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This is a thread for anyone who has lost a child or been affected by the loss of a child no matter how big or small or how recent or long ago. We understand.

In memory of the light of my life, Lucia, and all of our little ones taken too soon. x

Evening all. Sorry i've not been around for a few days RL has been rather cruel to me. Thought i was getting a break but i was very wrong. Will be back when im a bit stronger.

Hope your all ok

Glad you found us Minione...so very sorry to hear about your precious little man.....I love his name.

You will get friendship, love and massive support here my friend.....wish we didn't have to meet here but very glad you have found us xxxxx

Shelley - are you OK darling? xxx

Morning girls xx

Morning all xx

Shelley , hope you manage a better day today . We are all here xx

Morning girls. I'm pretty sure I'm having a miscarrage cant get in to the doctors while dsis at preschool and cant really take him with m. No one knows apart from DH and my best friend.

Oh Shelley - I wondered what was wrong. I don't know what to say. Can you ask your parents or your friend to watch DS for you? You need to go to the GP's my friend xxxxx

Not without my parents wanting to know why as i was at doctors last week for something different. My parents have enough going on atm and my grandma is staying with them so they couldn't have ds anyway. She finds him too much and its not fair on my mum to look after them both. Will go when DH has a day off work. Will see if friend can but not sure as she may be at work.

I wish we lived closer to each other I would have him for you. Let us know how you go on - I am holding you close today - as always xxxx

Thats very sweet of you Shbs i appreciate the sentiment. I will do. It's even more cruel as i found out pg was a possibility on Matts birthday. i cant be right been gorging on choclate which i usually barely touch lol must be the hormones,

Thats very sweet of you Shabs i appreciate the sentiment. I will do. It's even more cruel as i found out pg was a possibility on Matts birthday. i cant be right been gorging on choclate which i usually barely touch lol must be the hormones,

Oh Shelley , I am so sorry xx I hope you can manage to get to the docs today xx

Morning everyone;

Shelley sorry you are having to go through this, hopefully you will be able to get to an EPAU clinic soon and get some answers

xx

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Shelley sorry to hear you are going through this, my thoughts are with you . Thank you everyone who spoke to me last night, I think I realise I have been trying to hard to 'cope' and 'get back to normal'. This isn't coming from anyone else, it's self inflicted. I've slept in til now, I let myself and my body needed to! We are going to a SANDS meeting tomorrow? Any opinions/thoughts/experiences?

Thoughts to Shelley this morning.

Minione - can you let me know what the SANDS meeting was like? Hospital gave us the contact details of our local group but we're not sure about it.

Thanks. I think my mum knows something is up. Just got a lift to and from town with my my parents, as mum dropped me off she said you know where I am if you need anything. Told her she had enough going on with grandma and i got told it didnt matter she's always there for me. I don't want to add to her worries, shes worried about me enough as it is since i;'ve been doctors and put on anti depressants.

Shelley - thats really nice of your mum . I'm sure if you explained the situation she'd be more worried about having not known and you going through it on your own, than helping out, if you see what I mean?

I dont know the exact circumstances, but if you're bleeding in early pregnancy you need to get it checked out, to rule out ectopic etc (sorry to be a nag!) Are you in pain? Not being nosy - just want to make sure you're ok!

My mums great i love her to bits. I dont like my parents worrying about me she'll worry more because of my current mental healh. IKWYM though.

Would have been nearly 6weeks pregnant realised i was late on my db's birthday gt a couple of feint BFP's then started bleeding quite heavily on saturday slowed down a bit the stopped yesterday evening. Now just spotting. I have been in quite a bit of pain but ok at the moment. I've been taking painkillers yesterday and today. I'm more scared of going to the doctors and them telling me its damaged me so can't have kids already been told i cant have children so my DS is my little miracle.

Ah, ok. I'm sorry, I hope you don't think I was prying.

It could have been a breakthrough bleed, if you bled for 2 days only. I had one with this pregnancy when I was 5+5ish - I was beyond devastated, and lay in bed crying most of the night. I know what you mean about not wanting to hear the worst from the Dr, I hate going to the Dr too.

hiya all,

Shelley - so sorry to hear your news (HUGS) have to echo what others have said though about getting checked. try and talk to your mum (or a friend?) and get someone to look after your ds and get an emerg doc appt xx

Minione - hello and welcome to our wee comfy corner of mumsnet. am so sorry for the loss of your wee lad xx

Sorry what I meant to say was "It could have been a breakthrough bleed, but please get it checked out!"

I am a terrible nag today, sorry!

Abi i didnt think you were prying at all. I dont think it's a breakthrough bleed did another test yesterday and it was Negative.I know i can go thursday as DH is off work. I shall be fine getting used to dealing with awful things.

Shelley so sorry, sending you love x
PPM thank you, everybody has been so welcoming and comforting here x
Caz. Will let you know how SANDS meeting goes, not really sure what to expect

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Haven't logged on for a few days as I have been feeling so low I had no idea what to say to anyone. I think I have been back to square one but am clawing my way back now. This path is so horrible, I think that everyone else is moving on and I am in the same place. I suppose 12 weeks is not long.

Caz and minione I am so sorry you had to join this group but I know you will gain comfort from it.

shelley I know that you do not want to cause your mum any more worry but as a mum of grown up sons I know that I would want to know if there was anything the matter with you and give you the support that only your mum can give you at this time. If she has guessed something is wrong she will be worrying and there is nothing worse than not knowing. I am thinking of you and sending hugs, please take care xx