February 2011 - still some left to pop, surely not...

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Took it upon myself to start a new thread. Everyone's popping right now!

PS: Sorry for the awful rhyme, it was all I could think of

Hi everyone, I haven't caught up with everyones news yet but just wanted to let you know I had a beautiful baby boy called Rory on Thursday morning weighing 7lb 14oz.

He was born by emcs after over an hour of pushing as he was back to back and got stuck. We got home yesterday afternoon and just trying to get used to breast feeding and settling him to sleep now.

Hope the rest of you are all doing well.

Just a note to say hi and thanks for all supportive messages re my BF/FF issues. Still expressing and topping up with FF and will carry on for now. She had lost 14oz and has now gained back 3oz so hopefully by the next couple of days the loss will be below 10oz and we'll be on track. She is feeding much better quantities now (more yesterday than she was 'supposed' to have according to the paediatrician) but we're just carrying it on ramming it down her for the moment), all from a bottle but never mind.

In fact, today is the first day I have started to feel a little more 'normal'. I don't feel as panicky as I did and am starting to relax into this a bit more and enjoy being a Mummy.

Thanks again for supportive posts last time, it means a lot.

Well dont everybody who has since delivered their LOs, hope everybody is enjoying their new little bundles and good luck for those still hanging on.

Dx

Hi all, good to hear there are not many left to pop, I'm sending you labour vibes!
I think my baby blues have crept in. I keep crying about my relationship with ds1. He suddenly seems so big and grown up and has loved staying at pil a few nights. I love the fact that he is independent but it hurts so much at the same time. I hate the fact that our relationship has to change now that Noah is here, and although I'm sure he hasn't noticed anything different it's still really affecting me. I cry every tine he goes away with the pil and again when he comes back and feel so guilty. I think we've always have such a special close bond that I'm afraid has been broken. I never wanted anything to change and only encouraged him to be more independent because I was pregnant.
Sorry to wither on, but was wondering if anyone with older children feels the same.
I hope Angels is ok. This seems to have really dragged on for her

Glad your feeling a little better too Delia

Bensmum76 I know what you mean, dd1 (5) has always been quite independent and she is now in her second year of primary school - not sure where those 5 years went!! Dd2 (3) was always much more reliant on me, think it was because I didn't go back to work after having her, we were always together, Mr Wiggles changed jobs just before she was born and wasn't around as much for the first few months. Now she goes to playgroup four times a week, without a backward glance, plays without me, has wee friends etc, loves sleeping over at my parents which is absolutely brillant for her but also makes me feel a little

Kez Congratulations on Rory.

Deliaskis Glad you're feeling a little more relaxed and confident. Take care.

Hope all those who had visitors over the weekend have got rid of them, got their feet up and maybe having a , .

Evening everyone

How much slower the thread had got now that the babies are almost all here. I wonder how eau and knitta are doing, and angels

Had loads of visitors today, only briefly but was manic and then the mw turned up and must have thought us mental!

Have named our little boy Mikey, he is yummy but cries every time he is put down and diet sleep a wink last night so was tough as hadn't slept all the night before as was delivering him!

bensmum sorry you are feeling low, I remember my first thought when I found I was pg with ds2 was "But ds1 isnt ready to share his mummy and daddy yet" and I have been overwhelmed since yesterday, coping with 3 aged 4 and under. I don't see how I can meet any of their needs fully, will they all miss out a little bit? But then they are lucky to have eachother so the benefit surely outweighs the sacrifice? (I hope) but if the blues don't pass then go and see gp, all your feelings are perfectly natural but don't suffer unnecessarily or prolong it. Maybe have a massage or some reflexology to help with the old hormones too

bensmum I have had a bad day moodwise,not helped by pils visit and the fact i started to pass clots today after bleeding had died right down.I just cam to bed and my f'ing scar is weeping like mad again,it was final straw and i had a good bawl
I hadnt thought about dd1 but yes i do miss my time with her and she is being a bit silly/jealous at the mo so that doesnt help.I am going to take her to paris in the spring just me and her.
Pils were bearable apart from the food obsession and the lack of help or contribution.DH rang me at my friends to ask about dinner,he would NEVER do that so they were ob asking.It was 5 oclock and they were scoffing sarnies at 2!!I told him they could bloody wait.This am dh had work at 12 and i presumed they would go then.They didnt,despite my dil coming up to cook us lunch and me cracking on with school uniform etc,they made drinks and then lunch and eventually left at 4pm.What is wrong with them fgs,an idiot would have sensed the atmosphere and left,its just so intrusive.We are going there at easter for a few days,she suggested a WEEK who would want that with a young baby?
justone im with you on the school run panic,and i only have one dd.She is however not great in the morning and is used to me pandering to her whims,we will probably arrive at school about 9.30
Happy labouring or night feeding to all.Looking forward to the steam mop ad tonight.

Oh yes-night sweats-i think they stopped last week which was around 3 wks post natal

kez Rory is a lovely name, congratulations :)

delia glad your dd is feeding better, and also glad you are feeling less panicky - its been 2 weeks for me and the nervous feeling is only just going.

bensmum hope you are ok, all I can say is I have so much respect for any parents who have newborns and older children - its so tiring with just a newborn for me so how you are coping is beyond me! Look after yourself and I agree, keep an eye on things and speak to your gp if you need to.

40weeks Mikey is a lovely name too, just hope you manage to get some shut eye tonight :)

Hello all, thanks of thinking of us still to pop, or is it just me? have mw check tomorrow, will ask to have a check but not a sweep, just want to know if all my period-type pains are psychosomatic or actually something happening down there. Wish me luck!

Looking forward to all the complaints that come afterwards including pils visits, sweats, blues, etc. I can't imagine it right now, am horribly hormonal already and hate everybody!

PS Hi ledkr, sorry to hear you're not feeling great, the bleeding and scar sound uncomfortable - look after youself too. I know what you mean about people not sensing they are unwelcome - its obvious! Idiots

Good luck to those with school runs tomorrow!

PPS Good luck tomorrow knitta!

Right got to go and make bottles now

See, even my post is tottally self-centered, am sorry. Mikey is a lovely name 40, don't worry about the sleep, it's so early days, am sure he'll be as good as gold tonight. And congrats kez. Bensmum I can completely imagine your feelings, hope you feel better and if not, seek help, it's there for you.

Congratulations to Kez and sorry for everyone who is feeling down and overwhelmed. It happens to everyone at some point, often more than once, so you're not alone. This board is great for being able to vent and ask for advice. I hope everyone who is still waiting is doing well. Has anyone heard from angels yet? Her birth story will be amazing!

Thanx all for your kind words. I'm up waiting for little one to want a feed. He's been awake since his dream feed at 11am when dh woke him fully to get him to take a feed! Noah has been moaning and squeaking in his cot since dh brought him back to bed at 12.30!
It's always comforting to know others feel a bit down or anxious sometimes too. I will def speak to my midwife if I still feel upset when she comes on Wednesday.
I feel for those of you with school age children, at least Ben doesn't have to be at nursery at a certain time, we can just turn up whenever, which will def be a good thing!

after a fantastic beginning, we have started to struggle. After being discharged on sat afternoon, we were readmitted sunday morning as freya has lost 15% of her birth weight. After blood tests they've found she's jaundiced and her kidneys aren't clearin all the sodium from her blood. Even though she had been feeding well and had regular wet and pooey nappies. Other than slight yellow tinge she has no other symptoms of jaundice so i'm starting to get quite worried especially after being on a strict feedin routine (expressed and formula). I am now sitting watchin her under a black light about to express as much as i can. I feel so defeated. Sorry for being so self involved. Sat on my own feelin sorry for myself

Hubbard you have a right to feel upset, I know I would be. At least you know she's jaundiced and are getting it fixed. It must be very upsetting though.

hubbard86 xxxx, thinking of you and Freya, the light will work a treat and she is in the best place. I know how worried and upset you must be feeling but she should be on the mend soon. Good luck and keep us updated. Don't forget to take care of yourself and remember to eat!!!!!

Just a quicky to say that Adelaide was born in the pool at home weighing 8lb 15.5oz last night at 11.26pm after an eye-watering 36 hour labour it was spookily exactly the same as DD1's birth, really long latent phase and she even came out in the bag!

I had a second degree tear but the MW fixed it up just fine so I didn't have to go into the hospital. She's feeding like a champ and having a little snooze at the mo. DD1 is on her way home from Grandma's house, I've missed her like mad! Can't wait to get all the family together

EauRouge Congratulations, well done, enjoy all the lovely cuddles especially with dd1 and Adelaide xx

hubbard whilst you are sat there read my posts around the end of jan,we were re admited for the same thing and then again later for pneumonia.I was actually rock bottom and have never cried so much in my life,i felt tired,worried and cheated out of my lovely baby experience,dh was spending his pat leave sorting out Ella and driving to hospital,Ella was being pushed from pillar to post and i didnt see her for days.I understand exactly how you feel now.
Remember,jaundice is common and not that serious these days,its simply from not getting enough to eat to flush things thru and its not you fault.
Try to see this extra time in hospital as an extra rest,ready to recommence all those night feeds.Please let me know how you are feeling,i can pm you my no if you want to have a good moan.
I also have some lovely in laws with no life i could send to visit

thanks for the messages. She's still under the light and i'm still wired up the the milking machine. Even if it does seem pointless as my milk seems to have disappeared gettin about 20ml every 2hrs. F needs 50ml 2hrly. I had such a bad time after birth of ds with pnd that i identified triggers. So far this birth and time after has been so much worse i'm scared i'll end up sick again.
Thanks for the offer of the pils ledkr but i already have a useless fil as it is.

hubbard thinking of you, i think i may have pnd too, ben is so wonderful but 4 weeks on and i'm a mess of nerves and tears. i expressed for a while for night feeds but it hurt way more than just feeding, one thing i would say is that the more i did it the more i could produce (not that that's any consolation right now). we've decided to give ben formula at night now which has helped to some degree but the guilt is enormous and i don't know why.

huge congratulations to eau, sounds like an extremely tiring but great birth ( i secretly hoped for a baby 'born in the bag').

congratulations to everyone else i've missed, so sorry but been a bit slack with catching up.

ledkr my god! is there any way you can escape? you've made me count my blessings with my in laws.

oh, and to whoever it was that asked about night sweats... four weeks on and i'm still getting them but then i suspect it may be anxiety related plus i was holding a hell of a lot of water. hope yours stop soon.

hubbard at least you can recognise the signs of PND and if it does develop you can get help sooner. We are all here for you too, I know it's been fab for me getting to know all you lovely people. Also don't beat yourself up over the milk, I think the more stressed out you get the less it flows. Formula will do her no harm and she's getting an extra boost from your EBM, you should be proud that she's getting 20ml, that's a lot more than a lot of babies.

eaurouge well done with your little girl, sounds like a marathon though... Hope you can get some rest now.

angels has been in a week now, hasn't she, really hope she's holding her baby :(

My mum is out with DD1 at toddler group this morning so DH and I have got the house cleaned up, sad but I love monday mornings and our cleaning frenzy! Had rubbish sleep last night though, S did a gigantic poo which went through her nappy, vest, babygrow AND sleeping bag and unsurprisingly woke her up at 5.30am, having only settled after her 3am feed at 4.30am. Did go back to sleep at 6.30 and we all slept till 8, except DD1 who whined chatted in her cot till someone managed to get out of bed for her!

Oh I am droning on, not as bad as DH who is shouting at me about the fuel prices and how he's going to solve it though. Bugger, he shouted so loud he woke S up. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Hi all, sorry to hear that things are tough for you hubbard and needto. Please look after yourselves, no words of wisdom here but I know that needto you should try not to feel guitly about the formula - easier said than done I appreciate. Whatever is helping you and ben is only a good thing imho. hubbard really hope freya is ok, it sounds so scary, hugs for you.

Congrats eau! :)

I have a quick stupid question for any formula feeders out there please. but will have to come back and type it in a bit cos dd has just started squawking! back soon

eau congratulations! sounds amazing. Enjoy the cuddles and hope the tear heals quickly.

I'd like to send lots of hugs to everyone strugling with feeding, jaundice and so on, am so emotional at the moment that I don't know how I'll cope with the hormones after the birth, so all you have my upmost sympathy.

No news round here, wasn't given the examination as they said that they'd have to do a sweep if the cervix was favourable, and we decided not to have one done just now. Off to bed again now after not sleeping well at all last night, had a strong BH and got too excited