Jue in June part 3

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We have now reached 2000 posts so need to start another thread.

Mrsbigw I take it you didn't stand on the glass floor section then .

petitech I'm having a nuchal scan. Wasn't sure when asked so my mw said 'if you had a baby born with downs syndrome would you terminate' -I couldn't answer, so she recommended that I have it.

I'm not having it petitech.

Definatley not Clarkiee even though I've always had a drink (or 2 ) when I've been in there I can't go near anything that looks too precarious. I am such a baby when it somes to heights.

nurse that is truly atrocious behaviour from your DP and whatever his reason (if he even has one) he should be totally ashamed of himself. I really hope your mum was able to help you. Lots of (useless but heartfelt) hugs. What's the placement?

I am slightly at the comments about people's uteruses and twins. I did not know this. My stomach is hard and sticks out right up to the belly button and I am only 8 weeks and am now poking and massaging it in the hope of finding something resembling a uterus lower down .... aaaaaaaaargh!!!!

I am having the nuchal scan, for no other reason than they offered it. I just thought I'd take all the scans they could give me. Not sure if that's the best policy.

Feeling continuously nauseous now, though have only been sick once since pregnant (two days ago). at the non-alcoholic cocktails :)

Ooooh when is your scan TTLady, am considering running a book on which person on this thread will have the twins because statistically someone has to

It's on the 25th mrsbigw.

Have now decided it's not twins as I can't really feel my uterus, not that I know what it feels like

Takethatlady's right nurses, that's an appalling way for your dp to behave, even if he is having a hard time adjusting to the fact that he's going to become a father. I feel very angry on your behalf. Where abouts do you live? Maybe one of us is close by.

My ms is worse than it had been for a while today and I'm feeling really down about the constant bleeding and tiredness. I'm not even sure how it's possible to bleed so much for so long but still be pregnant! Just glad The baby's ok, or at least was at my last scan last Monday. Sorry for the moan!

Sorry to hear you're having a bad time NurseSunshine . When I have had bad times with partners in the past I only got through some very bad days with planning tiny treats in for the forthcoming hours and taking each hour as it comes, eg planning to watch a film on TV at 6pm, buying in favourite choc for 8pm, getting a new magazine to read at bedtime, and I forced myself to learn to crochet(!) because I could only concentrate on one thing at a time which was the crochet as it was difficult, and it gave me a mental break from feeling so sad, at least for an hour or two. Hope things get better for you x

I will be having all the tests offered Petitech, including the nuchal. I like to know as much as possible and hate surprises either good or bad ....

I'm going to learn to crochet Balletpink :) I want to make a blanket for the baby. Although I doubt I'll be proficient enough in the skill to have done so by the time it's born!

Lol at everyone thinking about twins! I hope your MW is wrong sasamaxx, otherwise it sounds like we're all going to have twins!

Petitech, I'm the same as balletpink and would like to at least prepare myself so will be having all tests offered.

Mummyn2 :( sorry you're feeling bad. I can't imagine how worried you must be, did the MW give any suggestion as to why you might be bleeding? I suppose the only thing to remember is that there are those women who continue to have regular periods right up to birth and have perfectly healthy babies. Our bodies are strange machines, I guess you just have to trust that yours knows what it's doing :)

Both parents came and were lovely and supportive. My mother was in an abusive relationship (with my bio father) and said, at the end of the day, it's better to be single and recieve no support from father than to be with him and cry constantly, question your own mental health and be emotionally drained from the arguing etc.

I'm off to moan to a friend now (lucky girl!) so will give you guys a break. Thanks for all the kind thoughts. xx

nurse I'm so sorry to hear of your awful situation. I hope mum can spend some tine with you. Sending you lots of love :(

petitech I'm having the nuchal on 24th, simply because it was offered so thought I may aswell.

Sorry you're having a hard time of it nurseS

My nan passed away this morning and my dp was out last night staying at his parents, helping out at their business. I text him at half 8 this morning to say she had been rushed into hospital and he text me back so was fully aware it was pretty serious. She passed away a little while later and he didn't so much as ring and then didn't come home until nearly 2pm full of moans about how busy it'd been for about 5 minutes before he even noticed I hadn't said a word, so you can imagine how impressed I was.

Men. Oficially useless.

I'm so sorry for your loss Banana :( I really hope you've got someone to talk to (other family members? They will be the best to be with at this time) and you can try to look after yourself. Thinking of you xxx

Bananarama I am so sorry to hear about your nan, I hope she passed as peacefully as possible. Hope you are around others who can give you some comfort seeing as your DP must have left his sense of compassion at work today. Fingers crossed he sees the error of his ways & gives you some support.

You seem a lot more positive now NurseSun, glad you have such kind & understanding parents as we all need someone to lean on :)

Mummyno2 I am fed up just with the sicknes & tiredness so I don't know how you are managing with the bleeding too, fingers crossed it stops soon so that you can relax.

banana - sorry about your nan :( I hope your dp pays you lots of attention and is being more considerate about your feelings.

petitech - yes I am having a nuchal (like to know as much as possible). Not sure what we'll do if it's not clear . .. a conversation I'm not thinking about until I have too!

Nurse - glad you got some support today and talking to your friend will help as well.

MN2 - sorry you're still bleeding. But hopefully as the scan was fine on Monday all is fine now, although the worry must be constantly there at the back of your mind (or the front!).

Balletpink - I love the fact you taught yourself crochet

Ah Banana and MN2 sorry about your bad days, and sorry there's nothing I can do to help beyond post on here. xx

No nuchal scan for me as it's not offered here. Just the dating scan and anomoly(sp?) scan at 20(ish) weeks and a blood test for downs. Having both scans but don't know about the blood test as didn't go for the nuchal with DS.

My Mum taught me to crochet when I was a kid. Though I haven't done it in years I recall quite enjoying it. I'm a cross stitch girl these days and am starting to think I want to do something for jellybean. Anyone else been watching Kirstie's Home Made Home?

Not looking forward to tomorrow as can't spend the day on my back so will end up with the inevitable vomitness

nursesunshine - what an absolute idiot - I hope he comes to his senses soon

petitech - not having a nuchal or the blood test as I wouldn't do anything about it anyway, and would rather not be told yes or no for it to be wrong when the baby is actually born if that makes any sense.

banana sorry about your Nan

I braved John Lewis and Hamley's today - felt like total crap the whole time and kids were a nightmare. Bought one thing - a dolly buggy for DD - waste of a 30 mile round trip, £5 in parking, petrol money and a perfectly good Sunday afternoon

Oh well - at least it's x factor results tonight...

Hi all, sorry to hear so many people have had rubbish days . Sorry about your nan banana, and your dp has stepped up to the plate and is looking after you now.

MN2 it must be scary still bleeding, sorry if you've posted this before but have you been given a reason for the bleeding? Thinking of you

Nurse your "d"p sounds like he's being a right %$**; so, so sorry . Your Mum is a very wise woman; I grew up in an abusive relationship, and the day he left was the day my Mum officially became a single Mum, but also the day our lives became easier and happier; a cloud lifted from over our home. If you need to you can do it on your own, and your child will probably grow up happier than in the middle of constant arguments and tears. I really do hope that he comes to his senses and returns to you a changed man, but you sound like a strong and intelligent woman, with lots of support around you; if that doesn't happen it's not the end of the world.

My ms miraculously lifted today after about midday, so I left sickly ds at home with dp and went out for Sunday lunch with a friend; it was bloody gorgeous, and I ate a whole huge meal, with vegetables and everything ! It was also lovely to get away for a couple of hours on my own, so I returned a new woman, although I have now resumed my usual position on the sofa sipping fizzy water. It's nice to have a break from feeling sick, although I'm sure I'll be panicking if it doesn't return tomorrow!

Aah, at last, the big computer!

So sorry banana about your nan. Men just get a bit 'focussed' and forget to engage their emotions sometimes, I hope your DP is looking after you.

nursesunshine - I think mum knows best, I'd listen to her advice. Sounds like she's being great.

supersunny you NEED the duckling flannel!!

O sasamaxx I so hate big shops. We went to M&S yesterday to order bunkbeds for the DDs - I was actually quite scared.

For anyone who wants a peek at the tiny bath into which I birthed our DS, then here are my birth in the bath photos. Nothing gory, although the pink flannel on my head is slightly alarming!

I'm not having the nuchal fold scan for a couple of reasons. Any child is welcome in our family for as long as they want to stay, and if the test showed an increased risk, there is no way I would have an amniocentisis. That said, we are beginning the countdown to our dating scan - 6 days! I shall be intrigued because I have absolutely no idea how pregnant I am, only that I have been feeling sick for quite a few weeks now. Guessing I'm about 10/11 weeks. Hoping that the date which comes up is not near 11 June as my SIL is getting married....but it is bound to be. Hey ho. Because of this, and because I hate telling my parents I'm pregnant, we haven't told any family yet. I'll wait until my mum comes to visit w/c 29th Nov to say anything to her and she can break it to my dad, who didn't believe us when we told him we were expecting our 3rd.

DH cooking a roast for just the two of us tonight - it smells amazing! He is an all round good egg, who works very hard to keep on top of all the stuff I can't face doing at the moment. AND I LOVE HIM!!

O and here is some interesting stuff on having your waters broken MrsBigW

Motherofsnortpigs Wow! Great photos, you and your family all look so happy and relaxed with the whole experience. Just one question though, did the green froggy stay in the bath for the whole event?

I have a wedding to go to the last weekend in May and then the last weekend in June (my stepsister's); think I'm due around the 25th June, so am not confident I'm definitely going to make that one!

I forgot to say in my last post, I said yes to the bloodtest for Downs without thinking at my booking in appointment, but have since realised I shouldn't have, because I don't think I would then have a nuchal scan and amni and then ultimately I wouldn't terminate if there was a chance of Downs.

Really interesting read motherosp. I had my waters broken to induce labour with ds, and it all came on very quickly and painfully after that, and my son was distressed. Its something I do not want to go through this time!!!

motherofsnortpigs - beautiful pictures - particularly like the first feed ones - just lovely! (did I spot motherease bedwetter pants on one of your DDs?)