April 2012 Babies - 2nd thread to welcome the 2nd trimester

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Join us as we head out of the secretive, scary, slightly sicky first trimester and into the bump emerging, supposedly blossoming, energy boosting second trimester.

Previous thread here

Stats thread here

"But the fact that I don't feel or look pregnant is making me feel very detached from the baby. I'm just not excited... "

I'm exactly the same!

Twittle ouch! I have nothing helpful to say. Sorry. But hope Your finger heals soon. Some people have to take stronger stuff during pregnancy. I'm sure you'll be fine. The GP would only five you adequate doses. :)

Empusa when I was pregnant with DD I was sooo excited. But I had more things to do and get ready I suppose.

Hi everyone! Sorry I 've been quiet recently but just been waiting for our 13w scan we just had . Apparently everything was fine. Our surrogate said the baby was sucking it's thum ! I wished I'd been there , hopefully see some pictures soon!!!Possibly get test results next week or latest on the 18.11. when the next appointment is . I just want to see my baby! I' m praying she manages to scan some pictures since the technician didn't record anything this time just gave printed ones . Very annoyed about that in my situation ... Been waiting for this . If all else fails we'll have her FedEx them to us. I should be happy and I am but still very insecure and feel very detached from it all... I guess I'm protecting myself in case things go wrong again. It sure is an odd situation where I feel I have no control! Seeing our English lawyer soon to discuss what needs to be done when for the legal stuff in this country .
I guess I just have to concentrate on my life with my husband and son and it'll go quicker. I thought I would start getting things now but something's still stopping me like I don't believe I'll have a baby in a few months . Maybe the 20 w scan will help... Once we get the test result I'll try to be more positive and start acting like I did while expecting my son and prepare for the baby and try to enjoy this pregnancy at least a bit. Getting all emotional :(

Nordic I can't beggin to imagine how you feel. Just think of the positives. Easier said then done I'm sure! This woman is giving you a very wanted baby which will soon be in your arms and I'm sure will be loved and adored by you, DH and DS. Everything will be fine. :)

Hello April ladies!
I have just found you guys, and am due on 25th April (ish...my dates and scan were about 2 wks different!)

This is my second pregnancy and DS is 15! I wonder if I am mad sometimes. One min I am sooo excited and cant wait to meet my baby, and the next I wish I could turn back time and just wait till I know for sure that this is right! Am I the only one with conflicting feelings??
Overall I know it is meant to be and that I am so very lucky to have been able to conceive.

I wish my bump would appear so people dont just look at me as if I am a bit chubby around the middle, and as others said....to get a seat on the tube! ;-)

SurprisEs believe me I'll be forever grateful to her !!! Just having a bit of a hard time. They did warn us before we got into this. I'm handling it thought just wish I wasn't so scared and paranoid... After all this waiting I would like to be happier about the good news . DH is taking it much better but he wasn't pregnant with all those 10 babies I lost and our son so can't possibly begin to understand how I feel . I guess it's the fear of it all being taken away from me again...

Welcome Macca74!

Nordic I can see where you're coming from (even though I've never been in that situation or anywhere near). Has this lady been a surrogate before? Are the Obstetricians confident the pregnacy is low risk? What things give you the most reassurance? Can you try and focus on those things?

She hasn't but has had 3 normal pregnancies , last one 4 y ago. She 's not having a high risk pregnancy either so should try to just calm down and think that maybe this is my time for things to work out finally , there's no reason why not :) I'm mainly trying to put it out of my mind , don't actually think about it much ( like I said I feel detached ,I guess that's a coping mechanism) . It's just that everything that's happened to me including getting sick from the steroids I've been so unlucky with and always in some freak few % of the population that I've learned bad ,very unlikely things do happen . I appreciate everything good I have in my life more than ever ( I pray I could one day be healthy again!) but on the other hand i have a lot of fear and awful thoughts about horrible things happening in life ... I've become even more gloomier person that I was and have a tendency for depression anyway . Anyway I'm so happy about my little son everyday of my life and can't ever give him enough kisses and cuddles that I can't wait to have another little bundle to hold and to love !!! We are all very lucky:) and should remember that...

Nordic hopefully the new baby will bring you even more joy! I can only wish you the best. You have obviously been through much pain and it's understandable you feel scared.

Fingers crossed for you.

Thanks ! Fingers grossed for all of us!

Morning all. I can't seem to call in here very often, but it is lovely to hear how everyone is doing. I'm nearly 18 weeks now and went shopping last Friday - spent a fortune but now have clothes that fit and are comfortable. No more undone buttons on my work trousers!!! Bliss.

They must do things differently here. I didn't have any tests at 12 weeks (They don't officially measure the nuchal fold but at the 12 week scan, the sonographer said it looked fine) I had the quadruple test last week and am waiting for the results. The midwife said that if there was something to worry about I would get a phonecall earlier in the week but if it's fine I'll get a letter. So I think I'm waiting for a letter.

I'd forgotten how much worry comes with this baby growing business! I had felt the baby move quite a lot over the last couple of weeks, but nothing for the past few days. I keep chilling out willing it to move so I know everything's ok!

But the fact that I don't feel or look pregnant is making me feel very detached from the baby. I'm just not excited...

Same here ...

Plus, I'm so tired all the time, I just want to have my/ some life back! I feel I have to fake happiness when I tell other people sigh. 14 weeks on Saturday and I'll hope the "promised" energy bust will make an appearance. Shortly!?.

Had my flue jab and thankfully, don't feel ill at all although my arm still hurts 2 days later.

"I feel I have to fake happiness when I tell other people"

Yep :( Horrible isn't it?

hi mums to be,

Im 18 weeks now and belly is really sticking out, hope this brings hope to some of you? You will start to show soon, although everyone seems to at different stages!

It nice looking like im pregnant, althought i do wonder if people think im just fat? ive been feeling quite bloated latley, and still having strange dreams most nights. The other i went to Will and Kates wedding stange huh?.......

cant wait to see baby again so i can check he/she is ok in there, and im a bit worried about this 20wk scan, i had a friend with problems and she had to have the baby aborted after her scan!!!

Anyone else worried about the scan? and who is finding out the sex? me and hubby have decided to wait and see what comes out, dont really mind either way!

xx

I 'm also a bit worried about things until the 20 w scan . After that I found I was much happier while expecting DS. I think it's actually quite rare to have a problem but it's normal to worry about it , can't help it really. I don't actually even have any horrible examples of abnormalities in my family or group of friends . Everyone in general keeps on having healthy babies. But I will be anxious until I'll have the baby in my arms and then I'll worry about it for the rest of my life . That's what it's like being a parent I guess.
We're definitely finding out the sex, can't wait . We have trouble with names like last time and I do want to be able to get more gender specific clothes for the baby not just unisex which I have a stack of from my DS and from earlier pregnancys when I bought things . We've tried for this one for so long that to be honest don't really remember what I have . During one pregnancy I went through everything and organised them by size so I'll get to the boxes sometime soon... Last time I didn't mind which one I was having . But I do have some friends that really wished for a girl.

Hello all, am 15 weeks nowand so far having a wonderfully dull pregnancy. Feels amazing to have got this far and be able to talk openly about the pregnancy. I guess I'm lucky to not have suffered much in the way of sickness.
Had a AN appointment on Tuesday where we heard the hb on the doppler - the baby kept moving in and out of range (another Doppler dodger like ds) but it was very comforting to hear.

Belly still itches but have found a spray-on cream that is working.

Nordic glad 13 week scan went well. I think you're coping very well considering everything you've been through. It's going to be doubly hard keeping the faith when you're not experiencing the pregnancy yourself let alone not in the same country. But it will all be worth it. Things can only move forward.

empusa sorry you've been feeling so down. Have you spoken to your mw about it? My friend had hyperemesis and it really got her down to the point where I thought she might have ante-natal depression and feared she would get pnd. Once her baby was born she felt great and bonded immediately - and not a hint of pnd.

My bump has popped out quite early (probably because this is my 6th pregnancy), but I've been turfing men out of priority seats on the tube for quite a few weeks now. I highly recommend it. Just look for the young, fit looking men - they're more than happy to take an opportunity to look chivalrous.

"Have you spoken to your mw about it? My friend had hyperemesis and it really got her down to the point where I thought she might have ante-natal depression and feared she would get pnd."

I have and I'm seeing a counsellor, I'm also worried this is ante-natal depression. :(

I had ante-natal depression last time, hope you dont Emp and you feel better soon :(

I have an appointment to see a consultant tomorrow about my ragged bits. Not sure what to expect, had a completely normal pregnancy last time...? [hconfused]

That's a positive step empusa - I hope the counselling helps. I had counselling after my third mc - it was a good way to process thoughts and feelings. Ultimately I just needed to get pregnant and stay pregnant again. Perhaps for you it will be a matter of coping the best way that you can until the hormones settle and you'll feel normal again (well as normal as one can with a baby). Are there any AD's you can take in pregnancy?

Normal physically I mean, nothing peculiar, otherwise I've just contradicted my first sentence! [hgrin]

Yep, I'm on sertraline, though I used to take escitalopram so really noticing the difference.

Had my appointment, they want me to probably try for a normal birth (phew!) but will double check closer to the date. I also got to see baba again, which was a lovely surprise :) luckily for DH (who was in work) he/she was rather uncooperative and kept legs crossed so they couldnt tell me the sex.

How lovely beyond! Glad to hear you're on course for a 'normal' birth. Have they offered to tidy up your 'raggedy bits' afterwards?! (sorry - hope I haven't caused offence! I actually have certain raggedy bits that I've been advised can only be dealt with after I'm sure I've completed my family).

Came out to a friend I haven't seen for a while and she's offered me (after I tentatively asked whether she still had them) her bugaboo bee and karrime as she is done with pro-creating now! Really pleased as we only bought a Maclaren Techno for DS and regret not having a rear-facing buggy for the first few months. He was very much a velcro baby and probably wouldn't have cried so much if he was able to see me while in the buggy. I know I'll only use the rear-facer for about 6-10 months so I didn't want to fork out for a brand new one.

Hi everyone nice to read that a good few of you are feeling grumpy, tired and detatched like me, I need to fast forward a few weeks I think so I cant feel the baby moving, I dont even like talking about it at the moment because it feels so unreal I dont feel any different now to before apart from cripplingly tired! Im getting very annoyed with myself for feeling like this as well I know I should be greatful that Im not feeling unwell like a lot of people

I have just turned down a night out as well, very unlike me id rather have a hot chocolate and watch a film, which is exactly my plan for tonight and a bit of crocheting while I have baby blankets to finish for my friends twins :)

hi everyone, i turned down a halloween party, couldnt face going without drinking. but im soooo knackered by saturday nite i quite like staying in watching tv or a film with hot chocolate too like Hotpotpie

My scan is a week away now, Nordicmom i can see how you are worried but fingers crossed for us all, i think our babies will all be fine! fit and healthy!

I think ive felt movements again the other evening it felt like virbrating in my tummy, not sure if thats the flutting people talk off?????
Also sometimes i feel sharp pain on one side, not sure if thats him/her poking me??????
im sure after 20wks i should feel REAL movements!

What everyone been buying? we are looking at carseats and prams thinking off the my4 from mothercare or the icandy cherry from johnlewis.
Trying to buy something for the baby once a month to spread the cost......
So much to get, although my sister has kindly handed me down some things.