October 2011 Baby Bus ... part 3

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Yay leo that's really great news.

Thanks mpops and LittlePebble :) :)

mpops you do have a lovely big bump...mines middlish atm...but I want a massive one so everyone knows I am pregnant...I am going to put some pics on my profile too xx

Glad to hear your news Leo4.

My stomach is growing, but it's still not a bump at 17+4, just looks like fat. I have completely lost my appetite so am sticking to light meals in small portions. I'm pleased as this may mean I don't put on too much weight (had a BMI of 26 when I fell pregnant, so was overweight ).

I know of another lady who is 15 weeks + pregnant, and she is still a size 10, no tummy at all, lucky thing!

Can you tell I struggle with this part of pregnancy?!

I am, however, incredibly grateful to be pregnant. A friend of mine has had some bad news at her 20 week scan and has been referred to a specialist hospital. I don't know the ins and outs yet, but it has reminded me, yet again, how precious these babies are.

I hated being fat...until i found out something might be wrong...puts everything into perspective.............

i am still only really a size 12......but il have to buy some maternity jeans soon :)

cupoftea I bet the lady with no tummy is worrying herself.

I have a bump but am still in my size 8 clothes I think my tops happen to be long because I'm short and my waist of trousers happens to sit right. Still looking forward to some maternity clothes, but I think I'll have the same problem as last time with maternity clothes being far too big and regular too uncomfortable. May have to buy next size up for a while.

Leo glad to hear you're reassured.

DH felt Nigel move the other night (can't remember if I told you or not). I felt DD so late (beyond when everyone told me I should be feeling her). I think it's because Nigel is still quite low down and my stomach never recovered properly last time.

Hi all (waves to bus)

I'm just back from lovely week in Spain so not been on for what feels like ages. Got a date for 20 week scan it's 3weeks on Friday (on my birthday)

Any1 else go through times when you really doubt wether having the baby is right for you/your family I keep feeling as though having another baby is going to be really bad for DS because I'll have less time, money and attention.
I also seriously worry how I'll cope with toddler and newborn. Getting me a hit down ATM and just feel like I'm not a good enough mum to 1 DC never mind 2.

Getting back to topic though I'm looking a lot chubbier at tummy but not defined bump despite still being 13lbs lighter than when I fell pg.

I felt that like with DD1 (really wasn't sure it was the right thing).

With this one, I'm not sure I want to stay at home with them for 9 months.

Very pleased for you Leo :)

I had this conversation with DH the other day Edward, although my points went more along the lines of "I don't spend enough time with the cat", "I don't spend enough time with the dog", "what if we still just want to go out and get lashed sometimes", "what if we are too young to be Parents" (34), "we know nothing about babies" etc etc.

I know DH is ready and some days I am and some days I freak out. Although I think also what Leo said is right as soon as you think something might be wrong with bean you really want the baby then. Talk about confusing eh.

Off to stroke the wine bottle seen as I can't drink it.

I'll be honest with DD it was not wanting to 'give up my life' I knew Saturday morning lay in's wouldn't happen, weekends mountaineering would be a few years off, lazy holidays etc. etc. It's an effort but I was surprised by how much you can keep, but obviously you don't do things as hard.

I would go climbing in the peak district and drag DD and DH along. They would walk while I was climbing, then I would find a spot and feed her every two hours. In a way I liked not having to climb for the whole day.

Although I was surprised at how many men did so little, once their DCs came along.

Ok I think I have added a pic of my bump, although DH left me unsupervised to finish doing it so it may/may not have worked

I had a lot of concerns with having a baby at the beginning of this pregnancy as I am still at university...However having being with my DB for 3 and a half years and living together it seemed like the next step. I think things happen for a reason! My DB is over the moooooooon as he really wants a family..he was more excited than me at the beginning...so very reassuring!!

morning all,
welcome to the newbies going to be a very full bus i thibk.
Leo glad your private scan went well and the consultant was helpful and gae you some great news.

I've got to go for another blood test as i keep going dizzy. So need to have my glucose and Iron levels checked. I think i have passed out at some point as i have a random bruise on my arm and have really hurt my foot so got to ge that checked out too. if ive broken it i will have to laugh as i have never broken a bone and it would be just my luck to have broken it passing it lol

That sounds awful Shelley hope they're able to sort it. Just be careful when out and about.

Re the pregnancy doubts the pg was totally planned but I now feel DS is gonna hate me for taking away half his time attention etc.

Still getting ms occasionally starting to get really tired of it. What happened to blooming 2nd trimester?

Anyone else going to find out sex at next scan? I can't wait to start shopping

I had a chance to find out but didn't...I really want a surprise :) x

I'm going to find out sex at my scan on Tuesday - most excited to find out. Mainly to make our arguments over names easier! Leo - glad second scan went well, and good luck with the bloodtests Shelley.

Have to say - am also terrified at the thought of the 20 week scan, as I am convinced something is going to go wrong. Am also having major mood swings at the moment, which is a bit embarrassing at work, when I keep getting emotional. Anyone else suffering?

EdwardorEric please don't worry about DS! He will be so pleased to have a little brother or sister to give him the role of being a big brother and make him feel important. In a few years he'll have a little friend to play with after school and in the holidays. And you won't be taking away half his attention - you can still be in the room with him playing with his toys while you're feeding the little one. When the little one gets older and starts demanding more attention himself or herself they can play with DS and give each other attention! Even in large families I've rarely seen children who don't get paid enough attention by their parents/siblings.

Also, you mentioned earlier about having less money with another little one on the way. Everyone worries about this when they're expecting, but again unless you're actually living in abject poverty I really don't think children notice this, just their parents. Where we live there are loads of shops with fab second hand kids clothes, even designer ones, and often hardly worn, which we all visit! Kids love the cheapest yukkiest food, eg the cheapest soft ice cream in the supermarket, baked beans and chips, even if you supplement this with the healthy vegetables they hate! And at the weekend there are always loads of inexpensive things to do locally - if you're a member of the National Trust there are hundreds of properties and countryside areas to visit and they often have special activity days for children, local councils often put on special events for children in the school holidays, etc. You might have to take a packed lunch instead of buying food when you're there, but that's part of the fun of childhood! It's just a question of slightly adjusting our expectations. My mother always said "no" whenever I asked for toys or sweets and, although I had the usual tantrums at the time, it was actually a great lesson in life and taught me self-discipline which I've benefitted from ever since.

Confused -

Great post. I agree - I now realise that my parents were pretty hard up in the 70s when I was a small child - we always had packed lunches, never ate out or went to a cafe, did lots of "free" stuff like walks etc. We had quite frugal holidays (camping etc). But I didn't notice - yes I used to ask for things and my parents said "no", but I was never particularly bothered that they said no - it was just the way things were.

I remember being blissfully happy as a child - long summer days, messing around in the garden and on my bike with the kids down the lane, painting with my mother, "helping" my father in the shed and just loving my parents so much and having such a nice time, loving school. I just didn't have a care in the world as a child.

That was such a gift to me and cost absolutely nothing! I hope to goodness my DD and DC2 look back and feel the same about their childhoods.

Oh dear I must be pregnant, getting all nostalgic and emotional!!

confused thanks so much you're actually right and you've just opened my eyes to how much I've spoilt DS so far most of the changes I'll have to make to finances would have had to happen regardless as my pay has just been cut I'm slightly worried about the cost of 2 children in nappies but I'm going to try and potty train DS at least in the daytime before DC2 comes.
We're not living in poverty at all but lifestyle will change it'll just take getting used to. Attention thing came from MIL she keeps saying that I need to remember to love DS and not ignore him (I never would but she can be weird at times) she said she made my DH grow up too fast when she had his sister and has always regretted it.

I do think DS will make a fab big bro though he's always helping small babies of friends and showing them how toys work etc

I'm clearly hormonal today as now crying because I have such a wonderful boy

Confused and Bumps totally agree with everything you both said re: childhood and money. It's hard as I am a bit older (32) than my mum was when she had me, and have got used to having nice things, but when I think back to my childhood, we didn't have much and I was really happy too: children just don't notice those things. Siblings are the best: my sister and I are very close in age and we fought like cat and dog at first, but I think we both learned lots about sharing etc. and now we are best friends.

Edward, Your DS might struggle a bit at first, but it will be good for him, and he will love his sibling (in the end!). You sound like you are a brilliant mum already, and even the fact that you are thinking about this suggests it won't be a problem for you and your family at all, because you are aware of what your DS's needs will be when his sibling comes along - don't worry!

Remember my mantra for this pregnancy: all shall be well and all shall be well and all manner of things shall be well
xx

Edward I know what you mean though about worrying about how the baby will affect your elder child. I am sure it will be fine but there's no denying its going to be a bit of a shake up for DD - after all she has been doted on exclusively by two parents and two grandparents for two years now!

I also found breastfeeding created a real hormonal link between me and DD when I was feeding her, and it was quite powerful. If i have that again with the new baby that will be lovely, and of course I want the new baby to have that too, but I do worry about how DD can be accommodated within the mum-newborn love-in!

Hey ho, I am sure it will all work itself out.

Bumpsadaisy

Re the breastfeeding I had thought about this too and remember the nurse in hospital (when I had DS) advise another woman to buy her toddler a doll so that they can feed their baby when you feed yours I'm going to try that.
But I think your right it will work out always does

I've heard Breast feeding can really hurt :( I'm really nervous ESPECIALLY after watching Cherry Healy's: Is Breast Best? on BBC...she was hospitalised after getting an infection!

hello all

Leo breastfeeding can hurt (my DS was a bit of a sucker so I was really sore for a while) but you get used to it and lansinoh cream was my saviour but it's nothing compared to labour so if you can get through that, some sore nipples are no problem

Edward I am PETRIFIED of the twins affecting DS. I am a working mother that LOVES to work and already feel guilty enough that I don't spend enough quality time with DS. He will be going to nursery when the babies come through as well so it's a lot for him. Although seeing him with his 2 week old niece on Sunday took away any fears as despite a bit of roughness, he just wanted her to sit on his lap and tickle her! He was brilliant (and I did have a little tear in my eye watching him!)

Cheeky I still am not getting regular movements and am so worried about the scan - it's stupid as it's taken so long for me to get used to the idea of having two but now I am so worried that something will be wrong with one or both of them at my scan in 2 weeks time! Silly really. DH can't come to that again which means he will have missed 12 and 20 weeks scan but he should be ok for the 28, 32 and 36 week ones.