Due in March 2013

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Thanks Fidget. Have decided to give myself a good talking to, hubby is out so I am sat at home doing some work CPD stuff, looking up local antenatal classes and looking at ASOS maternity ;-)
ThreeforTea I know EXACTLY what you mean about boobs, think mine already look colossal and none of my blinking bras fit, worried I will look like Jordan by end of preg! Not sure when I should give up and buy maternity bras - feels far too early but I am really uncomfortable!

Just to add to the voices of support re: not knowing anyone local. We moved to this village 2 years before DS was born and I didn't know anyone really. I commuted to work and we were half an hour away from our home town where my family are (DH is an only child and his parents are no longer alive). When we had DS though, everything changed. I started going to a breastfeeding group with him and made friends with some of the mums there, who then told me about a great toddler group in the village. So I started going to that and have since made some fantastic friends. We meet up all the time and go out on nights out regularly, too. You'll be fine

hitchin can't bring myself to ditch the underwire yet either!

Really do agree that lots of people will be in the same boat when having their first, or if they don't know anyone. It can be quite scary making the first move, ab bit like when you're looking for a 'someone' when you're single! Most people are friendly and glad to be approached I think though but some days are definitely easier to be confident on though than others.

Evening all! My friends have just left after my party (which did include a cheese and pineapple hedgehog!) and I have had a lovely time chatting to my friend who's just had her first, and of course had lots of newborn cuddles! I am SO excited about having a newborn again - I LOVE it!

I also agree that making new friends is nervey. My DH and I had been living in our area for 4 yrs before DS was born and knew no one, but then I joined a pg yoga class and have a good network of friends and two really good friends to boot! We've just moved to a new area, not too far, but no longer walking distance to these friends, so I'll have to start all over again, but I'm more excited about that now than scared. I am quite a shy person normally, but being pregnant and having a baby has really brought me out of my shell and I have even found myself initiating conversations with total strangers completely unheard of for me! I'm sure you will be fine.

My friend has just returned my day by day pregnancy book, so I'm going to tuck myself up in bed and indulge myself in catching up with the last 5weeks that I've missed!

I echo what others have said about meeting people with a baby. It can be really easy, as long as you have a bit of confidence to make the first move! When I had DD I moved to a new town 2 weeks before she was born and didn't know anyone. Was petrified, but determined to make friends. I was too late for NCT antenatal classes, so missed out on that avenue, but when DD was born, I just took myself to every baby group, class, coffee morning I could find. Sometimes I would just see a mummy with a new baby in a cafe and ask to join. Once or twice it maybe back fired, but most of the time it was a big success because other new mums are just as desperate for some social interaction!
My best mummy friend I made in a lift on a tour of the local birthing suite! It just takes a bit of guts to say "Hi! Looks like we're about to go through the same thing!"

Thanks ThreeforTea, I feel a lot better about the brown spotting. It just seems to be so common these early weeks, so am not worrying too much about it anymore. Plus it seems to have stopped for now!

Hope everyone has a nice Sunday!

Hi all, just needed to urge those feeling nauseous to eat through it. It really works. Woke up this morning with horrific waves. Forced two slices of brown toast with a little honey down me (literally, forced it down) and feel much improved. Worked last time too, I had crackers by my bed

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Morning!

Yes agree with everyone else on the subject of meeting people with babies - I had a similar experience to jessi - didn't do NCT, then moved to the other end of the country when DD was 4 months (just as I'd started to chat to people at baby group) - then moved back again when DD was 11 months. Twas a year from hell!! On the plus side I have got quite good at approaching people at toddler groups etc - agree, other people are desperate to chat too!!

I am still fairly symptom free, can't remember when I started feeling pukey last time. I am feeling dizzy when I stand up though, I had that last time.

I am dying to tell people - especially because DD is over 2 and certain people regularly ask me when I'm having another - grrrrr!

Hello everyone, nausea has well and truly hit here!

I'm in a bit of a sticky situation and would be grateful for some thoughts. I've just been offered a promotion at work, which means effectively changing jobs and teams completely. While I'm really excited, I also feel horribly guilty and at a total loss as to how to have this conversation. We weren't trying and as such this has all come out of the blue, but to the outside world that will never wash. I'm in my early thirties and have a 20mo - really, I'm exactly the group to be ttc a second.

So I just don't know when or how to have the conversation. I'm also very nervous because a colleague who is also in the first trimester had to discuss her pregnancy with a couple of others for various reasons - and now the world and his bloody dog know . I would be livid if this happened to me, especially at only 6 weeks.

Any thoughts?

Morning all

Sorry tinkerbella I missed your post - welcome on board :)

Extremely pleased to hear of the cheese & pineapple hedgehog, parties are not complete without one. Did you put foil around the potato??

chief my honest advice would be to not tell them you are pregnant. You aren't obliged to & it most probably would impact upon your promotion in some way. As you say, news travels too. You have a good 5-6 weeks pre-scan to secure your promotion & can tell them I'm your time after then. Sorry got brief reply but this is my instinct.

Got to go & get out of pjs (!) before DS wakes. Happy Sunday chaps.

chief.. Firstly, congratulations on being offered the promotion. well done you! I entirely echo tiddley, you really don't need to tell them. If you want it, go for it, and they will work a mat leave into the new job. That is what HR depts are for! You are doing nothing wrong and as you say it is hardly "woman has 2nd baby in thirties .. Shock!". If in any doubt, speak to an employment lawyer. It may cost you a bit of cash but at least it will put your mind at rest.

pips happy birthday and hope you had a food party! Did you have a good sniff of the newborn? Don't they smell wonderful?!

Hi to all the newbies too. Lovely to see so many people here and be able to talk about being pregnant!!

5 weeks today! And counting. I wish I could see what is going on in there and that everything is OK!

Food party hah ha .. I did of course mean good party. iPads don't ya love em!

I did have a good party thanks ted (and there was lots of food too!) and of course we foiled wrapped our melon to stick them in - not 70s enought without foil! Newborn was lovely! I never really got the head smelling thing, even when DS was born, but when I smelt it yesterday, all those memories came flooding back and now I am definitely a head sniffer!

I'm in a bit of a tizz this morning ladies and was wondering if anyone has any better experience than me and can offer advice? As I've said before, I had a mmc in April and although we all know that it happens for a reason etc etc, there were a couple of things going on at that crucial 5-6week stage when 'she' died. My main concern is the dreadful diarrhoea and vomiting I had. I have read that it might be a cause if it happens at the wrong time. This morning, i'm 5+1 and I've woken up with it again, although not been sick I have been to the toilet 4 times already. I'm trying to keep hydrated and force some food down me (I've managed a whole apple so far), but I'm also panicking a bit. Last time DH was ill too, but this time it's just me. Could it just be a coincidence, or is my body rejecting babies all of a sudden :(

Sorry for the me me me post, but any thoughts would be appreciated.

pipsicles - no idea I'm afraid but I would ring the early pregnancy unit at your local hospital - I'm sure they will be happy to speak to you. Hope you feel better soon

chief if you think long term do you see yourself going back to work after this one? If you do then I think that you need to do anything you can to secure a promotion/job security now because it will just be so much harder later on probably. Even if you're not sure don't short change yourself because if you are good at what you do then it is worth it both for them and for you to invest in training you and keeping you through a relatively short period of mat leave

Pipsicles, sorry you're having a stressful time. Keep yourself hydrated, rest, and give the EPU people a ring if you're still worried tomorrow. It's certainly unrelated to your pregnancy. Look after yourself.

Three, yes I have every intention of going back to work again. I'm on a graduate training scheme and my employer has invested a lot in getting me to this point. I also firmly believe I will not be penalised but at the same time, the new team is only human. I don't want to start off with bad feeling.

Afternoon all! Just got my BFP so would love to come and join you (EDD of about 16th March). This will be DC3 for us (we already have 2 DDs aged 3 and 2). DH is currently in a state of denial so I won't get to talk to him about this too much yet until he's had time to digest the news. I've been wanting DC3 since about 3 hours after DD2 was born though over the past few weeks had started to convince myself that actually life with the 2DDs was just about perfect so now I'm all flustered about what this will mean for us (and also thinking about all the alcohol I've drunk over the past few weeks and complete lack of folic acid )
We've moved since having the girls so I will now have to get to grips with a different set of midwives/different hospital etc. I had a retained placenta after DD2 and ended up in theatre having a general anaesthetic and blood transfusion so was told that I now count as a high risk labour so can't have a homebirth or go to a midwife led unit.
Anyway, off to add my stats to the other thread and here's to an uneventful next 9 months!

Hi carik, congratulations on your third bfp! Bet your DH is just worried he'll be overrun if you have another dd - the remote controlled by women... :o

pips poor you, what a worrying time after a mmc . As chief says, keep drinking water & get lots of rest. It doesn't sound as severe as your bug last time, and pregnancy can make you 'go' more - it certainly is the case for me! Try not to worry or compare, though that is easy to say.

My uber sensitive nose is not helping nausea. Seriously upset by nappy changes - I keep having to hand him over to DH (drat) as the smell makes me heave!

Currently watching the Murray/Federer match, being clambered over by DS.

Hi everyone and big welcome to Carikube

I know what you mean about the booze and folic acid - we were trying, but I was still drinking and wasn't taking FA as I thought I'd get round to it later.....didn't think I would fall straight away . I'm trying to be a lot more relaxed this time and not worry about all these little things, but it's still at the back of my mind.

pipsicles - happy birthday, sorry to hear that you're not feeling well, hope you are feeling a bit better now? I'm sorry I don't have any practical advice, but I'm sure if you try to speak to GP in the morning they might be able to reassure you. Or perhaps post in pregnancy or general health in case anyone out there has had similar?

bbface - glad the forcing food down is working for you - I had really bad sickness last time and it just didn't do the trick - just made the vomiting more plentiful . I'm hoping that it will be different this time.......

chief - Congratulations on the promo! Can you accept the promotion and then move teams etc before announcing your pg? Sorry, I'm not sure what line of work you are in - do you need to discuss the pg with them just now, or can you wait? I understand that you feel guilty etc, but once you are in the job, there is nothing that they can do, and whether you did or did not plan it really isn't of any concern to them. Sorry, I know that sounds really harsh, but from what you've said about the other lady, I really don't think you want to be telling them yet!

Ooh and welcome to tinkerbella !

Hi all and a big hello to the new recruits (thanks also for the welcomes (esp tiddly ))

Chief, I just wanted to add my congrats on the promotion front. You clearly deserve it and shouldn't miss out because you're pregnant. I really struggle with the not telling people at work. I think this sort of contributes to becoming a wee bit introspective/antisocial at this stage since I sort of feel like I'm lying to people by not telling. On the flip side, I have never thought this way about colleagues when they've announced their pregnant after the three month scan. There is no legal or otherwise reason for you to tell anyone at this stage so I would probably keep quiet.

We've just booked in for a private scan when I'll be around 7 weeks (all being well, touch wood etc) so I'm not going to mention it to my 'bosses' until we've reached that point at the absolute earliest but ideally I'll hold off longer. I'm seeing my parents a week before then so think we'll tell them then (and the in laws in the interests of fairness), siblings after the private scan then rest of world after official scan (subject to needing to tell work to avoid ridiculous long hours)!

Better go since the DD is just waking from her (uncharacteristically) epic nap.

P.s. I piled on over five stone with my first pregnancy since I found eating (esp carbs and, ahem, esp almond croissants) the only and best way to keep the sickness at bay at the start (and then I rather developed a taste for it...). It took over a year sadly to get back to pre preg weight last time though (combo of breast feeding and a daughter who only napped when we were on the move, at pace). I'm going to try and be a bit more restrained this time but these initial weeks I think it's a case of needs must...

Hello lovely ladies, mind me joining you? :-) I got my looong awaited bfp on friday, DF and I have been ttc for 19 months! It was the typical 'the minute you stop trying you'll catch' that happened, not that I'm complaining! Still in shock and am terrified about things going wrong, but taking each day as it comes. My edd is 14th march.

Congratulations to everyone on their bfps too! X

Thanks mrsbradley! It looks like i've been granted another reprieve with the DD resettling...

I just wanted to take the chance to echo that it's been fab reading through this thread and everyone else's experiences. You do all seem lovely. I'm unlikely to be able to post much during the week but will be catching up as often as possible and hope you all stay well.

Tinkerbella - that is a good idea re the private scan. I might look into one as there is a place that does it very close by, and ideally it would be nice to have one before telling parents like you said. Did you have a private scan last time? Is 7 weeks about the earliest you can have them?

I put on 3 stone last time I was pregnant, but a stone of that was baby/waters/placenta etc, and then a further stone came off in the first 2 weeks. I never did get the extra stone off - in fact I added another one to it for good measure! So I am really trying not to put too much on this time - might be easier said than done though as all I am craving is junk food.....

Mmm, almond croissants... :o

Completely agree about the introspection as an effect of not bring able to tell people. I haven't been a great mate of late (what a rhyme) as I have holed myself up till I have something to announce (after scan) & feel less crap! Envious of the early scan, how lovely to get some early reassurance.

Welcome strawbs - and wow congratulations! You must be over the moon :)

Welcome Strawbs !