March 2011 - rolling on into the second trimester

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We filled the first thread, time for a new one. Anyone and everyone due in March 2011 are welcome.

Morning everyone! looking for ways to keep self busy this week until Sat(scan). Any ideas welcome!

last week off before school starts as well!

supposed to go swimming today with a friend and am half tempted to fess up as it will be so obvious. ugh.

Hi All,

Thanks so much for your words of support. They mean so much. I am off to the hospital for another scan (apparently 2 consultants need to record a death, there was only 1 there at the weekend) and from there I have to discuss my options.

I am not going to hang around, as I don't want to fill you all with tales of despair during your happy time!

I just wanted to say thank you, and to wish you all the best.

xxx

Ah sfb I think you are being so brave. I hope this morning goes ok. Have lots of cuddles from your children afterwards. I'm sure you have lots of support at home but if you need to 'chat' you know where we are. Thinking of you x x x

lots of love to you sfb

Evian - Sadly not much support tbh!!

My family all live in the US, my husbands family all live in Aus, and I have few friends locally - my best friend moved 300 miles away a couple of months ago. The only local friend I have suffered a stillbirth in June and she is still grieving herself, I don't wish to bother her.

DH however is being fabulous and my family, whilst distant, call often.

I am coping ok, to be honest. It sounds trite, but I just -knew- something was not right this time. I broke down friday night to DH saying I felt sure that this baby had some problem, some deformity, something, but I didn't discuss here as I didn't want to seem paranoid. DH went so far as to ban me from MN because he thought I was getting awful ideas in my head from reading of everyone else's problems.
When they scanned me and told me there was no heartbeat, I was oddly calm because I already KNEW. I almost felt relieved, validated, as I wasn't crazy after all.
I was on my own at the hosp as DH was looknig after the boys, I think he took it worse than I did.

I suppose we women are so in tune with our own bodies, and we should all learn to trust our true instincts. I think deep down we can separate 'normal' paranoia from real concern. It's normal to feel paranoid, especially on the run up to a scan or when we begin to lose symptoms, but I had already had 2 scans and am still experiencing symptoms yet I still felt convinced that something was not happening as it should.

As sad as it is, this miscarriage happened for a reason. I trust my body that if it felt that for whatever reason, this baby was not viable, or my body was not capable, then it did what it had to do. I know that sounds so terribly harsh, but what else can I do? No point analysing, blaming myself, I will get caught up in circles and questions that have no answers.

Anyway. I have said too much in a happy thread.
Feel positive ladies, don't let me drag you down. Come April next year you will all be having sleepless nights and cleaning up vomit and you will be loving every minute of it, and with any luck I won't be far behind you.

xxx

sfb you are amazing! my family is in US as well and while I don't know quite what you are going through, I do know that feeling of having the distance between you at times. your attitude is spot on and you probably have inspired more people on here than you will ever know! take care.

SFB - just to say so sorry. I commend your pragmatic attitude.

AWW SFB I went through the same thing in may i new somthing was wrong everyone said it was just what ive been though in the past but i new we no these things i even booked a private scan to prove it,its made me stronger and even though the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks its still in my heart with my other angles and the cuddles i get from my dd are the best in the world wont ask for cuddles from my 14 year old he would just say yuck lol good luck what ever you choose if you can try and get a plant for the garden it really does help
and we are all here for a chat about anything you like anytime you need us stay strong xx

Flower and SFB I am so sorry to hear both of your sad news. :(

On a note about maternity wear, I can now verify that:

1. it doesn't have to cost much, and
2. it is soooo comfy!

Went shopping with my sister at the weekend and bought a pair of maternity jeans from New Look, which cost just £7!!! I couldn't believe it when I got to the till, I had already decided I was buying them after trying them on, although I couldn't see a price tag, but then to be only £7 was a extra bonus! and they are the most comfortable things ever. Look just like normal jeans but are stretchy and have adjustable elastic bits in the sides which means they fit now and will still fit when I have a huge bump. So pleased. Also got a couple of pairs of maternity leggings in new look and a big long shirt in H&M. Just need some work trousers now and I think that will do me. I have a couple of normal skirts that still fit and a couple of stretchy dresses, and bought a load of hold-ups in M&S as I can't stand tights any more!

May I join?

This will be our first baby: due 16th March.

Scan booked for this Thursday morning. I can hardly wait!

We had an early scan to confirm it wasn't ectopic, so this scan will (hopefully) show us a little more!

Thanks superpenguin, I was wondering where to start. New Look - here I come.

To start buying maternity clothes so early felt like I was just eating too much and not sucking in :( But now I don't feel bad!

Thanks :)

sfb I'm really sorry to hear your news and also think you are being really brave and you are of course absolutley right. Love and best wishes to you now though.

HeadingHome- I'm only just past 10 weeks but went to H&M and spent £100 yesterday- was feeling so fed up at not fitting into anything properly- plus the sickness that's ongoing- I needed a big "pick me up". Not as cheap as the bargain that SuperPenguin got at New Look but their maternity jeans are £29- got them and maternity black trousers for work & maternity leggins (£7 I think) plus some tops. I feel sooooooo much more comfortable today.

Can't believe what a tummy I have at 10 weeks. And I haven't put on any weight (well that'll be all the vomiting!) I don't think it can be gas as it's there all the time- just my uterus that's grown a bit I think.

Welcome HeadingHome!

Any tips on how not to feel sick would be gratefully received. Am so fed up of feeling ill and trying to work.

KP

sfb - good luck today, I agree with everyone else who has said you are brave. Best wishes for the future.

Welcome HeadingHome and congratulations.

KP sorry you're still feeling sick, hopefully it will ease off over the next few weeks. I am 13 wks today and still feeling a bit icky but its nowhere near as bad as it was. Regarding your tummy - maybe you are further on than you think?

Hello ladies

Well all going reasonabley well hear. Still a little nasueous etc but generally feeling ok.

My boss is being a twat again (dont normally use that word but he really deserves it). Have posted in pregnancy so wont bore you with details, but essentially about him considering I came late becuase I wouldnt lift the shutter. Anyway very long and boring.

Not much else to report really. Had a nice weekend.... went to see SALT - very good thriller and if you are a fan of the Bourne movies you will like. Had my cousins round yesterday which was great as one is starting her masters in Sept and the other going back to do her GCSEs and of course I am pursuing my degree albeit deferred so we always have a great time just gossiping about study and books - I realise we sound SAD in the extreme. ahahaha

I have bought Next mat trousers and they are a little big but so much more comfy.

Anyway... heres to hopefully some blooming this trimester. I actually started crying walking down the road when it really hit me that the first trimester is over.

KP so sorry you're still feeling sick. It will hopefully pass once you get to 12 weeks (having said that, mine did last time but is still lingering this time!). Have you tried: fruit pastilles (I know i've mentioned this before), ginger type drinks (I think M&S do one, it was recommended to me yesterday), chewing gum, sniffing lemon/fresh scents (looks a bit bizarre but often worked for me last time), sugary drinks? Not all of them particularly healthy but I take the attitude 'whatever get's you through it' at this stage! If I think of anymore I will let you know.

Hi everyone

Has everyone had a good weekend? I feel inspired to do some maternity clothes shopping now, superpenguin thanks for those tips! I went to Dorothy Perkins a lot last time too (there's not much choice in this sleepy hollow), but it wouln't be my first choice this time. I bought a maternity top from Topshop last week but they didn't have much choice.

We spent the weekend visiting family and spreading the baby news, it would have been hard to hide given my rapidly growing bump! I'm sure I wasn't this size last time!

Anyway, I wanted to say hello to everyone. Have a good Tuesday, take care x

sfb I'm so sorry you haven't got your family closer. Life really isn't fair often is it. I was crying for you when I read your last psot, I wish there was more I could do to help. A close friend of mine found out she was pregnant last year. She already had one child but somehow knew this pregnany felt different. When she went for her scan they told her the foetus hadn't developed. It must be true what you say about knowing your own body. Please don't feel like you are burdening anyone by 'talking' here, we are here to help. As I said earlier, you know where we are... Sending you lots of love again x x x

mixedmama crossed posts, that's rubbish to hear your boss is being a pain. Take comfort in the fact that you will be finishing work in a matter of months and he will have to pay you!

Also meant to say, welcome to Headinghome

I'm 12 weeks tomorrow - and now TOTALLY sold on the maternity clothes. (Although I do hate shopping).

I have suffered all the morning sickness and thought that had passed - until today I just feel a bit rubbish.

So tired all of the time.

Looking forward to the nice bits...

Oh, and I am being made redundant as of 1st January.

Not sure if this is good or bad!

(Thanks for the welcomes everyone)

ditto the comment on the comfort of maternity clothing! no wonder people wear them for long after having thier babies!

welcome headinghome

Thank ou EvianBaby and polkadottytotty for your sympathy!

EvianBaby- anything sugary sweet makes me feel sick so ginger ale & sweets are a total no at the moment.. unfortunately. I seem to only want savoury stuff. I usually like sweet things! I'm sure it's not as debilitating as some people have it but it's so disheartening to sit down really hungry for a meal and for it to all come back up again..

I should try to be stoical though- can't be for much longer, surely. And reading other people's sad news on here I should be feeling grateful I know.

Sorry HeadingHome that yours has come back today.. not long until the blooming phase for us I hope!

Hope all of you had good weekends otherwise- was sunnier than they said it was going to be here in London.

polkadottytotty I don't think I can be- I definitely fell pregnant sometime between the 28th June & the 8th July.. although I'm a normal 12/14 size usually I do have a really little waist (more like an 8/10) so I think it's just more noticable. But boy these maternity stretch trousers are sheer delight!

Flower and SFB - so so sorry.

Welcome HeadingHome

Had my scan on Sunday - all seems ok, nuchal measurement was low, but I have to wait over 2 weeks for the results of the blood test - and apparently they only bother to contact me if there is a problem. Which I am bizarrely bothered by. Also, the sonographer was amused by the fact that I apparently have a heart shaped womb - the things you find out . My due date has been put back too, grrrr, so I'll change the stats in a separate post.(polka sorry, but not due date buddies after all)

KP I've been using breadsticks, haribo jelly bears, and coconut biscuits to combat sickyness.

I've bought a few bits of mat wear, but also can't compete with Superpenguin's bargain finding At the moment I'm managing ok with leggings and long tops.

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