the safe and welcoming support thread for anyone affected by the loss of a child, a place to share, to shout, to cry and smile and to remember our beautiful stars and sunflowers

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This is a thread for anyone who has lost a child or been affected by the loss of a child no matter how big or small or how recent or long ago. We understand.

In memory of the light of my life, Lucia, and all of our little ones taken too soon. x

morning lighting my candle for matt,niamh,thinking of you all todayxx

Thinking of both Shabs and WoolyJo today, and have candles lit for Matt and Niamh.

Hope today passes as easy as it can for you both x

think of you shabs and woolyjo. Lit a candle for you both

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Thank you girls. I must admit that my boys birthdays are more thought provoking days than very sad days. I sit and smile about them and wonder how they are now, what they look like, etc etc. I adore seeing Matts school mates commenting on my status on FB ....really love it. It proves that although 18 years have gone by they still remember him. They remember him for all his hysterical ways, his obsession with jokes about bums and willys, his passion for life.

I wish you could have had your DD with you Woollyjo - even if for a short time. I feel guilty writing about my memories of Matt and am sending my love and thoughts to you this morning xxxxxxxxx

Hi Shabs and WoolyJo (and everyone else!)

Just wanted to pop in and say hi, and that I hope you have as nice a day as possible today,

xx

Sorry just to add - I've just flicked back through the past few pages and saw that someone has added Archies birthday and memory day to the list - thank you so much, all of you. I welled up when I saw it, its so nice to see his name, and remind myself that he was here, once, even if just for a short while.

Love

xx

Abi....good to see you here xxxx

Hi Shabs

I hope you're well?, and don't mind me sticking my head round the door to say hi! I am going to come by this board more often if thats ok; I feel like I'm more ready to think/talk about Archie, and I want to be supportive to everyone else too, if that makes sense

xx

I hope you do post more often and Im glad you feel ready to. xxxx

AbiAbi - good to see you here x

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They do Sassy - I promise you with all my heart that they do.

Will be holding you close today xxx

SassySusan - Hi, I dont think our paths have crossed before, but I just wanted to say Hi.

Its so, so hard. Well done for getting the strength together to even breathe 11 weeks after losing a child, let along start packing things away, so well done. (that sounds really condescending, but you know what I mean, I hope!).

I believe in guardian angels too, you're not alone

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Thinking of you today Niamh, Matt, WJo and Shabs. I will light candles here in Suffolk tonight.

Hi Abi It's nice to see you.

{{{Sassy}}} - I remember sorting through things. Some days it felt like it was too soon to do it and I couldn't physically do it, then the next week I would feel a compulsion to sort. It was so hard, but I think I tried to convince myself that sorting through C's stuff would help me 'move on' Your post made me cry as I was swept back in time with you too xxx

Hi Dee and ILikeTo...

Hope you're well and life's being kind to you, we all deserve it! X

Happy Birthday Matt, have lit candles for Matt and Niamh here in Sheffield. Thinking of you Shabs and Woollyjo. Much love to you all.

Candles lit here in sunny sussex xxx

I hope the day is being kind to you all xx

Candles lit in Suffolk. AbiAbi, Archie and Jack share a birthday and remember day!!

thinking of you all today, this thread proves you can have good friends who you never meet face to face, it has been such a great comfort to me. We must treasure our memories, no-one can take them from us. Happy birthday to Matt and Niamh, hope they are partying together.xx

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I am off to light the new candles that I bought today on an impulse.

Now I know why I just HAD to have them

Hi Lottie, I noticed that , we're in very similar boats I guess... wish it was a nicer boat but at least its excellent company.. you know what I mean...!

Susan thats incredible, well done! It sounds really cathartic, and like a really good release and acheievement.

Happy birthday Matt - been thinking about you today Shabs and smiling as you remember the good times. Been thinking about you today too Woollyjo and your darling Niamh - want to be able to give both of you lovely ladies a huge hug. None of us can take away the pain of our losses but be comforted in the fact that there are a lovely group of friends here who 'get it' and want to keep reaching out to each other. xx