January 2012 - The one with the heartburn, kick counting and bump-gropers losing their hands...

[shonnomanom]

There we go, a nice new thread.

The BIG Question??? Will the first baby arrive during this thread???????

Blimey oeisha you've been through it and a bit more! Get some rest and keep trying to unbung. You may have gone way past it but I'm finding the "J" breathing in the hypnobirthing book very useful for helping unbunging without straining.

I will prepare my bag at the weekend I think

Ps I hadn't realised how severe UTI can be in pregnancy. My colleague was panicking last week when I had one but because his wife had their son at 28 weeks as labour was triggered somehow by the UTI and he was worried the same thing would happen. Sounds from your hospital visit that that might not be a one off.

Oft!! What a few days you have had oeisha!
FX that things start 'moving' along for you pretty soon.
I'll second the get your bags packed pretty quick ladies. We had a mad pack and dash the other week. Found out afterwards that I hadnt put pants in the bag - whoops. Good job I didnt have to stay in that time.

Wishing you a speedy recovery O x

EEEP Oiesha Absolutely hell on earth for you bless you, how utterly frightening. I really hope that you have a positive "movement" soon and things improve for you. I have a half packed bag that i think i may go and deal with right now you have put the frighteners on me so much!

OMG poor oeisha you really have been in the wars. I have had some painful practice ones but not that bad. Have noticed that if I over do stuff they are worse. Have they not offered a supposatory I had one 10 days postnatal for the same reasons and it worked 10 mins later.

Oeisha glad to hear your back home now. Hope abi stays put just a while longer and things start moving for you soon.

Oh my oeisha what a stress, and as for emergency ambulances what a joke FX the drugs do their job and get you un-bunged. I will be going out and getting my hospital bag stuff now in your honour!

Ok so I have a me me me rant to share with you, which kind of seems insignificant now in the light of the things that are happening to people right now but would really appreciated your thoughts on how to deal with it..........

DM in L has come up to be with her daughter since her baby was born 10 days ago, now firstly I want to say I really like her, and her partner (in small doses!) they have been staying in their camper van whilst visiting Ds in L daily. Dsin L has needed the help too as she is young and this is her first baby, and has really appreciated having her mum here for her.
So we have had them around for tea a couple of times, it's nice to see them, but I have had on my mind what their plans are to be when our baby is born so tentatively broached the subject last night.
They are planning on doing exactly the same for us when my baby is born!! I am so pissed off!!!!!! I don't want them around every day, we won't relax at all and I will be recovering from CS. DH wont relax either as he likes to be a good host and will be running around after them.
Now I don't want to stop them from seeing their grandchildren, but at the end of the day if they hadn't buggered off to the other end of the country we wouldn't have to be having this situation and I neither need or want the same level of help that Dsin L has needs.
The other thing is the breastfeeding thing....... I need to learn how to do this and do not want to do it in public until I know what I am doing. I can just see myself appearing rude while buggering off all the time to do this. In fact no why should I have to bugger off upstairs, it's my bloody house and I will have just had major surgery!!
How am I gonna deal with this without looking like the Din L from hell??!!

Oeisha that sounds dreadful, glad you're back now. I had a serious discussion with my husband about hospital bags this morning as a result. Going to pack this weekend!

Wormshuffler I think you have to be honest - it sounds like the visit plan is coming out of kindness, so so that's one thing. My mum wanted to be outside the labour ward, but I just reacted with 'pfft, no way!' which got the message across.

I think without that type of relationship, you could just be more diplomatic. So I would say something like: 'thank you so much for your offer to help out and be here after the baby, I know SIL really appreciates it. After our baby though I'll be recovering from the ceasarian and will need time to recover by ourselves - I really couldn't cope with visitors! Breast feeding is also important to me, and I really need privacy to get to grips with it - I'd be embarrassed trying to learn that in front of others. Perhaps you could come down ....' and then just say what plan you'd prefer.

For my family, they're not so well off at the moment so I was thinking of paying for a guest house overnight so they can spend a couple of days here but we still have our space.

You'll figure it out, but you should be firm - this is going to be an important time!

In other news, our bathroom is finished (almost) and we've moved back home. Think I might have pushed things too far with mopping, wiping and cleaning. I felt so sick last night. Food and sleep sorted me out though. Right, now to read the rest of the thread...

P.S. So looking forward to maternity leave next week - I'm exhausted!

I've not had a braxton hicks yet - what are they like? I think I may not be that sensitive on my stomach - sometimes I can only feel the baby movig with my hand from the outside.

oeisha OMG how terrifying for you! right, my half packed bag is being fully packed this weekend!
think we all need to consciously take a step back and start doing less and less physical activity if we can, try and keep the HBs at bay and the bambinos in there to brew for a bit longer!
easier said than done, I know!

almost the weekend... still got 3 weeks left of work after this one, grrrr

oeisha wow, what scary experience you had! But how nice that you actually seem quite upbeat about it! I hope you will have some good news on the BM front (or back....)

You definitely made me want to pack my bag (I've got nothing ready yet!), so this weekend will be a good one to start putting things together.

moobee good luck in talking to the in laws...I will have to have this conversation pretty soon with my MIL, she keeps saying..."ah, once you get to the hospital you won't be able to stop me, I'll be there in a flash..." which sends shivers in my spine! Not that she is a bad person at all and we get along really well but the last thing I want is to have the pressure that once I am in my room there will be people there already queuing up to go in when all I'll want is to rest...although it is better to have family that do care than ones who don't, so well, ...

fish that thread made me depressed, run for your life away from it!

Did my GTT yesterday and it came back no Diabetes so glad but still no idea why my pee is constantly "sweet", so I'm still pretty much taking care and cutting carbs, no sweets for me, etc (my own initiative as the consultant said I should eat whatever but I don't feel good doing it...ah, already the guilt mother thing....)

Hugs ladies!

Wow Oeisha scary stuff . Abi certainly likes to keep you on your toes.
I hope the medication works and stops the stress on both of you.

My bag will be finished on 3rd December so just before 36 weeks, unless the midwife notices anything awry this afternoon

Went to light switch on last night, was really good except from trying to protect dd and bump from barging crowds, but the look on dd's face made it worth it :)

Wow Oeisha, glad you all came out of that emergency unscathed, but you've really been through the mill, haven't you? Rest up now, girl...

Worm that sounds awkward, but Moobee's suggestion is the height of tact and diplomacy - I would go with that.

I had rather a strange night last night too - woke up at 2 am with intense period-type pain in a band radiating all around from my lower back - and my first thought was: Shit, my bag's not packed and I have no nappies . It was sort of coming in waves, too, about every 5 mins lasting 2-3 mins. But the bump was not actually tightening and hardening like it does in a Higgs-Boson and I could feel baby moving around normally. SO got up, wandered around a bit, made a hot water bottle, took a couple of magnesium tablets, and after about an hour it subsided and I fell asleep again. But yep, did make me think that I must pack a bag in the next couple of days. Am going to see Dr tomorrow and am due a scan anyway, so will put my mind at rest (or get admitted for observation... I spent 10 days in the high-risk pg ward with DD1 about the same stage for the same symptoms but am really not keen to repeat that experience, not with 2 kids at home now)

Mornig lovelies,

Addicted-I just realised it will be quite weird if we meet for the first time while on the ward! Imagine if were in the next bed to each other! Maybe we should try to meet before then. I go on leave next week so maybe sometime after then?

oiesha hows things today lovely? I know how i felt after 3 days of no poo, I can't imagine how bad it must be for you.

greenlady glad theres no GD. My MW said it's not uncommon for women to find sugar in thier wee all the time through pregnancy, so I wouldn't give it another thought.

moobee Me too next week CANNOT WAIT.

I am so tired, I had insomnia last night til 1am then dd woke up at 4am crying because she'd somehow managed to knock her night light and unplug it. Afraid of the dark bless her, she says her wardrobe loooks like it's a ghost. Dh then got up at 6. I could fall asleep but I need to crack on and get my files done ready for next tues. Then it's all done!

The Inlaws are coming on sunday-i'm actually looking forward to it My MIL is lovely. They are bringing all the food too! DH is going to tidy up on sat while I take dd out to pick up a maxi cosi car seat that i won on ebay (£20 Bargain)-that makes our new Mychoice3 mothercare pram a full travel system. it's about an hour away so the round trip should give him enough time to get the house straight.

have a good day all xxx

oooh oooh, my beaming baby nappy sample has arrived (2 nappies) they look nice and they smell nice! (aloe vera I think)

So tiny too. Squeee. :)

cripes oeisha you've been through the wringer, haven't you? You've all scared the living daylights out of me now and I will be packing my bag this weekend. Higgs-Bosons have tailed off a bit but I still have the occasional one and I was having them repeatedly for about 48 hours, which is not what the book says should happen at all!

I have my 34 week MW appt at 33 weeks as she's on holiday after that, so I'm not sure if they will start to question the baby's positioning at this appt or the next. So pamplemousse and I will be getting checked out on Friday, which makes me feel better, with all the blood pressure stuff and the H-Bs!

anyway oeisha take some serious rest and I hope Abi stays in there a bit longer and your other issues are resolved asap (ouch!)

Morning (ish) all. Feeling very shakey but OK today. Still not much luck with movements, but some. Night wasn't all that uncomfy, though Abi did decide to bash, flip and turn a lot, which was exceedingly kind of her. Bless! Still, good toknow she's essentially totally unaffected.

I think I called suppositories "pessaries" earlier (had just read an update on a thrush thread I posted on) and bless my noggin, it obviously got confused. Still don't understand why I can't have an enema, but at least I am getting some movement now. Lactulose 10ml 3 times a day. Lots of fluids and gentle walking about...and a decent level of pain management...so, hopefully over the next few days it'll happen. Just remaining optomistic, else I'd go totally BSM I think.

Re: Parents/ILs visiting. just be down the line with them. Mine now know totally that I don't need them "about" when I'm in what seems like to them extreem situations. Yesterday very early Mum rang and told me they were coming up. As I also managed to develop a rebound migraine and was mid-flow at that point I just flat said "No, there's no point, I don't want to see you when I'm like this, plus, they'll only let you visit for an hour and I will be asleep". She miffed a bit, but was ultimatly ok. I don't think she likes feeling that "distant" but tough shit. That's the relationship she made and has with me. DH has also decided that I'm NOT to be stressed, so he is going to tell them where to go if needs be. They will NOT be staying in our house until we are ready. They can visit but will NOT be seeing me all day/lurking about "just in case" when we're out of hospital. So, well, yeah. Just tell them what you want and let them tantrum if that's what they want to do. Untimatly we're not responsible for their irrationalities.

green yay! No GD! One of the ladies that was on the ward with me had GD and was getting very paranoid that hospital foods weren't helping (along with anti-biotics which seemed to be giving her high readings?!)

butterfly Def. inform MW of the pain, even though it's gone. I only say this as it was rhythmical and up your back. Very unlikely to be anything, but this is def. one of the things they look for with UTIs... I've still not had the classic stinging wee/warm wee stuff, just the pain...

Off for some beans on toast and then a nap I think. How can 1 person be sooo bloody tired?!

Bloody hell Oeisha - what a scary experience.

I think I have my bags packed, but not sure exactly what I'll need, so it's all guesswork:

• 3 nighties
• Mat pads
• cereal bars
• trashy novel
• a whole bunch of baby stuff (in fact his bag is probably more well thought out than mine!)
• 2 pairs of breast pads (made them this morning! yay. Must make more)
• 4 pairs of enormous knickers, soon to be added to when my new ones arrive
• notebook and pen
• Hypno CD
• 2 bottles lucozade
• wheatbag
• blue notes
• need to write birth plan to put in
• several old towels

Can't remember if I have anything else in there, but am I missing anything obvious? Might add a crochet hook and some yarn in case I end up sitting around for days waiting for baby to arrive...

Am feeling rather smug as I've made 4 maternity pads now. Just need to sew poppers onto 3 of them and overlock the edges of the pad inserts. Am very proud of myself - I never thought I'd get them done IRL!

ghost I hope you've reported your HBs to your MW too. Again, probably just one of those things, but they may want to check the intensity on a CTG and check for infection (unbelieveably common to cause "regular" HBs).

fish mine came today too they seem really good might order a case. I still have ds's bumgenius so hoping to use them again. oeisha been thinking of you x my lists are ready so just need to start ticking them off now

oeisha I will definitely mention it tomorrow but MW is hard to get hold of on her other days (she only works Fridays at my GP surgery), and pamplemousse has been properly thrashing about lately so I'm being continually reassured with movements. I take your point though and will be keeping a close eye on things.

In other news, we just interviewed another candidate for my maternity role and looks like we'll offer her the job - she's pretty inexperienced but we got good vibes from her and she seems like a steady pair of hands. [also, not my problem, not my problem...!] so that will be a reduced source of stress for me, even if it means I will be starting my handover early next week [eek!]

Thanks for mentioning the nappy samples, just looked and ordered a sample for myself. How long did they take to arrive?

supa the case seems good value, it's hard to work out because of the freebies but taking the value of the freebies off means the nappy bit of the offer is only £22-it works out at roughly 15p per nappy for the smallest size.

I reckon thats a good deal pampers are like 32p per nappy in some supermarkets.

giraffe just over a week.