November 2011. Bumps, kicks and less feeling sick.

[Missyraines]

Thought I'd take the plunge and go for it.

Oh Pam I hope it's just an emotional day and you feel better tomorrow, am sure your DH is just reacting to you being ill and will be happier once you feel better. I think it's much harder for our partners as nothing has changed for them yet and we are the ones feeling the differences now we are pregnant (plus making the lifestyle changes re: drinking and more sleep etc). I think once I have a proper bump it will feel more real for my DH and also once we get to a stage where we are researching equipment and making decisions about what pram to buy! Things like that tend to draw him in as he loves a product-research project to get stuck into!

I'm been a proper sickly thing today and have had a very busy day at work, barely sat at my desk for more than 5 minutes and didn't get home until gone 8pm. I am definitely seeing that there is a correlation between being busy / pre-occupied and how sick I am. I think I may need to use some strategically placed holiday days to make sure I'm getting down time periodically to help manage if the sickness carries on.

We're not going to find out the sex of our baby. I love the idea of DH having that news to tell people when he makes the calls to announce our new arrival and I'd never be able to keep it to myself if we found out at 20 weeks. Plus, I quite like the guessing and predictions that goes with not knowing!

Glad to hear your scan went well Poppy and MIssy very exciting that you got to see your baby again, especially as you weren't expecting it! My DH is coming with me on Monday to my 16 week check (I'll be 16+3) as we've not heard the heartbeat at all yet (we've seen it at both scans but not heard anything) and we both want to be there. Well of course I have to be, but you know what I mean

Thanks for the ASOS link Moosey although I've possibly bought more stuff than I would really need

Having a shaky time with lots of spotting again at the moment. It has been on and off now for a week, sometimes brown sometimes red at some point during the day when I wipe, but no constantly. There isn't loads by any means but I'm not in a great place. Hospital keep checking me over. Had yet ANOTHER scan and baby is absolutely fine and they cannot identify where it is coming from. Apparently this is good. Also been checked for any infections that mightve developed (vaginal swabs etc - sorry for tmi, and thats all come back clear too) Its a mystery at the moment. Wondering if it is cervical erosion but not coping great right now. 17+3 now. Could really do without this extra stress, never going to hold it together in 3rd tri at this rate! Sorry I've been AWOL, been too stressed to type.

Gender scan in Monday. Hanging onto that as something to look forward too - cannot wait to find out if Bow is blue or pink.

Haven't read back but hope everyone else is doing ok.

Caz sorry to hear you are stressed out, but good news that the scans show all is well with Bow. Big hugs to you, hope you are getting lots of love and support in real life and the scan goes well on Monday. I'm excited to know whether you are having a boy or a girl too!

PamSco, are you me, five years ago? What you are going through echoes my own experience of my first pregnancy. It was unplanned, and DH was horrified at the thought of parenthood. He was no support at all - not actively cruel, he is far too good a person for that, but he was down, as he just didn't want this baby, end of story. When I took ill like you, and was in a lot of pain, he was so worried about me that it made it all worse. Anyway, fast forward to the day of the birth, and when DD was born, the tears rolled down his cheeks and he was besotted, he is so totally in love with her. He is not that great with this pregnancy either, to be honest, he just leaves me to get on with it, but he is a great dad, and there is every chance that things will work out just the same for you. My guess (and obviously its a guess, since I don't know either of you!) is that he is worried about you, and you know how bad men can be at putting things into words...

voodoo - let facilities dep. know that you are too hot - I've had to plague mine to give me a fan as I was boiling today - it's not good for you or baby to overheat! They -have- to make sure you're comfortable!

Caz big hugs and crossed fingers that you'll be over this soon!

Caz, i'm sorry you're having the spotting, it is worrying for you. But its also not that rare and it sounds like they are keeping a good eye on things. Hard not to worry, I know, keep yourself distracted I guess, and follow all the advice you're given.
And Pam, my partner didnt want kids at all when we met. By the time we go pregnant thefirst time he did want them, but he was still kind of ambivalent. By late pregnancy, after an NCT class in which some of the dads had said they were worried they might not love the baby, he told me "but I already love the baby". The evening after our son was born he sat in bed weeping, and I think he has shocked himself how deeply he loves our son. I dont think he even realised he was capable of feeling that strongly. As for resentment, I resent our son often, when I am tired and just want to be left alone in quiet and peace and feel like that is never going to happen again, but I still love him completely. I would never undo him. Its ok to have the odd negative feeling, it doesnt automatically become an action, or lack of action. I'm not saying it will definitely be all right or anything, just that it can be. I also agree that he will be worried about you - my dad said he didnt care about me at all until I was born - up until then he was just scared pregnancy might hurt my mum in some way - and he really wanted a baby!
Thanks for the protien tip. Its true to say our diet isnt the highest in protien, so may be worth a try. THough I am still nauseous at the thought of most things that arent straight up carbohydrate! Damn this nausea, I am so ready to be over it by now!
Spent a fun evening in A and E after my son splintered a plastic spoon and swallowed some nice sharp bits. Eugh. At least they told us not to bother sifting through his poo to see if it emerges.

caz sorry to hear you are having a stressful time. Good to hear the Dr's aren't too worried. So excited to hear about bow! Do you have a hunch pink or blue?

pam I agree with everything snoozle said. I think when they can feel the baby and then when its born and its finally real for them then they will come around. My DH always said he wanted kids but always 'not now' - so I really had to push and feel like this baby was 95% my idea/for me. He is older than me and I'm not sure his biological clock would have ever kicked in (or at least not until mine was done).

juststarting I ate a muffin today because its all I could get down with out being sick... but trying for more protein! And yay for no digging through poo:)

Caz sorry to hear you're having a rough time, you really deserve a break. Try and take it easy and rest as much as possible despite this being such a big month for you

JustStarting snap - just back from A&E too, DD breathing difficulties - needed to rule out foreign object which we did - croup yet again so a big dollop of steroids and home

Hello all, may I join?
I have been on the december thread but I am actually due on Nov 21st so maybe fit in more here.

I am 35 with a 3-yr old DD. British but live in Copenhagen with an american husband. I work full-time as copywriter in advertising agency.

and I'm just about coming through the wilderness of nausea and vomiting now, after months of horribleness ;)

Now I will go through and catch up with everyone...

caz sorry to hear you are having additional stress during such a difficult month for you, am thikning of you loads x x. Hope this helps...during 1st pg I spotted regularly every month, nothing could be seen to be wrong & pg ended with a healthy baby - since then I've been checked for mid-month spotting (unrelated to pg or periods) & they found I am prone to having some of the cerlls that grow on the inner part of the cervix grow on the outer which are more prone to bleeding (sorry if TMI) and they think that was the case during my 1st pg - was told it is nothing to worry about but is rather inconvenient!! Keep in your thoughts that your scans are showing Bow to be well, good luck with pink or blue scan - cannot wait to hear x x

alicat & juststarting hope LOs are feeling better soon after a&e visits

Welcome tjuice

Morning. Caz, hope you are doing ok lovey? Thoughts are with you, keep strong.

Welcome Tjuice!

Hope the lo's are well after a&e trips - crikey life is sent to try us all at times isn't it.

Pam are you feeling better with meds etc?

Cali, we dont have facilities to ease the heat in the office, it is a big old school with erratic central heating and although the big old windows are lovely they act rather like a greenhouse! I told my boss yesterday I was going to be spending the summer in a vest top and skirt with the only fan in the office directed at me! He seemed to accept this - he has two young dc's and is great for product and health advice! Bless him.

Today is going to be el scorchio (well as scorchio as the North East gets!). Dosed the ds up on hayfever meds already and have found a strapless top that covers the bump and doesnt look ridiculous so am good to go. Might head to the coast for a wander and an ice lolly later, heat depending. Had forgotton how difficult it is to regulate your body temp when pg!

Am very excited about next week, cannot wait to get this interview underway and explain exactly why I will make a fab social worker. Just can't fit in a suit anymore so will have to improvise.... Ah well.

Hope everyone has a great day, feels better and enjoys some sunshine.

Welcome tjuice hope you are keeping well.

Caz big hugs, must be very worrying for you so you keep on at the hospital get the support when you want it.

snoozle now you've made me cry, tch, I'm not sure I can imagine OH becoming besotted but he will be a good dutiful father but he may surprise me yet :)

Truffkin, juststarting, gold, thanks for the words of comfort it really helps. We'll rub along, I need to make sure my behaviour doesn't push him away.

Off to the docs this morning, I have to have my liver function monitored weekly for a bit then fortnightly. Problem is there are no veins left! I have one elbow vein visible but it has 12 holes in it and now doesn't give blood. In the hospital they used my knuckle - OUCH! Fingers crossed I get a great phlebotomist today.

It is getting hot here in Scotland today hope everyone else has a nice day.

Mash and others, I too have a Doppler, and think its was money very well spent. I got this one but got it off ebay for half the price. I use it about 3 times a week and DH loves it too. Its both reassuring and really nice to hear pups hb. I?ve never not been able to find the hb yet ? although a couple of times its taken 5 mins. I would definitely recommend.

Snoozle I think feeling movement can really vary. I?m almost 16weeks and have been able to feel the odd bit of movement every now and then, but I do have to concentrate. And to be honest I wouldn?t be sure it was pup except for having the Doppler to confirm it was pup and not just gas.

Caz sorry you are having this worry, really not what you need, but good luck for the gender scan.

Tjuice welcome to the thread

Hi! interview is next thursday!

Also just got bloods results back and am 'low risk'! :)

Got appointment at hospital next week for consultant to say I can go to the birthing ctr.

20 week scan 2 weeks away on monday :)

good luck for Thursday voodo

Yay for results too. i gotm mine yesterday and have risk rate of 1:27,000 so very pleased.

Whats your apt at the birthing centre for? a look around? [niave emoticon]

Well done Voodoo, good luck next week.

Collie my next scan is ages away too, it was booked for 8 July when I will be 21+4 but as I will (fingers crossed) be moving house I called to ask them to move it forward but the hospital likes to scan at 22 weeks so the best they could do was move it to 6 July! Still ages to wait.

In other news the whole selling/buying a house thing has become incredibly stressful and I'm having to exchange on the house we're selling without exchanging on the house we're buying so leaving myself open to becoming homeless at 21 weeks pregnant! Aaarrghhh, fingers crossed it all works out ok.

I went and bought a pair of maternity jeans this week so I'm excited to have clothes to wear on the weekend again. Bump is definitely there now. I told my boss last week but haven't told my team yet, think i will have to next week as I am suspicious that they have already been casting glances at my stomach, but I might be being paranoid!

Welcome tjuice.

Caz I hope you're feeling better. Obviously it's very stressful but the scans show your baby is happy and well so I hope that is a comfort. I'm excited for all the people finding out the sex at the 20 week scan because we're not going to so hearing everyone else's news is the next best thing to me.

Happy Friday's everyone, hope we all hang on to the sunshine for the weekend.

Caz I hope your're ok and not too stressed out. Must be worrying. I've never had any spotting but like the ones on here who have, I do know of ladies who have spotted throughout pg and all was fine.

My 20w scan not till 6 July!!

I'm 15w+5d and about to leave work early to go and see Take That in Manchester! very excited.
I've got 'old fart' reserved seats, which I am pleased about cos apparently people with standing/unreserved seats are queuing already and it doesn't even open doors till 5pm! I could not stand that long. Plus my best friend is coming and she's on crutches!

Welcome Tjuice! I'm Danish born - went to Copenhagen University! May have to ask you nicely to post some Danish sweets over (soooooo missing salt lakrids!)

Today is absolutely BOILING in Manc - luckily my house is a stone cottage, so it stays cool.

MrsArch - I was walking around Manc today thinking "Aw, all the Take That fans are so old now! I remember when...." Then quickly realised that I'm as old as they are, and that made me feel -really- old ;P

Thanks everyone :) Collie, cos I had a forceps delivery with my 1st (nearly 14 years ago) the hospital has to agree that I am fine to go to the midwife led centre rather than a consultant led one . I am going to argue my case, as I am healthy and the forceps was more because ds was back to back, 8'12 and took 36 hours to come out!

Afternoon all,

hope everyone is coping in the heat, was so nice to get home and change into something cooler!!!

Not much news here, nowt exciting really but thought I would say hello and welcome to the newbies :)

Pam I didn't mean to make you cry!

Eugh. Having another migraine. Fortunately didnt really kick in till after my partner got home. less fortunately he is upstairs trying to get our son to bed, who is screaming "mama" and wailing loudly - its long been a problem, he wont go down for anyone else. We seemed to be cracking it at one point then my partner had a week of late evenings work and we are back to square one. Not a happy home. I fear this is the price you pay for breast feeding to sleep till 14 months. On the plus side, he so far seems fine post-plastic consumption - it was daft in the hospital, we were sat there in the waiting area with this baby in fine health, babbling away, wandering around etc, and each time we had to see a medical professional, we had to take him away from something he was playing with, so we kept presenting this screaming, writhing child and then claiming he wasnt showing any signs of distress.
We're also having a bit of a childcare crisis at the momment, which sucks, and my thesis is, well, suffice it to say I have been advised to drop it and pursue something else - BAD supervision, its taken me a month to fail to organise a meeting with my supervisors, which is NOT a good sign. Hence the dropping it.
AND I have hurt my belly stretchign for a toy for my son today and I am HOPING its just a peripheral muscle or something but its hurting in a nice arc running under the left side of my abdomen when I move about or laugh. Scaring me a bit.
God I feel awful.
Sorry. Need a moan.

Caz how are things? You OK? So sorry you have to deal with the additional worry!

Welcome Tjuice

Juststarting hope you got a good nights sleep and the migraine has gone.
Caz hope you are ok.

Managed to get out of the house for the first time in weeks yesterday. Sore to walk but think this could be due to the bed rest. Finally got measured for maternity bras. Totally gutted as gone from 32b to 34d and been told I will get bigger. Goodbye my cute little bras hello massive boulder holders!! Going to treat myself to nice maternity bra from hot milk or Anita to cheer myself up. At least dh likes the change and loves my belly bump which he likes to stroke. Need to check when he is likely to be able to feel the baby move.

Hope everyone has a good weekend.