get this off my chest-you girls are so lovely.

Off to get some tea ready and don't want to bore you any more.

Love and hugs to all.

((xx))

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