The hugely supportive thread in memory of all our twinkling little stars, bobbing sunflowers and dancing butterflies supporting those bereaved by the loss of a child

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In memory of our gorgeous Gregor

I am loving the name change - Sassy is such a brilliant word xxxxx

I'm glad you've name changed SS It suits you.

How did the Brownie thing go FM? Do you mean Brownies as in the Scout & Guide movement? Are you a leader?

Am not sure if i have posted this poem recently.

Gone too Soon by Mary Yarnell

This was a life that hardly begun
no time to find your place in the sun
no time to do all you could have done
but we loved you enough for a lifetime

No time to enjoy the world and its wealth
No time to take life down off the shelf
no time to sing the song of yourself
though you had enough love for a lifetime

Those who live long endure sadness and tears
but you'll never suffer the sorrowing years
no betrayal, no anger
no hatred, no fears
Just love, only love in your lifetime...

I think the words speaks volumes!!

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sassy - Im a great fan of boiling heads!!!! Met an amazing family from Glasgow a few years ago in Greece.....when she rings me she always says 'Alright you wee bitch' they are great.

Thank you for your words about Matt.......he was crushed to death under the flat back lorry....the lorry was only travelling at about 1mph - can you imagine a speeding car in an accident I dont even want to think about it. He wasn't marked except for the back of his head. He carried a donor card everywhere - he was hoping that one day he could have a willy transplant LOL - he always wanted a massive willy the only thing they could use(because of the crush injuries) were his corneas. However they told me that two children could now see all thanks to my precious lad.

He was conceived and born in an attempt to bring our sunshine back after Gareth died....he brought the sunshine back in abundance. I will never understand why things like this happen - I dont want to understand - in fact I dont even want to listen to an explanation of any kind.

I know one thing - I am the proud mum to FOUR wonderful boys - they are my reason for living. xxxxx

Morning girls xx

Morning. Ahoy There!!

Morning you mad pirate!!! Can you tell that me and Lottie have found a new toy on Facebook? LOL @ pirate language!

Avast ye Shabs!!

Im still ROFL every time I go on Facebook Lottie!!! Im soooooo easily amused xx

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Gone to Soon is a good site,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

I haven't used a memorial site but I know what you mean about looking at pictures - it can just be too painful can't it?

lol @ boil ye heed.

Oh, and I'm also laughing at wanting a willy transplant. There's nowt wrong with wanting to be hung

Loving the new name SassyS! Also very up for the new sport of twunt bashing! Have encountered many of said twunts myself and they still seem to keep appearing all over the place!! Have no experience of memorial websites. My DH still struggles with photos. I nearly lost my mobile (where i had a load of unsaved photos) last year and that was the kick i needed to get them downloaded so all i'd say is that if you have some pics not yet downloaded get someone else to download them for you so you make sure you don't lose them xx

Been away since friday down in lancashire meeting family. Someone asked me today did we have a nice time? I responded saying it was alright. I long for the time when i may actually be able to say that yes we did have a lovely time but wonder if that will every happen again? We had fab weather, they were lovely company DS1 had a great time with their kids but I guess the benchmark of what was nice or lovely is a long time away and may never return again or if it does it's an entirely different kind of 'nice' or 'lovely'

I'm still really struggling quite a lot of the time.

Shabs you should be so proud you were able to donate your precious Matt's corneas. I have met a huge number of folks who have had all sorts of transplants - My DH has had renal failure for 12 years and has already had one kidney transplant that didn't work and is back on the waiting list to go through it all again some day. Sadly we weren't able to donate any of Gregor's organs although we would have done so in a flash.

How's everyone else doing?

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Morning all xx

Loving the name change Sassy . Hugs are always welcome here .
It took me a long time to be able to look through photo albums but I can mostly manage it now with a smile . The ones that I have in frames around the house I think I became immune to them quite early on but if I went to my mums and she had put a new one out it would send me into a bit of a spin . It was the same when I was seeing his stuff around the house it would always be the weirdest things that would upset me . One of his spoons at the back of a drawer or seeing his favourite cereal . The big things I would be expecting but those little things would always take me by surprise .

ppm , you will have a lovely time again , it you are right that it won't ever be the same sort of lovely that it could have been but life can be good again .

How is everyone doing ? This weather is gorgeous and I was thinking over the weekend that this used to be the worst sort of weather for me at one time . I hated the sunshine , it used to feel like it was mocking us . Too bloody cheery , I preferred grey and gloom and grumpy faces in the streets . But now I can enjoy the sun .

PPM you have been in deepest, darkest Lancashire???? Next time you are you have to come and see me...we are in sunny Bolton by the sea. Would be lovely to meet up.

Hugs are positively allowed on here - we are not normal Mumsnet!!!

Morning girls xxxx

this article was in Daily Mail today........

Mum in need of support......
here

There will be good times ppm, I promise.

About 7 months after C died, dh and I went to Paris, and while we enjoyed Paris I don't think we enjoyed it to our full potential, iyswim. When we got back home I just came to the conclusion that that was what it was going to be like now. But last summer (nearly 2 years after losing C) we went to France and had a great holiday. We didn't want to come home and tbh I never thought I would feel like that ever again.

Your strong spirit reminds me of what dh and I felt like after losing C. We knew we still had a life to live and that we would survive this terrible terrible time. For us it would have been a travesty not to. {{{returns the hugs}}}

evening ladies.
I deffinitely agree with shabs, it is not an accident on the road every death is easily preventable. My db's death wasn't an accident he was killed. Before i start on a rant with that lol. For the recent people that hav joined. My brother was killed in october on the road. He was a pillion passenger, the rider was messing around my gorgeous big ickle bro was thrown from the bike and then ran over by a car going in the opposite direction. Not a day goes past that i dont wish i was at his side as he died just so someone he loved and loved him was there, rather than the car driver and another motorist he stopped being near by. The rider fled the scene and then went back to my brothers body and fled again. Then came back making out he had been told about my brother being in an accident. Currently going through the justice system. With luck that part will be over on wednesday, waiting for mum to tell me when the inquest is.

Writing that has caused many tears to fall, probably hasn't helped that i've seen 2 old friends today who were both also friends of my dbs.

Hope everyone is well the posts are a bit of a blur atm

Just wanted to pop in to say RIP darling Christina.

You would have been 17 today.

Me, DH and your younger brothers and sister (who you never met) talked about you this morning.

You have been in my thoughts all day.

God bless, darling.