August 2011....calling the newly diffed.

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Got my BFP this morning after 4 cycles of TTC and EDD is 1st August. This will be my 2nd (DD will be 3.11 when this one is due and is a very late August baby herself).I am am 40 yrs old.

Very shocked, but very happy.

Anyone else want to join me for the ride!

Annie is it your booking appointment? DP came with me to mine today, it was basically filling forms out etc but they are going to help him with the final step to stop smoking so he's happy :)

mrs v i wouldn't feel too guilty, as you said you go to the gym alot and you could go back on slimming world after you have the baby, and one portion of cheese on toast is not the end of the world anyway (if you used healthy extras it will be actually free on slimming world wouldnt it, so can not be too bad!)
as you have lost weight before atleast you know you could do it again
i am the same i just lost some on slimming world before getting pregnant, and i was intending try and keep following it but at the moment am not really cos have to keep snacking here and there for the nausea and i always crave potato waffles and some junk food, so i will go back to it afterwards and just hope i dont put on tooo much meanwhile

MrsVidic I'm 11 weeks tomorrow and also a slimming worlder and I have no intention of stopping now I'm pregnant!! I have spoken to my SW consultant and she says its fine aslong as I get a form signed from the midwife... and my midwife says its fine. I dont want to get out of the eating habbit and feel like I'm starting all over again and I go with my mum and friend so want to carry on going to support them as it maybe easier for them to give up if I stop. So speak to your consultant and your midwife as it should be fine... and bloody well done on your weight loss!! xx

mrsstevo OMG congratulations!! Double trouble...are you expecting identical or did you ov twice?

cadmum good luck with the scan xxxx

I have felt as sick as a dog for the last 3 days. How come its only kicked in at 10 weeks?!?!

ladyg fab you have booked the jolly, best of luck for weds x

I've read that about the sickness Nickster as I have only been feeling sick, and not being sick, I looked it up, and sometimes it comes late arrrrrgh!! I hope not here! 9 weeks today, so fingers crossed. Only feeling sick now in the evening for a couple of hours or so. My mum had it for the whole 9 months with my brother, so at least I'm not having that!!

KL i have vommed a total of 6 times during 3 first trimesters but had nausea. Weetabix was keeping it at bay, but i cant eat that now.... dont want to eat anything really...just dont fancy anything. Umm hope thats not a bad sign.

Evening Ladies! Congrats MrsStevo, I bet that was a shock for you I have FINALLY got my letter confirming my scan date as the 24th of Jan, which feel ages away!!! I'm feeling pretty good at the moment, can't seem to shovel enough food down and I'm now getting a bit of a podge! I am bursting to tell folk at work my news, and sometimes I actually have to stop myself mid-sentence from blurting it out! I'm getting my flu jab in the morning, which I'm slightly nervous about, eventhough I never have any issues with needles. Could someone pleqse change my EDD on the list to the 5th of Aug (I forgot to change it after my apt with the MW). Thanks Hope you are all well! x

Wow, huge congratulations MrsStevo! What a lovely, lovely surprise for you when you were expecting the worst.

So I saw a mummy friend today with one little girl. I decided to tell her about our impending bump. She was shocked and said "wow I didn't expect that!" THEN she said "Imagine if its ANOTHER boy!!!!!......I am just so pleased i've got my girl" I felt really upset but kept it to my self just saying "another boy would be just fine"

Anyone else got two of one gender and already had the "what if its another boy/girl....?" Does it upset you? How do you handle it? I feel really upset on behalf of my 2 gorgeous little boys and wonder why people get so opinionated about other peoples families????

Or am I just being overly emotional??

Hi smummys, I'm not sure what kind of appointment it is - they were pretty unhelpful when I phoned them! I just wondered whether other halves generally go to all the appointments or just the scans? I'll be 10+1 which seems late for a booking appt but maybe not?

It pisses me off tractor when people say that. Everyone i know who has had a boy first has had a second boy and they absolutely love them! I think its this thing that ladies want a girl to dress up in pretty things

My friend said to me the other day...@ooh what if its a girl, (knowing i have a boy and she has a girl)...tbh i dont really care...a safe healthy baby this time would be great!! I would love two boys...equally i would love a girl! I think i would prefer another boy...wouldnt know what to do with a girl

wheresmytractor and nickstermum I have two girls and get told: ''ooh, I bet you'd like a boy'' all the time. That and ''was it palnned?'' well, yes, and no, I really don't mind. I quite like pink!
I find it amusing how people think they have the right to say things like that and when your bump starts to show they think its now public property & touches your stomach without asking!

I know nickstermum its so annoying and quite disrespectful i think. People get too hung up on the gender as if that defines the children you have. I have 2 sons who are very different and if number 3 is another boy it he will be his own character in his own right. I had quite a few comments about having ANOTHER boy with DS2.... pisses me off to be honest

I actually think that having a 3rd boy will make for a great family set up, and as an only child myself I will be so pleased that they are close in age and the same gender so that hopefully they will all get on. Plus I will be the queen of the household!!

Thank you all so much for your lovely messages!! Being the hugely over-emotional wreck that I currently am, I blubbed whilst reading them!!

DH and I have spent the evening trying to carry on as normal but with regular intervals of saying "Twins. TWINS!! TWO babies!!". We've also been looking at double buggies, the costs of buying two cots / moses baskets / everything else and have slightly freaked out. Still overwhelmed but just SO happy.

nickstermum - they are identical apparently!! We have another scan booked on 31st Jan to confirm this and to confirm whether they are sharing the same yolk sac as she couldn't quite tell today.

Littlebeaut - no we weren't expecting it AT. ALL. I was full on expecting to be told I'd had a MMC and had even wrapped up stuff at work in anticipation of being on sick leave from this afternoon. To go from being convinced I'm having no baby to finding out I'm having TWO was possibly the most amazing experience of my life.

neverlookback & CappuccinoCarrie - scared and terrified are definitely two of the emotions vieing for top position in my mind at the moment, but pure joy is staying in prime position for now. Although having just made DH watch last night's OBEM, terrified is creeping up. I have to do that TWICE. Eeek.

Just wondered if anyone else has started / plans to start a pregnancy journal? I would love to (although no idea where I'll find the time) and wondered if anyone can recommend one? Have looked on amazon and there are loads and not sure which is best

Told all my family the news today! Much blubbing and excitment on the phone - esp my sister who just roared for a full minute! It was almost as wonderful as seeing the heartbeats!

Wow. Sorry. Long post. Rambling on. I'm just SO EXCITED!

Wow, congratulations Mrs Stevo, so pleased you have happy news after expecting the worst.

Annie 10 weeks is quite normal for the booking appt, not too late at all. Mine is this Saturday when I will be 10+3, and my previous ones have been around 9-10 weeks.

wheresmytractor What an awful comment from your friend, I hope she has a boy next so she can see how deluded she is. As a mum of two boys as well, I find that other mums who have boys already know how fantastic little boys are and don't make such rude comments, however a handful of the mums(not all by all means) who just have a single girl seem to think that boys are a different species or something! They seem to forget their DH's were once lovely little boys too.....and that not all little girls are little 'princesses', particularly when they hit the terrible twos! Rant over!

littlemissw good to know it happens both ways though!

Annie my booking in will be at 10 weeks, which isn't til friday next week. The way it works here the community midwife sends your notes to the hospital, and once you're in the system they write to you inviting you to phone and book a scan, so I'll be at least 13 weeks if not more before we meet our babyccino, but other places are much more organised, or the midwives can book the scans, so I'm sure you'll be fine!
Why do I always have babies due at the end of a month so I'm always the last one to hit the milestones?!!

mrssteveo I can feel your excitement through all your posts!

nickstermum I'm afraid its not better if you've got one of each as I have, people ask me which I'd prefer as though I've got a favourite out of DS and DD that I'd like to repeat somehow?! Nowt as queer as folk.

MrsStevo I could not be any happier for you girl!! And I cant believe you were expecting the worst haha having said that how lucky are you to have not had bad sickness?? I remember when I was having my first and sickness was so bad they sent me for two extra scans to check that I wasnt having twins.

wheresmytractor I hate that!! Although folk seem to be saying to me "I think its a girl this time" because I have two boys... and I couldnt have been happier to have two boys at the time. Now dont get me wrong I think if I did have a choice a little girl this time would be lovely (I have visions of my boys being like phil and grant mitchel haha) but if its another boys, then he wont be loved any less. I have a friend that speaks before she thinks about what she's saying, you should have heard what she said to me the other week . I would just ignore her... and maybe just keep her at a distance for a while so she cant upset you x

wheresmytractor that's so horrible!
i have two boys too and much happier to have them the same than one of each because they are close in age too so its really nice for them to play together and they seem to be very attached to each other, although i suppose one of each can be too but its quite special for them to have a brother i think.
i actually would like a girl for the 3rd but obviously you cant mind that much because you cant chose so have to be happy either way. and if you get 3 boys you will probably end up thinking that is the best thing for your family.
your friends comment just seems like it was so rude to your 2 other boys tho, but just ignore her. very ignorant of her!!

Annie my hubby came along to the booking in appointment. Other than filling in my name and address and D.o.B. 100000 times and deciding to continue my antenatal appointments locally (thus also choosing the birthing hospital) blood test and urine sample nothing much to report on. So if time off for hubby isn't easy, i'd say missing the booking appt wouldn't be too big a deal. I know my mw wants to see me every 4 weeks and I only plan on carting hubby along for the scan ones from now.

Mrs Stevo congratulations from me too. is it worth considering second hand stuff to keep costs down especially on things like moses baskets (maybe get new mattresses) or let them co-sleep with each other-especially if they are identical)

wheresmytractor ooooh that would set my blood boiling. I am so anti genderisation of babies, that I will be avoiding pink for girl, blue for boy stuff... good on your for biting your tongue and not bursting in to tears!

Back from scan, have moved my dates forward to 24th July, so now 12+3. So I'm even more fraudulent now but will still hang around both if that's ok. We had the nuchal test done combined with bloods and all was great - small amount of fluid, nasal bone present etc. Risk has dropped to 1 in 6300, same as a 15 year old so couldn't have gone better. And was sooo lovely seeing the baby jumping around and putting its fingers over its eyes as if trying to hide from us! Got a DVD too so will be watching that later.

Ignore all the people opining about gender - is quite rude but think people are just looking for something conversational to say. I don't care what I have - I love my little boy and would love another but a little girl would be lovely too. DP is one of three boys and they are all really close even now they are in their 30's which is lovely.

Lady I'm so relieved for you, I've been thinking about you this morning. Fabulous

Thanks Spilt - feel so relieved. Couldn't sleep last night at all. Have you got a date for yours yet?

Wow, fantastic fantastic news Mrs Stevo, I'm so happy and excited for you :o You'd best start thinking of names too, especially if identical, the first time round, DH and I had enough trouble thinking of one name, never mind two :o

Wheresmytractor - that would seriously piss me off too, I have one DS and I am steeling myself for the 'oh, you'll want a girl now then' comments :( I would be quite happy with either, it would of course be nice to have one of each, but practically speaking, it would be sooo much easier to have a boy, I know what they're about now! Also I have a less than easy relationship with my mum so the thought of a mother/daughter relationship doesn't exactly fill me with happy feelings. I do find it irritating that if you have a boy, there is an assumption that you'll also want a girl, whereas if you have a girl, there isn't that assumption that you'd want a boy next. While we're on this subject, my SIL has given birth to a DD this morning (after 1 DS), so I have a new niece, exciting times :o

Ooo, x-posts, great news, LadyGG, very relieved for you :o Please stick around as well, we don't mind that you're fraudulent :o