Charters Anonymous Graduates – No more temping!

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Hello ladies ? bit nerve wracking moving over to ante natal but thought I?d be brave! Here?s to a trouble free 8 or so months for us all! And hoping lots more of us move over very soon.

Step away from your thermometers ladies. That way madness lies.

Sits back. Feels a bit lonely. Waits for others.

Woohoo terrys getting to 6 weeks! Grow little one grow! X

Terrys! How are you feeling?

Feeling good!! Nipples like bullets and having really vivid dreams but mainly good. I had a very easy pregnancy with DS too so hopefully this one will be as easy!

Well ff works me out at being 4+2 based on ov date. Still no real symptoms except feel dizzy most of the time and have no appetite.

Looking forward to hearing all your news as scans progress. I reckon I'll have mine at the start of May.

Need to decide on hospital now - decisions, decisions.

terry glad to hear you have 'symptoms' IYKWIM!

Hello girls. Just back from hols and catching up.

First of all so sorry to hear Digi's very sad news. Not fair at all. Thinking of you and your DP.

Welcome and Congrats to MrsA - got here in the end! Hope all is going wqell.

Well done on getting to 6 weeks, Terrys

Fab news you are 13 weeks already Getdown - that seems to have flown by (bet it didn't for you though)

Brilliant that your scans went well Pip and especially Spilt - I know how anxious you were.

Waves to Nix and everyone else...brain to mushed to namecheck everyone else, sorry.

Had a great time at Centre Parcs - DS loved it. Did swimming every day, horse riding, petted baby owls, saw red squirrels. Thoroughly recommend it for little ones. Getting lots of movements from my LO now - 21 weeks tomorrow!

Hi LadyG wow you're getting along nicely!

I am still talking temps - tell me to stop!! Good news is they are sky high (36.84) which is the highest I've ever had. I'm still only 18dpo, so very early days but did a digital test today and it's reading 2-3 weeks. How is that possible - any ides? I know when I ov, so the most I could be is 2 weeks at best.
Or am I reading far too much into things!

Glad you had a lovely holiday LadyG, I'm not at all!!

MrsA correct me if I'm wrong, but 18 dpo is 2-3 weeks post conception so it sounds fine to me? 2 weeks would be 14dpo, 3 would be 21dpo surely? And maybe stop with the temping! If today is your highest reading that's a great time to lock the thermometer away, otherwise you'll get a lower temp tomorrow and get really worried... me, GetDown and pippa and probably most of the others all did this and got very stressed

Hope everyone is ok.

I am sure my little frog is on the move these days but it's still that weird stage of is it movement or is it just my guts?!

maybe there is more than one MrsA

I got 3+ on a CB Digi when I was 19dpo - TBH I have no idea when its meant to count from but anything more than 1+ was ok by me!!

Spilt if you feel something and don't trump straight away afterwards it was probably the baby

MrsA I second putting the thermometer away. The second it falls a bit (it will because you can't keep getting infinitely hotter!) you will panic. Put it away and be happy you are pregnant.

Hi all you lovely ladies!

ladyg glad you had a nice holiday :)

mrsa step away from the therm, it does more harm than good after the magical words 'pregnant' appear!

split I bet it's your little one jumping around saying 'mummy I'm awake!'.

terrys hope you are ok today.

Went to my friends last night who is 25 weeks pg, I spent about 10 mins with my hand on her bump with her little one kicking me. It was so amazing. HURRY UP TIME!! I want my scan and then my own little kicking bump. DP keeps telling me how he can't wait till I get to the same stage as my friend so he can feel kicks. Eek neither can I.

Ah, I thought it was time after implantation not conception. As I reckon it's less than 2 wks since implantation, it will be over 2 weeks since sperm met egg.

And I know I must stop temping. I think cos I thought it would never be me, I'm loving the green lines on my chart!!

And iwish your DH sounds lovely. My DP, lovely as he is, just isn't into pg and babies in that way.
Don't get me wrong, he loves DD but he really only gets into it once the baby is here. Sigh. He tells me he's still getting his head round things atm - not even said he's excited yet.
That's why im looking into getting a doula for the birth - I need decent support. DP is a bloke's bloke!

You ladies who are further along (or have been pregnant before), at what point did you start a) getting a bump and b) feeling kicks? I am so desperate for both of those things, it's driving me crazy!

On a different 'crazy' note, I don't know whether it was the hormones or (and I really hope not) a sudden and brief return of my depression, but the other night I just went, for want of a better word, nuts. I was frustrated with my knitting but I was so out of control I scared myself. I felt so useless, so convinced I'm going to be a crap mum etc, and then DH said (quite innocently) 'try to calm down, stress isn't good for the baby' and I had hysterics about how I was convinced I was going to miscarriage and it was going to be my fault because of being so stressed. I woke up the next morning fine, having cried myself to sleep and fairly terrified DH and myself, and I haven't felt like that since. Do you think I need to be worried or is this just nerves? I was given anti-depressants last year for about 6 months as I was really stressed and depressed at work, but I did feel it was a very specific instance of depression, quickly dealt with (counselling, meds, long walks!), not particularly serious and not something I've ever had before. I have friends who have had depression for decades and I've never thought of my 'episode' as being in the same league. However, the other night completely freaked me out. I really hope it doesn't mean I'm going to be prone to post-natal depression, or even worse, actually be a crap mother due to suddenly having the shortest temper in the world.

I don't mean any offence to anyone who's suffered badly from depression by the way - I know my use of the word 'nuts' is poor, I just can't describe it any other way. I was a total mess.

pippa I'm 17 weeks today and have been feeling possibly movements/twitches for 2-3 weeks but no actual kicks, though I have an anterior placenta (at the front) which may mean that clear obvious movements come a bit later for me. Bump wise, hmm, I "thickened" just above my pants quite early, about 9 ish weeks I think. My inital bloating went down at 11-12 weeks and I felt a lot littler again for a bit, then from about 13 weeks I suddenly grew (boobs too), but it's not too noticeable unless I've eaten a meal or need the loo in which case it's quite a bulge. I reckon this is because my stomach/bladder etc have nowhere to expand into now apart from out. If I wear fitted clothes I think it's obvious I'm pregnant but actually I might just look fat. I can definitely hide it completely if I wear a hoodie. I too am so looking forward to a proper bump (but am dreading the humungous 8-9 months bit!)

Emotionally I'd keep an eye on yourself, it is possible to get antenatal depression (about 1 in 10 I think?) but if it's just an isolated occurrence then I wouldn't worry too much. Talk to your GP if you start feeling uncomfortable about how you are coping/feeling. Glad you are feeling better today ((hugs))

Well I took your advice and went for an early scan. A little bean with a good strong heartbeat, 161bpm!!

The most amazing thing I've ever seen, brought a tear to my eye. Money well spent!

Glad you've made it to 6 weeks terrys!

Centre Parcs sounds fab LadyG. I've only been once and I'd love to go back again.

MrsA put that thermometer away!

MrsP that's wonderful! So what have they dated you at/how many weeks do you think you are now? Lovely news.

It measured just over 16mm which is about right I think as I am 7+5 today. So happy.

Yey MrsP

Thanks for the advice Spilt. It was really scary, and I'd hate to have depression again, either pre or post birth. I'm just pretty sure it's not going to end well-I couldn't even really reconcile the scan picture with what's going on inside of me. I think mostly I'm scared that if I dig too deep I'll find out something terrible, though I don't know what. My mum told me she was scared throughout her pregnancy with me that she wasn't going to love me, and maybe I've taken that on board more than I should have.

Anyway, sorry to be depressing. Am sure it'll be fine in the end and I'll laugh at myself in a few months.

Pippa in my first pregnancy, I didn't feel kicking till I was well over 18 weeks and even then it wasn't much as the placenta was at the front, by my stomach IYSWIM, so all the kicks were directed at my back, which aren't as easy to feel. So don't worry.

And I also remember vividly turning into a vile person some of the time throughout pregnancy and have forewarned DP to expect the same this time round. It's all hormones and you carry the baby, he puts up with mood swings!
Having DD was the most life-changing thing that ever happened to me and I'll admit the first 6 weeks were pretty dark for me, but after that it was fine and wonderful and has been ever since (even with the awful terrible toddler tantrums).
If you do feel it's more than just hormones, then do seek help but you are probably just normal and imperfect, like the rest of us :)

Hi ladies.

Hope you are all ok today.

Just checking in to say I've just been to my booking appt and booked my scan which is 28th march, yippee!! Happy now I have a date.

On not such a wonderful note, my office hasn't has water for now 2 days so have to keep droving to the supermarket for a wee. Only just been 5 mins ago n I need to go again!!

Hellloooo how are you all?

Im fine, got 20 weeker on monday....
Feeling fecking exhausted and asleep for half eight each night! Even then waking up shattered. Work is manic so not helping and i have two very busy days coming up so dont expect it to get better until next week. Roll on easter hols! Sleeeeepppppp!

Starting to feel very defined kicks now, but very muffled still. DS now cuddles and kisses my tummy.... still undecided about finding out...i def dont want to but DH does. I dont want to deprive him, but there is no way he can know and keep it from me. I would know in an instance! I really want the surprise this time!

Hope you are all good.... starting to relax a bit and enjoy it.

Ive started knitting! baby/COT blanket..gonna be a biggie if i get it finished

Ladies, 5 weeks tomorrow and feeling very very queasy and faint, which is a problem in small, warm offices! Almost ran out of a major meeting today cos I thought i was going to keel over or throw up. Luckily did neither.

With DD I felt queasy for a few weeks but nothing like this. My water melon craving has begun so that's about right. DP has been despatched to buy a whole one which we cut into chunks and keep in the fridge. I eat a bowl every morning and it's heaven. I haven't really touched it since DD was born!

Excellent news re progress and scans etc. Guess I better head to the GP.

Hi all

Sorry I've been a bit quiet.

Mrsp so glad that your early scan was reassuring and worth it - it's great to see the little bean in there isn't it! I found it a great comfort (even though I did start worrying again a few days later!!)

spilt glad to hear that your little one is starting to wiggle about. Yours too nix! Excited re. your 20 weeks scan nix - half way there. I am approaching 14 weeks and thought I felt a very slight twitch whilst at my desk today... am I mad?? This is too early isn't it? It's just it really didn't feel like wind, more of a kind of pulling sensation, very faint, but def there! I'd just drunk some cold water from the water cooler too.... don't know if perhaps I am imagining things.

Iwish glad to hear you've got a scan date to look forward to. How did your booking in go?

Anyone know when you start to get that dark vertical line on your belly? I definitely got it with DD but can't remember at what stage. Just wondering if I will get it again.

pippa I totally know what you mean re fear of depression. I had really severe PND after DD (hospitalised for 3 months) and TBH it has been quite a journey to get to the point where I am now, having a second. At some points I never thought I'd have a second. It does scare me a bit, that it might happen again, but am trying to think positive. They know how to treat me now, and I too have learnt so much about myself and about what to expect with a newborn. I've been having occasional emotional moments during pregnancy, but really I find pregnancy ok, it's everything that comes after that really made me low last time (sleep deprivation, loneliness etc.) Hopefully we will both be fine. I think it's really important to make sure you get support in place for once the baby arrives.

MrsA glad you've got some symptoms but sorry you are feeling rough at work. It's awful too when you can't tell anyone what the problem is. re. the watermelon. I must say, it does sound rather tempting. I enjoyed tucking in to some fresh pineapple last night, it was very nice. Seem to have really gone off vegetables though.

Hello all, laptop battery about to die but want you to check out my profile pic - little baby measuring 7.8mm with a nice heartbeat!!!! Dated at 6+5 so one day more than my calcs!! Very

Awwww, that's wonderful news terrys!

And so exciting about 20 week scan nix!

I feel spectacularly ill a lot of the time now but I've actually only been sick once. I tend to feel worse in the evenings which I suppose is cos I'm tired and been fighting to appear 'normal' all day at work.

I'm getting really jittery about flying on holiday now. I'm a nervous flyer and I can't imagine that feeling ill is going to help! I can't complain though as I'm sure I'll have a lovely time once I get there.

I might have to try water melon MrsA, sounds good. I have completely gone off vegetables though, bleurgh.