Gareth and Matthews thread for bereaved Mummies - the special thread where the light bulb at the end of the tunnel is always lit xx

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So pleased that we are all here helping each other walk the 'crappy' path xxxx

Gosh I'm sorry TW and Dee if I have bought any nastiness into this thread for you or contributed in anyway to making you feel worse, that was not my intention.

Just to offer some more information on myself - my daughter Mirrin was born with a rare syndrome that caused brain damage in the womb.

We did not know this until she was about 4 months old (we knew she had brain damage and it was suspected that it was genetic, but no clue as to what/why).

She died at home a month after she turned two - as a result of not having fully recovered from Pneumonia (9/03/06)

I have had a son since (he's 2 now) and also a twin pregnancy from which I have a daughter (6 months)

I feel very lucky some days and so thankful for what I have and then other days I feel overwhelmed from missing my daughter and grief for my unborn twin.

As I mentioned on another thread - not many people mention Mirrin anymore. I know a lot of the comments we had at the time of her death and since are along the lines of it being a release for her or a relief in some way, but I don't feel like that having known and loved her so well/much.

Anyways, that's pretty much me, I hope I fit in here in some way or form!

You fit in here perfectly TPS , please don't worry about all the other shite that is going on at the minute .

Thank you for telling us about Mirrin and your other baby , I know how hard it is to see it all in black and white . Big hugs to you .

Please don't let the other stuff put you off xx

Hi girls

back from a lovely holiday in the borders.. we were lucky with the weather and we had great fun at the beach, alnwick castle and east links animal park

I dont know if any of you have come across a story in the paper in the last few days .. a 3 year old girl who had a cough. Was taken to the hospital twice.. was given steroids once. The second visit resulted in them being sent home and minutes later the little one passed out and never recovered consciousness.
Turns out the little girl was in Ross's nursery. It does bring it all back..

We didnt know the family but I felt compelled to write them a note anyway.Poor poor family

Thank you all for the birthday wishes

TPS, thank you for telling us about Mirrin and your other little one - Mirrin is a beautiful name - I have never heard it before!

Dee, I am not surprised you are fed up. I hope you manage to get some rest over the weekend. We are all barking like sealions with this cough but I only have DS and I'm not on my own.
Hope you all feel better soon.

I was wondering where you'd got to Frasersmummy - glad you had a good holiday but sorry to hear about the little girl at nursery. I'm sure her parents will appreciate that you wrote to them.

I'm really sorry about moaning last night - just needed somewhere to vent is all. Hope i haven't offended any newcomers or anything.

Hope today's a good day for you all x

JANUARY

20th Jan,1992 Billies birthday (Chegirl)

FEBRUARY

28th Feb,2008 Lucies birthday (Crumpette)

MARCH

11th March 2008, Eris's Birthday & Remember Day (FeedMeNow)
26th March 2008, Noah's Birthday (TheLighthouseKeeper)

APRIL

3rd April,2007 Benjamins remember day (Charleymouse)
12th April,2009 Lucies remember day (Crumpette)
13th April, 2005 Frasers remember day (FMummy)
15th April, 2005 Frasers birthday (FMummy)
27th April, 2006 Billie's remember day (chegirl)

MAY

10th May,1992 Matts remember day (Shabbs)
24th May,1993 Christinas birthday (B.Butterfly)

JUNE

04th June 2008, Noah's Remember Day (TheLighthouseKeeper)
25th June,1993 Christinas remember day (B.Butterly)
30th June, 2009 Niamhs birthday and remember day (Woolly Jo)
30th June, 1984 Matts birthday (Shabbs)

JULY

13th July - Callums remember day (LittleMissPMeno)
21st July, 1982 Gareths remember day (Shabbs)
23rd July,2009 Nimahs funeral (Woolly Jo)
29th July, 2008 Caitlins birthday (Olissa)
30th July. Coles birthday (Liketomoveit)

AUGUST

3rd August, 2008 Caitlins remember day (Olissa)
5th August,2009 Felix's birthday and remember day (Tinkerbelle)
8th August - Callums funeral (LittleMissPMeno)

SEPTEMBER

9th September Ciarans birthday and remember day (Deemented)
18th September,2006 Jaydens birthday (Hazygirl)

OCTOBER

1st October - Ciarans funeral (Deemented)
7th October,2000 Harrys birthday (TWilbury)

NOVEMBER

6th November 2008 - Oliver's Remember Day (Everlong)
7th November - Coles remember day (ILiketomoveit)
20th November 1987 - Oliver's Birthday (Everlong)

DECEMBER

1st December,2006 Jaydens remember day (Hazygirl)
2nd December,2001 Harrys remember day (TWilbury)
18th December,2006 Jaydens funeral (Hazygirl)
22nd December,1994 Jacks birthday and remember day (Lottie)
28th December,1981 Gareths (and Dannys) birthday

What are you apologising for Dee? I think you're quite within your rights to have a bitch about your dp's ex. I hope your dp can sort the situation out.

And there's no need to apologise either tps. I don't think it was the suject matter that made people doubt Dizzy, more inconsistancies in her story.

Thank you for telling us about Mirrin. Would you like to tell us about your lost twin too?

Hi FM, glad you had a lovely holiday. I hadn't heard about the death of that little girl. How tragic for her and her family. I am sure they will really appreciate your note.

Morning girls xx

afternoon girlsx

Quiet on here today - hope that means you are all having a good day

Morning folks x

Hello everyone, just back from a lovely family holiday up north. Fab weather, good company and some nice family time together. Went back to some special places to remember Gregor too.

The days before we left I was so grumpy, emotional and really not in good form at all. Then it dawned on me what was wrong - last time we went on holiday we were going to scatter some of Gregor's ashes this time is the start of how it is forever now. I was packing to go away without my crazy wee lad emptying the bag as quick as i was packing it! It was a real sense of this is it - now deal with it.

Sounds like i missed a bad week on mumsnet - I hope that DM gets whatever support would help. Havent read any of the threads but I think i got the gist of what's been happening. Really Sad.

Anyway, this week I'm supposed to be meeting my team leader from work (he cancelled the last meeting we arranged) so here's hoping this one goes ahead as planned. Am thinking i need to try to get back to work and face that before i have to start dealing with Christmas!

Hugs to all, xxxx

Good morning girls. Awful news about Stephen Gately passing away (Boyzone). Death is no respector (is that a word) of fame or money is it? He was just 33 years old

Hi all,

ppm, sorry you were so sad, it always hits you at funny times doesn't it?

Mad busy yesterday - my husband went to see the Ireland/Italy game in Dublin so I was left with two sick/teething/grumpy (delete as appropriate!) children.

Yes I just read about Stephen Gately - very sudden, his poor husband and family.

Good morning girls xx

Good morning all x

Morning ladies.

M was up at 5.37 this morning. What type of awful time is that????

I'm not rubbing it in - but i got a lie in today!!!! 7am!!!

Im soooooooooooo very tired!! Now have to go and attempt to get our Tom out of bed - this is not going to be good!!!

Thanks for that Dee!

Good Morning ladies, hope everyone is okay today. DH is off to Germany today with work for the week

What a bummer LHK. My dh is going to be working away for four days a week for the next 3 weeks.

I refuse to dread it. It's got to be done. I have to cope - plenty of other mothers do. I WILL be a strong and independant woman

Evening my friends - how is everybody? xxx

Hi Shabs, how are you? How is Tom getting on at school? Have things improved?

ILIKE - thanks so much for adding Noah to the list. Am secretly enjoying having the evening to myself - whatching what I want in peace!!

Hiya love...not sure if they have improved or not - he just seems to go through the motions. On Saturday the school are taking 5 coach loads of kids to Alton Towers - he cant wait - even though they have to be up at school by 7.30 am!!!