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WaitingForMe · 26/04/2012 19:04

I have to share what just happened...

My stepsons are here tonight. DH and I are playing Hungry Hippos with DSS2 while DSS1 is on laptop thing his mum has let him bring. Slowly I'm aware of a foul smell (that can only come from small children), it hits my stomach and I run to throw up out the back door.

As I'm doing so one of the cats jumps past me and is rewarded with my stomach contents on his back. DH orders DSS1 to go for a poo and is a little abrupt which sees DSS1 run to the bathroom rather than walk and so fails to navigate the doorway and collides with the frame.

I'm now laughing through dry heaving, the cat is disgustedly cleaning itself in the garden, DSS1 is crying and DSS2 is yelling at his dad to return to their game.

Happy times.

applepieinthesky · 26/04/2012 19:05

More good news valium and justone Smile

DH I remember reading somewhere a while ago that the chances of going to the 12 week scan and getting bad news is something like 2% if you have had no cramps or bleeding. So pretty good odds that all of us will be fine.

eversomuch · 26/04/2012 19:11

Great to hear more happy scan news coming in.

I'm feeling absolutely fine after the CVS -- no cramping, spotting or any of the other possible side effects, so hoping that's a good sign.

Neat look at trends in baby names in today's Guardian:

www.guardian.co.uk/news/datablog/2012/apr/25/baby-names-data

Passmethecrisps · 26/04/2012 20:18

Interesting eversomuch Also, glad the CVS went well. FC for the result

Great news about happy scans. I was thinking of blonder this morning. Glad all is well.

Definitely on the up wellness-wise. Still not sure I am up for mountain climbing like a pal suggested but I live in hope!

Was taking a look at maternity wear this evening and have decided I like nothing. I don't know what I want to wear but I didn't see it . . .

I think I might just try to get tunics (which I see everyone wear and never see when I am looking in the shops) a size larger and wear with leggings - should do me mostly. I was ideally hoping to get some dresses for work as I am large thighed anyway and am looking horrid now (DH says not but I feel horrid) in work trousers. It would be great if they lasted post baby also. Having to shop for work makes things harder - over the last few years there have been scored of nubile young lovelies coming back after mat leave even thinner and more lovel than before . . .the bar is high!

Where is everyone else going to get clothes?

I called the maternity unit today to chase up my scan - no answer so I left my message. I REALLY hope they get back to me tomorrow. DH placing cat's ear next to my belly to see if she responds to noises is not really convincing

Chunkychicken · 26/04/2012 20:23

Thanks for that info Apple I was starting to feel a bit like DH21 and I'm the last of the scan dates (so far...) Fingers crossed that I can have this baby safe & sound, then no more TTC/pg for me!! If DH wants any more, its his turn...

misslaughalot · 26/04/2012 20:25

Passme I was thinking the same about tunics and leggings and so I've just bought some tunic tops from Simply Be online. They offer 20% off your first purchase so thought I'd give them a go. I've gone for a size bigger than I am, and chosen ones that have ties at the back so they're kind of adjustable as I get bigger (and hopefully smaller again!)

Passmethecrisps · 26/04/2012 20:30

nice idea. I am off for a wee look! Thanks, misslaughalot

TheDetective · 26/04/2012 20:38

Blonder Woohoo! Excellent stuff! Bet you can't wait to see if there is any difference with your next scan - they grow and change so much at this early stage! Glad it all went well!

Apple That is awful about your poor pup :( I have a lab, and she is a docile creature, and if anyone put her out in the rain she would howl and cry!! Your poor dog, I'd complain about that - its not on!

DH Yes, I've been getting the same pains since I was 6 weeks, on both sides of my groin, right in the crease between my legs - only happens if I cough, sneeze, laugh too hard or get up funny! Grin It takes my breath away!

Ever I'm keeping everything tightly crossed for you. I'm glad the CVS went well and was straightforward. Remember, 52:53 chances of no problems :)

Fatima Did you get to the bottom of why no one turned up? I guess the problem is the midwives assumed you would be at home already. Although if they had been, they would have put a card through your door. But no explanation at all isn't on.

Valium Good stuff! Congratulations! All of us keep getting our dates shifted fowards it seems! Although Itala still holds that crown ;) Did you get a good picture

TheDetective · 26/04/2012 20:41

Passme I'm doing the leggings and tunics/dresses/long tops thing. I don't like any maternity stuff. I don't wear trousers or jeans ever and those are the main things you need in maternity. That and tights. Tops can just be bought bigger, as can PJ's etc!

Passmethecrisps · 26/04/2012 20:47

Thanks detective

Just checked out Very as well - some lovely looking things. No massively urgent need but my work clothes are mostly suits with trousers - look like a sausage.

Evilwater · 26/04/2012 20:53

Wow, what a day lovely day at work. Then I phoned to check my nvq folder was ok as I will be on hoilday, and what a fuss. Basically I was told the wrong information, and got a very snappy lady in the the phone, as I was the only one! She told me to take responsibility...... FFS

If I decide to be an adult and check things, please can you shoot and hang me outside a window.

ValiumQueen · 26/04/2012 20:54

I just bought long tops and wore leggings mostly. I did get a couple of wide leg stretchy trousers that saw me through until I finished work. I got rid of the tops about two months before I got pregnant as we thought that boat had sailed. Need to go shopping again, but still have the trousers thank goodness!

horseylady · 26/04/2012 21:02

Just bought dinner back up :( this is do rubbish :( felt fab all week loads of energy now when I actually want to go out to dog agility I can't :( so annoyed but feel so shit :(

ShellyBobbs · 26/04/2012 21:52

Just found this article. On the face of it, it really amused me, what do you think?

Detective What is your professional opinion of this, and do you think many midwives really agree?

'I have reached the stage where I feel it is time to state what I - and many midwives and fellow obstetricians - privately consider the obvious.'

Link Here

TheDetective · 26/04/2012 22:50

Just had a good read, and a scowl Shelly

This is the only thing I can agree with is, "The key to the perfect birthing partner is finding a mother figure who can help, keep a low profile and remain silent."

I believe that if a woman wants her partner there, then she has good reasons for doing so. Many women who feel their partner won't cope, or won't be supportive just don't have them there.

My partner will only enhance my labour, of that I am quite sure. Without him I will be more stressed and less likely to labour effectively. If I had any doubts - he would not be there.

I do think women benefit from having an older or experienced mum there who has had 2/3 or more births for their support and reassurance. I love those mums who are no nonsense 'I've done this 6 times, and so can you' attitude! Their daughters seem to do very well in labour. I like to think its because they believe they can do it, and have the support to do so.

I have seen some birth partners, both husbands and mothers give the most terrible 'support' which has been detrimental to the womans birth to be quite honest, so I do think you have to think carefully about who you have with you.

But no, I don't agree with the article! Although I do like Michael Odents other work particularly on water birth.

(This has just taken me 30 mins to post. Stupid MN GRRRR!)

GTbaby · 26/04/2012 22:53

Interesting read Shelley. I have often wondered if I really want DH at birth n how i may b more relaxed as I wouldn't b worried about him. However I also don't think I'm close enough to anyone else, including my mum, to b relaxed enough to have anyone else with me. And I deff don't want to be alone.

Oh well tucked up in bed now. And should really sleep. But think this article may keep me wondering for a few hours.

TheDetective · 26/04/2012 23:05

Apple and blackcurrant juice with ice and a slice.... omg, the stuff that heaven is made of! And DP is making me noodles with hot chilli powder! With taangerines for starters and afters Grin

Apart from the vomiting, I am now enjoying being pregnant!

goldene · 26/04/2012 23:29

Re that article, oh pul-eeze! That (some) women may not relax I can see to be true; but that men shouldn't be present because their delicate psyches can't handle the trauma of seeing birth (especially difficult births) and that they might not want to have sex with their wives again! I just really can't see these as actual objections. Dude, if I can give birth, you can handle seeing it. And if you don't already know that I'm not a "woman of mystery" by this point, I guess I think the partnership is kinda built on sand, IYSWIM. Really!

My partner was really helpful in my first labour. We had already talked about it - he had a clear role (interference between me and intervention, doing relaxing things). It did bond us together. It was our first "family" action. I'm glad he didn't leave the room to fiddle with the thermostat.

grr.

TheDetective · 26/04/2012 23:33

DP watches me have a dump despite me telling him to go away I don't think childbirth is gonna put him off me :D

TheDetective · 26/04/2012 23:34

Sorry, that was a bit crude Grin

TheDetective · 26/04/2012 23:35

Oh, and DP will be doing hypnobirthing with me, so he has a definite purpose. That, and filling the pool and fetching what I want!

WaitingForMe · 27/04/2012 07:01

I can't imagine anyone but DH there. Nobody could be my advocate better than him, nobody can reassure me like him and I don't think I could let myself be so vulnerable in front of any other non-healthcare professional.

As for sex I know very few only children so my guess is that men are more than capable of witnessing birth and still desiring their partners.

DesperateHousewife21 · 27/04/2012 07:16

I had a dream last night that I gave birth to a baby girl but she had no name!
I think dh agreed to asking FIL to pay/ put money towards a private gender scan yay! Hopefully I'll know by early June rather than early July.

Passmethecrisps · 27/04/2012 07:37

That's bizarre that the Michel Odent article has surfaced. DH and I read that last weekend - one from the Daily Mail. The thought of having anyone other than DH there gives me the horrors. He was there at the beginning so I don't see why he can't be there at the end. I love my mum dearly but she hasn't seen me less than fully clothed since I was a small child - I would be mortified.

Additionally, the very suggestion that DH would be emotionally broken by seeing birth happen is just offensive. I don't know what kind of man he is but obviously not much of one

nebbo · 27/04/2012 07:39

Hi girls,
I'm just not getting on here enough to keep up!! Maybe I should quit work!!!

Glad to hear good news coming in. I can add to that, the 12 weeks scan went well on Wednesday both babies doing well and we saw loads of movements, arms, legs, feet - oh sooo cute!!
My due date was originally the 9th nov by lmp, then early scan said it was the 5th and this one that we are told we will go by is now the 2nd. I already know they want to deliver them at 36 weeks do this pregnancy is getting shorter and shorter!!
That means 13 weeks today so officially in the 2nd trimester - is that the hard part over ?!?! Wink

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