Dec 05: Advent Calanders at the ready.....

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Hello good idea from tomcat

What are all your xmas tips and recipes or stuff you're doing to get you thru the next fewdays/weeks to EDD's

I going to try and make a stocking to hang in the nursery for when my little lewis comes home and for the first time bake a christmas cake.

i agree nemo, sod the ot of them, enjoy christmas on your own with your new family, its their loss!!

Right then I feel a little better now as I have sent a long email going on and on about the stress etc and also how I panicked that someone had been trying to get my bank info etc. So will see what asda has to say for themselves. Must admit it has put me off using them.

Evening all.

Sorry havent been on but its easier to get on to MN while at work... I have been busy shopping and doing little things!
Still no baby here another 2 weeks to go!!!

Jays,
Yesterday was a quiet day for bubs, like you i was worried, the only good purchase i have made (in my life) was a doppler so i can butt in when i like. At the start i was a nightmare i was so afraid because i M/C last year. But i am glad to hear you little girl is back in action after her 40 winks

Bonkers,
Tell them all to go and feck! You have enough on your plate besides them making life difficult for you. I think its a case of SIL wanting her own way and not happy till she does!

I am off now to put on the fire, dinner is cooking away so i am then going to have a relaxing bath and when DP comes in he can scrub my back! Have pulled a muscle in my chest so i really dont want to go into labour now as breathing is a little hard! I am on maternity leave and i am up every morning at 6 o'clock!! Is thaty the baby tellin me somthing!

Hope you all well and that bubs start arriving very soon

love
minnie1

Nemo,
Wishing you all the very best tomo.. God looking back i bet you never though you would make it this far.. Well done hun and sending you good vibes and hugs..

bonkerz,
stuff 'em. stick to your guns. that's ridiculous! i'm 4 days post partum w/an uncomplicated vaginal delivery and can't imagine travelling over the holidays 2 days from now w/newborn and toddler in tow - plus i'm having to express off one breast b/c dd2 gashed the nipple.

Nemo, Grrr to Asda. Can't believe you have had stress with shopping today of all days. I'm so angry on your behalf.
Not sure I will get back on here tonight as I am off to see my DSS in his school christmas play so wanted to wish you so much luck for tomorrow. I hope it goes smoothly & quickly for you and you have a lovely little bundle later on tomorrow.

Bonkerz, grrr to your SIL too. How selfish is she!!! Easy answer is just to tell her that your doctor has advised that you don't travel that soon after your c-section (probably true anyway). Tell your SIL if she is that desperate to drink she can crash on your sofa til she has sobered up. Hope you get it sorted.

Well crappy afternoon for me. Felt terrible, really rough, trapped nerve or something in my hip to go with the normal pains plus soooo tired but can't sleep.
Feel better for the whinge though!!

DQ, where are you? Hope you are OK.

hey ladies
nemo, firstly much luck and love to you for tomorrow -bloody early I shall be snoozing....- wishing a gorgeous not too big very healthy baby your way,
ninah, as much as I hate to admit it, your P is prob right, tho my pg brain cant deal with it. there is NO logic or planning in when or how we will deliver, and thats prob my biggest problem, as I like to plan and make lists and KNOW whats happening when. and cant for this. dh and i fought last night, ending in me telling him I dont want him at the birth at all. but, hes quite nice and understanding today, I dont have ANY other priorities, the birth is ALL my head is full of, so dealing with his 'getting on with normal life' is quite hard for me. and vice versa i guess. lets just hope its not sat night, because much as he says otherwise, he will get pissed and he will be useless.....
Minnie up early and on mat leave? you mad fool i am awake til god knows what hour....and then snoozing on and off all night/morning til I have to get up, as dd2 wont leave me alone. bless her.
midwife appointment today, MORE bloods taken -stupid low iron levels- and big surprise, baby is almost totally engaged.......this is a huge surprise as most third/fourth/etc babies dont engage at all until labour, dd2 didnt at all.. so THAT bit of news made dh sit up quick LOL even tho i suspect I could go ages with a fully engaged baby, i'm not telling dh that!!
spd awful today...couldnt even manage the shops, which is NOt like me.
nemo, I'm doing my best to join you with tomorrow as our delivery date!!!

here I am george,
have a nice time at the christmas play. my big two have finished today for christmas!!eek!!

what happened there I just posted to say Hi back george and sorry about leg but it disappeared, just as well as there were some grim details about acid reflux and sleeplessness you probaby didn't want to know!
Hi dq, it does sound like you'll be beating me to the pool this time. I am totally with you, I HATE the randomness of it, my life is full of lists and diary appointments and then there's this horrible vague blur of pain and anxiety hanging over me. P is hugely busy with work and has his head full of that, I do think it's difficult to relate to how random and scary it is unless you go through it. He says things like 'Friday is a good day, I'm working locally' but he's away tonight ... I too veer between telling him to stuff it and I'll ask a friend and weeping like a moron, oh dear oh dear. I have these visions of getting an ambulance to stop off at our local on the way - all in all I know he CAN be relied on for this but I would love to have it booked in. Well I'll be thinking of you and maybe you could join Nemo let's hope so
Off to sing carols with ds now
See you on Friday all will look for your news nemo xx

Nemo - good luck tomorrow hun.

oh this boards gone all funny!! nemo, that first line of what now look just like commas, was in fact a big good luck message to you for the morning.
wishing you really well hun. make sure we know asap!!!!

well ladies thanks for the messages. This will be my last post as a mum of one feel sooooo scared but excited..lol Hope you all manage to pop over next few days and I return to a ton of baby announcements.
Take care all
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oh you can see whole message from earlier now.duh!
good luck nemo, will be thinking of you.
hey s/h hows its gone today?
ninah,...dh and I have had amny a conversation over this 'unplanable' event and hes being pretty nice to me -considering I am cranky pg lady from hell- so fingers crossed it all works out. and for you, I hope p pulls his sokcs up and helps out right when you really need him. do you have ds sorted out for somewhere to go when you gointo labour? I should imagine witha ll the extra stress and hassle youve been under lately you may well go early. (cant wait to hear your birth announcement)
so whos officially next?

george, following our multitude of domestic goods crisis we've both had, I thougbht you would like to know my washing machine flooded today! TWICE and our laundry room is UPSTAIRS and so.it flooded there.........and then leaked down to flood the kitchen. oh so what i wanted to do this evening....mop!!! stupid stupid white goods. seems I have fixed it somewhat (yes its only me who does ANY DIY in this house ) but it had better not do that again......FFS. is it our turn for good luck with everlasting appliances from now on do you think????????

GOOD LUCK NEMO

See you on postnatal soon.

ohhhhhh, scully, out of our regular posters, its YOU next!!! how are you doing?

Good morning. Another sleepless night for me. I'm getting irritated because then I spend most of the day feeling knackered and not getting enough done. I still have sooo much to do...

This may be TMI, but I've had an increasing no of BH, and some additional discharge so thought I'd try and kick start everything - lots of Raspberry leaf tea and some vigerous BD tonight. But all its done is make my pelvis and back hurt so I can't sleep. Doh! Will I ever learn that this baby will come when it wants, not when I want it to...?

Nemo I know you won't read this till after but am thinking of you.

Bonkerz, SIL should go stuff herself. Do whats best for you.

Right, LONG AND BORING BIT coming up - more late night therapy for me than interesting reading material for you, I'm afraid...

DH is very annoyed at my mum because we were planning to go up for Christmas (they live in London about 1.5 hrs away) regardless of whether baby was here, and have the baby up there if it decided to put in an appearance. But I'm beginning to regret that decision. Not that mum will listen to me - she's trying to arrange everything so that its convenient for her, regardless of how we feel. She's spoken to her doctor about me giving birth up there, has suggested I have a sweep there and has more or less said she won't come down if I can't come up. TBH I don't mind which hospital I end up in (London or here), and I'd like to spend Christmas with my mum, but I don't fancy labouring in front of the entire extended family...I want to be on my territory.

I'm a bit of a coward too. I should just tell her I don't feel comfortable going up if we haven't already had the baby but I know she'll just get all p*ssed off with me and refuse to talk to me (she refused to talk to me straight after the birth of DD - to cut a long story short she fell out with DH because she just turned up at the hospital expecting to be present at the birth when we'd specifically told her not to and then got into a further snit because DHs mum came to help a couple of days later. Her sulking added a huge amount of stress to an already difficult situation).

So the plan of action is now - if I have baby next week, we'll go up for a short stay over Christmas if I feel up to it. If I haven't had baby, we're probably going to lie and say the midwife has advised against travel. She'll come up with a hundred and one reasons why she knows better than the midwife, I'm sure, but tough.

Right, I guess I better try and get some sleep, lots to do tomorrow. Not sure eating Haribo at this time of night will help me sleep, though...

BABYG - Snap up late too and end up fretting durign the day at my last minute jobs that I just don't seem to have the energy to do.

My your Mum seems very 'keen' don't you mind? I've been very wary of protecting mine and DH time together thruout birth and afterwards - I just cudn't have mine fussing -plus our house is small and there is no spare bed - but thats just me - you sound chilled about it all?

My MW today said i could have MEMBRANE SWEEP TWO DAY BEFORE EDD which will happen nxt thursday - anyone had one of these?

Was intially excited but now i'm not sure whether i should allow 'intervention' and just wait for it all to start naturaly. I think the reason she offered was because of the holidays and I was quite keen?

DH ironed all of Lewis' clothes - lovely feel v close to him right now xmas cake still not iced, tree in window with no decorations and a pile of xmas cards to write! (Have just finished Sharon Osbornes 'Extreme' though - half price in Waterstones )

Gud nite hope you regular day posters are well when you wake.

hey am here.woke at 4, lay there till 5, thought this is mad and got up......hate not sleeping!

hi Jay tried to read but got up and made porridge for DH who I sort of woke too!!!!

lol i was just contemplating porrige, had some raspberry tea and toast ..why am i so hungry when i wake up...mad

i left dh n bed....always feel bad about waking him, although he says he doesnt mind

LOL LOL I just got my Raspberry leaf tea tablets yesterday - and I've just took two!!

I have developed a mad split shift sleeping pattern 10pm to 1am and 8am to 2pm ish its mad cos I can't get anything done. We have everything ready but there are just those last little jobs I wud prefer done - DH says i must let go and start to relax to concetrate on birth.

my sleep pattern is totally erratic, am hoping baby doesnt take after me!!! mind shes norm quite quiet at night time, mornings and early eve is when shes most active...although past week shes not moving as much!

Your due 23rd arent yu? mine isnt till 31st although when i went to consultant last week he said 29th...who knows, guess she will come when shes ready!

All ready here also, keep wandering into the nursert to have a look, not that anythung ever changes in there! this is m first and i cant belive its happening!

BABYG just read your post again bit more awake now (had porridge!)

TBH my mam can be very difficult and i feel I've always got to side step stuff and be careful of how i put my plans across to her (she too sulks and also can be v pesimistic, thinks the world is against her even when I reassure her - just all round difficult at times .

For example she has said she must be first at the hospital to see baby - however she lives 16 miles ways (30mins in car) and doesnt drive, whereas we have family who live closer and my best friend all of which have cars and are most likely to arrive before my mam = tears and tantrums. I get annoyed with her for saying things like this but i too am a coward and don't say anything. SO WE TOO HAVE A PLAN! DH has to 'manage' the visitors by suggesting a suitable visiting time so as not to upset my mam. Again I really do find this annoying that she 'puts this onto me at a time like this'.

OOOOOOOOOhhhhhhh i do get annoyed with her. This is not to mention to the constant updates about her first grandson (from my younger brother) who is always at her house it does my head in! I worry that Lewis will always get compared to him as when i mentioned thing like using a dummy 'well our ....' and SIL does this and that. Oooh I hate it already I'm dreading when he stays over and I make requests that differ from SIL

RANT OVER anyone else have these sorts of 'issues' or is it a 'first time mum' thing?

I know JAY i only packed my bag last week (its 2m away) so after all the nice little shopping trips to buy stuff for the bag when i had actually packed it I got one or two pangs of nerves.

One week today i will get my 'sweep'! according to stats I am likely to have hime within 48hrs which takes us up to xmas day/boxing day! OMG
DH has realised this and asked what will happen to turkey? does he still cook it on xmas eve? Honestly he loves his food!

oh lord, issues with visiting! we live in surrey and my parents who are divorced each have their own partners now, live in Nottingham, 21/2 hrs away, DH parents live in Devon...miles away, but my mum has also said she wants to be the first to see baby... DH has said that we need to manage the situation also , as someone somewhere is going to be hurt or feel like they are being pushed out. He doesnt get on with his parents that well and i dont think he sees that i want to have my mum around ( if after the vent!) what i think i will suggest is that, noone comes to the hospital( well parents anyway) but the day i come out they can allbe at he house ready to welcome me home...dad and wife will have to stay in bnb as will PIL i think, and my mum can stay with us in spare room...then after the initial swap of parents, other family and friends can come visit...prob wont work out like that but like lts of others i like to have some knd of plan!