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We will brook no argument for a boring, uneventful, blooming pregnancy; followed by a perfectly-timed pain-free sneeze birth; vol 5

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ScreamIfYouWantToMeetSanta · 12/12/2011 23:13

Hi No Brookers! I do hope this has worked and is in the right place...

I've added a few extra sofas so we have plenty of space for all the Rat Smackers who will be joining us soon. There's also a nice long table filled with mince pies, yule logs, gingerbread snowmen and xmas puds! Plus some non-alcoholic mulled wine. I've strategically positioned a few clean glittery vom buckets under the table, just in case it's still a bit too early for xmas munchies for some people!

As you were...

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DeckTheHawthersWithBells · 21/12/2011 15:06

Hi generic I'm so sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you lovely. H x

Wants3 · 21/12/2011 15:57

Sorry to hear your news generic thinking of you. Ps you are not too old by a long way, I will be a few weeks off 39 when this baby is born!

Wants3 · 21/12/2011 15:59

hawthers have you tried scrubbing the stairs with a nail brush? This worked for my sister who was booked in for an induction the next day!

dreamfeeder · 21/12/2011 16:03

I tried the floor scrubbing, nookie, pineapple, raspberry leaf tea, walking up a hill, jumping... All worth a try!

musicalmrs · 21/12/2011 16:55

Generic, I'm so sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you and your family.

TooImmatureTurtleDoves · 21/12/2011 16:56

Oh Generic, I'm so sorry. Sad

Biscuitsandtinsel · 21/12/2011 17:16

Generic, my lovely, I'm so sorry to hear your news Sad. Thinking of you all - hope you have lots of RL hugs. We're here if you need us, and hopefully see you back here xx

NinjaChipmunk · 21/12/2011 17:29

Oh generic I'm so very sorry to hear your news. Look after yourself lovey. I do hope you get some answers. And 36 is not too old. I will be nearly 38 when this one arrives. Take care and be well xxx

pommedenoel · 21/12/2011 18:00

Oh no Generic I'm so sorry to hear that. Look after yourself. xxx

farfallarocks · 21/12/2011 18:42

generic I am so sorry to hear your news, its terribly sad and you have been so much comfort to those of us who have also suffered losses.

If you want to go for some tests I can give you a full list, I have done a lot of research. I really don;t think 36 is that old at all. I hope you have a lovely xmas with your dh and dd and once again and I am really so terribly sorry :(

ScreamIfYouWantToMeetSanta · 21/12/2011 19:22

Generic I'm so sorry about your sad news. Sending lots of hugs your way. Take all the time you need, I hope we'll see you again in the future though, you're so lovely and by no means too old!

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SantaAndHisChristmasImps · 21/12/2011 19:35

Generic, I echo what the other brookers have said - I really don't think your age is an issue. I know it's too soon for you to think about the future properly, but please come back and re-read what people have said once you've had time to absorb what's happened and adjust. You really, really really shouldn't let your age be the reason why you decide to stop trying.

Lots of love and hugs.

dreamfeeder · 21/12/2011 21:59

I really agree generic, I was so pleased you got your BFP as you are such a lovely and supportive person of everyone else. I'm sure you're a fantastic mum to your DD. My SIL had her children at 37 and 39- you're not too old. But of course you need time to grieve for your loss, it's way too early to start thinking about it ((((hugs))))

I hope you don't think this is offensive to talk about something entirely unrelated generic, but for me, twin one has shifted, and my tummy is back to feeling like there's a bag of ferrets writhing round in there, loads and loads of movement on the left again. Little tike has finshed his week of hiding! Feels more 'normal'. I was talking to one of my colleagues about this pg for the first time today- she had twins and said the two moving was so strange! Sadly she lost one at birth, ended up with one VB and one EMCS but too late to save twin 2 for her, her little boy. This I'm finding makes it a more than a little awkward- I have talked about twin pg with her, as she went to 35.5 weeks with hers, and she should have her twins, and I don't want to ignore it that she had twins. It was a case of medical negligence for her- I don't know all the ins and outs but she was due for CS due to transverse twin 2, went into labour earlier, the consultant wasn't called, a more junior doctor didn't have the experience to realise in time it was all going tits up leading to twin 2's death. I think she got a big pay out, but what use is that when your child has died!? Any thoughts? Try and steer away from talking about it with her again? Don't want to dredge up horrible memories...

And too, bedtime has not been so awful the last two nights (thanks for asking!) as DH has been around- she'll go down for him as she doesn't have separation anxiety about daddy. I tried to put her down tonight, as her not going down for me makes me feel a bit imcompetant and worried for when, like Monday, DH works late and I can't get her to sleep and she's still awake, overtired and upset at 10:30pm when he gets home. She fretted for an hour, then DH went up, asleep within 10 min Sad. Sure we'll get trough the separation anxiety in teh end, but oh, the mummy guilt. It all kicked off when I went back to work and she's not been well. I feel bad for going back to work, especially as DH is putting his foot down and saying I will need to be a SAHM when we have three. For complicated reasons he'll be taking a big pay cut for 3 years, he says we will not be able to afford to make a loss. In fact, to pay for any kind of help- like a cleaner (which I don't see how we'll manage without having talked to a couple of twin mums and looked on a thread on multiple births on it on mn)- we'll be balancing the books very, very carefully... No fancy holidays (ha! not had one since DD born anyway) or other luxuries for a good while. Which is fine, but I see why he doesn't think we can take making a loss on childcare.

I hope everyone else is doing ok today, and my thoughts are very much with you tonight generic my lovely.

jaggythistle · 22/12/2011 08:42

really sorry to hear your news too generic. :(

sorry I've been hiding again, busy at work in the evenings and busy every morning too somehow!

nothing to report here, just sitting about getting fatter. most of it is bump, but a considerable portion may be due to my huge appetite. Blush Not been brave enough to weigh myself for weeks.

PopcornMouseInAReindeerJumper · 22/12/2011 10:11

I'm so sorry Generic, we're all thinking of you

BartletForAmerica · 22/12/2011 10:55

A quick hello from me - yes, I do still lurk here occasionally to check up on and do some brooking for you all!

Firstly, sorry to generic about your scan results. I hope the doctors are able to give some answers to help you and MrGeneric decide what to do next. You'll be in my thoughts.

Secondly, I just wanted to come back and again thank you for all your kind thoughts and messages. My baby survived to 18 weeks and was born asleep yesterday following a mercifully short and uncomplicated delivery. We are very grateful to God for the gift of her and the comfort that it is that she is now is heaven with him, although we are sad that we will never get to know her until we join her there.

I hope to return sometime to the Brooking threads but will continue to lurk and look forward to hearing all about the names and weights of your lovely babies at just the right time (I am particularly delighted to see that hawthers has made it to her due date, but hope it won't be much longer now). In the meantime, I hope that you all have a very peaceful and blessed Christmas.

SantaAndHisChristmasImps · 22/12/2011 10:58

Oh, Bartlet Thanks. I do think of you a lot. I bet your daughter was beautiful.

PurpleWithaBlueBun · 22/12/2011 11:10

Bartlett So glad to see you and thanks for your update, I am so glad your delivery was straight forward and you have the peace of knowing you will see her again. Feel free to post again when your ready. You have been in my thoughts regularly and it would be nice to hear how you are, whenever you feel able/want to. All the best with your journey x

Generic I hope you are as well as you can be and you are being looked after also.

Dream I think I will be a sahm once this baby is here, unless I can get a cheap nanny, (who does cleaning) so they can do nursery pick up drop offs and get my sis if she is ill.etc
With your colleague maybe you should just ask if she is comfortable talking to you?

BartletForAmerica · 22/12/2011 11:10

Thanks, Imps, she clearly had problems but she was/is still our baby and will be beautiful in heaven where she has a new and perfect body.

DeckTheHawthersWithBells · 22/12/2011 11:26

Hi bartlet thank you for your kind thoughts. Like many others i've been thinking of you frequently and hoping you are doing ok. Much love h x

BartletForAmerica · 22/12/2011 11:35

dream, my friend who was expecting twins had a very uncomplicated VB of both last month. She is EBFing both currently. Just wanted to let you a happy story!

ScarletFestiveFingernail · 22/12/2011 11:50

Bartlet thank you for coming back and sharing your news about your beautiful daughter. I've been thinking about you a lot since you last posted and wish you and your family the very best.

ScreamIfYouWantToMeetSanta · 22/12/2011 11:52

Bartlet thank you for coming back and letting us know how you've been getting on. I'm glad you and your DH have found some peace in this situation. Take all the time you need, I do hope we'll see you back here when the time is right for you though.

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ScreamIfYouWantToMeetSanta · 22/12/2011 11:59

I hope it is not taken as disrespectful if I mention something frivolous and unconnected to the much more serious situations faced by Bartlet and Generic? My thoughts are with them both.

I just wanted to mention that I finally got around to having a bra fitting yesterday. I know I don't measure up to several of the particularly buxom ladies on this thread Xmas Wink, but I was pretty shocked to discover I've gone from a D cup to an F cup! I haven't had a chance to tell DH yet but I'm pretty sure he'll consider it an early xmas present... I still can't quite believe it myself. I bought a couple of new F cup bras and I've been trying them all on again this morning just to prove to myself that they do genuinely fit - one is even a little tight! It also explains why I was unable to do up the top button on my coat long before the lower buttons became impossible to do up!

I mentioned the change in size to my Mum, and her first comment was that I'll probably go up to a G cup when I start breastfeeding!! Woah!!!

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BartletForAmerica · 22/12/2011 12:06

Not at all, scream. (I went from D to GG!)

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