November 2011. Bumps, kicks and less feeling sick.

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Thought I'd take the plunge and go for it.

Hello to all the newbies and sorry to hear people are still having it rough!!

Any hayfever sufferers here? I normally have it really bad to the point where I can't breathe, see, think etc. This year have only had it for the past two days... And was up at 3.30am with it today :( How are others coping with it?

H007 I think I normally have mild hayfever - just a stuffy nose. But since Thursday I have a sore throat, stuffy nose, headache and sinus drip (nice). Thought it was my sinuses playing up again but don't have a sinus headache.

Caz Thinking of you - hope the spotting stops soon. I had a random mini bleed last week but nothing since. Blimmin scary though. Nearly wiped myself bald that day

Pam Hope the pain is getting better

Up early today with teething baby. Sigh. Got a first birthday party this arvo so should distract her for a bit but reckon she is going to be a nightmare this evening.

Hope you all have a lovely weekend.

moosey yeah I have a constant drip grrrrr it's horrid! This defiantly isn't as bad as 'normal' hayfever for me but it really is doing my nut in and it's only been 2 days!

Moosey

are you sure you dont have a cold? Sounds like the one I've had all week, just wanted to take a decongestant and make it go away and obviously couldn't Hope you feel better soon.

Hope everyone else has a good weekend, am off to a nearly new baby sale, hoping to get some nice things for me and the bump

Morning :) hayfever is awful! I only get it sometimes, now being one of those times (think it is definitely cos I am pg). Sure I saw an advert for some spray that was suitable for pg ladies, not sure if it would be any help?

I have got such a bad back, wish I could reach for my normal painkillers but no not a chance :( Feel like I have been sleeping on the floor rather than a relatively comfy bed. Nice soak in the bath due I think.

Anyone got anything exciting planned for the weekend?

Hope people are feeling better as well.

Morning Mammies. Snoozle I cried in a good way :)

Moosey pain is bearable, no gallstone attacks but an aching discomfort everyday. It was stopping me eating yesterday so I buckled and took the strong painkiller. I managed the biggest meal i've had in a week, spinach, carrot, tomato, cucumber, soya beans, broad beans, sugar snap, rocket, beautiful new potatoes and a wee bit of ham. Normally I'd wolf that down but it took me 2 hours. So I'm trading off the codeine with a nutritious meal to mitigate my guilt :)

I just asked OH how his hayfever has been, he gets it bad, but none this year to speak of. I reckon the 2 weeks of gales blew all the pollen away!

juststarting big hugs, go away migraine! Really feel for you, horrid horrid horrid. Hope you feel better today and manage some rest.

Aah voodoo I think time for warm baths should be prescribed! My back has actually improved over the last few weeks. I think the hormones (I think it is called relaxin?) have released my jammed back so fingers crossed not too much and I get SPD!

was supposed to go to Gardening Scotland today but I think I'll stick to doing some gardening and get my beans in :)

H007 went back to sleep while DD had her morning kip and DH told me I was purring like a kitten. Sounds sweet until you realise it's snot at the back of my throat. Nice.

TwoJack I'm not sure. The symptoms keep coming and going, and never so bad that I can't do anything. There is alot of pollen around by us. Lots of white stuff on our lawn and it looked like it was snowing yesterday!

Have fun at the nearly new sale. I have only been to one and only got some baby grows. Didn't get there early enough for the good stuff.

Voodoo I've had a bad back as well. I went to a chiro who specialises in chiro for pregnancy (McTimoney). Felt amazing afterwards and back is def better than it was. She found I had something out at the back which I think was from labour (had back to back labour and was making DH massage with his knuckle on my back).

Pam I've never had gallstones and bloody hell I don't want them! Sounds awful. Hope they sort themselves out soon. I misread your last sentence and thought you wanted more babies

Afternoon all!

Caz and Moosey thinking of you both - the bleeding must be a worry, and it's no good saying that it's not always serious, because that doesn't stop you worrying about it.

Just been out and swept the front drive, which was looking a bit the worse for wear. Felt good to do some exercise after a week of sitting down at work, but bending over is definitely not working for me any more. So that's my physical exertion for the day over and done with.

I sympathise with the migraines and the hayfever! I seem to be getting constant headaches and really hate how often I'm having to take paracetamol. And I'm a complete sneezefest today (sorry, gross I know). So now to spend the afternoon sitting still in a darkened room somewhere...

Trying to resist a doppler but may be tempted by an ice-lolly maker for the freezer if it's going to be a hot summer... :)

Hello all, hoping I can now join this thread. I'm due 16th Nov and have been keeping an eye on the thread for a while but have been feeling too poorly to actually contribute anything.

Have had 3 weeks solid of terrible migraine and it's sort of comforting to see other people suffering the same - I started to think I was cursed! (not that it's good that other people are having a tough time) Spent most of Thursday in hospital having tests and the neurologist has recommended a GON injection - has anyone ever heard of that? Apparently a local anaesthetic and steroid injection straight into your head - ouch!!! Think will be going for that on Tuesday. Meanwhile work starting to get quite frustrated with me - and I feel guilty but realistically just can't work like this.

This morning to add insult to injury I have picked up DH's nasty cold and have a streaming nose!

Sorry first post is just such a whingebag! Very glad to hear that lots of you are feeling better and just hope that I will start to and enjoy this first pregnancy too!

Pandia Welcome! I've never heard of a GON injection but if it helps you then it is helping baby. So sorry to hear you've been having constant migranes :( Blimmin pregnancy - you want/try to be pregnant for ages (well I did), eventually manage to fall pregnant and then you feel like crap for ages.

I'm surprised birth rates are going up still!!!!

Hello again all, welcome to new peeps and hopes for all who are feeling naff that help or relief is imminent. I have mild hayfever and was told off at pharmacists for asking if I could buy anything OTC to help - perhaps I am being naive but I am suspicious it wouldn't do any harm to take most hf meds, they just haven't been tested in pg for ethics approval reasons. Ho hum, will see how I get on and see GP if eyes still itchy in a few days.
The bump has finally arrived - I now officially look pg (or fat, depending on what I'm wearing). Arrived more or less overnight as I turned 18 weeks yesterday. Uneventful mw appt during week with nice galloping hb, bloods all good etc., so things seem ok.
Yesterday was overall a v strange day - found out another lady in same office is due a day after me & has had same argument with mw over due dates. So have a local bump buddy. Later on was chatting to another colleague, who suddenly revealed that his wife had been pg with twins who died early on, they found out at their 12w scan, they would've been due in a couple of weeks. Just so so sad, she isn't coping (I've only met her a couple of times but did notice she wasn't in a good way last time I saw her). Wish I had the right words to convey how dreadful I feel for them both. Probably hormonal but have been close to tears thinking about it all today.
Sorry to unburden myself here, but it has unsettled me more than it usually would to talk about such a thing - suppose I am able to understand more how it feels to plan and hope, and how fragile new life can be. I don't want to upset anyone else, and have re-typed this endlessly thinking about whether to post at all, and decided it is bothering me enough to want to talk...

jamama - here is probably a good place to type out how you are feeling. There are so many of us that would feel the exact same way. That lady is understandably in a terrible state and because you are pregnant you are going to feel incredibly sad for them. You would have a heart of stone to feel otherwise.
I have felt pesimistic the whole way through so far. If I think the worst then if nothing goes wrong its a bonus (I'll be a great Mum eh?). Thats probably a terrible way to think but I do think I'm just starting to get through that awful mind set. As I type here I'm looking down at my big fat belly and allow myself a little smile. I've waited a long time for this baby as in that I hadn't met anyone before now that I wanted one with.

Blimey I'm such a happy little soul tonight. Well it is waaaaay past my bedtime. Normally in bed at 8.30pm but X-men is on and I'm a sucker for that sort of film.

Pandia Welcome!

What a night, eh? I'm all moody in the Peaks, trying to repress the feeling that we should've waited for this baby, that me loosing my income for two months has put us in financial poop, that I should be a better GF and not get so upset about not being able to buy maternity clothes...
Plus the fact that I am scared that we get to week 20 scan and everything has gone wrong, that those flutters and pokes I think I've felt was just gas and I'm actually just getting fatter and fatter.
Meanwhile my DP is munching away on gorgeous pancakes he's made for us (after doing all the dishes and being an all round hero), and all I can think is what an ungrateful cow I am.

Ooohhh hormones.

I can book us all in at the mental health unit! It's been the heat today I guess. Enjoy those pancakes!

Thanks for the welcomes!
And of course I can send you some salty liquorice, Caliphora! I'm not the hugest fan but I do eat in now and again when it shows up as fredagsslik! Meanwhile I am battling to show my danish co-workers that marmite is actually lovely ;) Sorry to hear you were having a down day yesterday, hope you feel better today. I have been waking up in the night with anxieties - about work, money and everything. The other morning I woke up at 5, before my DD and DH with a racing mind and I actually had to get up and make an excel sheet about all the stuff that was whizzing around in my head, from totally mundane household things to fix, to important things like joining an unemployment insurance fund (A-kasse), just in case etc etc. The weird thing is that I am not that organised a person really and I hate using things like spreadsheets, but sometimes I feel like I am still not a proper grown-up and am just running behind my life all the time.

jamama - that is so sad :( Its easy for some people to be phlegmatic about m/c but if you have had one, or are p/g, you understand how heartbreaking it is. And finding out at 12 weeks is hard - when you've had all this time to get used to be p/g and start hoping and dreaming.

Morning all,

sorry to hear people's worries, I think that it is very very natural to worry about it all, after all there is a long time to carry a child and even at this stage, how do you know that things are going along the way that they should be? We should all be able to look inside at baby and make sure that things are going along ok, just to reassure us!!!

I've had the whole, is this the right thing to do, how will we cope worries, my DH doesnt seem to worry about anything, from the moment we knew we were expecting he's been very laid back whereas I worry about everything.

I dragged him round all the car showrooms (almost all anyway) in Perth yesterday to look for a bigger car that we can afford, was a bit of a nightmare trying to find anything suitable, but he took it all well considering, although he did get to the "right no more" point!!!

In the last two weeks I have had real trouble controlling my reactions to everything, I have a bad temper, but have always managed to control it and not fly off the handle at small irritations, but at the moment I seem to lose it fairly regularly, going to have to try to sort out some way to calm down and relax a little better, or there will be a divorce on the cards!!! Darn hormones, eh?

Morning all had to miss sil engagement party as was three hour round trip and knew I would just be too sore to cope so dh went and friend visited me with her pregnancy books. Your pregnancy bible and the rough guide to pregnancy which has been making me smile. dh didn't get home til 2.30 and I couldn't sleep afterwards so a bit tired today.

TwoJackRussells I'm having the same issue with my temper. My nerves seems to get shot at the most random things, and finding relaxing really difficult.

Other than hormonal temper, I'm doing better. I had a bad week of morning sickness last week (thought I'd get to skip it this time, but nooo - full force for a week), but am now back to just the muscles and ligament stretching aches. It seems whenever things inside change - by me eating a meal or going to the loo - my abdomen complains and aches for a while afterwards.

I've always been a nippy, sarcastic, petulant, short-tempered bisom. Luckily I put that in my match.com profile so he has no right to reply :)

I felt that rising annoyance a few weeks ago and it struck me that everytime I get narked my adrenal glands pump out the adrenalin that feeds my temper. That made me think, do I want a baby that has been awash with fight/flight signals thanks to me? I was surprised how strong the desire for a calm baby has made me relax and take everything in my stride. Ok I haven't got other dc so it is easy for me!

Pam, I totally agree with you, so important to try to be a calm type, so guess telly and knitting this pm for me

Hey thanks for the support and concern ladies. Fingers crossed that since yesterday morning there has been no spotting. Longest I've gone without anything for over a week so I'm hoping things have settled down again now. I'm feeling very fragile at the moment but I think a lot of that is to do with it almost being Belle's 1st birthday and all the grief that is surrounding that. I'm very excited about tomorrow and finding out if Bow is pink or blue and giving him/her their proper name!

Hope everyone is doing well this weekend x

Glad the spotting has stopped, Caz hopefully that's the end of it for you and the rest of the pregnancy is textbook!

v. exciting for you tomorrow! I think dh would like to find out but I don't want to so have another 21 weeks to go!

Good luck tomorrow Caz and I hope you can find out if Bow is pink or blue! x

I'm sat here while DH finishes dinner, my legs are lead, back aches and publis is bloody agony. Chiro taped my back for 3 days last week and no pain at all. Within 2 hrs of it coming off it all started again. That said still 19 weeks today (or tomorrow) and thankful for what I think are little kicks/punches. Feel massive for 19 weeks though. Bump suddenly taller and starting below ribs, not belly button. 20 weeks scan a week Tuesday.....

Sending positive thoughts to those of you feeling down. I hope it resolves soon. xx

Haha all those saying about there anger being out of control etc I've actually been told by nearly everyone that I've mellowed out... Makes me wonder how bad I was before ;)

Hello everyone! Welcome to newbies. What a rotten time you've had Pam, hope things stay better now. Hope there is no more bleeding for Caz and Moosey - and everyone else for that matter! Good luck tomorrow Caz .

I've been knee deep in helping DCs with exams, which finally finished on Friday. Yay! When it comes to whether it's a boy or a girl, I had assumed for the first 12 weeks that I would be having a girl, simply because I would prefer one. I've had to get the right result in about 20 tests just to be allowed to have IVF at my age, so I felt on a roll, like when the first traffic light is green on a journey and you just know they all will be. The sex of the baby is not a huge deal to me (I'm lucky to have two of each already), but it is going to be just this child and me once my other 4 fly the nest, so I thought I'd have more in common with a girl in terms of watching tv and girly shopping etc. However at the 12 week scan I changed my mind, and started to think it was a boy. I could see this baby launching it's whole body and pointlessly headbutting the top of my womb. "Behaving like a boy!" I told my DDs.

....so on Thursday we all went en famille to have a sexing scan to find out. And it's a boy. At first I was pleased as pregnancy brain had made me temporarily forget that it was an either/or scenario, and I thought having a boy was a bonus. My DDs were initially disappointed, and only they knew I would have preferred a girl. I was officially neutral as I would hate my boys to think that I didn't love them as much when I actually love them to bits! They both wanted a boy, so they are chuffed. I think it's most common for people to want the same sex as themselves.

Us girls are coming round to it now. I've pointed out that perhaps I might have been a suffocating parent to a poor girl stuck with only me. At least a boy won't have to fear me tagging along with his mates to see a film I wanted to see too! And I have two lovely DDs already, whom I'm close to. I do feel sorry for folk who have four of one flavour... only to find it's another one the same on the way. It suits some folk, and others really don't mind, but it's a shame for those who really wanted the experience of parenting both sexes. I'm glad Posh is getting her girl!