Jue in June 2011....... third trimesters here we come!!!!!

[Clarkiee]

Hello,
Started a new thread ladies, fingers crossed it works xx

ooh. Lunch with an old flame. My favourite kind :)

ive neva had lunch with an old flame, doubt DP wud approve am i missing out!

nurse my old boyfriend had the sweetest reaction to the bump actually. He's divorced, now with a lovely new lady and they are discussing families - he wanted to know all about the practicalities of being older, potential difficulties etc. He will be a lovely dad - the type who would get up to all sorts of mischief with a little one in tow. He is an ex from about 18 years ago so no baggage to deal with there on either side.

TTL Im trying to be all supportive of your plans but I'll worry about you. Give it a try but stay flexible if it gets too much.

Thanks Jasmine- not 100% sure what it is (will know more Tuesday I'm sure)but might pass on the 'no stress' as it rasies blood pressure bit to my boss though.

Woke up at around 5am this morning, got up and decided to watch a bit of TV. Thought I'd watch OBEM the twin caesarian section (bit of strange time to watch it). I thought it looked great- it only took about 10 minutes and I've not got any worries if I have to have a c section (though I've heard the stiches can take a while to heal). I cried my eyes out (partly because of still birth lady too) in a happy/oh shit way .

Oh and think you are right staying put for now ttl and sunny. We'd started to work with the idea that we might be staying put, just before we had the offer, because of the timing. I even started a 'operation spare room into a nursery' list. If the house we want to buy falls through we've decided that we would rent anyway because it has taken us soooo long to get a buyer.

Evening everyone.......We are going to Aldershot tomorrow. DH has just gone to his dinner and i am tucked up in bed with computer and TV.....dont have a tv in our bedroom at home
Did you see me waving Oxon ladies.........the train stopped at Oxford and then went via Didcot to Reading :)
I have under the bump jeans from next which were great but now not so good so i bought over the bump ones and they just keep falling down. I couldnt get GAP jeans over my thighs

OOh i braved the born at 23 weeks on i player this morning.........so sad and im not really sure what my feelings are, i can see both sides of the story.

I watched it too Moomin. Really sad, I sobbed for most of it. I feel I would not want my child to be resuscitated at 23 weeks due to the probable outcome. I would hate the thought of such a tiny baby being veltilated, tube fed etc. However in that situation I don't think anyone can say how they would react. It's your child and your instinct is to protect it and save it. Every thursday when I get to another week to mark off the calendar I breath a sigh of relief that she's still safe inside me. And ditto the everyone else on here :)

Also, I thought they made some very good points about prevention being key, with mothers in disadvantaged areas being at much higher risk. Kind of makes you sick when you think that ConDems have already scrapped the Health in Pregnancy grant, not even made it means tested but just got rid of it completely.

the Dr talking about needing more physios is so accurate......its just not exciting enough.
It was interesting that all those with medical knowledge all felt that they wouldnt want it if it was their child, but until it was you how do you know how you would feel.
I know its completely different and im not comparing at all but when all my grandparents were poorly in hospital i encouraged my parents to have them put not for resus.....i would have hated for them to have gone through that

Understandable Moomin, for an older person with weak bones etc it can be a very invasive and damaging intervention with not great outcomes. I felt very sad at the little baby who had to undergo cardiac massage for 20 mins until they finally said let her go. Her tiny little chest :(

Off to stuff my face full of brunch with my best friend today, our DPs have gone cycling, so we're going to eat our own bodyweight in fried meat!

Hope you all have a lovely weekend.

Morning all . . .I'm not even going to pretend that I know what's going on in the thread at the moment but will try and catch up later, honest!

I'm in the official third trimester today ! Does remind me though that I have 12 weeks left (fingers crossed for 9 but hugely unlikely based on the other 2!), a couple of essays, and end of course assessment and a revision plan to get done. Plus sort the baby room out . . . . hmmm, maybe 14 weeks would be best .

On the plus side the dc's shared room is now functioning and they love their bunk beds. So far it hasn't been too bad and they even stay in their room a bit longer in the morning, although don't seem to wake up any later or be any quieter!

Barbie I did manage to read the bit about you have a rubbish time and the oh so helpful comments about your size :( If it makes you feel better I went to loosen the band on my maternity jeans the other day only to realise they were already at the loosest setting ! I have 12 weeks left, I can't bend very well (so obviously the children keep dropping things on the floor), I can't walk very well (think spd night be setting in) and people saying how huge I am just sends me to eat more as comfort! Not much practical help to you, just wanted to let you know I feel your pain. Oh and my 2 at the moment argue the second they are together so all my dd is getting is the really grumpy me as the time I am nice and not exhausted, she is at school . . . . adding huge guilt to the long list of things I am currently struggling with!

Daisy - enjoy your masses of meat this morning! Dh is out mountain biking tomorrow with a friend's dh but we are far too disorganised to get together, plus they leaving at 7.30am ! How's the studying going? Which course are you doing at the moment?

Mummy Not sure if you've got your dress sorted in the hundreds of posts I've missed, but I love the ones you have chosen and hope you get one of them in time!

Oh and my jeans, all 3 pairs of them, keep falling down . . . .thinking of investing in some braces

I think we have the same jeans Mrs, so comfortable! In fact I may be wearing them to my wedding at this rate. The dress from Crave maternity turned up but it's too big (they don't have a smaller one in stock) and I'm just not sure I like it. I look really strange in everything I try on, maybe because I'm just not used to my body looking the way it does. Had my own little hormone fueled break down after trying it on yesterday and ended up texting DP to ask if he would mind very much if we postponed the wedding for a few months, which of course he's being really nice about and is willing to do if it's causing me too much stress. But tbh I couldn't do it to DSC's, who are so excited about the whole thing. Just burst into tears again writing this

I'll come back when I'm in a better frame of mind. Maybe mini eggs will help

I've tried keeping up but was unwell yesterday and spent a lot of time staring at the wall (to tired to concentrate, but not enough to crawl back into bed).

Liking your braces idea Knackered my jeans look like a baggy mess as thwy are to big and fall down lots.

I was hoping to get to a local NCT nearly new sale this aftgernoon, but it is snowing and I have to go to the supermarket before we starve (all with no car). As I was mostly only after a cheap moses basket I don't feel to upset about missing it.

I breifly saw talk of the 23 week programme. I watched when it was on and am just so happy to be past that week (26 today). What a choice to have to make. I agree with the point made that care cannot only be offered at the start/til a certain age. It needs to be provided for life no matter how long or short it turns out to be.

Sorry about the terrible typing, I'm lying in bed still

Every time I read the thread to catch up something happens and I can't post!

Hope everyone is well today!

Clarkiee - I can't blame you for feeling so frustrated with the house buying process it is stressful!!

Supersunny day - we took our house off the market in December, just pointless. But we are now having the back garden done to make it more useable, mostly block paving with an area at the back to plant flowers - can't wait to have it done!!

I am currently reading Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth. Some of it is tree hugging hippy crap but there is a lot of interesting and useful information, so well worth the read. I never knew that gas and air is not available in the US!!
I do wish I had read that book before I had DS, may not have gone into the hospital too early!!

I am seriously contemplating hiring a Doula, going to meet our local one next month I hope!

I am also having the maternity jeans falling down issue. I have some over the bump ones from Next which need pulling up every 5 mins if I'm walking anywhere but are staying up longer now that my bump is a bit bigger. I also got some over the bump ones from Red Herring which have belt loops and then I put a belt on to hold them above my hips but below my bump. That seems to work quite well but I think that I have stretched the over the bump panel from pulling them up before I tried the belt because now that keeps rolling down .

My two pairs of best fitting maternity trousers are a pair of black work over the bump ones from Mothercare where the elastic band at the top of the bump panel fits snuggly enough around my ribs to hold the trousers up without being tight anywhere else and a pair of under the bump combats from Red Herring with those elastic pieces in each side which expand using buttons onto different sizes.

I had no idea that it would be so hard to find trousers stay up and that's before I consider my very short legs and the fact that most maternity trousers only seem to come in one length. Dresses and leggings are the way forward I think.

Have a happy Saturday evening everyone. I shall be entertaining my parents who have come to visit for the weekend but have tactfully decided to go for a walk to give me and DH a bit of time without them (we reach our threshold very quickly with either set of parents!)

Where the f* have I put the tv remote?..its not in the fridge, my handbag or the bathroom...flippin baby brain...!

Jasmine I left mine in the upstairs airing cupboard last pregnancy. No idea why.

I did that the other day Jasmine, looked everywhere and it turned out to be on the arm of the sofa I was sitting on Check the obvious places !

jasmine- the otha day i searched hi and lo for the house fone eventually found it the nxt day turned out DD had hidden it in her shape sorter lol

im really struggling with my back at the mo, dont know whether im over doing it or whether its just from the size ofmy bump i am feeling more and more like a whale

I'm glad I wasn't the only one mad enough to watch that born at 23 weeks programme whilst PG...I sobbed through the entire thing. It makes me so thankful that LO has stayed put and is growing bigger and stronger by the day.

It seems we're all having trouble with maternity trousers falling down! Maybe we should all switch to jumpsuits for the last trimester

MN2, sorry things haven't worked out with your dress yet. I hope you find a good one soon.

Kara, I've ordered Ina May's book. I'm hoping for a natural water birth, so could use some tree-hugging encouragement

I hope everyone is enjoying their weekends!

I bought a bump band today from the Nearly New Sale. Am hoping it will help with keeping maternity jeans up. Also go a pair of blooming marvellous trousers, Blooming Marvellous swimsuit and a top from M&S. That together with a couple of bits for DS came to £15. I love NNS. If anyone has not been to one you should check out your local NCT / twins club branches. Most of them run one.