March 2011 - The final countdown!!

[1Catherine1]

I hope you all find this thread easily enough. This is the latest list we had on the thread. Keep it updated people - looking forward to seeing due dates turn into birthdays! :)

24/02 Sam26Oscar DC2
25/02 Spilttheteagain pg#1, baby Bobbie, a girl, born sleeping on 09/10/2010 at 20 weeks, RIP xxx
27/02 Muser pg#1
27/02 Mendipgirl pg#2 (DD1)
27/02 StrangewaysHereICome pg#3 (DD 5yrs DD 4yrs) Worcester SURPRISE
28/02 BramblyHedge pg#3, (DS1 4, DS2 2)
01/03 BunderTheBonnet pg#2 (DD3) Kent.
01/03 Snapdragon3 pg#9 (MMC, DD 3, DS 2, 5 MC)
01/03 MummyGeorgie pg#1
01.03 rfata Expecting TWINS!!
02/03 AfterIVF pg#1
03/03 Celia76 pg#3 (DS1 5 & DS2 almost 3)
03/03 cherub59 pg#3 (DS 3 & DD 20months) expecting a boy
03/03 TooImmature2BMum pg#1, BABY GIRL
04/03 Larty74 BABY BOY
04/03 Bluebeach pg#1
04/03 Jeffily pg#3,(DD1 angel baby, DD2 15months)
04/03 Carriebadshaw pg#2
04/03 Superpenguin pg#1
05/03 Hattie05 pg5 (DD1 7, DD2 3, no. 3 mc, DD3 7mths) Baby boy on the way
05/03 NowPanicAndFreakOut pg#1
05/03 Bollandbear (ds1)
07/03 Toota pg#?
07/03 Mixedmama pg#3 (DS1 4.5 and DS2 2.5) London. BOY
07/03 Lauzifer pg#1 expecting a girl
08/03 Clucky31 pg#1
08/03 Polkadottytotty pg#3 (DS1 5.5 and DS2 3.5)
09/03 Sittinghippo pg#2 (DD3) BABY on the way
09/03 Penguindreams #1 & 2!
09/03 Pushmepullyou pg#4 3MC, DD20 mo BABY BOY
09/03 gem3225 pg#1
09/03 DramaMama pg#3 (BABY GIRL) DS now 4 + 1 angel baby.
10/03 EvianBaby pg#2 (DS1 Oct 08)
10/03 Coraltoes pg#1
10/03 Sevenbubbles pg#2 (DD1 23.5 months)
10/03 Mama2LeahandAisha pg#3 (DD2, DD1)
10/03 LovelyKatie pg#1
10/03 spaceal expecting first- baby girl
11/03 Rayeraye pg#4 (DD aged 3, two angels)
11/03 am988 pg#1
11/03 Sarahscot pg#2 (DS aged 3) BABY GIRL
11/03 chny1 pg#1 expecting a boy
12/03 Medee pg#1
13/03 Gemmasetters pg#2 (DD 2.5)
13/03 Doubleshotlatte pg#2 (DD 2.5)
13/03 HeadingHome
13/03 katster37 pg#2 (DS 10mo)
13/03 MJM86 pg#1
14/03 ZafNoodles
16/03 Honeymoonmummy (was Campervanfan) pg#2 (DD born Nov 08)
16/03 Sharu Expecting a baby girl
17/03 KateandEmsMum pg#5 (DD 3, DD 10 Months)
17/03 MrsMullen pg#1
17/03 looblee pg#1
17/03 edeluna pg#1 It's a girl!
17/03 Niknan pg#3 (DS3,1MC)
17/03 Coco29 pg#1 (1MC) Its a BOY!
18/03 EvaLongoria pg#2 (DD 3 on Thursday)
18/03 Oceanbreeze pg#1
18/03 JeelyPiece pg#3(2MC)
18/03 Jenchandler Expecting baby #1
18/03 Purplefan pg#2 (DD 4.5) Baby girl on way
18/03 Rockchick1984 pg1 baby boy
19/03 castlegirl pg#1
19/03 angelbabe1982 pg2 (ds 2.9)
20/03 Kagey pg#2 (DD Sept 08) SURPRISE!
20/03 Haloflo pg#1 surprise
20/03 nancydrewrocked
20/03 1Catherine1 pg#1 expecting a baby girl
21/03 Jupiter118 Pg#2 (DS 3.5)
22/03 NoSleepTonight pg#3 (DS1 5.8, DS2 15months)
22/03 jammiedodger2 pg#3 (DD9 DS6)
22/03 Niamh29, DD1 4, DD2 1.5, DD3 on the way
23/03 Me23 pg#2(DD 5)Baby boy on the way!
23/03 Lozario pg#2 (DS 15 mo)
23/03 Katystar pg#2 (DS 4)
23/03 Lia66 PG#10, (dd 15, ds 13, ds 7, dd 5, dd 3 (4 angels)) BABY GIRL
23/03 sac55
24/03 Snotdroolanddirtybums pg#4 (5, 3 and 2)
25/03 Darnsarfupnorf pg#1 (DD on the way)
27/03 KPidgeon pg#1 (changed by 1 day)
27/03 FuzzyWuzzwuzz pg#1
28/03 Chickiewoo pg#2 (DS 4)
29/03 Emma31177 pg#7 (Ds 14, DD 19 months +4 baby angles) Baby BOY on his way
29/03 PipPipPip pg#1
30/03 pettyprudence pg#1
30/03 JoJoB77 pg#1

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jammie Hi, how are you feeling? I second what both Muser and Strangeways have said, I think they have both given sound advice. An appointment with your GP could be a good starting point. Also, having a baby, whether it's your first, second, third, whatever, is life changing. No one can blame you for being anxious/having these feelings. A change to your family dynamic can cause anyone to worry.

You look after yourself and keep posting on here if that's what you'd like to do. There are always people around to read/listen and reply.

take care x

Cross posts with you kpidgeon - also good advice!

Oooh, congratulations Irish! I am so - you were due the same day as me! Heaps of girls on this thread - isn't it weird?

Jammie, I don't have anything much to say - no expert on these things, but I just wanted to let you know that we're all here for you if you need to talk things out. I hope you can work through your feelings with a bit of support.

Jammie, thank you for actually sharing your experiences with us and I'm sorry that it's been a bit awkward for you to share with your MW due to professional relations. I had a few days of crying fits over the past month with a variety of thoughts weighing on my mind, and was worried for the baby, and also worried about going through this again after his arrival. So today I actually spoke to someone whom my consultant recommended, and we decided that if I have PND after the baby's arrival, we've already established contact and I should shoot right over to him. He also advised joining NCT or other mum support groups for a more informal way of communicating with others (I told him that MN has been my lifesaver!!!) I'm fine now, but have no way of predicting what my hormones will bring after next week!

I do hope that you're able to find the support you need and to not feel guilty about ANY of your emotions! Many hugs!!!

On a more positive note, went for my final antenatal visit today and requested a 2nd tour of the delivery ward/rooms, and feel very ready to meet our little boy!

jammie pre-natal depression is very real and hard to deal with, you'll know as a health visitor it's less well-known than post-natal depression. However many kids you already have, the change in lifestyle is epic, in fact I'm almost more scared than I am excited about this one as I know from DS1 what a total bomb going off in your life it is! I have definitely had thoughts of "why are we doing this again" over the last few months, life is so easy now with one toddler, he has his routine which we're both comfortable with and now we're bringing in this new little thing who will disrupt it. I just keep telling myself it will be worth it in the end - everyone seems to have similar thoughts and I don't know anyone who then went on to genuinely regret having their baby.

Also I had counselling after the birth of DS1 because my dad was dying during the pregnancy and actually died when I was 39 weeks pregnant, so it was a total head-f*ck. The counselling REALLY helped because I could say whatever I wanted without repercussions. I'm not really a touchy-feely lets-talk-about-it type of person so if it helped me, it could help anyone.

Jammie, I don't really have any constructive advice to give you that others haven't already but am thinking of you and hope you get some help as soon as possible. At very least talk to your DH. The last week (since going back to work on Monday) I've felt terrible and if it wasn't for my OH I would be losing the plot right now. As a health visitor you probably know more than anyone what you need to do. We're always here though so make sure you post anything you feel you need to get off your chest rather than bottling anything up.

Jammie sorry to hear you are feeling crap. Good advice from Muser and Strangeways.
Don't beat yourself up about it and get help if you can, I think it is more common that you think to have feelings like that.

Congratulations Irish queen that was amazingly speedy! looking forward to hearing all about it.

I've had brown discharge today, bleugh. I was a bit worried this morning incase it was my water with Meconium in so rang the Midwife unit. They just said it was most likely the start of a bloody show and to just keep an eye on fetal movements. I had a midwife appointment in the afternoon where the heart beat was fine...so trying not to worry now. She didn't think anything was going to happen imminently so just continuing to plod along.

Liking all your crazy pineapple munching!

Just quick becuase I couldn't read your post jammie and not add my support to the others. I have nothing to add to the great advice you have already had, I just wanted to say that writing about it here is a brave first step and that I hope that you can access the support you need out there in RL. We are of course all here for you to.

And congrats to Irishqueen. Can't believe we all have girls so far!

Off to bed- 9.30 is pretty late for me these days!

Jammie thinking of you.

Irish Congrats on your new little girl.

Sittinghippo it's probably good to check with your midwife what the practicalities are at your hospital. Mine is 4 hours established, but other hospitals are happy to let you go more than that. I think 4 hours is awfully short and I am beginning to feel less positive about actually having a vbac. However safety of baby (and me) comes first, rather than the experience.

Kx

Irish - congratulations!

Oh Jammie i'm so sorry for you reading your post. I totally agree with Lozario, and i'm sure you're aware in your head too that thoughts of yours are very common in the lead up to giving birth. Panic sets in for me and i look at my 'perfect' (its not by the way) family and wonder why we are about to shake it up so madly. Then theres the guilt to the other siblings and general beating myself up about everything. But once you have the babe in your arms i'm sure those feelings will disappear (sorry that doesn't sound right now).

As you know talking is the best thing you can do. After dd3 i really struggled - reckon i was close to pnd. I found myself fessing up to any stranger who wanted to listen how hard i found the baby and i'm sure this helped me! Tried talking to my health visitor and she said "you don't look the sort to get pnd!" SO i didn't go the professional route either, but found friends/family and most importantly dp pulled me through.

Keep talking, try and treat yourself and do all the things that help you relax. Sod housework and mundane tasks seriously, this is the time to really look after yourself - as much as poss with 2 others to look after anyway!

A bleary eyed good morning to everyone. Had crampy pains all last night which are now coming every 15 mins. We are just debating whether DP should go to work this morning and have decided yes, but he is to keep his mobile on him. Just aware that this could tail off to nothing or just continue like this for days so don't want DP to waste any paternity leave.

I know this could just be a false alarm so not getting too excited. I'll probably still be here in 2 weeks!!

I'll keep you updated though!! xx

here's hoping blue! Let us know how it goes!

Jammie the others have given you such great advice already there isn't much i can add other than please talk to someone. Be it a helpline, an acquaintance, your GP...it is important to talk it through with somebody. The more we bottle up fears and anxieties the more they mutate into something we feel we can't control. As soon as we share them they suddenly become something we can picture better, break down into components and tackle with help.

blue ooooh i've got my fingers crossed!!

Jammie you are very brave just to come on here and reveal your feelings. well done. My thoughts are with you. Always remember, you've got "us" here anytime of the day!

Irish: congrats, hope you and maeve are well

Jammie: thanks for sharing with us, writing down all your feelings can help if you don't feel like you can talk about it so write away!

Bluebeach: fingers crossed for you, between the discharge and the regular pains this could be it so hope all goes well for you.

Jamie would just like to echo what the others have said, please make sure you talk to someone. I had anetenatal depression in my 1st pregnancy (my mum died) and I found looking after dd very difficult have had a wobble in this pregnancy wondering if I'll be able to do it again but as I have a 'history' as such the mws referred me to the perinatal mental health consultant by the time of the appt i was feeling a lot better but it's the lack of sleep that will get me down so he has written up a prescription for an SSRI should I need it after the baby is born. Obviously as a HCP yourself you know what help is out there so please don't suffer in silence.

Jammie - just adding my support, particularly as someone who really suffered in silence for a whole year after DS1 was born please get some help from anyone who you think might listen. In the menatime

Blue - fingers crossed.

DH is off tomorrow so feel relaxed about just getting through todays school run/swimming lessons. Seem to have mountains of washing AGAIN... it just doesnt stop. My mum is having the boys tomorrow evening as well as we are going out for dinner with friends so will be able to have a nice lie in on Saturday then we have a birthday party to go to which I am hoping mum might tag along too... it is only up the road but am really finding the days on my own with all the running about quite difficult now.

Another pineapple bites the dust, and still nothing happening!!MW is coming over tomorrow to book my induction (2 weeks in advance?!), I'll ask her about the oral sex thing but sounds like a likely story that a man most likely started to me, can't see how prostaglandins could reach your cervix from there!!

Irishqueen - congratulations, and WOW, what a short labour! I wouldn't even have time to make it to hospital in that time Maeve is a gorgeous name and recently made it to the top of our girl list too :)

Blue - sounds promising, fingers and toes crossed for you!

Jammie - like all the others that are posted on here, I think you really should talk to someone, my first instinct when I read your post was that you should contact your GP and they should be able to talk things through with you and point you in the right direction. Please don't feel selfish, as you can see from what everyone has written here its perfectly alright to have feelings of anxiety and 'what the hell am I doing', but you really have to talk it through or it will keep eating away at you. I bottled feelings up for a while and had a big outburst at DP one evening that I didn't want this baby, it was going to change everything between us and I was scared that I wouldn't love it etc, thought he would be furious with me for thinking such things when in fact he was glad I said them out loud. Your hormones are all over the place, and there is help out there for those with pre and post natal depression. Good luck xx

Hello, come to check in - am down as gemmasetters but have name changed.

Anyone else sodding starving? Its my 2nd week now of wanting to eat constantly! Am now fed up of being preg. Come on baby!!!

Pains have died down now, though I lost my mucus plug.....(very gross) down the loo which seemed to correspond with the pains easing off. Going to go for a walk now and maybe buy a pineapple.

gemma I am so hungry right now too. Think I might treat myself to something from the bakers just incase this is my last pregnant day!!

Highland for your perusal!!

39+1 today. Bored of this now....

gemma and bluebeach me too, normal breakfast, followed by a peanut butter sandwich an hour later, now thinking about whats for lunch.

Thanks Lozario and Jupiter for feedback about VE's!! I will try and remember the blancmange face...

Kagey I think I remember the consultant saying established labour would definitely not be as much as 12 hours, but I think they will just see how I progress as to whether or not they intervene.

Ah I guess time will tell...

Hello Jammie just realised I crossed-posted with you yesterday. I don't have much to add to the others who have already given good words of advice but hope you find someone to talk to and you will be ok in time.

bluebeach sounds like it won't be long for you now even if temporarily trailed off!

I too started on the pineapple last night, after all this pineapple talk I just really fancied some! Also even managed to have sex too (it has been several weeks) although neither of us have been in the mood much lately for that to be honest.

I do remember having this very funny conversation in my NCT course about natural ways to encourage labour to start, and yes you do need to actually have sex as the sperm does need to reach your cervix - someone then felt the need to clarify though - you do EAT the pineapple! lol

Jammie nothing new to add as some good advice been given, but sending virtual hugs... make sure you get the help you need.

This thread is not too far off being full - we may have to start another one for us to share our niggles and births before hopping over to the "We've made it" thread... would volunteer, but don't want to cock it up!!

Decided to take today off work to sleep as I've been zombie-like all week in work, probably taking the piss as I've one more day of work till I'm on maternity leave but I don't care, tiredness is like a sickness to me at the moment.

I ate a full pineapple in a day when I was overdue with DD1 and all I got was false labour for 2 hours, after that I'm pretty much a "baby will come when it's ready girl"