Jue in June 2011....... third trimesters here we come!!!!!

[Clarkiee]

Hello,
Started a new thread ladies, fingers crossed it works xx

Morning all

Not been able to get on for a few days, and once again so much to catch up on....

Moomin hang on in there - it must be so tough for you, but it sounds like you're doing all the right things and I'm sure it'll pay off. Also sending hugs your way.

Barbie - thanks for the list. I too have made a copy of it.

Jasmine I'm totally with you on the tears front. I think I've blubbed every day this week. And on top of that, DP being a total arse, too. I am just NOT in the mood. He screeched and swore at me in the car last night, because I warned him he was just about to clip someone's wing mirror and he was driving too close to a parked car. I said it nicely too, but he ignored me and just ploughed through the wing mirror, shouting at me. Then a similar incident in petrol station. He complains I'm a nervous passenger (he only passed test last summer), and I am, but I'm getting better. But it certainly doesn't help when he just ignores me and scratches other people's cars just because he can't bear to believe I'm right! And then thinks it's ok to scream and swear at me. SO he's just gone off to work without even saying goodbye. I'm off today so will try not to sit and stew, and just get on with my college work... sorry for the rant, I just needed to let it out! Honestly, MEN!!!

Also suffering from quite bad back pain, down one side and into the leg, which ain't fun. I've had this before, years ago, so know I'm prone. But this time have a feeling it's here to stay, at least until munchkin arrives.

How is everyone else this sunny morning?

Millie thanks for the info aboutt he birthpool - I will look into that - we have wooden floors too...

Jasmine and BPrincess Sorry your partners are being arses :( Hope the sunshine helps you both feel a bit more sunny inside and take the higher moral ground over the arses

Sunshine? Who has sunshine? Not us, that's for sure - depressing and grey more like

Jasmine and BPrincess hope your DPs realise that they have no right to be idiots towards you when you're pregnant. They just don't get how emotional you get.

Morning- got a bit of sunshine here but its a bit chilli.

Had scan with a different consultant. He said umblical arteries are both fine . Said that the liquid around the bigger one was a bit low (but she could have a wee and it might be okay). Bit wierd cause up to now any complications have always been with the smaller one. Sending results off to Manchester again. So generally pleased about the scan.
Annoying thing was our scan finished at 9am and then he completely forgot about us we were sat there are 45 minutes for no reason. Eventually got away just before 10am (without a next scan date or anymore info on anything ).

I'm at home now having a chill plan to get back to work about 11.30am get involved in some reading then lunch at 12 .

bprincess although its annoying that he drove into the wing mirror it must have made you feel just in your 'watch that wing mirror' comment. My DH has been fine apart from when we are in the car- when he swears and moans its so annoying because I have to listen to it even though its nothing to do with me! jasmine sure DH will see error of his ways soon- hugs x

Ladies - we havent had a clench recently...1,2,3 and clench....
Newbies - if you dont know what I'm talking about, we have regular pelvic floor reminder system and we havent had one for a while....and release....

The waiting room was full of chavs loud people.
One girl telling the whole room that she was on the pill and got pregnant, then she had the injection and got pregnant (6 mths later) and then had the coil and got pregnant again (6 mths later). TMI. Another girl saying 'why would I cry at my scan it's just a baby innit, not a big deal'. Another girl annoucing that she is 'well having two cans this week' cause she didn't have nowt last weekend. Lovely

No sunshine Sasa? I'm not that far away from you and it's glorious here today. We must be getting the weather from Edinburgh rather than Glasgow direction.

Moomin sorry to hear you had an emotional day yesterday. It sounds like you're doing an amazing job and that Florence is a little fighter. Hugs for you.

Hugs for everyone actually.

Moomin I think you are brilliant. I really do.

My two have both being overdue and big and I know that in those few days after, in the hospital, Im incredibly tearful and emotional, worried and dont want dh to go home (although Im over the moon- its just the hormones/soreness/ tiredness that accompanies giving birth).

I cannot even begin to imagine how you must feel with baby Florence arriving so early. You sound like you've been a mother your entire live and have just fell into the role so naturally. Im thinking of you all and sending prayers and thoughts to baby Florence. Thank you for keeping us updated. xx

Jasmine hope you have a better day today.

Moomin you're doing a fabulous job lots of hugs and we are all thinking of you and Florence.

Jimper I'm overseas as well and get lots of scans as it is also private care here. Luckily english is first language though! Where are you.

Sasa sending you some sun - it's really hot here which is not great for me at the moment. I just want to sit in the pool.

Had a scan this afternoon. My Mum and Dad are visiting at the moment and as DH is on business trip overseas Mum came with me. I think she loved it she hasn't ever seen a scan before as they didn't have them when she had me and my brother unless there were any problems. Baby doing fine still breach though. Also there was a trace of acetone in my urine but as no protein doctor doesn't seem to worried.

Clarkiee if it's not one it's the other hey. Hope all comes back ok from Manchester.

Just catching up ...

moomin, you are doing so well..Keep it up. And tears are absolutely natural and you should neither feel guilty about crying nor try to hold it back..As someone else has said earlier, it really is such a good cleanser. Try thinking of the future and the long term and perhaps it will make it that little bit easier to get through the present. Keep telling yourself that you are doing your very best and you are indeed. Thinking of you and little Florence.

Feel really tempted to join the moan about insensitive partners...My husband seems to lose his temper for no reason and if I cry or moan at his completely unreasonable, unsympathetic, insensitive behaviour, he labels me as overreacting etc etc..Sometimes makes me to wonder as to whose thresholds have lowered, mine or his..I mean, if he is losing temper for unjustified reasons, there is something to be said about his thresholds having become low as well, isn't it..!!! Maybe am overanalysing...

Oh nurse and others planning on home births, good luck with it and hope you find it fulflilling. I was planning on one as well, until the polyp thing came into the scene and at the last appnmnt, the MW ruled out home birth saying that they can't quite predict how the polyp will react. So its going to be a midwife led unit as the first port-of-call.

TTL, no its not the Cambridge NCT sale that am going to..am going to the one in Brentwood. I used to live in Cambridge many years ago, in a student house on Chesterton road..feels ages ago though..! Hope you find some good finds in the sale. And thanks for the pep up words on the Phd thesis, i really need it.

Spoke to soon the clouds have moved in and stolen my sunshine.

I booked my antenatal classes yesterday argghhh! why is it that i feel nervous about going!!!

Hormonal . . . me . . . .muchly! We just had our new to us car delivered, 6 seater Honda, perfect for our expanding family. Why is it that when they drove away our old car I welled up and felt a pang of sadness at gaining a car that screams I AM A MOTHER AND NOTHING ELSE! Methinks it's time I got a grip . . . . an essay on cognitive development and brain specialisation should sort that out

Clarkiee Glad the scan went well, boo hiss at the rubbishness of being made to wait although at the people you overheard today!

crazychic I felt the same about my antenatal first time! Luckily I met the most amazing group of people and we all are in regular contact 6 years later, hopefully yours will be the same :)

Confessions I think we have your sunshine here, sorry!

Merlion Glad scan went well :)

Right then . . . . . . essay . . . . .again :(

Thanks Spg, sounds like a MW led unit is the best thing if there's some uncertainty.

Sorry to hear about your marital disharmony Jasmine and Bprincess, hope your DPs start acting reasonably soon. I would've been exactly the same in the car btw, I'm a bit of a nervous passenger especially now I'm pregnant. He should understand that you're going to be even more nervous as you've got a baby to protect.

Glad your scan went well Clarkiee though I would have been seething listening to conversations like that! Last year, before I got pregnant I was in my local and one of the barmaids was on her break and came over to say hi, tell us she was pregnant and showed us her 20 week scan picture on her phone. All the while she had a massive glass of wine in one hand and a fag in the other. I was and had to really bite my tongue (probably wouldn't now, I'd let her have it!)

When are your classes starting Crazy? I start mine on monday eep :)

Woo hoo!! my lovely new boss approved my taking leave with absolutely no problem. Had myself really worried asking (probably from habit from where I worked previously) for no reason at all, think he completely expected it anyway. Am soooo excited. Will be finishing work 5 weeks today at 35+2!! yay!!!.

Also, Im finding it really hard to attend lectures. I did it with ds but am finding this pregnancy more difficult, maybe because we have ds to look after this time round. Anyway, Mondays and Thursdays are 17 hour days for me and Im exhausted so instead of being the martyr like I usually would be, I contacted the college and asked that given the circumstances could I not attend the actual lectures (you usually need a minimum 75% attendance record) but study at home. I dont want to defer and I've almost finished my 2nd assignment so want to submit it, I also really want to sit my exams (first 2 weeks in May). They agreed!! .

Feel like I can really relax so much more now as dh is away with work all next week and I was worried.. Finishing work early also means Ill have a few days off to study for the exams (instead of previous plan to stay up all night after work).

Thank you all so much for your advice on this, I feel so much better. I wore myself out with ds - working and studying/ attending college right until I was due and returned to classes 2 weeks after and it was ridiculous. This is so much more sensible and Im much happier

Have just posted my maternity benefit application form. My, what a load of fuss that is - I started it 14 weeks before I was due to go on maternity leave (its due 6 weeks before hand), and I've only just got it back (and my maternity leave is starting in 7ish weeks ). Had to wait for my boss to come in to sign it, had to send it to our local payroll office to sign and stamp and return, then had to send it to our finance dept to sign, then to my doctors to sign and stamp.. phew!!! tis done now, thankfully.

Sorry for such a me me post. Have loads I want to reply to from the last day or so, will be back later..

Good luck with your essay Knackered, I'm in the same boat unfortunately :(

NurseSunshine my classes start on tuesday!

Moomin I think that you being so brave in a difficult and unexpected situation. Thinking of you.

nomoreheels I had a really bad calf cramp last week in the middle of the night. I woke up shouting "ow, ow, ow" so loud that DH woke up too. He was really worried that something was wrong with the baby and I managed to say "leg" to tell him what was wrong. He asked me if it was a cramp because I think that he wanted to try to help me to stretch my leg or something but unfortunately I was still in semi-dream mode where I had been dreaming that I was being tortured and so I shouted back at him that it wasn't a cramp, my leg was hurting because the piece of plastic that someone was trying to force into my vein was so large!!

jimper two of my friends who have had babies in the last year measured bigger than their number of weeks. The one who measured two weeks bigger had her baby 2.5 weeks early and the one who measured 1 week bigger had her baby 1.5 weeks early, both babies were around 7lb. However, I have heard stories of the measurements varying massively between different midwifes and also depending on whether your legs are flat or your knees are bent when you are measured so it's not an exact science. One of my friends was monitored closely because her DD was 9lb + and so they were worried that her DS would also be big. Their conclusion from all of the monitoring was that he was average size, but he was born at nearly 10 lb!!!!

I can't complain about my DH. He's in a particularly happy mood today but that might be something to do with me getting up ridicuously early to heat up croissants and pain chocolate to make him a birthday breakfast in bed before he left for work at 6.30am!

Quick post from me, Moomin - it is completely expected you shedding some tears, your hormones are all over the place and coupled with worry about your little dd it is no wonder you are feeling emotional! You are doing a wonderful job expressing for your dd, every little will help. It must have been so scary when they put her on a ventilator, good to hear she is stable now. Sending lots of prayers to the both of you, that Florence continues to gain in strength everyday.

confessions and merlion we did get about an hour of gorgeous summer weather between 11 and 12ish - just long enough for me to put a washing on with the intention of hanging it out...then it went grey and cold again :(

My mum and dad came round for a while - dad smoked 2 fags in the living room and the entire downstairs absolutely stinks now

Clarkiee Is it wrong to say those overheard conversations made me giggle?! Sometimes people are just outrageous, and the world really is like Little Britain...

Barbie So glad you've got yourself sorted with the studies etc. I can't imagine how you did it last time - what a nightmare. I go to college one evening a week, after work, and I'm starting to find even that a huge struggle. And weekends full of completing assignments, so you never feel TOTALLY relaxed. But this afternoon I'm going to go and study in the sunshine (oops, just woke up from a 'quick nap' on sofa, which lasted 2hrs!!)

Good news on the marital strife front: he has just emailed to apologise. Made me feel a whole lot better. Thanks for all the kind words everyone.

Sasa Eugh to your dad's fags!

So many posts to get through...I've just read up to people worrying about weight gain. Please don't stress, remember that as we are now 2 people occupying the same area our weight should be averaged between both parties. I consider myself a very lithe 5 stone, carrying a rather large baby... Clarkiee will have to divide by 3 which will make her very light.

Moomin congratulations on the arrival of Florence, so unexpected. From the references to tears on this page you must be going through a difficult time. Am thinking of you both and sending huggy vibes...

I love it Notoast. I, too, am terribly slender but my baby's a right porker!

Yikes I'm struggling to keep up - again!!! So sorry everyone for not replying to everyone individually.

moomin thinking of you. I hope that little Florence is doing well and you are getting plenty of cuddles. I think you are amazing the way you are coping.

sasa beautiful day here in Edinburgh/Fife. Am over in Glasgow tomorrow so will bring some sunshine with me :)

Just had my 28 week apt and my anti-D. Anyone who is still to have one it isn't anything to worry about. MW also spoke to me about breastfeeding and also about delivery of the baby.

I am so exhausted today. Anyone else struggling with tiredness? I just managed to reverse the car into the driveway wall. I have never done that before - ooops!!

Thanks for the pelvic floor reminder Jasmine

Just went to Tesco etc and tesco have the Tommy Tippee electric steriliser kit on at half price. It's down to £20. Also Toysrus have the avert microwave steriliser down to £10.

At yoga the other night we had a lady come in and chat about cloth nappies. Is anyone else considering using them??

Hope everyone else is well.