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DesperateHousewife21 · 27/04/2012 08:13

The issue about pineapple juice? Mine is orange and pineapple and I've looked on the carton and it says pineapple juice from concentrate, does that make it ok to drink??

Elizadoesdolittle · 27/04/2012 08:17

nebbo that's fantastic, and yes, you are now officially in the second trimester. Congratulations. Smile

Re DH being at the birth. My DD came too quickly so he missed it. He came home from work as soon as i called him but he didnt make it in time. I didn't really have a chance to worry about whether he was with me or not and the midwife was fantastic. Hoping he will make this ones birth but if he doesn't I know I will be ok. Would be nice to have him there though. This time i will be more aware that quick labours can happen. I was expecting a 24hr marathon!

goldene · 27/04/2012 08:36

Nebbo, why do they want to deliver them so early? Good news on the scan!

Detective we did hypnobirthing last time, it was SO helpful. Have you seen it in women you've attended.

applepieinthesky · 27/04/2012 09:14

nebbo will they be delivered closer to the beginning of October then?

I?ve got a professional doppler on its way to me. I?ve hired it for a month so if I can?t find a heartbeat (which I?m half expecting) then I?ll just post it back and not stress about it. If I do find it then it?s a bonus.

Chunkychicken · 27/04/2012 09:24

DH was there with me for DDs birth & apart from me telling him that under no circumstances was he to go down the 'business end' & have a good old look, he was great. He was the only person I would trust to physically support me & I wanted him to witness the birth of our baby, & be one of the first to hold him/her. As I had stitches, he had a really good time with her while I was cared for. It def did not put him off!!!

On a different note, my nausea is back. Cue lots of dry heaves & retching all morning. Really didn't make the most of the reprieve...

Good news Nebbo. :)

Chunkychicken · 27/04/2012 09:39

DH21 that's fine I'm sure.

Stuntnun · 27/04/2012 09:52

DH21 if it's long life, i.e. wasn't in the fridge when you bought it, then it has been pasteurised so it's fine. If it's fresh then you may want to give it a miss.

My DH is going to be well primed to be my birth partner. My mum would be a nightmare even though she's a midwife because she would just interfere all the time. I don't think she would cope well with seeing her baby, i.e. me, in pain.

Last time DH was instructed not to go anywhere near the business end. I mainly concentrated on trying to break his hand so I think I'll get a stress ball this time. With DS2 they asked DH if he wanted to cut the cord and he was appalled! He said he'd rather leave that to a medical professional.

I'm annoyed today because I was supposed to be having my scan but dratted DH is away on business so I have to wait two weeks Angry and try and hide my ever burgeoning bump.

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FruitSaladIsNotPudding · 27/04/2012 10:12

That baby name tool is amazing! I had used the american one but it isn't much good for uk names. Have already discounted one of my names because of it - I'll avoid anything that has a sharp upwards line.

I can kind of see Micheal Odent's point. Although dh was very supportive during dd's birth, he was clearly also terrified. This time, he is going to be there because he wants to, but I am going to hire a doula for me.

daisychain76 · 27/04/2012 10:42

Interesting article. I had DH there when having DS and found it reassuring during the labour, he was very calm and I think that helped me (he was mainly in charge of music selection and getting me drinks of water).

For DD he didn't get there in time, so it was just me and the MW, but actually I found that fine - to busy to really notice! This time round, I would like the company if its a long labour, but don't really mind if he's there for the birth bit or not - its his choice (tho I am sure he will choose to be there).

everso that baby name tool is really cool - found out my DD is one of only 29 with the same name from the year she was born. I really like Harry for a boy, but now I know exactly how many others are using that name, its put me off a bit.

nebbo · 27/04/2012 10:50

Thanks girls.
Re. Delivery, the policy at our hospital follows nice guides in which they deliver twins at 36 weeks if they share a placenta. I am going to discuss it further with the docs when I see them but I'm prepping for that. I'm pretty sure it's because of twin to twin transfusion where one takes more but that wasn't clear on the guide although looking through my books I can't find another reason.

FruitSaladIsNotPudding · 27/04/2012 11:22

Daisychain - was your dh gutted to miss the birth? We're planning a home birth, but dh will have to drive dd to my parents, so will be out for 2 hours, so there's a chance he will miss it. Think he would be very disappointed!

daisychain76 · 27/04/2012 11:49

To be honest, fruitsalad I don't think he was particularly upset. He saw her when she was 5/10 minutes old and had a good cuddle. At the end of the day, the birth is only the start and I reckon it's how much involvement husbands/partners have in the first days/weeks/months overall that really determines how they bond with the baby.

FruitSaladIsNotPudding · 27/04/2012 11:59

I totally agree - it's just my dh who thinks the actual birth is so important. Fair enough, but it's harder this time because he's going to have to be responsible for sorting out dd!

DesperateHousewife21 · 27/04/2012 12:07

I'm still in two minds about a home birth, they're opening a low risk mw centre within the hospital I was going to go to from June so I think that's prob the best option.
A home birth would be great but I just wish I knew if it was all going to go straightforward. Depends how quick this one will be though, ds was 7 hours.

I know I've got ages to decide but I think I'll still be in two minds in nov!

FruitSaladIsNotPudding · 27/04/2012 12:10

I was thinking about the mw unit, but I spoke to the midwife about it at booking in, and she said I may as well have the baby at home, it would be miles easier for me. And I think she's right really. 10 mins door to door to hospital anyway, so I'm not worried.

Stuntnun · 27/04/2012 13:29

I like the idea of being near the doctors and emergency equipment and drugs. I can't imagine having a home birth with the kids' friends calling for them at the door, and the dog and cat wandering into the room and the neighbours complaining because their children are upset by the swearing and screaming. Deffo hospital birth for me!

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FruitSaladIsNotPudding · 27/04/2012 13:38

I actually think one of the most important things is that you are in an environment where you feel safe and can relax. I totally get that for some people, that is hospital, but I'm the opposite, I found hospital a bit threatening last time ( I hated the docs coming in and out etc), but for others that might be reassuring.

Stuntnun · 27/04/2012 13:51

I think the hospital environment can be stressful which can make your labour longer and more likely to require intervention. During DS1's birth there were complications that he would not have survived if I hadn't been in hospital HOWEVER I think it's likely that at least some of the complications were directly brought about by chronic mishandling of the birth. It's very much a matter for personal choice and may depend on how close you live to a hospital. Also you may opt for a home birth but not be able to have one if you are at risk, e.g. meconium in the waters.

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goldene · 27/04/2012 14:27

I had that with my girl - meconium in the waters - but she was born just a few minutes after the waters broke. EMTs were on the scene but she was OK; they gave us the choice of going to hospital if we wanted or staying at home - we stayed. Doc came out to look at her that night and the following morning.

I have a complication in that we had planned to move to Sweden this summer. They don't do homebirth there, very irritatingly, and I don't fancy the challenge of a whole new system of maternity care in addition to moving everything when heavily pregnant. But heigh-ho.

Chunkychicken · 27/04/2012 14:37

I have no problem with hospitals at all and was quite happy to decide at the last minute about a MW-led unit or delivery suite birth, as both are in the same location in the hospital, just across the corridor from each other.

However, after being sent home at 1cm dilated then going back less than 2hrs later at 9cm, with my waters having gone at home, and being 'rushed' back to the delivery suite, and DD being born just 2hrs and 20mins later, I really don't want that stress again. I think the panic and the worry about getting back there slowed things down (as did the gas and air - I wasn't using it right and it really should have been just about the pushing at that point, but hey, you live and learn!). I really can't face the thought of having to argue about being admitted again this time, as I definitely WON'T go home, I'd rather walk the corridors, or the stress of wondering if the unit is full or whether they'll have time for a water birth etc etc especially as it could be an even quicker labour, so a home birth is really appealling.

I mean, the hospital is 10mins up the road, maybe 15mins from where we're moving to (although not sure I want DH to do the same high-speed pursuit type journey there again either!!) so we're not that far away, so can always change my mind. It just bothers me that people are actually being turned away from the hospital because they're full and a friend had her baby in the maternity 'triage' room, rather than a proper delivery room, because they were full and she refused to leave!!

I guess I'll worry about this closer to the time though... At least my parents, sister and in-laws are all really close to our new house, so it will take no time at all to take DD there and get her looked after when the time comes.

Onamission28 · 27/04/2012 15:16

Hello ladies. I haven't actually posted since all the way back in February when I got my positive as I had a bit of a bleed midway which made me nervous. Though I had been lurking and following everyone's news. So sorry to all that have had bad news and hope you are all keeping well.

Anyhow, I have had my 12 week scan early this morning. Took a lot longer than it should have baby just wouldn't move for the sonographer to do her measurements. Seems he/she is as stubborn as mummy! After a while of trying lots of different positions, I was asked to go and have breakfast and come back. Had a hot chocolate and breakfast bar and lo and behold baby was a lot more cooperative! I haven't got a good picture as he/she was so active (sonographers words) and wouldn't sit still. Still was amazing to hear the heartbeat and see the little one on screen.

I am a bit confused as the notes we were given state that I am 12+2, whereas I went in thinking I was 11+5 (was dated at a scan at 7 weeks post bleed). My LMP was 2/2/12. I ovulated according to clearblue digital on the 16th Feb but got a positive on the 17th also. If anyone is good with dates and calculations and can shed some light on how far along I am I'd be very grateful. Not that it matters much but just want to know when I will have passed the first trimester for peace of mind. I can't go by online due date calculators as I have not often had a 28 day cycle.

After an entire month of not posting here i am writing an essay. Glad to finally join you ladies properly.

ValiumQueen · 27/04/2012 15:57

Go by the dates they gave you today - it is not an exact science anyway as babies arrive when they decide. The hospital will work around the dates they gave today. As for peace of mind, have some now as you are passed the most risky time and all is looking well.

I am on my phone so cannot update list - we have more smilies to add!

DesperateHousewife21 · 27/04/2012 16:31

Oooh lovely new maternity skinny jeans from Dorothy Perkins in the sale £15 v comfy!
A lady in there saw me browsing and said they were the comfiest she's ever had and wore them all the way through. They dont feel as thick as jeans they're softer, these are my new best friend.

Onamission28 · 27/04/2012 16:32

Thanks ValiumQueen you're right of course. Think I needed someone else to say it out aloud and reassure me. First baby and totally clueless!

I'll add myself to the list with the dates I was given today then.

YellowWellies - 18th April at 9 weeks - all fine
GTbaby - 18th April at 12 weeks spot on - all fine

Izzy - 19th April 3pm at 10+3 - all fine
Peaky1 - 19th April at 11+2 - all fine
PetiteRaleuse - 19th April at 11+something - all fine
HorseyLady - 19th April at 3:30pm at 11+5 - all fine
ItalaItala - 19th April at 11:25am - more than fine! We have a winner! Due 16/7!!

Belgrano - 20th April - all fine
WaitingForMe - 21st April at 9+5 - all fine
LittleLolly - 23rd April at 12+4 - all fine
Little9 - 9am 24th April at 12+4 - all fine
Eversomuch - 24th April at 11+5 // CVS on 26.04, results TBC
tomatoplantproject - 24th April - all fine
TheDetective - 25th April at 12+1 - all fine except not enough time looking at bean!
ShellyBobbs - 25th April at 11 - all fine
ValiumQueen - 26th April 1.20pm at 12+3
Onamission28 - 8.50am 27th April at 12+2 weeks - all fine
Cacacaz - 27th April at 12+2
DonnaDoon - 27th April
Elizadoesdolittle - 30th April
Blonderthanred - 30th April at 12+4
Stabiliser15 - 30th April at 13 weeks
Izzybizzybuzzybees -1st May at 12+1
daisychain76 - 1st May at 11+4
WestWinger - 1st May at 13+1
NervousAt20 - 3rd May at 4:30pm at poss 13+2
Bluetinkerbell - 3rd May at 11+3
applepieinthesky - 3rd May at 4:30pm at 12+1
RoLoh - 3rd May
DebussyHead - 3rd May at 13+1
goldene - 4th May at 12+5 or thereabouts
Ditsygem - 4th May at 12+2
Brockle - 9th May 12+5
Thechick - 10 May at 12+2
Misslaughalot - 11th May 12.10pm at 12 + 3
DesperateHousewife21 - 11th May 4pm 13+2 weeks
StuntNun - 11th May 14+2 weeks
FatimaLovesBread - 11th May 12wks
FruitSaladIsNotPudding - 14 th May at 12+5
ChunkyChicken - 16th May at 13+2 weeks

Still awaiting scan date:
Victorious03
Passmethecrisps

DonnaDoon · 27/04/2012 16:56

Hi ladies all fine at my scan :) baby very chilled and would nt move much (pleased about as I have one or maybe two live wires in the family already) due another chilled one lol. EDD 1st november.