I really agree generic, I was so pleased you got your BFP as you are such a lovely and supportive person of everyone else. I'm sure you're a fantastic mum to your DD. My SIL had her children at 37 and 39- you're not too old. But of course you need time to grieve for your loss, it's way too early to start thinking about it ((((hugs))))
I hope you don't think this is offensive to talk about something entirely unrelated generic, but for me, twin one has shifted, and my tummy is back to feeling like there's a bag of ferrets writhing round in there, loads and loads of movement on the left again. Little tike has finshed his week of hiding! Feels more 'normal'. I was talking to one of my colleagues about this pg for the first time today- she had twins and said the two moving was so strange! Sadly she lost one at birth, ended up with one VB and one EMCS but too late to save twin 2 for her, her little boy. This I'm finding makes it a more than a little awkward- I have talked about twin pg with her, as she went to 35.5 weeks with hers, and she should have her twins, and I don't want to ignore it that she had twins. It was a case of medical negligence for her- I don't know all the ins and outs but she was due for CS due to transverse twin 2, went into labour earlier, the consultant wasn't called, a more junior doctor didn't have the experience to realise in time it was all going tits up leading to twin 2's death. I think she got a big pay out, but what use is that when your child has died!? Any thoughts? Try and steer away from talking about it with her again? Don't want to dredge up horrible memories...
And too, bedtime has not been so awful the last two nights (thanks for asking!) as DH has been around- she'll go down for him as she doesn't have separation anxiety about daddy. I tried to put her down tonight, as her not going down for me makes me feel a bit imcompetant and worried for when, like Monday, DH works late and I can't get her to sleep and she's still awake, overtired and upset at 10:30pm when he gets home. She fretted for an hour, then DH went up, asleep within 10 min
. Sure we'll get trough the separation anxiety in teh end, but oh, the mummy guilt. It all kicked off when I went back to work and she's not been well. I feel bad for going back to work, especially as DH is putting his foot down and saying I will need to be a SAHM when we have three. For complicated reasons he'll be taking a big pay cut for 3 years, he says we will not be able to afford to make a loss. In fact, to pay for any kind of help- like a cleaner (which I don't see how we'll manage without having talked to a couple of twin mums and looked on a thread on multiple births on it on mn)- we'll be balancing the books very, very carefully... No fancy holidays (ha! not had one since DD born anyway) or other luxuries for a good while. Which is fine, but I see why he doesn't think we can take making a loss on childcare.
I hope everyone else is doing ok today, and my thoughts are very much with you tonight generic my lovely.