November 2011 - holding hands, making plans & having scans

[TerrysNo2]

Thread 2 for the chatty lot. Welcome from the first thread and hopefully some newbies too!

This thread is for chats and this thread is for stats!

Continue as you were....

Oh Dee that sounds stressful. To add my twopenneth I really think that some babies grow at different rates, some start slowly and catch up, and don't follow the clear cut 'norm' used to date them. When I went for my 12 week scan with DS, he was small and his bowel was still out of his body on his umbilical cord (I think the sonographer said it grows out there and then always moves back in by 11 weeks) so she was adamant he was only 10 weeks and puts his EDD back from July 31 to August 16. I was [hmmm] because those dates meant my period was already two weks late when I conceived and I thought that sounded pretty dodgy but we went with it. Cue DS's arrival on August 19 so according to the sonographer he was only two days over his due date. He WAS not, he was 9lb 6oz (I only put on two stone!), he was 98th centile for height (over half a metre!!!) he had no vernix left and all the skin was peeling on his hands and feet. In other words he was a good 2-3 weeks overdue. I hope you can get some peace of mind and reassurance soon.
Oh another bad night here too. I woke up with a massive stomach pain and just thought 'that's it it's over' went to the loo expecting to find red (I too have been rubbing myself nearly bald as I'm still sporadically losing brown blood, which I think I'm going to attribute to my CS scar) and um nothing. It was rather tricky to sleep after that foolish episode.
Anyone else got a real thing for Orangina?

Gaaaah, had written a long post which has disappeared due to puter shutting down...

Dee I went for an early scan at 6+3 and was told that the embryo was measuring small. I agreed with this as I think I ov'd late that month due to stress. At no point though did they say I should be worried about this, and it's a bit off that your sonographer/ nurse did. I thought most people were put back a week form EDD at the dating scan anyways? Try not to worry. Easier said than done though.

I'm still laughing at Queen of the Brown Wipe and wiping self bald. :) I have had some brown wipes in past day but I'm ignoring it.

Hope everyone else is well? I'm feeling pretty shit in evenings still and very contrary, want to eat feel starving but can't finish anything. Also sleeping loads still.

Hello all, I'm afraid I fell out of the bottom of the basket some way back but I've been trying to keep up, just had nothibg useful to say... Now I'm desperate to ask a question. Has anyone else grown tremendously fat? Already? I have gained 4" on my waist and have a mahoosive belly which is rather disturbing. I was overweight but not obese by BMI but now my clothes don't fit :( and my bust has grown a mere 2" and my waist is all thick and no longer shapely. I used to have a nice waist. I'd rather have a nice baby of course, but I thought I'd have a bit longer before I bade it farewell!
Please tell me you're all like house ends.
Lots of love, crackpot

I'm sat here in leggings pulled right up under my boobs and DHs hoodie on if that helps localcrackpot...?
I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror sat on my bed in just a vest top and was gobsmacked! I'd noticed my trousers were a bit tighter but my god, I've got a right pot belly now!
I was a size 8 when I got pregnant with DS and had a BIG bump by 3months, looked about 5months...
Wonder if this one will show earlier...

Evening all - wow, what a lot of chat! Thread 3 coming up soon, I reckon. Feeling like I'm about to get my period today, which isn't great and hoping it's not going to turn into something bad. Should be (by my calculations) 8 weeks tomorrow, so hoping that it's just down to the fact that it would have been time for it (if that makes sense...). Little bit of brown coming through too, which I'm going to try to ignore a la folic. Hope everyone sleeps better tonight!

Morning all,

just checking in, don't have much to add, this is my first baby so have no experience of what should and shouldn't happen, but fx that everything works out and it makes such a difference to have those that have had a child before around and can reassure us that things should be fine.

My tummy has popped out, I was always overweight, but my belly has filled out at the bottom and I went to get new trousers a couple of weeks ago, who knew that elasticated waistbands would be so comfy!

I did have a brown wipe last night, but as everyone has said brown is old blood so not going to worry about it, after all there is nowt I can do if the baby is not meant to be, so stressing about it all is just going to make me ill. Saying that of course I have not been downing shots or eating anything that I'm not supposed to!

Am off to see the family this weekend, my Dad has spilled the news about the baby to almost EVERYONE!!!! I was not pleased but I guess it's done now and can't be undone, lets hope that things go to plan, otherwise he's going to have to make some horrible phone calls.

laabama - that feeling of about to get your period is fairly normal i think. I thought mine was on its way which is why I didnt think i could be pregnant :)

My belly feels huge and the bf says it looks bigger to him too, im a size 10 and tall but this is my 4th baby/5th pregnancy so i suppose every things given up early! I put on about 3 stone with each of my previous pregnancy's due to over eating s im being sensible this time. Luckily my sugar craving has not put in an appearance yet!

Morning everyone

I'm in the stretch maternity pants and smock tops already - my waist has gone although I haven't actually put any weight on.

I'm a size 14/16 and tall - with my other 2 pregnancies I put on about 3 stone, was 13 stone after the birth so had 2 stone to lose each time.

I would love not to put on as much this time but I don't think it's going to happen, this pregnancy seems to be going exactly the same as the others so far!

Have a good day everyone

Morning all!

I am actually jealous of the popping out bellies! I actually had a long discussion with DH this morning as he was asking where the bean is... I am only 7 weeks, but my tummy is as flat as it was before :( I am a size 4-6 and I have heard that the smaller you are the sooner you show... but no joy here. I want a bump!!! (Also lack of bump fueling the paranoia - had a dream that I was bleeding heavily and felt like I had lost the bean - woke up unsure of whether it was real or not and had to go check)

Next scan in 2 weeks and 3 days (who's counting?)

Who have you guys told, btw? Have you told parents, siblings and close family? My DH and I are quite worried (not sure why, we have been married for 2 years and people have been asking anyway) and really not sure when or even how to tell. I have 2 very close friends who know and that's keeping me sane.

wuzz thanks so much for the thoughts, am still here, lurking a bit though as stupidly busy work means i havent really had time to keep up. No more bleeding thank god but an awful experience at the ante natal clinic yesterday which i nearly came on and ranted about but thought that might just wind me up even more. I waited 3 1/2 weeks for an 'emergency' referral and whne i got there (having just noted my history) she asked me twice why i was there, told me 'well, 2 miscarriages is just bad luck, lose this one and then we'll worry', didnt say anything about the bircornuate uterus, scanned me under sufferance and then couldnt work the bloody machine, and to cap it all off her english was appalling. I know that im a stress head right now but thats seems bad even by my standards? Im in for my booking in appointment next week and really hope the midwife is better. DP and I have the option for a quick wedding and then to move into married quarters and if the care at my local hospital continues like this we may just do that .....thank god i had that private scan last week. On the positive note, bean was still there with heart going like nobodys business :-)

crackpot im right with you - Im an ex triathlete and was training for london marathon when i found out i was pregnant, cue immediately stopping running, horrendous carb cravings to stop the sickness and indulging myself generally = emergency trip shopping yesterday as nothing fits!

well, now ive had my rant i hope you all have great days in the sunshine (which i really hope is here to stay!) and that the good news continues for us all ......

Morning all!

Lk what a horrible experience yesterday... hope she's not someone you'll be seeing regularly?
We've been in quarters for 7years now, they're not perfect but its what you make of it that counts!
The first time you move in is hard as you don't get any help but each time you move after that you'll get removals provided and then the lovely disturbance allowance aswell! Almost makes it well worth the hassle of moving!

What do you think you're going to do? When would you get married if you didn't go down the 'quick wedding' route?
Saying that, we had a beautiful wedding that we planned and booked in a weekend as DH only had a 72hr leave pass! We planned it 3 months before it happened though.
One of the many skills of being an army wife, lightening speed planning and the ability to turn like the tide when it comes to any plans you did have!

Terrys thanks for scan recommendation but I'm in London. So there are lots of options, will pick a place after my GP appt tomorrow. I am 6 weeks and would like to wait until 8 weeks.

Dee hope your bean keeps growing, other experienced people seem to have reassuring words for you.

Escape I am size 6-8 and still a flat stomach here too but it's early days. I admit I did do another test yesterday though just to check I was still pregnant...

We haven't told anyone yet. Is it weird to wait till 12 weeks to tell family? I may tell my parents when I see them in 2 weeks if I get the private scan done.

Happy Friday!

wuzz I second that - I planned our wedding in 3 days (decided on the wed, saw priest on Thur, married on Sat) though the actual wedding had been planned for 3 weeks later but my dad was going into hospital for a long time and it was either then or never (so we already had the papers). It can be a very special day, no matter what :)

lk was that a nurse, o doc or a mw? Either way, it all sounds like the words "bedside manner" are not in her vocabulary. I hate that, especially when you are dealing with sensitive subjects like mc's. Also a triathlete here and was also running a marathon April 11th... Obv no more training, but still running a bit (socially) and enjoying the turbo and the pool more and more (though have found the pool a tough place if I am feeling sick)

mashpot I wanted to wait till my first scan too, but that was Wednesday... and now DH and I are considering waiting until the next scan in 2 weeks. (Are we nuts? Should we just do it? I feel like I am counting my chickens before they hatch IYSWIM...)

Mownin,

Off work today- happy days. Have slept for 10 hours, happier days

BTW I didn't get that WuzzandBuddy and WuzzandBody or whatever. what does it mean? [feeling very thick emoticon]

We've told parents and I've told bfriends. Everyone else after 12 week scan is the plan, apart from work as I'd like to wait a bit to tell them. Means I'll have to make sure people do not post anything on FB until I'm ready as I'm friends with a few colleagues on there.

My boobs have grown a lot - which is even more worrying as I'm already a bravissimo customer. Any big breasted mums gone through this before?, did your boobs get massive? I have the fear I'll have to have mine specially made and that i'll keel over a la Lolo Ferrari. I'm really beginning to worry. I've also had to unbutton my jeans over the past week, feel fat and bloated.

wuzz we had planned on getting married in January anyway so given im due first week in Nov (but prob wont go full term so im told) that seems reasonable-ish to stick to. It means ill get continuity of care with baby (hah!) and as DP is supposed to be on ops October - Dec (yes, when im due! :-() and then Christmas leave obv, there might only be a couple of weeks when he could be with me and baby that he's not. I should add, he is stationed in Suffolk in week and i am a good 4 1/2 hours away. Its been a tough conundrum but im very ashamed to say i dont want to get married with a bump (how vain am i?!) and also I dont want anyone to think we're getting married for any other reason that we love each other. We shot ourselve sin the foot a bit as we were keeping wedding quiet till he gets back from ops in May as his brother is getting married in October (after 13 years with partner) and we didnt want to steal their thunder as its ALL the family can talk about but of course baby announcement turned all that on its head!

BTW, hope its good news with dh's return, take it he's on herrick..hmm...what number are they on now?! weve got friends out there at mo but not in british camps so they wont be back as normal :-(

escape it was a doctor, and you're right, nil bedside manner, i was not impressed so consoled myself with brownies :-) im so jealous youre still running, it just doesnt feel right, swimming ive been ok and am going to reset the turbo up in the spare room this weekend to try and combat the ever expanding ar$e! ive told family, on the basis that if youd want their support if it all went wrong you should tell them, oh and unfortunately had to tell my boss (who has been incredible) as my hospital appts ended up being in middle of day and i live about 120 miles away from my office so couldnt just 'nip out'!. you'll be amazed by their reactions .....

escapeartist we went for telling people whom we would want to know and who could support us should the worse happen, and everyone else after the 12 wk scan.

Morning ladies. Am feeling v of the petite girls. Size 6! More like size 26 here (well, maybe not quite that big but not far off!)

So, no symptoms at all here except dry mouth and very sore right boob (go figure).
Am quite tired (6+2 today) as DD was up twice in the night - only for a few mins each time (2nd time her bloody peppa pig soft toy had fallen out of bed) but it's made me v tired. I am remembering how badly I cope with disturbed sleep. DD was an amazing newborn sleeper (won't tell you as I'll be lynched or accused of lying), so am feeling a bit worried about how I'll cope in November!!

Anyway, lovely sunshine here and hoping everyone is feeling good and not too sick. Good luck for anyone with scans today or at the weekend :)

escapeartist FX for you, I hope it is just a "dating" issue (which I have had too previously, I recon my DH sperm has a super long shelf-life :) )

Re folicacid I too am big busted usually (30/32EE) and I ended up 34GG/H. Bramissivo were fantastic and I wore underwired bras all the time. I checked with the MW and she said they tell people not to wear underwires as most women wear the wrong size and it sits on their boobs. Good fitting ones are no issue apparently. The none underwired bras made my shoulders and underbust bleed despite trying so many so I was bloody relieved to find this out!!!!

My boobs were finally back to normal by November last year (DD was 20 months). I am already an FF at 8 wks!!! And my belly is round already:( I got to 16 weeks last time before having to move to maternity trousers. Not looking so good this time.

Have lovely day everyone, enjoy the warm!

Katiebeau I'm a GG already and busting out of my bras. GULP.

Folicacid - I only have one friend who started around a G - she ended up an H when breast feeding so not too much bigger but she said they felt bigger as they were so firm.....

My dear sis referred to me as a stick with 3 beachballs attached when I was last pregnant.

DH was singing "the girls are back in town" last night!!! Cheeky...

And I have friends complain they went up to a D cup - I'm so of them.

Hello Everyone!

Sorry, I think I've missed too much to start name checking but have really enjoyed reading all your posts and following the conversation. LOL to wuzz for her pulled up leggings and DH hoody - that is one of my most fetching looks too!

to all the massive hooters on this thread! Wowzer. I'm a DD after last preg and have to admit I catch a glimpse of them in the mirror sometimes and think...awww...poor tits. I can't even imagine what they will be like a year from now!

I'm only about 5 weeks but already I have that tight uncomfortable feeling when doing my jeans button up. They still fit but the way they dig in when I sit down just puts pressure on the wrong spot and makes me feel all breathless. I totally remember this feeling from preg#1. Already it feels a bit wierd to lie on the floor on my stomach (up on elbows) - which I really really missed last time! It's amazing how quickly you take these things for granted.

I've been laying low trying to finish a project and finally, yesterday all was finished and I can really take a deep breath and think Oh GOSH, I'm UP THE DUFF!!!! I have a chickpea! I did my last and final HPT this morning and yes, still a BFP. I think I'm going to let myself believe it properly now.

Up until today it's been really hard to tell which symptoms were pregnancy related and which were stress related. I'm glad things have calmed down so I know what is what.
We are going up to PIL this weekend and plan to spill the 'bean' then - and then call my folks in Australia to let them know too. I think it will be expected but I'm still excited about telling them.

Anyone else have a real feeling whether it's a boy or girl? I have this strong sensation that chickpea is a girl, can't shake it. But I don't know if it's just wishful thinking because already have DS.

Who is planning to find out gender at 20 week scan and who is keeping it a surprise?

Haha @ *KatieBeau's OH. Cheeky! Well if i get up to an H I would be mightily happy, but I feel I may be there already. I'll get to bravissimo tomorrow and get fitted. More blommin expense if they keep growing. I couldn't bear to wear soft cup bras though.

Marthamay this is our first and plan to leave it a surprise. I don't have a feeling either way really. I don't know how to feel though IYKWIM. Enjoy telling parents...

Thanks Folic good luck at bravissimo - no keeling over Lola Ferrari style!!!LOL.
We found out that we were having a boy at 20week scan last time and I was really happy to know but I'm just not sure this time....maybe leave it a surprise. DH wants to know as soon as poss!

I rang the docs today to say I needed to make a midwife booking in app and they told me that my first midwife app would be at 12 weeks ! I'm sure it was 8 weeks last time....12 weeks seems late. I have changed centres so maybe they have a different policy but it's just down the road so that would be wierd. Anybody else been told 12 weeks for booking in?