Charters Anonymous Graduates – No more temping!

[GetDownYouWillFall]

Hello ladies ? bit nerve wracking moving over to ante natal but thought I?d be brave! Here?s to a trouble free 8 or so months for us all! And hoping lots more of us move over very soon.

Step away from your thermometers ladies. That way madness lies.

Sits back. Feels a bit lonely. Waits for others.

spilt good luck for tomorrow - hope you see a bouncy bean!! Will be waiting for your news. xxx

Hope your scan goes well tomorrow spilt. I've got mine on thursday. Nervous.

One of my closest friends just told me she is pregnant - I was in shock as she basically has the same due date as me. She told me her scan is tomorrow. For some strange reason I just couldn't tell her my news. I just felt in shock. Is that really weird? I came home and burst into tears - had to explain to DH that if her baby is fine and there is something wrong with my pregnancy, I don't know if I could take it

I know that is really irrational, DH was a bit and told me to text her our news. Which I did. She hasn't replied.

I feel really weird. Is this a normal reaction once you've had a MC? Bizarrely I still feel a bit jealous of friends announcing their pregnancies, even though I am pregnant myself

Thinking of you tomorrow spilt

getdown I know exactly where you're coming from. I'm terrified of friends announcing their pregnancy around now. I think it will be a while before I can relax and not constantly compare other people's good news with my own situation. I think I would have reacted just as you did. Does she know about the mc? If not that maybe why she hasn't responded to your text yet?

Feeling a bit ropey today. Not quite ms, but v 'periody' which is my only symptom. Equally reassuring and worrying at the same time.

Thank you for all the good wishes

GetDown I too know precisely what you mean, you are not being daft. I still can't deal with the babies/bumps that I associate with Bobbie for whatever reason - usually those very close in age to her or the ones where we expected to share the baby stage with their family. I still can't even look at them as they are too painful a reminder of the stage I should be at. They will always represent the age my daughter would be now, but isn't. And if a friend of mine announced her pregnancy now I would fear that happening all over again if I lost this one. Also I would be upset and jealous because my pregnancy is so fraught with fear and grief and worry in a way that someone who hasn't MC just won't have. I am jealous of those who still have their "pregnancy innocence" and believe that they WILL have a baby when all I can manage is to hope sometimes. You know, the people who are 12 weeks pregnant and buy a pram. Nope, can't do. I might at about 36 weeks...

thank you both so much for understanding - I'm glad you don't think it's really weird or selfish for me to be feeling shock and a certain degree of jealously towards my friend. As you say spilt I think it's a feeling of - they have that pre-MC naiveity where they assume everything will be fine. We know different. It probably will be fine, but there are no guarantees. I guess I wish I could be like her - just enjoy this pregnancy without constantly thinking about what may go wrong. Totally agree also re. babies / pregnancies that would be the same age as the one you lost. It's so hard not to think "what if" all the time.

digi yes she did know about the MC - she was the friend who came round and sat with me for several days whilst I cried... so perhaps she was nervous of telling me her news too.... She has replied to my text now and said she was thrilled - also that she did suspect as she thought she saw a little bump! (she was being kind, I actually have a pot-belly ) Sorry you are feeling a bit "periody" today - I tell myself this is just the womb stretching as it grows - it is nothing to worry about, def a good sign.

Thanks so much for your support and reassurance

Good luck for tomorrow spilt!

getdown I also know exactly what you mean, I am still jealous of other pregnant people despite being pregnant myself! I don't really believe it yet and having only been pregnant once and unsuccessfully, I won't believe it for a while yet so your reaction sounds perfectly normal to me.

I know what you mean about "equally worrying and reassuring" digi! When I have cramps I worry but when they go I worry and wish they'd come back as they were reassuring.

I had high hopes that I would feel less rubbish this weekend but this didn't turn out to be the case! More cheeseburgers have been consumed today.

Good luck for tomorrow spilt...:) is it 16 weeker?

Getdown - funny you should say that. It is totally the normal reaction post MC. My last pg and my friends were due on the same day, she has just had her baby and i got my DDate as per last week. Dont worry about it - all will be fine xx

thanks mrsp and nix it's a strange reaction isn't it, but glad I'm not alone in having these thoughts.

Sorry you are still feeling bad mrsp - is it the nausea?

Yes 16 week scan nix. The swines still want me to drink 2 pints before hand! Better find my notes actually...

Hooray for the nausea induced crap eating MrsP . tory how are you feeling? Have you found anything that helps your pukiness yet?

spilt is 16 week scan normal where you are or is it because of Bobbie? I got 12 and 20 week with DS but things may have changed. Anyway - good luck with it, I am sure all will be fine and it might give you some comfort (for at least a few days! )

No, 16 week isn't normal here either, but I'm currently on 4 weekly growth & reassurance scans (not sure until when) and very grateful for it. Normally it would just be 12 and 20 weeks.

Good luck for tomorrow Spilt :) I've got my dating scan tomorrow too-am petrified and excited all at once!

Hope you're feeling ok Getdown. You're definitely not alone-I was quite upset to hear of a colleague's pregnancy last week and I have no reason to be-I think it's because in my head my pregnancy isn't real until I'm holding the baby and I can't quite believe it's going to get that far. We just have to keep thanking our lucky stars for these pregnancies and keep our fingers crossed!

Waves at everyone else-sorry this is brief, am on my phone and it's rubbish. X

Sorry Spilt-I mean too for the scan, not the dating bit. I realise yours is a later one than mine-hope all's looking good on there for you :)

Good luck to you as well pippa!

Yes getdown, nausea and a general feeling of needing to be asleep the whole time! A weekend seems to have helped though as I don't feel quite as bad today.

Oh pippa good luck for today. Here's hoping we can share some good news later. Everything crossed for us both x

Good luck pippa xx

Measuring 11 weeks and 4cm (which I'm sure means I conceived a couple of days before I ovulated...?!) SO relieved. Don't know whether to tell people now or wait till 12 weeks...is 12 a magic number?

Looking forward to hearing from Spilt-thinking of you!

Oh wow pippa!!! Am so pleased for you! That's fab. I think measuring in the early weeks can always be out by a millimeter or two so don't worry re. the conceiving before you ov'd thing....

Up to you re. telling people. Personally I would wait till 12 weeks, but would prob make little difference now if you did want to tell people.

Fab news pippa! I keep thinking I'll start telling people once I've had my dating scan...but will see how I feel when I get there.

Good luck spilt

Great news pippa so for you!! I remember I used to get my ruler out at my desk at work and marvel at the size of it!! Enjoy today, its such a special one.

RE telling people, do it when it feels right, no need to wait to 12 weeks - I think the milestone is seeing healthy baby and HB.

pippa that's fab news!! Glad it went well. If you feel happy now you have seen the bean tell people. Or if not just wait a few days.

I'm so uncomfortabe!!! TMI but I need a poo!! Needed to go since Thursday

I know what you mean Iwish!! I was exactly the same last week Lots of bran flakes and fruit over the weekend seems to have sorted me out! (for the time being at least!)

Iwish.. nuts! Nuts work for me... apple juice works like lactulose... try that also :)

Great news pips :) tell them when you are ready. I am an advocate of waiting having had to untell my entire friend network last year... x

I'm back now and have good news also

Baby is as it should be as far as they can tell for now, it has a bladder and stomach and the right number of limbs and most importantly a heartbeat.

Head circumference 132mm, femur length 21mm which is all consistent with a shade over 16 weeks.

I've got my 20 week scan on 4th April with the Fetal Medicine Consultant where they will be having a good look especially at eyes and brain incase my infection has caused any damage to those. Then growth scans at 28 and 34 weeks, so I am lucky to be getting lots of pictures

Just scoffing a cheese sarnie now before I head into work for all of, ooh 2-2.5 hours!

Congratulations pippa!

YEY spilt... fab news my love xxx