We're now halfway and it's PMA all the way - Nov 2011

[cep]

Halfway there now ladies. on the countdown.

Hi all

Have we got a list somewhere of who is having boy/girl/doesn't know?

We are not going to find out but keep getting people saying "oh, because you can eat oranges etc ... you are having a ....!

Just would be interested to see if there is any difference in what people having boys can eat vs what people having girls crave.

bbm there's one on fb. and people started putting them on our stats list here what did you do to your last post on there by the way?

ali yay for good scan and team blue

welcome dawn

cep it may be worth mentioning to your MW/GP at your next visit if you are really struggling with crying over silly things - they may be able to help/give some helpful tips!!

just you are not alone; ms has never fully left here (have still been nauseous) but actually being sick returned yesterday & today :( have barely eaten/drunk anything today as feel so rough but that was silly as have given myself headache as well now!!

I'm not in the best of moods...payday tomorrow and my payslip doesn't add up (nor did last months but assumed it was due to having 4weeks off sick, which should be at full-pay). I've also been going through the mat leave policy - I understand the pay & length of time BUT am totally confused with the form I need to complete & send in to get it!!!! HR & payrol will have a rahter emotional woman on the phone to them tomorrow - may well phone from my work mobile in the caar so I don't look like a complete tit crying down the phone in the office

Anyway PMA - baby has been getting hiccups at least twice a day and movements are consistent and really strong so DP & DS can feel them too.
DP brought me 2 dvds I've been after as a really early birthday prezzie. DS didn't get up too early this morning and has gone to bed nicely. DP has just started a lovely bath running for me :)

Hope everyone & bumps are well x x

Oooh don't know - was trying to add my existing children on - did I mess it up?

Is there a facebook page set up? I have friended you so point me in the right direction please x

So the scan was brilliant - really detailed and we were given so much information about all the bits and what they were looking for. Lovely to see so much after baby being in a duff position last time - this time breach, squatting on my bladder, facing forward - weird. And a right wriggler - the heart bit was tricky as he wouldn't keep still. Some really nice pics which I'll try and put on FB. I'm am really surprised it's a boy thoiugh as had convinced myself girl (prob because my emotions were a lot more messed up with my DS) but I did always think I'd have boy girl boy so just got to get my head round it and start thinking about names.

Told DS and DD - DS v excited and wants to call him Thomas (def a maybe but my evil witch of a godmum has a DGS called Tom and I think her comparisons would finish my Mum off (she is my Dad's best friend)); DD was more interested in her Rice Crispies but did ask if I could open my tummy for her to have a look and later announced that when the baby comes we will be able to see its feet.

My Dad is being a bit weird and refusing to be told sex - can't see that lasting as DS and DD are bound to tell him so tough - only because aforementioned evil witch godmum is pouring poison in his ear.

I don't have a particularly close relationship with any of my family, mostly they drive me nuts they are all so different from me but I try hard as I want my DCs to have a close relationship with them all (my mum's mum was definitely the family member I adored the most - just unquestioning, unflattering pure love).

MIL doesn't talk to me or engage with DCs particularly (weird given she had 7) - when she does come she just talks to DH - supposed to be shy but I think rude. FIL and his wife are best of the bunch really easy to get on with and easy to have around the StepMIL hasn't had kids so despite being brilliant with ours can only take us in small doses!

juststarting obsession with bf can take over your life - I didn't manage with DS after he was in NICU but expressed for him - after 13 weeks I gave up after I was given some great advice about looking holistically at what was right for my family - looking after DS had becone something I had to fit in around my expressing schedule and knowing what I know now my milk never actually came in properly. With DD it worked brilliantly - MWs in hospital were fab and helped me with every latch for about 48 hours until I was confident.

And yes, I have become a cry baby - I have cried more in my 3 pregnancies that in the rest of my life put together and mainly at random things like my boss telling me what appraisal grading he'd been given.

Right I'd better shut up.

Welcome...

... Dawn

ooh and tip for everyone - registrar said I should get a swine flu jab as its still recommended for all pg ladies

Evening all,

just, it could be heartburn, I get it in the evening, just a sicky taste in my mouth, it's due to you ligaments etc softening so the acid from you stomach can work it's way back upwards. I spoke to the doctor who said that Gaviscon is fine during pregnancy, a fair few women apparently end up slugging it from the bottle by the end. My only problem is that it tastes spo disgusting I sometimes put up with the sicky taste rather than this taste - ergh!!!

juststarting I've had that the last few days... Have generally felt rotten!

Welcome Dawn

bbm it is set up but for some reason we need to be friends for a little while before it'll put you on the list when i try to add you, as soon as your name appears i'll add you.

ali sounds lovely, they're so detailed aren't they. i'm a little confused, your godmum is your dads bestfriend? what about your stepmum what does she think about the godmum?

Welcome Dawny!

Nothing much to report here - PMA I've managed not to cry so far today! I left work seriously sharp to get home and watch what was left of the tennis. Think I need to stick to working 9-5, no overtime, getting lots of sleep, or the bosses are definitely going to start experiencing the wobbly me.

Reading some of your posts is making me realise just how lucky I am with both my and DH's families. All four parents have the ability to drive me mad, but not in a permanent way (we have a "three day" limit on any visit, and we're more than an hour's drive from each of them). They're all really supportive and would definitely not venture an opinion on what we name our child.

We're not going to tell people when we've chosen a name (although will say pink or blue) - if only because that way work can run a sweepstake if they want!

Evening! So scan today was brilliant, Fidget was living up to its name and moving about all over the place!!

I won the coin toss and we found out - BOY!!!! Was convinced we were having a girl too ali. We've decided as most people didn't want us to find out and keep it a surprise we're going to keep it a secret for everyone else! So you lot are the only ones I have told!!

God it's going to be so hard keeping it quiet!

Also, welcome dawn

Sorry to hear everyone's horrible family stories, luckily my parents are brilliant, including the steps and in laws.

Apart from in laws not wanting us to find out what Fidget is!

Congratulations Hils!

Evening all!

Welcome in Dawn!
Nice to hear you had a good scan, hope things have gone smoothly for you over the last 20wks?

Scan was lovely, we're team blue again! Another little fella, I'm outnumbered in our house now, DH and 2 boys!
We've got a right little fidget, he was sleeping with his ankles crossed and one hand on his head then realised he was being watched and was completely uncooperative! Every time she went to look at a side of his head he turned it the other way!
Stretched his legs right out and then suddenly held onto his toes once she got to measuring his femur!
Just as cheeky as DS was through his 20wk scan!

I'm so sorry I've not caught up with everyone, I'm absolutely exhausted, just checking in before going to bed, will catch up properly after work tomorrow.

Sorry it is a bit confusing. My Mum and Dad are still together so no stepmum. Godmum's husband (who is v sweet) and my Dad have been friend's since they were 15 and he got to be friends with godmum when she become his mates girlfriend. They were mates for about 10 years before my Dad met my Mum. Mum struggles with the friendship as there is definitely a bit of did I marry the wrong one in there but a lot of the time they are just 2 couples who are good friends and holiday and stuff. BUT she can be a bitch from hell, stirring, causing trouble, whispering and can be very horrid to my Mum and you can guess who my Dad always sticks up for. She tried to come between me and my Mum when I was in my teens before I realised what she was like which is basically a jealous, bitter self-obsessed witch - she has taken a dislike to my DH but only so she can bitch to my Dad about him

take a breath, stop venting

so glad for all the great scans today. wow it's a blue day today.

alicat sorry it was the stepmil. Does your dad really not see it from her then? She sounds absolutely awful, what's it to her whether you or your folks know the sex or not. i wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut i'm afraid.

she lives 2 hours away and I rarely have anything to do with her - plus my Dad would freak if I had a go at her so I just stay clear. He was upset that I didn't invite them to drive 2 hours to my DS's 2nd bithday party

Yay for the boys - enough for a footie team soon

ali why they're his friends not yours. oh that does get me, my mil expects us to invite her friend to our things, is so strange. i leave it to dh to tell her no though.

if he has to rank people in order or importance it would be

1. my DS & DD
2. evil witch
3. me and my sister
4. my mum drives me nuts but I don't want to fall out with him though. He is very moody and difficult but can turn on the charm (which is embarassing - I now have grandparents separately to friends for DCs birthdays after he embarassed me so badly at one of DS's parties). I could rant on and on. He is my Dad and so I do love him but he makes it bloody difficult.

sadly my dad my responsibilty

never I'd been trying for 6 years before Sprout happened - DP and I lived apart for three months, shared a bed once in that period, and baby was made. I used to be really hurt whenever people got pregnant, crying every time someone announced it on fb etc, so I understand your SiL a little bit. Give her time and space to get comfortable with the thought. Just don't take it personally - it's probably not :)

ali i know the feeling with mil. problem is dh is all "she's lways been like that nothing i can do about it." so i have to just grin and bear it when she gets funny.