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Nancy, 2Shoes, Squonk, Sidge etc: Can you move over here please?

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LilRedWG · 16/11/2009 12:09

The bloody site just deleted another huge message I'd typed on the thread so can we start this new one please so that I'm allowed on?

I'm not retyping as it made me cry the first time around, surfice to say that you are all in my thoughts. xxx

Thank you ladies.

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MABS · 27/12/2009 11:12

will txt you MOS, safe flight x

mumoverseas · 27/12/2009 17:35

Hi MABS, safely back after the journey from hell and just enjoying my first glass of wine. Suddenly everything seems a little better

NancysGarden · 28/12/2009 14:24

Hello everyone, how are you?

MOS belated happy birthday. Did you get your jewellery?

mumoverseas · 29/12/2009 07:05

hello all, hope everyone is coping ok
nancy no, didn't get any shopping done as our flight from Riyadh to Dubai was delayed so we only just made it in time to board our LGW flight which was a nuisance. Was going to go out to the sales at some point here but struggling with the cold. DD and DS don't know whats hit them.

Hoping to get over to mum and dad's grave in the next day or so (today would have been my brothers birthday) and put some flowers down.

MABS · 29/12/2009 14:54

hi MOS, you get my text? xx

mumoverseas · 29/12/2009 15:44

hi MABS, no, not got any texts?

MABS · 29/12/2009 15:48

dammit, i only got your old no, will fb you with mine.

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LilRedWG · 29/12/2009 17:30

Hi all. I'm glad that you all got through Christmas okayish. MOS - I'm sorry that your birthday was so painful and that you didn't get to do any shopping - hopefully on the way back maybe.

Much love all. x

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mumoverseas · 29/12/2009 17:33

Hi MABS, we've finally caught up with each other
LilRed How was your day? I imagine very painful for you as wasn't it your dad's birthday too on Christmas day? Hope you got through it ok.

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LilRedWG · 29/12/2009 17:53

Thanks for remembering MOS. It actually wasn't as bad as I'd built it up to be in my head, but I've been struggling the past day or two - I think I got through on DD's excitement and a good dose of adrenalin on the day.

We are due to go to Bristol for a couple of nights at the weekend, just a break for the three of us, swimming in the pool and taking it easy. I can't wait.

We're going to start trying for DC2 shortly (had coil removed today) and I have mixed feelings there too.

I just feel so confused and overwhelmed as I'm guessing most of us do at the moment.

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mumoverseas · 29/12/2009 18:17

LilRed, have a lovely weekend in Bristol. I used to go there a lot when I was younger with mum and dad, many happy memories.

Good luck with the TTC. I know you must have mixed feelings as of course you'd want to share it with mum and dad but they will know. They will look down on your DD and your new little one when he/she arrives. New life. I gave my DS2 my dad's middle name and then when mum died just before he was baptised we snuck in her middle name (which for some odd reason that has never fully been explained to me was the name of a male saint - apparently its an irish thing) after his first two names. Its not on his birth certificate, passport etc but its on his baptism certificate and we know its there in memory of his grandparents that he will never know.

Take care everyone. xxx

SantaWears2SnowShoes · 29/12/2009 18:29

LilRedWG good luck with the TTC
sorry I haven't been on here much, tried to stay of MN over christmas.
not happy to day as the drummer of avenged sevenfold died he was only 28.

NancysGarden · 29/12/2009 20:53

Sorry you are sad 2shoes.

Have a lovely time away Lilred and good luck with TTC.

You were right, Christmas was hard, (boxing day more so this end, for some reason)

Haribolicious · 30/12/2009 18:39

Hi everyone.....

mumoverseas - shame you didn't get any jewellery shopping done and that you're all feeling the cold...any chance you can get out to the sales before you leave - how long will you be in the UK?

All those who had birthdays to deal with over these past few days....hope you got through them ok....Christmas must have been hard enough without that too

LilRed - enjoy your weekend in Bristol and with TTC - I'm due in May and it's great to have something positive to focus on (for all the family) but it has been sad not to be able to share the first big news with Mum and then be able to update her with progress reports. A friend said to me though that Mum will live on in the new baby, which is a lovely thought.

Haribolicious · 30/12/2009 18:41

LilRed - ooppsss....I meant 'good luck' with TTC but obviously also 'enjoy' TTC too

mumoverseas · 30/12/2009 20:33

2shoes sorry you are so sad at the moment

Haribo Your friend is right, your mother will live on in your DC. Do you know what you are having yet or are you keeping it a suprise?

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LilRedWG · 31/12/2009 17:46

Hugs to you all my lovelies as we start a new year. Today is my birthday and pants.

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mumoverseas · 31/12/2009 18:28

Lilred happy birthday. I know its pants, another year older and missing loved ones. I want to cancel birthdays for future years.

Happy new year everyone and don't forget, our much missed and loved mums and dads wouldn't want us being so sad x

Haribolicious · 31/12/2009 20:21

Happy Birthday LilRed.....hope you're ok?
Happy new year everyone.....mixed emotions here as I'm looking forward to the end of a crappy year but not too as it's marking the end of the last year I had with Mum
mumoverseas.....we're having another boy, which we're thrilled with although I have to admit there was a little disappointment initially, as I really wanted to use Mum's name somehow.....but 2 boys will be lovely - I get lots of cuddles which have saved me during such a traumatic year Friends with girls say that they're not half as affectionate?!

Sidge · 31/12/2009 22:25

Happy birthday LilRed and Happy New Year to all.

Let's hope 2010 brings us love and peace.

SantaWears2SnowShoes · 31/12/2009 23:19

happy new year to you all
I hope the new year brings peace to you all
xx

FiveSoloRings · 01/01/2010 03:52

Happy New Year!

New years eve has been awful...I'm off to bed now, but will tell all later...I hope you are all well.x

mumoverseas · 01/01/2010 06:33

Happy New Year everyone.
Fivesolorings, my NYE was pretty awful too. Looks like I'm a single parent as well now, good start to the new year

Haribolicious · 01/01/2010 10:37

mumoverseas - you ok? What's happened? Look after yourself.

mumoverseas · 01/01/2010 10:51

Hi Haribo,
DH basically started an argument last night going on about what a miserable bitch I've been since mum died etc etc. Said that by the time I got up this morning he'd be gone and then stormed off and slept in the spare room.
I got up this morning early with DS who never sleeps past around 5am. DH came down around 7ish, waited for me to cook him breakfast then fucked off at around 8am. I said if he went that was it and he went. Took his passport too. Bastard.
Am all over the place at the moment, part of me is glad the miserable bastard has gone but not sure what to tell the DC. Can't believe he just walked out whilst DD was sitting eating her breakfast and said 'see you sometime' arse

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