Due in August Thread... Part Five!

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Congratulations again to poppy, here's to the rest of us still with increasingly big bumps or of your choice!

Bring on the final trimester in all it's glory!

west just had to say I help dh lay carpet in ds's room when I was 38 weeks! Not the easiest! I got thrown out of the room in the end for not being very helpful and also cos dh was already in a mood as I said we had better get it done before baby arrives! He soon looked sheepish when lo was born 3 days later!

Took ds to indoor play yesterday as he was driving us mad and I still felt unwell! Instead he drove us mad round morrisons today! Can say am defo not look forward to looking after the ebay business with him in tow tmw and 40 odd parcels to kart to the post office!!

Oh and glad you are feeling a bit better woops

DP really peeing me off today. I'm usually v reasonable and haven't been particularly emotional whilst pg but I just snapped at the lack of organising anything and leaving it to me. Happy to get on with baby stuff but we're having work done at the house which is good but quite stressful/messy and always throws up other issues. It's just as easy for him to phone/email the myriad of builders and coordinate things so why doesn't he??!! Huff. This is what happens when you're capable, lesson there somewhere.....

Sorry about that, rant over. If only all DPs were nice and organised with lists like the M-netters :)

Lois, breathe in, breathe out.

Actually you've hit the nail on the head there. I hope you don't mind but I read your post out to my DH. We are in a similar situation: just decorated nursery, have guests in two weeks, work starts on kitchen in two weeks, fathers day the day before, everything is in a mess and we are stressed. I have just sorted out baby stuff whilst DH is SORTING OUT the STATIONARY draw. (I know).

This whole baby preparation thing is so so stressful...

My advice; throw a tantrum, cry, have a cuddle, a cup of tea. Then get back on with it and think positively. For example, by the end of today I will have a wonderfully sorted stationary draw... which is one less thing to keep me awake at night!

I get you ham That "oh, look! A BABY!" thing is just

By the way, that was also MIL point of view. she wants to see "THE BABY". apparently missing a few days of "THE BABY"'s life is unforgivable. Don't I get it? ? Whatever. Forget about mum who has to take care of baby or dad, her own son, who has to take care of mum.

You'd think she never had children... I want to think she has forgotten how tiring it was.

I know where I stand and I am very willing to say "tough". My mum is my dh's MIL and I am very happy she isn't putting him through emotional turmoil...

Sound advice westcountry :). I'm considering a mini strike as well which has cheered me up just thinking about it (15 yrs on and still no idea who he's dealing with!)

Have decided not to get stressed and doesn't matter if the house is a tip; just need to prioritize the important stuff. Done some research for cleaners to come once building works over so I'll cost that and present to DP :)

lois West Similar situation here...
DP is fretting about where the BOOKS go and I think the priority should be where does the BABY go!! (He uses the spare room to work, from so baby will have a corner in our room, I want to get the corner ready and make it as pretty and nursery like as I can.)

On a brighter note MIL and PIL bought us a Bugaboo Pram yesterday, so kind of them!

xxx

Having a bad day, woke up excited we had painted Nursery over weekend and carpet was being fitted at 9.30 then phone call carpet ruined they couldn't fit got to re-order, then thought oh well will build furniture and its missing bits and has huge scratches on, so has to all go back!! back to square one, real feel like crying and that's not normally me!! Everyone one keeps saying don't stress you have ages left, 9 and a bit weeks!! but all baby things at my moms as we have no room and haven't a clue what I need to get as all in bags in her spare room had planned my day off tomorrow putting it all in the draws and getting organised will be weeks before it can be ordered and delivered again!! arhhhhhhh!!!!

Eighties, join me and Lois in the stressing, your DH seems to prioritise in the same way as mine. We had a very tidy stationary draw (until I decided to stuff lots more things in it to get them out of the way)!

...one too too cute moment though. We have a chest of draws that DH has had forever. It's quite a nice 60's/70's one. We've cleared it out and cleaned it up. We were cleaning the drawers and I noticed the drawer liners had pictures of lions/elephants/owls. Turns out he has had it since being a baby and the drawer liners date back to then. ...he's 43 now! So so cute, and now our little boy will use them. I crumbled a little bit...

..sorry meant Welsh's DH is like mine. Books... Tsk...

Hola all,

Love reading this thread and makes me feel better that my DH too hasn't done much in the way of sorting out. He will do. Just not yet, apparently . Have DMum here today for the day which has been nice as we've chilled out, watched some Jubilee stuff and are currently waiting for some chinese food after watching Gok cooking yummy food! Hope it doesn't come back to haunt me later...

Was chatting to my mum today about MIL and having yet another moan!! Am determined not to get stressed about it, but I now always have the worst case senario in mid with her .

Was meant to have had a MW appointment today, but they cocked up, so it's tomorrow instead. Really don't have that much confidence sometimes in their organisation, as I don't feel they've told me much, I still dont' know when my classes are, I don't have a birth plan and as a first time mum, feel rather under-prepared at this stage. Which I'm worried about. Think I may sign up for some Lazy Daisy classes near my parents' house which will involve staying over with them once a week for a bit, but would like some extra support and they do sound good. I suspect I'm a tad high maintance because of past surgeries etc, but there's bugger all in the Borders and it stresses me a bit.

Anyhoo, am going to crack on with nursery etc tomorrow and hope you're all ok tonight. Any news from Imissminipop? How are you all doing?

At least you don't have varicose vulva I'm crying. I feel like an old woman. I'm 24 and I have varicose veins down there So frigging embarrassing.

Solidarity on the pushy people geekette Funny how it's all the MILs that are causing problems not the Mums... they probably get paranoid because its not their daughter having the baby so they have less control, ends up just creating more problems though and widening the gap!

Laughing out loud at your DH with the stationery drawer west, read that out to DH and he nodded approvingly ha! Don't know if you watch the mighty boosh but if you do all I'm saying is... stationery village

Sorry everything is going so stressfully lois and eighties :( hopefully tomorrow will be better for getting stuff done...

Oh no frilly pregnancy is so so so not glamerous is it? :( chin up though, not too long and all the horrible body stuff will be done and you will be getting back to normal with a perfect baby to boot!!

So we don't have a nursery and I'm forever being jealous of you who have them, even if they aren't ready just yet! But this evening DH and I put the chest of drawers/changing table into our bedroom and made the "baby area" so combining this:
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with the moses basket and stand at the other end of the room and the potential of a co-sleeping cot being lent I feel like we are finally getting somewhere. I've kind of taken back the flat despite it still being on the market, if it sells sometime then super if not I don't care, this will be baby's first pad! Just the cat nursery to sort out on saturday and getting back all our crap from the storage, joy of joys.

Oh also have 3d scan on saturday so YAY!

Ham, he actually physically checked the pens work...! Had to keep very quiet about it, choosing my battles. Love the Mighty Boosh!

Frilly... Oh no! From what I've read about varicose veins they are meant to disappear after birth, so it's not permanent. However, I do feel for you.

Oh please post pics of the 3d scan ham

52 days til my c/s...

Can't remember who was moving house in August but good luck! We may be in the same position... not sure if it is best to move pre baby (but have a much further trip to hospital where I'll be for a couple of days) or to wait and move after (but worried that could be a 'mare with 19mo, newborn and post c/s)...

Welcome to the two new ladies

Interesting points on in laws - mine are ok as are my own parents but both dm and dmil can be over bearing... have had issues with mil post dd as she would literally grab dd out of my arms etc. ignore me if I said dd was warm enough (and start to swaddle her) or vice versa etc etc. Hasn't changed as both "dm" and "dmil" will start to feed dd things without checking with me first, dress her up in things they've bought (random stuff as if she is a doll there for their entertainment) etc I guess it just bothers me less now as I have to pick my battles lol!

I'm not sure it gets much easier as the babies grow either. This weekend, for example, sat - we had a wedding, sun day to ourselves by the river, mon in laws during day then wedding, today my parents. Last weekend - in laws, week before that? my parents. Sooooo in laws and my parents get to see dd every other week in person and every week on skype... doesn't sound like a lot but means dh and I rarely get a weekend completely to ourselves. WHen dd was first born in laws and my parents were round every other day which is tough when you're trying to recover from 3rd dg tear and bf... oh and not sleeping. We do try and balance time with both sets of grandparents tho so they have "equal" viewing of dd. Extended family is a big part of our lives but that is also pretty common is South Asian culture...

Sorry super long post!

ham nice to see that pic, I'm also making a 'baby corner' in our bedroom, so far i have a string of bunting, that's it! I might get a little rug too.

Hi everyone,

Ham Lovely nursery corner, makes you feel so much better when something little is sorted :) We just have a corner in our room for baby aswell for the first few months. The cot is up and very eager to get the baby bedding put on but waiting a few more weeks yet.
eighties Hope things are better today for you same for you lois
66 days to go and I can tell dp is getting a little more nervous now with things that need doing etc I keep saying only 9 more weekends to paint the ceiling and kitchen im sure he will though, hopefully soon :)
Had a terrible night sleep last night felt very sick and had a horrible pain on the left side of bump for a while, woke up at 5am with dp and now feel rubbish :( hoping to just relax today and maybe take ds to park as dont want him getting fed up.

Hope everyone has a better day today :)

At least you'll not have that annoying thing where you grab pen after pen to write something dictated through the phone and all the pens are empty west

Will definately put up pics of the scan ishop ... sounds really annoying your MIL and Mum grabbing your DD out your arms!! Watching out for that one...

Yay for baby corners, show us your pictures too when they are done welsh and 3bears. Sorry you had a bad night 3bears maybe you and DS can take a joint nap if he is nap inclined!

I'm getting carted off to loch lomond today by my Dad. A week or two back when we all seemed in that totally emotional fed up rut stage I was moaning to my Mum who in turn made my Dad take me out to perk me up and he's still at it. It's pretty sweet but it's pissing down here so I hope I don't fall down the bonny bonny banks

Hope you enjoy your days out 3bears and ham.

I successfully managed to get up this morning; went to bed last night with an awful feeling that I'd sleep in since I haven't had to get up at normal work time for 4 days! So glad it's a short week with hopefully not too much to catch up on since most other people will have been off for bank holiday too. After this one it's 3 more full weeks of work plus a holiday in the middle

Morning everyone!

Apologies in advance but this is just going to be a moan... Feeling awful today really queasy and upset stomach. I've been extrememly lucky so far and didn't get any morning sickness etc in the first trimester but the way I'm feeling now is how I would imagine morning sickness would have felt. Does anyone know if it's possible/normal to suddenly develop this when I've escaped it completely up until this point?

Hope everyone else is okay today!

Seems like a few people are finding this, but I've started feeling quite sick again too! No reason for it but I guess that's pregnancy!

Well, DH and I are off work this week so we are going to start on painting the nursery So excited!!

So much sickness around, hoping you all feel better soon

Very of everyone sorting their nurseries etc out! Can't get started til we know where we'll be living...

V sweet of your parents ham hope the weather brightens!

Hi everyone, been away from the computer the last few days but not strayed far... i.e. the TV and the sofa mainly! Ooo yes, the MILs, ahhh to them, I have now made a rule never to ask for advice from mine, that way I can't get wound up and we can do it our way with the mw's, friends and your advice etc, phew, great decision!

Yes to the sickness too. Although I realised that taking my vitamin tablets in the morning may have been contributing to it and so have started to taking them at dinner, plus the ol' marmite, toast and OJ is back on the brekkie table curbing the nausea.
oo yes 3bears to the not sleeping, waking up at 3.30 and then not getting anymore until 6 but amazingly not feeling too rubbish I guess.

Sorry ishop, don't want to make you more . We've got a week off too and DH is painting our soon to be nursery. The ceiling fell down a few weeks ago and so just had a decorator in to sort that before DH starts the easier job of painting it.

I've just ordered some fabric offcuts from ebay to make a patchwork quilt. I remember making one at school and so this will be either fun or a struggle. I can see the next few months having a few more moments on the sofa as I'm walking like a geriatric penguin (already!). Anyone else finding it harder to get around?

Hope you have a good day ham with your dad and to everyone too

Yes to the sickness! I've had to make a few emergency dashes to the loo in work already this morning 'just in case'. Think I'll get some bread rolls to keep in my desk as plain carbs seem to settle my stomach.

If it makes you feel better ishop we haven't started the nursery yet! It's become apparent that 90% of the walls in our house are covered in lining paper which we haven't known about until it starts bubbling and peeling when we paint over it. Going to try and investigate this room to see if it's the same and getting prepared for it to be a potentially bigger job than we thought if we need to strip the paper and replaster depending on the state of the walls! Better get cracking...

If if makes anyone feel any better about lack of nursery, our house buying is not going through very quickly, so we now need to find somewhere to rent, as we can't bring MiniPop back here. It's too mouldy and damp :(

So stressful!

Does anyone have a flat to rent in London by any chance? :o

MiniPop is doing ok so far, he's up to 3.3lb now, so just over the 1.5kg mark. He's got a brain scan this week so fingers crossed that it's all ok and doesn't uncover anything wrong.

I am still recovering from c-section, in such a huge amount of discomfort, but am trying to get mobile and do stuff although I can really feel it when I do too much, and end up dropping off to sleep in random places.

Expressing milk is also a trauma as my boobs aren't working properly still, takes ages and literally get drops. Lack of sleep isn't helping. Sheesh, moan over :o

xxx