November 2011 - holding hands, making plans & having scans

[TerrysNo2]

Thread 2 for the chatty lot. Welcome from the first thread and hopefully some newbies too!

This thread is for chats and this thread is for stats!

Continue as you were....

Feeling fine here, other than lack of appetite, completely off regular bread (but fine with baguettes - go figure), and desire to sleeeeeep.

mashpot My husband tells his parents and grandmother straight away, and has already let it slip to one friend, whereas I don't tell anyone (except my kids) until as late as can possibly get away with (usually after the 20 week scan for my family, they live in the States) -- mix of not wanting comments or advice every time I see someone and my cultural mindset of waiting to avoid bad things (tempting fate/getting the evil eye/etc).

Marthamay I'm having strong boy feelings (and my eldest has already proclaimed it a boy, and he wants to name him Cyrus). I'll likely try to find out (in the one previous one where it was a surprise, no one announced it to me because they thought we already knew. It was quite annoying).

12 weeks seems like ages to wait, it's 8 weeks here.

So I think I'm 5+5 and I'm glad I'm not the only one battling with jeans. I've currently got mine fastened up with a hairbobble to gain some extra gut space! If I remember right at the moment it's bloat not baby, but it rapidly gets backfilled with baby so I'm mentally saying goodbye to my waist now. On the plus side it might fill out some of my stretchmarks that very upsettingly appeared at 38 weeks pregnant with DS.
No real symptoms here other than not feeling like I have much of an apetite, some tiredness and breathlessness and sporadic burps.
So far we've only told my identical twin sister, and two very close friends - we didn't even tell family (apart from my sister) until 12 weeks last time. Felt like tempting fate... maybe because of the bleeding this time and the worry I've talked to friends earlier - but its as others have said - I've only told people I think I'd need to rely on if anything did go wrong.
So I've also borrowed a copy of Adventures in Tandem Nursing and am trying to see how I can make that work. Nursing is already a little sensitive at the moment what with tender boobs and my DS trying to boot me in the tummy.
Speaking of bras for smaller boobed ladies - I only went up to an E at the height of pregnancy and god knows what I am now - can I recommend the Bravado range of seamless nursing bras. They are bloody brilliant, so comfy - and because they stretch they can be used as your boobs grow and shrink - and not at all mumsy. They're just like t-shirt bras.
Think I'll have to find out the sex of the bean this time, just like last time, I don't like referring to the baby as 'it' so I always want to know. We got told DS was a boy at the 12 week scan! I have a feeling this one is of the pink variety because I'm eating utter junk right now, whereas with DS all I craved was salad and fruit. I always thought I really wanted two boys, but right now I'm really warming to a wee girl. Hope everyone's well.

Was wondering when boobs would crop up. I was a 32gg before I got PG last time and I am the same now. My biggest bra was a 34J at the end of last PG. I wasn't in it for very long though and they did go back down when I was breast feeding. Only to H/HH though.

Am hoping not to put on so much weight this time so they might not get so big. Saying that I haven't lost all of the weight I put on with DS2. I was about 10 1/2 stone before DS2 and I am now 11 1/2 stone. I have lost 1/2 a stone since finding out I am pregnant!

I have a feeling I am having a girly this time. I wont find out at the scan though I don't think. Will have a surprise at the end.

I am having a surprisingly easy day on the symptom front. I am finally able to enjoy the sun without hating it for making me want to pass out! I went yesterday only eating 2 biscuits until 8pm when I had a meal so actually being able to eat today is fantastic.

Sorry for the self indulgent post.

ok afternoon all, a lot of chat on here.

knocked up if dr said to count from date of implant then that would be week +0 so my lmp started on a sat so i'll be 8 weeks tomorrow.

Dee how are you feeling today hon?

not sure who asked i think escape i won't tell my parents until 12 weeks, that's because that's when the risk of mc reduces, although i'd tell them if i mc'd again i wouldn't want to put them through weeks of excitement for me and then obviously the disappointment if i lose it again.

I think it was you who asked about the wuzz and buddy i think it's Buzz and woody from toy story.

i'm huge anyway so never see bump until waaaay down the line, but clothes still feel normal at the moment.

Still having really bad nights sleep with ds, soooo tired.

Oh no, if an E cup now counts as small boobs then mine are just non- existent!

I'm relieved that waiting till 12 weeks is normal to tell family. I think that's what I want to do but didn't want to feel like I'd been overly secretive or anything!

But on the secretive front I don't think I will find out the sex.

Right, must get back on with my house purchase negotiations, don't think I'll have a new home by the end if the day, the way things are going now.

Im worried about my boobs, im a 32 E/F but there implants and i have no idea what there going to go like afterwards :o Think i need a trip too bravisamo to get kitted out!!
Ive told my bf, and hes told a couple of people but thats it. Ideally ill leave it as long as possible before I tell due to circumstances but by the rate my tummies growing it might not be as long as I expected!

Mashpot, you are not the only one that doesn't think an E cup counts as small! I'm a size 6, 30B, but I'm already starting to feel bloated. Tbh I think I just need to do a big shit! I've told my parents and work because I work with some challenging kids, and I need to put a few extra measures in place to keep me and the bean safe.

I don't think I want to know what I'm having, I normally hate surprises, but it just seems right to leave nature to it on this one. I will still be trying to guess from the scan pictures mind you!

Now, you all need to do less chatting this weekend, because I'm going to be away from a computer until late Sunday night, and will therefore have no hope of keeping up if you carry on like this!

Evening all, my eyes are so tired I cannot read everything. And I just ate half a camembert and french bread (baked in the oven with thyme and honey) and I feel sick.

Just wanted to say hi everyone!

Dee How are you? I had a another scan yesterday (not that I'm neurotic or anything!), and they said that the measurements are only accurate to within 5 days. I was 6+2 according to the scan last Thursday, and, 7+1 eight days later.

I've had 4 scans altogether, two private and two NHS and this is what I've been told:

Ist scan at around 5+0, NHS scan due to slight bleeding. Only 1 pregnancy sac, no yolk visible, unidentified object thought to be a possible cystic polyp. I questioned this, as it looked exactly like another preg sac to me, tho I'm no expert, and I was told it was possible, but very unlikely.

2nd scan. Private scan later that afternoon. I had been going to cancel it, but decided I wanted a second opinion about the second sac. Was told one definite preg sac, with excellent aura, well bedded in. Possible second preg sac, but sitting on top of lining, with no aura, and judged unlikely to grow.

3rd scan at around 6+0. Private scan. One pregnancy sac, good yolk sac, bean measuring 4.5mm putting me at 6+2. Other preg sac now gone, small amount of fluid where it had been.

4th scan at around 7+0. NHS follow up one. Two preg sacs visible. One with bean, well bedded in. Bean measuring 10mm putting me at 7+1. Other sac with visible yolk sac now grown, but no measurable bean, and sac still sitting on top of lining and not looking good.

So my conclusion is that the info we get in a scan is rather hit and miss, with a fair amount of inaccuracy! If doctors disagree so often, then so do sonographers! it's a pretty inexact science. I shall probably have one more private scan in a a little over a couple of weeks time, half way to my 12 week scan. I'm nervous that my poorly tiny invisible bean will come away, and bring the good bean with it, though I do realise that the info I will be given may in fact be random nonsense. I'm starting to trust my own judgement, and making my own mind up!

On another note. I am feeling fat, and am pissed off about it. It took me 7 hard weeks to lose my Christmas 5lbs flab, and it's back! I'm too tired to do my usual 5 mile walks, and am resting for an hour instead. If I allow myself to get beyond peckish, I start to feel sick, so am eating very regularly. I realise I should adjust my dinners to child size portions to compensate, but I like my dinner, and am shoveling it in regardless! I don't want my ex to know I'm pregnant till I'm 12 weeks, so have to suck tummy right in when we meet. Kids are keeping the secret well, bless them.

morning all. hope you're all ok.

another one here who'll not find out the sex. Was nice last time being told afterwards, is like a nice little prize for all the pain.

Hi folks,

Thanks for all the reassurance. I'm trying to be positive, but it's hard at times.

Re. boob size - in my first pregnancy with the boys, i went from a 40DD to a 42HH. And they never got smaller. They've grown with each child, and i'm currently a very healthy 44HH. It's fun when my milk comes in - they then become mahoooosieve!!

If sprout is a stiicky, then we will find out the sex, but only because if sprouts a boy theres a chance that they could develop the condition that DS1 had, or a similar renal condition, and i need to know for my own piece of mind and sanity. But we won't be telling anyone else as we want to keep it a secret just for us, iyswim?

Anyway, hope everyones ok and has a good weekend.

Morning everyone
Sitting waiting for Drs to call me back as have had some more bleeding this morning - still brown rather than red (which I know everyone says is ok) - but advice was to call Dr. They're closed on a weekend, so got to wait for emergency Dr to call me back. Neurosis and paranoia well and truly set in, especially given complete lack of symptoms over last couple of weeks. Did another test this morning and that still showed + but....

Anyway, fingers crossed! Hope everyone else having a good Sat so far!

The boobs are a big (no pun intended) issue for me as well. I was a 32GG before getting pregnant, and thankfully they haven't got any bigger yet. During my first pregnancy, they didn't get much bigger either, although I went from a 32 back size to a 34. But....I had breast reduction surgery when I was 22. And yes, you did read that correctly, I am a 32GG, and I've had breast reduction surgery. I was a 32GG by the age of 15 (and this is 20 years ago, before Bravissimo, when there was only one bra on the market in this size, and it was an old lady contraption which seemed to start just below my chin!). I can laugh now, but I was nearly suicidal in my teenage years, I was so self concious. It affected everything - in fact, one of the reasons I attended university close to home was because I couldn't bear the thought of using communal laundry facilities, it was essential to me that I could wash my bras at my mums. Anyway, had surgery at 22, best thing I ever did, but over the years, although my weight has not really fluctuated, the size has crept back up, so I am now the same size as pre-surgery. But although they are the same size, they are not nearly so heavy, uncomfortable and unsightly, and thanks to the wonderful work of Bravissimo, its no longer considered to be freakish. I know this is quite a long post about my boobs, but I wanted to convey the sheer terror I feel at the thought of them growing bigger.......

I'm so glad it's not just me having to find new stuff- I feel stupid for missing my little (for me!) waist but there we go. Was 40-30-41, now 42-34-41. Was 34d, now 34dd. My underbust& waist are the same :(. I was never a triathelete! Serious kudos to you sporty ladies.
I had my booking appt yesterday, at the very end of week 8. Apparently my scan will be week 11-13, and that's the next thing. So looking forward to second trimester and hoping to have energy!

Laabama sorry to hear that, is it a lot of bleeding or just a bit when you wipe?

Snoozle that all sounds horrendo. I thjink bravissomo is a life saver in temr sof decent nice loooking bras in big sizes, I just wish they didn't cost as much as they do. My other friends can buy sets for cheaper than I can buy a bra!

localcrackpot I'm not measuring self, kudos to you for doing so!

I'm still sleeping a hell of a lot. Should I be worried about this or is this really completely normal? Books say yes, bfriend says not so much. Midwife apppointment next week so can check with her, but just wondered what your experiences are?

Folic if this is your 1st pg, then listen to your body and sleep when you can.
First trimester is very tiring, it does get better (till about wk 30!) And subsequent pgs are never as easy with a baby/toddler/child around!
Sleeeeep and enjoy!

Thanks MrsA, I totally feel I need it.

FX for you Laabama. I'm still bleeding a bit of brown every day, enough to need panty shields, but it's not enough to threaten a pregnancy, and I've bled in all but one of my pregnancies, and still got four kids so far. Do try not to worry about it, though that's easy to say!

I'll find out the sex as soon as I can. I'm not big on surprises, and the more I know, the less anxious I am. I remember the look on the poor sonographer's face when she told me that DS2 was a boy, and I replied " Ah well, that's just quadrupled my chances of having another autisic child!" Though I had wanted a another boy, so that DS1 might as least have a brother to do things with, if he couldn't make any friends. DS2 is fine. I refused an amnio with him, though I was 38. I had this overwhelming feeling that DS2 was not Downs, and fear that the amnio would kill him. Twice I'd been talked into an appointment, and twice I phoned on the day to say I wouldn't be coming. I doubt I'll have an amnio this time either. Although I'm 50, my egg donor is only 27, so if the screening comes up low risk, I won't do it. If it comes up high, I feel I have to do it this time round, as my kids have enough to deal with in their lives already, without more disability in the mix, and I'm that much older myself.

The on-call Dr rang back and didn't think that it was anything to worry about - I think it's probably the same as what you've got knocked up. Have been told to just relax and take it easy, so am going to go and get hair cut and have a bit of a pamper this afternoon! Have spent so much money this month as we're moving house (not helping my stress levels :)), so a bit more won't touch the sides!!!!

laa enjoy your afternoon pamper.

today i crumbled and booked an private scan for next weekend (i'll be 8 weeks) - first nhs scan will at 12 all being well (incorporating nuchal fold which is good)

i can cancel it up to a few days before - so a few more days to vacillate between the extravagance and reassurance.

Oh goodness I mean an E is small for pregnancy and nursing - and I'm still nursing DS - I used to be far, far nearer the start of the alphabet. The second letter in fact

Evening all!

I feel so uncomfortable... really bloated and can't get comfy at all. I'm convinced there are at least triplets in there, could only wear the jeans that I was wearing fine a couple of weeks ago, for an hour this morning then had to put leggings on instead. Only 6 weeks tomorrow, I'm sure I didn't feel like this with DS or with my lost one.

Im new to this but Im due baby number three in Nov 2011. Just found out a complete surprise, accident, shock... think more words the same. Anyway ive already had drama with bleeds etc so I have already had internal scan where baby was very happy. That was wed but been bleeding on and off since then. :(( Had miscarriage before so know not that yet but cant help but stress. I have a scan in week do I hold off til then or see doc before then?