April 2012 Babies - 2nd thread to welcome the 2nd trimester

[digitalgirl]

Join us as we head out of the secretive, scary, slightly sicky first trimester and into the bump emerging, supposedly blossoming, energy boosting second trimester.

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Dear All
I am having a fab day today, first in a while. Met an old friend in town and she brought another friend with her, who is also pregnant and due 3 days after me. So for once in RL I felt I could have a proper pregnancy conversation with someone that knows exactly what I am going through.

Only downside I am feeling at the moment is needing lots of rennie now. Just wanted to share a happy me for a change!!

Monday again. After an awful weekend . I was in bed 18 out pf 24hrs on Sunday and feel just as tired and exhausted. Was late for work today so joined hubby on the train - which was packed. Managed to faint just as the train arrived into Vauxhall, remember taking the first step out of the train but not the second. Basically both legs and hand is bruised now & my knee really hurts. Hubby was seriously worried, which unfairly makes me feel better.

I'm 14 + 2 and instead of getting better, I think the whole thing is getting worse, also the (stretching) pain isn't getting away and I have a developed a different kind of sickness, rather than trowing up I feel so ill.

Told 2 of my friends and cried & could just talk about how awful it is. My mum says, I'm too negative and it'll harm the baby and she's right, I wish I could feel differently but ...

And to top it all, I have this fear that the baby is already dead and I just don't know it and if so, that I'll had it all coming.

Oh Thaleia you poor thing. Have you spoken to your GP or midwife about how you're feeling? Maybe a week off work would be helpful? You can self-certificate for a week.

One thing I'm pretty sure of: You won't hurt your baby by being negative. It's really hard seeing people having "easy" pregnancies and glowing and blooming and all that when you feel the opposite. You're doing an amazing thing - you're growing a new human being! It's no wonder your body is feeling the strain. Be easy on yourself lovely.

thaleia really really sorry to hear you're feeling so awful. Have you mentioned this to your GP or midwife? There may be some anti-emetics they can prescribe that will help you feel better - or perhaps take empusa's lead and see if counselling might help? And if you have any worries at all about the baby then you should be able to book an appointment with your mw and hopefully she can have a listen on the doppler.

newmummyvicky haven't bought anything yet - apart from some more muslin swaddle sheets. I bought a pack of 4 so I could give one as a present and keep three for myself! I had one given to me when DS was born and it was one of the most useful items ever. Used it as a swaddle, a blanket, a sunshade over the buggy, a shawl when breastfeeding, a giant bib when weaning DS...and I'm sure there were more uses that I can't quite remember now.

After the 20 week scan will be getting a bit more organised and buy a new mattress for the cot. Not sure what else we need - maybe some new bottles and some extra night lights.

DH told me he's beginning to get excited about the new addition. Poor guy has been holding his breath till now, finding it difficult to believe pregnancy means baby. But I think because my family are getting excited, their enthusiasm is rubbing off. Don't get me wrong, he hasn't been 'not-excited' - he's amazingly supportive. This has been as much of a journey for him as it has been for me. And I'm beginning to feel a little more comfortable talking about it to people.

Thelia

Sorry to hear about your fall and faiting! but glad your hubby was there to help you. If your 14wks you should have the next midwife appointment where you hear the heartbeat at 16wks. This may put your mind at rest or maybe see if you can get a extra scan at the hospital?....
I had pains at 14wks and they offer me one! i fear the worst and was really upset, but baby was all ok. im sure your little one is too :)

My tiedness seems a little better lately, not had too many afternoons naps on day off. Not that i have many days off working in shop its our busiest time off year, with christmas round the corner- Roll on 2012.

hi all, Thelia sounds like your having a terrible time, I have the same worry about my baby being dead, I keep rationalising it thinking that a. I have so many symptoms it cant be, which is true for you too and b. in a couple weeks the pair of us will be getting the crap kicked out of us so we will have plenty of evidence to the contrary, hang on in there!

Ive just seen the pram I want with a lot of money off it, im only 16 weeks and while I am totally paranoid about buying stuff yet part of me thinks missing out on a £150 saving would be stupid just wondered what everyone else thinks really? is it too early??

I'm 16+3 I have to say I am hating being pregnant! Nausea, constant pressure on bladder, hve finally stopped peeing every 5 mins, but the pressure is horrid!!! First child and never again. Sorry for the whine, feeling very sorry for myself. Oh, and I want to cry all the time.

Re-reading that makes me sound so ungrateful. Sorry. This baby is very much wanted. But my god!!! Why can't men carry them instead!

oh dear, and we thought the second trimester was meant to be full of joy! Sorry to hear so many people having a tough time.

Thaleia - I'm sure that feeling bad really has no effect on the baby. That's such an awful thing to tell someone when they're feeling down as well - it's hardly going to make you feel better is it?! As others have said I would mention all this to your gp/midwife and see what they can suggest.

Those muslin blankets look lovely digi although quite pricey! I luckily have heaps of blankets from last time but do need more muslins, as most of the ones I had for DD seem to have mysteriously disappeared. Probably just a cheap stack of them though.

I haven't bought anything yet. The only thing I didn't get for DD but would like for #2 is some kind of bouncy chair. I used to just plonk DD down on the floor/sofa/wherever until she was of rolling/moving age, but with a toddler running around the place, I figure it will be nice for the baby to have its own chair to sit in. Think nearly new sales is probably the way to go for that - saw some good cheap ones last time I was at one of them.

Oh, and I might start stocking up on newborn size nappies and breastpads when it gets nearer the time. I used to go through unbelievable amounts of breastpads - had reusable ones too but they were only really effective after a few months for me when milk supply had calmed down.

hotpot - how long is the sale on for? maybe if you could just wait a few more weeks you'd feel better about it. we nearly bought our pram really early as it was just when new bugaboo bee was coming out, and there were great deals on the old version, but they were all sold out!

Hello, can I join you please I am 15 weeks today. I have missed out on the first trimester as I only got my firm EDD after my scan last week.
Am due DC4 on 24th April, I have DD 11, DS1 7 and DS2 11 months, I am quite daunted at the prospect of having 4 DC and having two so close together. We haven't told anyone yet as I have been having a few health issues I want to get sorted first, I think they will all be shocked at the news.

Welcome notso. Good luck x

Can I join in too. I am due on 24th April too....still feeling quite queasy which is getting me down. Was on tablets which helped but gave them up as had a good week!

Welcome froggers. I hope the sickness subsides soon. Good luck x

Forgot to add, I'm due April 13th 2012

Thanks for letting me in!
Knackered today, but I think thats more to do with DS2 than being pregnant.
My jeans and skirts are feeling very tight now, but am trying to hold off the maternity stuff until we have told everyone, so am hiding under leggings and baggy tops and dresses.
My best friend has just announced she has organised her wedding for four days before I am due! I don't know if it's worse to be fit to burst or still be in the zombie stage of having a newborn at such an occasion.

ooh notso - you could make it a wedding to remember if dc4 decides to make an arrival in the church!

I have been looking at maternity wear today as I have a few bits from last itme but some of it is looking a bit old for work now and I could do with a few more. Gutted as this is the only dress I've found that I really like but it's not available in my size: www.dorothyperkins.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=0&viewAllFlag=&catalogId=33053&storeId=12552&productId=2648804&langId=-1&sort_field=Relevance&categoryId=208668&parent_categoryId=208600&pageSize=20&refinements=category~[212219|208668]&noOfRefinements=1

could do with some good leggings - any recommendations?

well ive checked the returns policy and its quite easy going so im getting my pram this weekend first baby purchase

Cant quite decided but think I may have felt the start of the baby moving today, my stomach was fluttering away for about half an hour but nothing like that since so Im putting it down as wishful thinking for now but hopefully will feel it more often now

My fluttering seems to be on and off. Havent felt anything for a while?
ummm a part from other day pain in my my lower stomach when i was sat on loo LOL, as soon as i got up the pain when away, i think it was maybe baby pushing on one side.

My nipples seem to be white on the end, not sure if this is milk ducts coming?
and my boobs seem to be bigger, im a 38 DD now eeeekkkk!!!!

Thinking about my materity leave now at work, want to carry on till 6wks before, mid feb. When is everyone else leaving?
still looking at prams but gonna wait till after christmas.

mackerel that is a nice dress! I'm rubbish at maternity wear, I've got a total of 4 actual maternity tops (all from Gap) and only my jeggings, leggings and skirt to wear (all from JoJo). I desperately need to go shopping, but I hate shopping at the weekend and can't pop out at lunchtime as I daren't risk my SPD flaring up.
Online shopping is the way to go I think.

Welcome froggers and notso

vicky thinking about going till 36 weeks (mid-March), but will see how I feel nearer the time. If SPD is bad, then might have to leave sooner.

Had my flu jab yesterday. Arm a bit achy today, but otherwise feeling fine!

Anyone else on their 2nd DC but only in a 2 bed house/flat? Everyone keeps asking me where we'll put the baby...I thought it was obvious that it would sleep in our room, then have to share with DS. But my friends with two all have at least 3-bed places and couldn't contemplate putting their two children in the same room.

can I say hi? I'm 16 weeks tomorrow with twins. i have a 13 month old DD.

thaleia, I feel awful too, still being sick, but also quit the tablets but the exhaustion is the hardest thing. I can't rest, my DD doesn't get it, and she's been ill for 2.5 weeks so very, very disturbed nights. last time, when I started getting less sick- at 16 weeks, it went very suddenly. I hope it does for you too!! Maybe see the gp or midwife, not too long to wait til 16 weeks, and hearing the heartbeat is very uplifting and reassuring. I can't stop with panicking about something going wrong with the babies too. I have had a lot of pain (and was scanned for it at 14+4 and both fine), but had some spotting a few days ago, and more pain today. Consultant said twins is a totally different ball game to a singleton pregnancy but it all seems so alien, and having 'high risk' scrawled over your notes does not induce confidence. I torture myself with the thought of dead babies hourly... They can't do heartbeats for twins as no way of knowing you've got both, so I get no reassurance til my next scan at 20 weeks, and then I only get scanned and see consultant monthly til 28 weeks when it goes up to fortnightly as I'm a high risk pregnancy.
Good luck to you!! And you are not alone. Pregnancy is suffering and pain and worry, but the end result will be so worth it, hang in there.

digital, I'll be having the twins in the same room til they leave home I think room sharing is totally normal, I shared with my sister til age 7 and was gutted to have to move house and get my own room!!!

digital I had to share a room with my brother until the age of 14y! I was desperate to get some privacy by the time I was a teenager... DS was in our bedroom until 18 m because we had 1 bed and a study . Now he's got his own room with an ensuite bathroom and doesn't think there's anything odd about that ;)and baby will have it's own room on the same floor as us luckily since I'm not so good with stairs due to my illness ...

Digitalgirl We have just put our 2 bed house on the market! I am really nervous and I wasn't going to do it until after the new baby was 6-m-o or so but we saw a massive house at a very reasonable price and when I asked to view it the estate agent somehow got me to agree to put ours on the market now. I don't have to accept any offers - and it will be quite interesting to see if anyone bites but I am so nervous and wound up about it. I've never sold a house before, only bought this one and my old flat which is also now going on the market. I woke up at 2 last night fretting about where to move to. The big house was in too rough an area and we are now thinking of moving out to Kent - near Maidstone, partly for a quieter way of life as I'm getting tired of S London and partly for the grammar schools. I woke up at 2 to go to the loo and then couldn't get back to sleep until nearly 5. My mind wouldn't stop racing/worrying about everything.

If anyone lives in Kent and has any opinion or advice on moving there I'd love to hear it.

newmummyvicky I haven't felt any movement yet. Will be 17 weeks tomorrow. (they bought my edd forward to the 13th from the 16th at the scan, did I say?). I can hear the heartbeat loud and clear on my homedoppler though so not worried - although quite impatient to feel things.

We'll eventually do a loft conversion and get a third bedroom in...but we're having trouble getting the finance both DH and I are self-employed and having 'computer says no' issues. But tbh I wouldn't do the loft conversion now whilst pg and wouldn't want to do it while baby was very little (the dust!)...so might as well wait for a couple of years.

bearcrumble you poor thing, I HATE it when that happens to me. Sometimes, best thing to do is write lists when that happens. Writing it all down usually helps me - so I can see all my thoughts laid out rather than have the swimming round in my head if that makes any sense.
Sorry can't help with the Kent query, am a north londoner myself.

Digital I don't think you need to worry for a couple of years anyway - they should be fine in together for a while. I'm a bit worried about DH getting a mortgage should we need one as he's also self employed (I'm at home with DS).

The list thing is a really good idea - I did it myself the night before last but unfortunately I couldn't put the light on or anything last night as DS has started (for the last three nights) refusing to sleep in his cot. He used to have storytime on the double bed in our room for half an hour and then I'd take him into his room, zip him in his sleeping bag and he'd roll onto his tummy and go straight to sleep. God knows why but since the night the clocks changed he's been screaming his head off until we take him in with us. The first night he went down ok but kept waking up, the second night he came in with us from 2am and last night he wouldn't even go to sleep in his own room. He cried for 40 mins (with me popping in every 10 mins) but he was getting so upset I took him to bed with me and he slept fine.

I'm a bit confused as to why this has started and what I should do about it. I don't want to be cruel but I'm not used to cosleeping and he's been such a good sleeper the last month or so. I don't want DH to have to sleep on the sofa. There's not enough room for all three of us in the bed as DS likes to sleep horizontally to the bed...

and sorry to hear you're feeling so rotten.

we bought a 3-bed house recently (moving from rented 2-bed flat) but the 3rd bed is a loft conversion up stairs from other two beds so I wouldnt expect DD to go in there by herself until quite old - it'll just be a spare room and baby will share with dd when s/he moves out of our room.

I shared with both my sisters until about 8yo and then with one of them for another couple of years and I always liked it - chatting after lights out, playing together etc., although I think my elder sister was desperate for her own room once she got to 9/10yo.

bear - I've heard good things about kent but unfortunately no real knowledge either (I'm N London too digi; although soon to be NW London). It is very stressful buying a house. I've never sold either but can imagine it is pretty stressful with lots of unknowns! how weird about your ds' sleep - hope he goes back to normal and gives you some peace soon!