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Jue in June -Waters breaking everywhere and not a drop of Gaviscon to drink...

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NurseSunshine · 12/06/2011 22:17

Here's another :)

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sasamaxx · 17/06/2011 17:12

Marking my place until I catch up Smile

milliemuffin · 17/06/2011 17:19

Just found this, there's quite a few!

Birth is a safe and wonderful experience.
I will give birth without complications.
I am not afraid.
I know my baby feels my calmness and confidence.
I trust in my ability to give birth.
My body knows exactly what it is doing.
I am confident in my ability to birth naturally, painlessly and easily.
During labor and birth,I am completely relaxed and comfortable.
I will have an uncomplicated, peaceful, joyous and pleasurable birth.
My baby is healthy.
I am completely cooperating with my body.
I will breathe deeply and slowly to relax my muscles making it easier for my uterus to work.
My body is made to give birth, nice and easy.
I believe my baby?s birth will come quickly and easily.
My body is completely relaxed.
All I need to do is relax and breathe ? nothing else.
Everything is going right.
I feel the strong waves of labor and know that everything is normal and progressing.
Relax my mind and muscles.
Courage, faith and patience.
My body knows how to have this baby just as my body knew how to grow this baby.
Keep breathing slow and even.
Inhale peace, exhale tension.
Keep my mind on acceptance and surrender.
I show absolutely no signs of fear or concern.
I surrender my birthing over to my baby and my body.
My body has a wide open space for my baby to descend.
My body will give birth in its own time.
I love my baby and I am doing all that is necessary to bring about a healthy birth.
Birth is an easy and natural occurrence for which my body has been perfectly designed.
The strength of my uterine contractions is a sign of my feminine strength.
I have the energy and stamina to birth my baby.
I surrender to the contractions and relinquish control of the forces within my body.
I allow my body?s natural anesthesia to flow through my body.
I do not fight the birth in any way.
My body is totally relaxed
I am not afraid.
The power and intensity of my contractions cannot be stronger than me, because it is me.
I am ready and prepared for childbirth.
I relax so my baby can relax
My job is to simply relax and allow the birth to happen.
Just let my body do it; let it happen.
I see myself handling everything beautifully.
Each contraction produces a healthy, positive pain that I can handle.
Birth will go exactly as it should.
Birth is a safe and wonderful experience.
My baby is healthy.
I surrender my birthing over to my baby and my body.
I love my baby and I am doing all that is necessary to bring about a healthy birth.
The strength of my uterine contractions is a sign of my feminine strength.
I do not fight the birth in any way. My body is totally relaxed. I am not afraid.
My mind and body can handle a labour of any kind
I will have a strong and healthy baby
I trust my body to know how to birth this child
* I trust my instincts to know what I need in labour
I trust my instincts to do what is best for my baby
I am a strong and capable woman
Only I can give birth to this baby and I accept responsibility for that challenge

My body knows how to birth my baby
I trust my instincts

Babies are born when they are ready, not when doctors, midwives or anyone decides
My body is indeed beautifully and wonderfully mad
It?s good for me to take care of myself. I get to have a voice
Listen to my body and heart
I deserve to have the birth I desire
I trust my body
I trust my pain
I trust my labour
I trust in my baby
I am a powerful, loving and creative being
I am now willing to experience all my feelings
My pelvis releases and opens as have those of countless women before me
I accept myself completely here and now
I now feel inner peace and serenity

I accept this labour as my labour and believe it is the right one for me and for my baby

I love and accept my body completely
I accept all my feelings as part of myself
I feel the love of others around me
My baby knows all is well

My heart knows what my baby needs, my mind is learning
Good strong contractions help my baby come into the world
I embrace the concept of healthy pain
I have enough love to go around, the universe always provides
I am strong, confident assured, assertive and very feminine
My body contains all the knowledge necessary to give birth to my baby
My baby knows how and when to be born
Birth is a safe and wonderful experience
My baby will be born healthy and at the perfect time
I know how to take care of myself in pregnancy.
My body knows how to give birth.
My baby knows the true birthday.
Birth is safe for me and my baby.
My baby will be born at the perfect time.
My body knows when to give birth.
I am a good mother.
My baby will find the perfect position for birth.
I love my baby.
My baby loves me.
I am a strong woman.
Contractions help to bring my baby.
I will make the right decisions for my baby.
My pregnant body is beautiful.
My baby senses the peace I feel.
I accept the help of others.
My baby?s head fit snuggly into my pelvis.
I accept my labor and birth.
I am surrounded by those who love and respect me.
I trust my body.
I know how to take care of my baby.
My baby feels my love.
This is what I want. I can do it!
My body knows how to give birth and I will let it!
My contractions are massaging my baby and hugging it.
My cervix ix opening with each contraction.
Childbirth is a normal, healthy event
I can have a healthy, positive birth
The power of birth strengthens me
I am calm and relaxed, every part of me is limp and loose
My baby shares my calmness and confidence
I am able to rest deeply between contractions
I greet each contraction with openness and expansion
My breathing is slow and even
With each breath I breathe in calm and I breathe out tension
With each breath I breathe in confidence and I breathe out fear
I welcome each contraction with my breath.
Every contraction brings me closer to the birth of my baby
My cervix is opening, like a flower
My pelvis is flexible and open
My muscles are warm, heavy, and totally relaxed
I am excited about the birth of our baby
My baby is in the perfect position for birth
Every contraction brings my baby closer to me
I trust my body and my baby to know how to achieve a safe, comfortable and easy birth
Every hand that touches me in hospital is a healing hand and expresses only love
I am totally comfortable at all times
This day, hour, and minute is sacred and blessed.

crumbletastic · 17/06/2011 17:32

Not caught up if there is any more arrivals yet but just dropping a quick one to let you know that Althea Juliet was born yesterday, less than an hour after I arrived at hospital. I'm very happy with pretty much all of my labour and was such a relaxing experience after my previous induction. Thea is amazing but a bit of a sleepy baby so I have to wake her regularly to make sure she tries to bf. Unfortunately I am not doing so well on the sleeping so need some sleep before I catch up on the thread to see if any other appearances have happened (or about to!)

PerpetualProvocateur · 17/06/2011 17:41

Congratulations crumble! Although I am quite Envy that you went a day early and its looking like I'm about to join the overdue club...

takethatlady · 17/06/2011 17:45

Congrats crumble (and woah there millie! What a list!)! Sounds amazing :) Enjoy your sleep - can't wait to hear more later.

I think I have indigestion. Though it's coming in waves. Must be brought on by all the excitement on this thread!

Joannezipan · 17/06/2011 17:56

I had a nice nap for a couple of hours and I'm feeling much happier with the world now. Hopefully I'll be able to sleep tonight still. Also I think my show is on the way... Nothing significant, but a smidge of something that wasn't wee or poo (I think) I hope DH is up for a takeaway. I really fancy a Thai curry! I also really hope this baby cones tonight so I can not go to this bloody wedding tomorrow. It is DH's boss' and I don't even like the guy much.

congratulations Crumble

jasmine51 · 17/06/2011 18:28

Joanne DH has just made us a green thai curry, have a bowl . Glad you are feeling better.
Crumble well done and hope you get to rest soon

Back to bouncing on the ball....

NurseSunshine · 17/06/2011 18:28

Congratulations crumble

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Joannezipan · 17/06/2011 18:39

Thanks Jasmine - tasty!

Do you think I could smoke this baby out? Waft something up the fanjo maybe? Grin

NurseSunshine · 17/06/2011 18:52

Try tempting it out with a mars bar?

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Joannezipan · 17/06/2011 19:54

Well DH would do just about anything for a caramel bar, maybe it's genetic? Grin

ConfessionsOfAnAchingFanjo · 17/06/2011 20:08

What a day! Congratulations to Tabitha Jimper and Crumble. Hope I haven't missed anyone since my post this morning.

Think I might be the only one here pleased to be about to join the overdue club. DH is having a bad few days and I'd like him to be doing a bit better before having to deal with the stress of birth. He's only got a few days mind, cause don't think this cheerful facade will last long Grin

BarbieLovesKen · 17/06/2011 20:30

Massive, massive congratulations to jumper, cumh, tabitha, labella and crumble on the safe arrival of your little ones. Wow!! Things are really heating up now. jimper sorry to hear your dh missed it and you had a rough time, hope you're ok.

nurse I feel so so sorry for you right now, that itching sounds horrendous Sad no advice as I've never experienced it but am really hoping Jasmine makes an appearance soon.

mosp sorry to hear Percy is having some problems and Angry at stupid doctor. How are you feeling yourself now?

crazy, sending huge sympathises your way, really hoping baby appears soon. I was induced with dd1 and hand on heart it was a much, much better experience than this time round.

So, if anyone's interested, here's my story:
Woke up Sunday morn with mild, irregular(ish) contractions (btw, someone was asking - my contractions with all 3 were completely localised to my lower bump and were very strong period/tightening type pains). As per the "Tuesday induction plan" I was ignoring them and telling myself nothing was happening. By 7.30 Sunday eve they were stronger, every 20 mins and I knew it was definitely "it", not unbearable by any means mind, and i Pottered about tidying/ washed my hair etc. went to bed with dh about 11pm but by half 12 they were every 7 (ish) mins apart and quite strong (I really couldn't speak through them and had to move about), didn't want to go into hospital but dh begged me as he was nervous about delivering baby at home Grin

Rang my mum to come and stay with kids, and by the time we got to hospital (30min drive) Contractions were every 5 mins. This was about 1.30am.

Got booked in and put monitor to trace babies heart for 20 mins. Examined at 2.15am and mw tells me I'm not any where near in labour, not at all. I was absolutely shocked as I would have sworn on everything I had that I was. (contractions were showing up on monitor btw). I argue with her and insist I am, she argues back and keeps repeating , quite sternly, that "I am telling you - at 2.15am on the 13th of june you are not in labour". Tells me to go home, I start crying and telling her I don't understand how I could be getting this so wrong on number 3 and why on earth was I in so much pain. She tells me that I'll have to calm myself down before I can go and that I could always come back tomorrow if i felt anything, I'm Angry now and (stupidly) say "nope! I'm not setting one foot in here until Tuesday morn - I'd rather have the baby on the sitting room floor because if you are telling me I'm 100% not in labour well then I just don't trust my body anymore at all and won't believe it"

She looks a little nervous at this and changes tone slightly and says "don't be silly, you don't want to have your baby on the sitting room floor" then added "look, I've loads of beds, if you really want to stay, you can, we'll see - the doctors at rounds in the morning might decide to induce you seeing as your booked for induction on Tuesday anyway. Your husband has to go home though, as your not in labour I'll put you in a ward and he can't stay there".

I say ok (crying), brings me down to wards where night mws (5 of them) are at the station and she patronisingly tells them "barbie here was having a few niggles but is definately not in labour and we're going to see about induction in the morn because she's worked herself up
a bit" cue patronising nods and sneers. Luckily enough they give me a private room as it's quite and there's a few free. Dh goes down to get my case from car and is told to go home (approx 3am). Was left in room on my own, its really dark as all dimmer lights are on, My contractions were really coming hard and strong. About 5 mins after dh walks out, i walk to ensuite and have a small gush to the floor. (what I think are my remaining hind-waters) followed by a substantial amount of blood.

I walk down the corridor to mw station, where they are all drinking tea and tell them I'm sorry to bother them again but I'm bleeding. They openly look at each other and are really making it obvious that they think I'm just carrying on. Ask me "yeah and what do you want? A pad?" I say no, I have one but thought they might need to know, they tell me to go back to bed and someone will check in on me in an hour or so.

Back to room, contractions are really strong, I'm trying to be quite as im not in a labour ward and dont want to wake people, am trying to wipe the mess up from the bathroom floor. Contractions are every 2 mins, am completely my own and am thinking I'm crazy - don't want to call anyone as I'm being repeatedly told I'm not in labour. Start vomiting.

At 4.20am a mw happens to be passing my room and probably heard me moan slightly (again, am trying to be quite), asks me if I'm ok and I tell her no, I dont think I am, tell her they are every 2 mins. I ask her to examine me and to please not try to
Tell me that I wasn't in labour. Tells me I'm 4 centimetres, I ask her to stop exam as I'm having another contraction and my waters break all over her - she literally ran to door of the room and shouted "she's 4, waters have just gone and it's a 3rd baby" all come running with a wheelchair, I ask her to ring my husband (bearing in mind he's not gone 1.5 hours yet). I get to door of room, put my hand on wheelchair and have a contraction and have to push, all asking "why didn't you tell us/ call someone??" to which I reply "because you all kept telling me I wasn't in labour!!!"

Am rushed down to delivery room, mates head was coming down, no time for gas and air etc, was pushing and could here mw on phone to dh, telling him I actually was in labour, to cone back in but there was no rush (she later tells me that she knew he just wouldn't make it and didn't want him to speed unnecessarily). Kate is born at 4.33am Smile.

Sorry for this being so so long and rambling a bit, also sorry for being negative but it's really helped to write it down. Kate is fabulous though and worth every last second obviously, I am completely, completely besotted!!!! SmileSmile

jasmine51 · 17/06/2011 20:44

Barbie I don't know what to say, you did amazingly and thankyou so much for telling us your story. So glad you are ok and Kate is well. Are you going to have a chance for a formal review of your experiences? I don't know anything about these things but it seems to me that telling your story to someone professional might help in future MW training? Anyway, well done for producing a healthy and beautiful little Kate whilst trusting your own instincts x

BarbieLovesKen · 17/06/2011 20:51

Oh jasmine, thank you for being so kind, thought after that I probably shouldn't have shared so graphically here with impending births so plentiful but really want to stress the birth itself was great, had dh being there/ had I being treated differently so please don't worry.

Grin at "mates head was coming down" Kate obviously!!! Grin damn phone, thanx again jasmine

petitech · 17/06/2011 20:55

Gosh barbie you mustve been annoyed at that mw. I had a similar know it all who insisted "us women are made of stronger stuff, you can get this bby out" followg which consultant confirmed due to back to back position and size of my pelvis and maxs head position there was no way he was coming out. Anyone else have back to back? Was soooooo painful! Thks for advice on bfeedg covers. I'm bidding on huggababy sling on ebay.

ConfessionsOfAnAchingFanjo · 17/06/2011 21:01

Wow Barbie!!! Shock Can't believe they treated you like that. I actually had to laugh at the bit where your waters went all over the MW because it served them all right . Thank goodness you did put up a fuss and got yourself kept in. Hurrah that Kate so lovely Grin.

Really think these MP types forget it is possible for us laymen types to actually have some clue as to what is happening to our own bodies.

motherofsnortpigs · 17/06/2011 21:06

Thanks for sharing your story barbie It must have been scary and frustrating to be repeatedly told you weren't in labour. I'm so glad Kate is such a delight to you. Thanks for your kind words about Percy. I'm having a bad paranoid mother day today. DH had to take P away from me for 2 hours this afternoon so I could sleep. I had convinced myself that if I stopped watching him he would forget to breathe. I'm feeling a bit more rational now. Well done crumble It is so annoying that sleepy babies don't have well rested mummies. I hope you feel more human soon. jasmine I'll look out for the flag pole. And if you want to bring snacks and have a Percy cuddle, you are very welcome :)

motherofsnortpigs · 17/06/2011 21:11

x-post petitech I had a back to back labour and pushed Percy out face to pubes. I've had 2 other vaginal births and this one was in a different league of painfulness. You have my sympathies. I've also had an emcs and that wasn't exactly a picnic in the park. I hope you are recovering well.

8rubberduckies · 17/06/2011 22:42

Congratulations to all you new Mums that have appeared over the last 2 days! Sorry not to catch up with you all individually, but sorry for those of you who had complications, but so glad to hear everyone is safe and well!

MOSP things sound a bit tough for you and Percy at the moment, hope things get a bit easier.

Barbie Shock at your birth story - how horrible to not feel listened to, I wold definitely push for a debriefing.

Well, I have had an "interesting" 24 hours. Earlier in the week I mentioned on here ds had a tummy bug, well, I couldn't sleep last night as I was worrying as I had no felt baby move for about 12 hours, and then I started vomiting loads. I called the hospital and as we are only a 5 minute drive away I drove myself down there at 2am to get monitored. They put me in a private room because of the tummy bug, and things really started kicking off with stomach cramps and vomiting whilst I was on the monitor (of course, baby woke up as soon as we got there and started kicking loads)!

The midwife was convinced I was in early labour as the tightenings were so regular, but I was convinced I wasn't. She wanted to examine me but the doctor came in and was convinced enough I was not in labour to let me go home, but they asked me to go back if I started getting diarrhoea or could not keep water down. I got home about 4am and things got really bad, both ends Blush. I couldn't keep even a sip of water down for 5 minutes, and my temperature was really high. Got a lift back with my Mum at 10am, and the baby's heartrate was up, so they took loads of bloods, found out I was dehydrated and I stayed in having saline / sugar solution and paracetomol administered by drip. Luckily baby's heart rate went down and so did my temperature, and I stopped being sick, so they let me come home.

I was terrified I was going to go into labour, as I have never felt as rough as I did last night, and had zero sleep, and just kept thinking that I wouldn't make it through labour feeling so ill and weak. I am feeling more human now and have kept down some tea and toast. I also had the joy of listening to loads of women in labour and babies being born all day, as the only private room they could find for me (I was quarantined!!!) was on the delivery suite, which was kind of lovely, kind of scary Grin.

NurseSunshine · 17/06/2011 22:49

Oh Barbie :( You must've felt so alone. How absolutely horrible of them, I really hope they felt bad about dismissing you when they realised what was actually happening. I'm so glad you're alright and have lovely Kate :)

Thinking of you MOSP, you must be absolutely knackered which isn't going to help so I hope you manage to get some rest :)

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8rubberduckies · 17/06/2011 22:49

PS MIllie I am queen of the midnight heebie jeebies about labour, hope you're feeling better still about it. I am shitting myself still, but feeling a bit calmer than I was a couple of weeks ago.

NurseSunshine · 17/06/2011 22:51

x posts 8RD Wow that certainly does sound "interesting". I'm glad you're feeling better now, am sure you won't go into labour until you're strong enough to deal with it. Hope you can get lots of rest as well :)

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Joannezipan · 18/06/2011 00:51

Wow Barbie that is not a good story! I can't believe they didn't take you seriously. I would defiantly think about complaining.

8RD sorry you have been having such a difficult time. I hope you feel better soon!

Well my back ache is back with a vengeance! Every time I lie down it starts screaming right in the small of my back. I don't think it is contractions as it is more or less constant when I lie down and only cones in fits and starts when I'm sitting up. DH has retreated to the spare room. I hope it is the prelude to something... I can't be doing with this much longer!

AlmightyCitrus · 18/06/2011 06:31

Congrats to those with new arrivals! I'm STILL sat here waiting for my 4th dose of gel, but I've been in pain since the first dose on thursday. I've just got some more painkillers even though I've been up and down all night begging for them and I should of had them at 12.30.
Am also rather furious as mental friend (yes, bag woman) turned up at the kids school yesterday! She knows they have been walking.home themselves lately. Luckily dh was collecting them to bring them to visit me, so he was less than impressed. I've had to tell the staff here not to give out any info over the phone, just in case she rings. He thought I'd not hear from her again, but I said that she would be in touch at the first sniff of the baby. Grr. I think a line has definitely been crossed.

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