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[peterpansmum]

In memory of our gorgeous Gregor

che its not on my facebook page???? Send another request love xxx

Perhaps I sent it to the wrong person

I couldnt remember what Gail's ex husband was called. I found someone with shabba as a middle name and a surname I thought sounded right oopps.

That will teach me to earwig on this thread.

Hello Che, lovely to see you

pmsl that some random person has got a friend request from you

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Che do add me if you like! I am on Shabs friends list!!

I will lottie when i manage to find shabs!

Add me then Charlotte Jenkins (its a pic of Wilf and I) Then find Sabs from there!!

Actually i am under Lottie Jenkins and i meant Shabs not Sabs!!

I am off to sort it now.

I feel I had better warn you my status updates can be quite sweary sometimes.

I think I have a different facebook from you and shabs. I HAVE requested an add from Shabs (there cannot be two surely) and I have looked at every lottie jenkins and none have pic of anyone wilf looking!

my name is Sharon Hillman - my friends call me Shabba as another name.....I dont care who knows who I am on Mumsnet, Facebook or anything else!!!! I would welcome anybody onto my facebook especially dear friends on our safe haven......xxxxxxxxxx

my profile picture is my son Tom and my grandson Lewis on the twirly round thing on the park!!! xxx

Oops totally got sent a random request then Hahaha!

FGS!!! Bleeding facebook

Right - I think your security settings are too high shabs. You dont come up when I search for you (although I have found you). There is not thingy to click to add you!

I am Becki Josiah and my profile is Rudy.

Please feel free to add me anyone. x

YAWN!! Can't sleep, been awake for last couple of hours. Sooo much stuff going round and round my head. Feeling a bit overloaded. DH operation stuff, work stuff, oh yeah and grief stuff Don't think i'm ever gonna feel 'normal' (whatever the fuck that is!) again

Morning girls.

Have friends requested you Che xx

I have too Che xx

PPM - I don't think things ever go back to the way they were, but there will be a new type of 'normal' that you will get use to.

It can sometimes feel like you are trying to walk through a bucket of treacle, but little but little taking those steps will get easier.

I remember trying to reconcile myself to feeling like a complete wretch for the rest of my life, but I can truthfully say that that is no longer the case. I have my moments of course, but it's not all of the time. And for me, stress, tiredness and illness all seem to intensify my grief. If I'm not firing on all cylinders I find it quite easy to get sucked down. And when I feel like that I try to remember that I WILL feel better sometime soon.

Thanks ILike - I was due to meet my counsellor this thursday but called her this morning and saw her this afternoon instead which did help and my head isn't as messed up as it was this morning... I think learning to recognise the stuff that does intensify my grief is really useful then at least I'll be able to recognise it when this happens. Was definitely linked to my fear of my DH dying during his operation and the stress of the events of the last week or so.

Glad you got to see your counsellor PPM {{{hugs}}}

I babysat for Lew on Saturday night. It was the first time I have looked after him since he went into his own bedroom. I got him to sleep, turned off his light and closed the door. I then spent the rest of the night with the monitor volume turned up so high I could hear him breathing. I was convinced that something was going to happen to him and I have had a bad headache ever since.

I know that my babysitting was nowhere near as worrying as your DH's hospital stay PPM - just wanted you to know that we all have fears and worries about things that, before we lost our precious children, would not have made us so very anxious.

Im glad you are seeing a counsellor - I wish I had gone to see someone after my boys died - I needed (and still sometimes need) someone outside the family who I can talk to and who will point me in the right direction.

Could you all send positive thoughts to my lovely niece and her little girl tonight? My niece has 2 DS's and 2 DD's - Beth (aged 5 and 3rd in the family) is back in intensive care and on a ventilator.

Beth was born with Wolf Hirshorns syndrome (I think thats the right name) she has multiple problems (blind, deaf, epileptic etc etc) and they were told that the doctors had no idea how long she would live. She is very, very poorly but my amazing niece keeps battling on.

Has anybody any idea why this life is such crap?

I cant bear the thought that the inevitable will one day happen - there is no cure for this syndrome and doctors know very little about the condition.

Come on Beth - you have fought through this before - you can do it xxxxxx

sending lots of positive vibes for Beth, your neive and the rest of the family. Hope she pulls through she sounds like right little fighter. XX

She is a little fighter Shelley xx

Morning girls x

MOrning all x

Lots of positive vibes to Beth xx

How is everyone doing ?

My sister came to visit on Fri and was going home on Sunday . She is still here
It is really nice to have her here , doesn't seem to be in any hurry to leave just yet .