Due Jan 06 - the one where we get to have our babies!!!

[sweetkitty]

New thread ladies!!

Hello All,

Blimey it's so hard to rememeber whats been going on, theres so much to catch up on when coming back to this thread, please be aware if i miss anything its a totaly lack of memory of what i have just read!

Congratulations to Ange - must go & read the announcement have not seen it yet

Poor Rach feeling very very sorry for her, i really hope everything is ok & baby will be here very very soon, can not wait to see a picture of the stubburn little man, hes obviously feeling more than cosy

Iris- Your news sounds promising, don't feel down about getting excited i am sure something will happen in the next 24hrs, it all sounds very good to me, goodluck at the hospital, i am very excited for you.

Lisa - Good to hear from you, hope your ok & recovering well, put your feet up & relax, goodluck with the breast feeding sounds like it will be well on the way soon, keep at it

Sweetkitty - You are surley not still here!! think we are going to have to ban you from coming here see if that sends little baby out, lack of MN fix is sure to do the job I hope Abbie is ok?

Nothing been happening for me, have also given up on the pineapple front, that actually just made me have bad BH that were rather painful, in fact have given up on every front, RLT, pinapple & sex trying the natural route till Thursday (due date) then i will be starting again, on every trick in the book as i do not want to be induced

I have been shopping online today, brought a new Tumble Dryer & also done the weekly shop at sainsburys online, also booked the car in for a service, so am quite sure nothing is going to happen here until, shopping turns up on Wed, car goes garage on Friday & have to wait for tumble dryer delivery date!

Feeling ok today quite cherpy & not so tired i went to bed quite early last night, its done me the world of good, am finding that i wake in the night many times feeling uncomfortable & have to change position, also finding a stinging in my lower right hand side of my stomach, anyone know what this could be? it really hurts when i try & move, i thought maybe stretching?

Anyway i may have a sleep now all depends on ds so speak to you all later xx

iris
i'm sure your gush of waters isn't a false alarm, just an early warning sign, after all the hosp will induce if you haven't started spontaneously soon. what is their policy on the time you're allowed after waters break? it varies such a lot from hosp to hosp, from about 24 hours right up to 96 hours in some hosps! i think the risk of infection is small, partic if you're in your own home, but no more natural prostoglandin induction from now on . so can't wait to hear your news in the next coupla days.

my ds1 is ill again today, sore throat, bit of a temp, cough, dizzy feeling. so he's off school and can't cuddle the baby atm, which is a shame. he should be better soon however, as it doesn't seem like anything serious, just a bad cold.

i'm loving my confinement at home while the milk kicks in. i'm not planning on stepping out the door till Thurs, when i'll take the pram down to school to meet dd, so she can show Alex off to her friends.

better go and check on him now as we don't have a baby monitor.

Can i just ask a question to those of you who have had your babys & anyone that wants to answer, when do you allow visitors?
I ask this because when i had ds, the day after i came out of hospital i had about 6 people come round, then people just kept turning up & knocking on the door (not even phoning)

This time i am thinking of saying no visitors till 1 week after as i really want to try & get the hang of breast feeding & find it hard when i have an audience around me.

I don't mind my family, like mother, sisters etc but i am talking about friends?

Also what should i do if they just turn up knocking on my door, ignore? get dp to explain? or should i text them when out of hospital & just explain i will contatc them when ready & feeling up to it?

hiya m21ab
if i were you i'd text ahead if you can and explain that you want a week to yourselves as a family to rest and get bf established. i'm sure your friends will understand. then when baby is born, get your dp / dh to always answer the door, and not invite people in, but just explain that you're resting and will be seeing visitors next Thursday (or whatever day you decide). lots of people do this I think.

my dh always answers the door then comes up to see me to see if i'm up to whoever it is at the door, sometimes it's family and that's fine, but sometimes i'm resting or feeding and don't want to see whoever it is, and he just goes down and says i'm asleep or whatever, and this seems to work fine.

Mum2oneandaBump, you have every right to keep visitors at bay for a while. In Holland the practice is to print visiting hours on the birth announcement and to state people should phone before coming. So you could do that with texts or when you send your emails or whatever you are planning on doing to let people know the good news. I am sure they will understand. And have DH answer the door and lie if need be. Great idea!

Thanks Lyra, i just felt a bit pushed up on before & i actually manged to exhaust myself after the first 2 weeks i seemed to start struggling & it really hit home that i had not rested & spent the quality time with my ds that i wished i could have, there always seemed to be someone there!

Also this time round i have ds to think about i want him to spend quality time with new baby & just for things to be settled & all sorted before people start clambering around!

It also depends obviously on when i get home after the birth & things like that.

Sorry Eshay X posts.

Yes i think i will text everyone when i get home & maybe just put (babys name) weighed blah blah was born at blah blah time all home safely & having time for family & resting, will contact you when ready for visitors.

Does that sound ok?

from another post it looks like rach is due to have an elective c-section tomorrow or weds as baby appears to be presenting in a difficult way for natural birth. hope it all goes well for her.

so at last, by weds at the latest, rach will have her little man in her arms. bet she can't wait!

40+12, still here, still pregnant...

Sorry I didn't get back to you Iris (thanks so much for keeping in touch - you're a star ) but I really didn't know what else to say! Felt rather up and down since yesterday to say the least - but just feel relief now and want him out! Saw dr this morning and spent ages being assessed for section on the day unit - thankfully they let me home to prepare (mentally!) and see the kids and prepare them. Luckily mum and 94 yr old grandma NOT staying with me but in nice flat on the seafront so out of my way! By the way, dp slightly cracking up, bless him - a bit shell-shocked by section prep and struggling to remember to put his nicotinell patches on! (only smokes 2-5 a day but desperate for him to quit).

Thanks for all your thoughts and wishes, I really do appreciate it! Had another (7th prostin) yesterday and nothing Yes I have tried all the usual kick-starts but if 7mg prostin doesn't do it, I don't know what else would! Had an examination and a really good sweep today and nothing... so home now to sort my head and see the kids (and buy big pants) before c-section tomorrow or wed at the absolute latest (please god..) - am now 40+12 and becoming a 'semi-emergency'. Babe is 3/5 engaged and I think despite the 3 'normal' deliveries there must be some problem with the presentation of his head - ds2 was face up, dd - face (chin) first so in all likelihood I was probably going to have problems anyway. Rather an elective section than a awful labour + section. Nobody ever mentioned a scan (and i don't know why it didn't occur to me) but they are happy with all the traces (ie not showing any distress) and the position on palpation (obviously they don't know about the head). Anyway will let you know asap ! Iris - I will text you thanks!

Off to buy 'big pants' and immac for bikini line (don't want to be dry shaved!) - any other tips for recovering after a section? I will check back here later. The stitches down below after my forceps were pretty awful so I am not unprepared!

Good luck to everyone else!

Sorry guys, should have told you first! Was just checking childbirth thread for any words of wisdom! Better start looking at the c-section thread now... If one more (medical) person says 'but you've had 3 normally' I shall scream! He must not be putting pressure on my cervix for some reason.

M21&bump - Yes, that sounds fine. I think as long as it is clear to people what your wishes are they will have no problems respecting them. You could also mention it to people you speak to now, explain how you struggled last time. Then they're prepared

Thanks for sharing that info, Lyra. Poor Rach, just how you don't want things to turn out. Lathough she's probably mighty relieved to have the end in sight.
When I was told I had to have a C-section with Thomas I cried but only for about 2 minutes! Then I was happy because it meant it would all be over soon and I would have my baby in my arms!

Mum21andB - I'm going to do the same once I've had the section. N0-one but dp for the first day - he needs to bond, I need to feed - then kids, only then grandparents... To be honest my kids are missing me emotionally and getting a bit frightened about why the baby's not here (especially after bf losing hers and their cousin having cerebral palsy)

Yes Eshay - I feel the same now I know his birthday ! I can't do anymore myself! Any tips for c-section you wish you'd known? Will check back later.

Oh Rahcey, i am sorry its not going your way, at least you know baby is coming & you will have him in your ams in the next 24-48hrs, how exciting, you have waiting a long time though bless you! Do you have a name for him yet?
I can not say about CS as never had one, i am sure there will be loads of people along with great tips though, you can alway rely on MN

I bet you & your family will be glad when its all over & baby is safe & sound, Can understand the way your kids are feeling at least you have been allowed home so you can talk to them, see them etc.

I wish you all the luck in the world & can not wait for your long awaiting birth announcement take care xx

Hi Rach, good to hear from you. As for recovery tips... Bring an extra pillow to hospital. i got mighty uncomfortable and they didn't have any spare ones to go round. Bring your BF pillow too as it will make feeding easier, if that's what you're hoping to do.

Also, make sure you have some help waiting for you at home. It can be a real struggle to turn over in bed, let alone jump out and do all the things you'd like to do. I was very happy to have my mum staying so she could do the shopping, cooking, hoovering, cuddling. They even made me wear earplugs once a day and have a nap as naps really seemed to be the most important thing. Postpone any visitors for a while if you can. They'll just make you tired.
I had Thomas sleeping in his pram so it was super easy for me to push him to wherever I wanted to be without having to lift him too much.
Other than that, you'll just have to see how things go. If you can go in feeling fairly rested I'm sure that's half the battle. Oh, and smuggle your mobile into H with you. Texts really cheered me up. And DH printed out all my emails and brought them in for me to read. You can have MN printed out and brought in GOOD LUCK!

Rach - aww just seen your post, I know a section is not what you wanted but the end is in sight, I seem to recall screaming I wanted a section at some point during labour and an elective always seems so civilised. Wednesday is your end point now honey. Will be thinking of you what a slog you have had but it will all be worth it as you already know.

M2OAB - I've been thinking about the same thing re visitors, my mother (don't really get on with) said that she wanted a phonecall smartish so she could be along in an hour, I was like no way she's the last person I would want there, probably tell me DD was fat and ugly and I looked like a sack of shit. Honestly last time I have a photo of me holding DD for the first time after she was born and fair enough I do look like a sack of shit x 10 but she said "whats wrong with your face, your skin looks awful"! It was burst blood vessels from the strain of pushing the baby out. But you don't say that to someone who's just had a baby. Tact isn't a word she understands. She is also obsessed with who the baby looks like? A baby they all look similar IMO but she will have to look like at least 10 members of the family. Anyway digresses from mother rant, I've said I want at least 2 days with just me, DP, DD and new baby. Problem is as well none of my family are the type to come up and cook dinner, do the dishes etc they would sit there and expect tea on call.

Iris - still got everything crossed for you too.

Well MWs have just been, one wanted to see where we stayed just in case so had 2 plus student having a feel, heads well down about 3/5s engaged, everything else is fine they are reckoning on over 8lbs after DD that will be a shock! Said I have 14 days now to get her out but if I've gone once naturally chances are I'll do it again.

Say, about pineapples, does it matter if they get mixed with other things or is it supposed to work better when it's just PA by itself? I just made a lovely shake with pineapple, banana, cranberry juice and some milk but now I'm wondering if that will make it less productive.. Not that it seems to be doing anything for anyone...

best of luck rachel. definitely pillows, and some cartons of apple juice and some fruit in your bag to get your digestion going without having to rely too much on hospital stodge to do it.
also remember nighties not pjs for caesar.

best of luck - such bad luck that this has happened for your 4th but if I'm in the same position in a few weeks time I'd be doing the same as you - elective cs. there must be a reason why babe isn't coming out so best to rummage in there and force it out in a safe fashion!

Hi,

Rachey just read your post....hang on in there...bubs WILL be along soon..

Sweetkitty..what you doing here I thought today was your day????

Wheres Hunkermunker??? I bet she's done it!!!

hi horseshoe

Every day for the last 2 weeks is supposed to have been my day but no one has told this stubborn little girl!

Good to see you how are things? You have not got long to go now either, are you going for an induction or anything or playing the waiting game like the rest of us?

Well hopefully Iris has had some good news done the hospital and baby is on his way.

I have heard from other threads that Hunkermunker has been at her mums all day hence no posting, just as well we are supposed to be popping together.

Will check in later tonight.

S x

Just thought i would pop in & see if anything is happening?

Just seen on another thread hunker is at her mums! so don't think she has poped yet!

Sweetkitty - How you getting on? anything happening over there?

Well i have given into the pineapple again when i was going to leave everything till after i had reached my due date, i now seem to have stomach pains but feels just like BH, i am going to have a nice bath & relax, i am shattered tonight been up since 6.30am & have not napped all day as ds stayed awake this afternoon.

Iris - How are you getting on, how was your hospital visit? hope things are all ok for you, i am sure your baby will be along very soon

I will pop back & see if anything happening later.

Take Care all & come on lets get these babies out now not many more to come

Sorry SK X posts with you

No nothing to report M2OAB know what you mean about the BHs though think they just happen to torment us.

Am going to try reverse psychology
I DO NOT WANT TO GIVE BIRTH TO THIS BABY!!! IT CAN STAY IN THERE FOREVER

Thinking of Iris and Rach, hope you have your little ones tomorrow.

Ok, here we go... don't want to tempt fate this time, in case I'm back home again tonight! It was great to spend some time with the kids last night and explain everything to them - they're really missing me, it must seem like an eternity for them.

Thanks for all the good wishes and advice, have read up on the MN childbirth thread about c-sections and think I've got my head round it!

By the way - Iris texted me about 5.30pm yesterday to say she had read the thread but not been able to post as DD was downloading, however who knows - she might have gone by now!

Really good luck to everyone else - hope you pop soon - I am just a medical freak!

Hello all,

Just wanted to push in on thread to say it has cheered me up no end. Yesterday 2nd of EDD's given (warned I'd be way earlier than both) so was feeling v sorry for self. Completely lost it with DH last night...convinced worst case scenario (+12, long induction, long birth ending in CS) inevitable. You know how pg women are so rational and balanced about such things...

But all the positive vibes and evident support from/for everyone here very inspiring. Looking at it positively - LO fattening up nicely. Nonetheless, v impatient to meet LO and will be very happy to have better range of clothes to actually get into, with better diet that does not involve pineapple, curry, raspberry leaf tea etc. Am v proud of DH for tolerance of me...especially as I am being v demanding with nesting to the point I am trying to catch the dust before it hits the floor (and with the other activities to get things going IYKWIM ...)

Re question about visitors too soon. Our NCT teacher was brill - said you just brave it out. Note on front door/answerphone message saying 'New Baby, Pre-arranged Callers only, please be tolerant'. And of those you do let across the threshold, the house rules are they have to do something - make themselves and you a cuppa, do washing, bring shopping etc. Have already warned my nearest and dearest this is the entry fee. They all seemed to like it - wanted to help anyway but happier if they have some firm guidance what would be useful.

Thanks again, a lot happier and calmer. Will let you know how I get on. Big good luck vibes to everyone!